Someone posts horrible things about you on a message board --and you find it--

[Karenca]

I found this - My best friend's daughter wrote this on a message board:

<<unlike mother, who ran off with fucking KAREN>>

<< she's already gotten ready and left, since she's meeting her awful liar of a friend for her
birthday tomorrow! >>

<<All her friends are crazy. This one's just dreadful in
so many other ways too. But it's her birthday, so she
gets the "pleasure" of my mother's company.>>

All of these comments refer to me. I haven't seen the girl for at least 10 years, and we always got along well.
I don't know what to make of this -- why would someone write these things about her mom's best friend, unless her mom said them to her?
I'm feeling really sad.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. My dear Karenca.......

I cannot imagine why anyone would say such ugly things.......

And all I have for you is a...:hug:

[Karenca]

2. I had such a nice birthday today, until about one hour ago ..nt

[Karenca]

3. I'm feeling totally betrayed. nt Thanks, CP

[Left Is Write]

4. How awful. I'm so sorry.

I have read bad things about myself also, and it stings.

I'm very sorry you got hurt, and especially on your birthday. :hug:

[Karenca]

6. Thanks, I am so hurt ---

It had to come from my friend for her daughter to write these things, don't you think?

[flvegan]

5. How old is the daughter?

Seems like juvenile lashing out to me. Take a scoop of insecurity, mix with mom going out for a birthday, sprinkle with anger, see what you get.

Looks more like projection and accusation than justification or a repeat of what mom said.

[Karenca]

7. Thanks, FLVegan, She's the same age as my son- 23

But a very immature 23.

I felt like I swallowed a 50 lb/ weight when I saw the posts.

[Karenca]

And...

thanks for replying to me.

[flvegan]

14. You're kin

and from what you also said, I think you nailed it with "immature"

Sucks to read stuff about yourself on the nets, but if it ain't true, then, well...it ain't true. Rumors, nastiness spread by hateful folks is really just that. Try to shrug it off, if possible.

That said, if it does have a breath of truth, take it for the context from which it comes. It's perception...reality to one, idiocy to the rest.

[ornotna]

8. That has not happened to me

That I am aware of anyway.

Sounds like the daughter is pissed at mom. If mom thought bad things about you why would she come visit you for your birthday?

Hope your day gets better.

[Karenca]

9. Because, many years ago (15 years to be exact)

my friend did speak ill of me -- I had found out, we parted, and
then circumstances brought us back togeher, and I forgave her.

So, because of that (even though it was a long, long time ago), red lights came up.

[ornotna]

10. Just maybe

The daughter remembers the time when you two were not friends and just doesn't get it that you've reconciled.

[Karenca]

15. it wasn't for a very long period of time that we didn't speak , and when everything was

ok, we always got together with the kids, who were really young.

But it still could be that.

[AlCzervik]

12. thats probably the answer right there. My sister talks shit about her in-laws a lot--

and many times she's done it around her kids and now her kids treat their grandparents like they're sub-humans. I've told me nieces to "don't even, those are your grandparents" and i've told my sister to knock off the bullshit as well. Kids absorb so much of what we do and say.

I'm sorry she posted those things about you, sometimes words really do hurt even when they're just on a screen.

[Karenca]

16. I really love my friend.

I'm in shock to think she would have such feelings about me.

[AlCzervik]

17. well try to keep in mind that we all blow things out of proportion and get

a bit windy sometimes, maybe she was being over dramatic but her kid was impressionable.

btw i wasn't trying to imply that your friend smack talked you the way my sister does her in-laws, i was using it as a comparison but upon further reflection i think it's a bad comparison, my sisters feelings toward her in-laws border on hate, like real honest to god hate. I'm sure your friend doesn't not view in such a light.

[Nicole]

11. Sounds like she's just mad

because her mother had plans that didn't include her.

Her mother "ran off", "she's already left" and "pleasure of her mother's company".

Those all sound like things someone would say if they asked their mother to do something or go somewhere and she refused.

I wouldn't let it bother me. I also know that's easier said than done though.

:hug:

[Karenca]

13. i GUESSS YOU'RE RIGHT --

Here's a full quote;

<< Besides, she specifically arranged it so they don't start whatever-the-hell-it-is-they're-doing until AFTER she's already gotten ready and left, since she's meeting her awful liar of a friend for her birthday tomorrow! In other words, I have to be alone in the house with the men digging our floor up (or whatever the fuck it is they're doing). YAY.>>

[Nicole]

18. There you go!

She's mad because she has to stay home while her mom is gone. It's not really about you when you get right down to it. However you're the one she's blaming her anger on. Immature behavior on her part.

Consider the source & try not to let it ruin your birthday fun with your friend. :hug:

[Nicole]

19. P.S.

Happy Birthday! :party:

[SPKrazy]

22. PS. PS

Happy Birthday :party:

[SPKrazy]

20. Well, I Post Here Because It Is Like My Home Away From Home

and I say things here like it is a support group of friends sometimes...

i probably don't mean everything i say, and i've said things about family members

i also know that recently someone in my family has been reading my posts here.

i don't know whether to apologize, or say fuck you!

you give me a different perspective. (OP)

i don't use names, and i don't use identifying information.

yet, if they seek out what i'm doing online, they can find it because this is a public message board

so i am not going to apologize... i am going to be more careful about what i say about other people

but on the other hand, this person knows this is my place to come.

and to post.

so they are here in a way to "spy" on me, and that sucks. i'm sorry if i've said things they don't like, but if they think about it, there is not any identifying information about what i've posted recently.

and it isn't that terrible anyway tongue in cheek a lot of it. also frustration borne out of constantly dealing with one crisis after another that the person it was (thread) started about creates in their life.

so i won't say fuck you here.

i'll say godspeed, find another hobby besides reading my posts here or you will surely end up more unhappy.

:hi:

(this post is not directed at the OP, or anyone that I know of that is a DU'er but rather a person who has been lurking here reading my posts.)

[GoddessOfGuinness]

21. It must be awful to read something nasty like that...

:hug: I'm sorry that you saw her post...

Don't be too quick to blame your friend, though. It's the daughter who's got her panties in a knot over something.

Happy birthday! :loveya:

[wildhorses]

23. you have gotten good advice on here so i just want to add--

:party:happy birthday:party:

[GirlinContempt]

24. I've found things.

Tried to ignore it. Didn't work. Made me feel angry because of the things and angry because I felt like I let them get away with it.

However, at least I wasn't a sack of human waste waiting to be drop kicked by an underemployed city worker, so it sort of worked out in the end.

[Karenca]

25. Reading all the posts

have made me look at this in a different perspective. I feel
a bit better now.

Thanks forall the birthday wishes -- I had a wonderful day and night. (lots of nice surprises).

[jobycom]

26. Looks more like her opinion than her mother's, and probably not because of you.

Reading these comments sounds like this friend is angry at her mother. She says all her mother's friends are crazy, she says that you get the "pleasure" of her mother's company as though "pleasure" is sarcastic.

Sounds more like the daughter is angry with her mother for something that probably has nothing to do with you.

Just my thoughts.