WTF?? My ex-fiance's # popped up again tonight!

[Pushed To The Left]

This is a woman who broke up with me after revealing she was seeing somebody else, said she kissed him to break up with me, and called me a "pathetic loser". This is a woman who called me the day after to say she never dated this other guy and had only talked to him by phone. She said she made up the story to "make the breakup easier". When I didn't come running back to her, she became cold and vicious again and told me to "never contact her again". This is the woman who wrote a vicious e-mail a week and a half after the breakup, pretty much killing any friendly feelings that could have been left between us. She had a third story this time, saying that she had been dating this other guy and telling him how awful her relationship was with me. But, she "never physically cheated". She didn't kiss him until "last night" (day before e-mail). She then described how wonderful the kiss was and how wonderful this guy was :puke: I have made no attempt to contact her, and never intend to. I have not taken the call when her number has popped up, and if somebody else answers they hear a hangup. She has been averaging about 2 or 3 calls a month. There had been a long break until she called again tonight.

Question for the women of DU or anybody who might have an answer: Why would somebody who ended up thinking so little of me and thought of me as a "loser" keep trying to call me? I think she knows me enough after those 7 years to know damn well I don't want to speak to her after what she did and said, and I would NEVER consider going back to her.

[idgiehkt]

1. Does she have a substance abuse problem?

It might just be 'drunk dialing'. Or maybe she's run through using/abusing a bunch of people and is having to start recycling? There is no telling...and I think that you should do yourself a favor and never bother to find out. Ignorance is bliss...you already know everything you need to know about her from her past behavior. (Plus, if it's that important, like she's dying or something, she'll eventually leave a message or write a letter, which is much safer contact to have because you don't have to participate which could place you at risk for getting hurt again). :hug:

[Pushed To The Left]

2. She never had a substance abuse problem as far as I know

She did have a lot of emotional problems, though. She was literally like Jekyll and Hyde. Incredibly kind and sweet during better times, but downright vicious other times. I literally felt like I was with 2 different women! You're right. I know everything I need to know about her not only from how we broke up, but from how she treated me throughout the relationship. Thanks for the hug! :hug:

[OrangeCountyDemocrat]

3. Women!

Don't spend too many years trying to figure one of them out.

Perhaps the other guy is treating her like crap, and she now realizes what she gave up.

In any case, I'm glad to see you're not interested in entertaining her calls, and perhaps it's frustrating her. She made her bed, now she can live in it, and doesn't deserve your friendship or response.

[cleveramerican]

4. Boy on a string syndrome

the next time she calls, BLAST HER, unload all the pain and hurt and anger right on her doorstep, Don't hold back, let the BIG dogs out.

You will never hear from her again.

[Callalily]

5. Don't spend anymore

time trying to analyze her behavior, it's not worth your time and energy. Block her from your e-mail and phone. Just my two cents.

[Wcross]

6. Dude, that is weird.

Why does she feel she needs to "keep you informed" of her sex life? Next time she calls you just tell her about that night with the three midget women and how you could never go back to a full sized woman. That will have her scratching her head for a while.