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LynzM Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-05-07 11:06 AM
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Why do I make friends with people who break plans?
It seems I have a habit of becoming good friends with people who often back out on plans, generally at the last minute. Why do I do this? It drives me crazy! :crazy:
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LaraMN Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-05-07 11:07 AM
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1. Because you're an eternal optimist?
Damn those friends! Damn them!
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LynzM Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-05-07 11:24 AM
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2. I guess so....
I mean, it's not like any of them are bad people, just that... apparently hanging out with me isn't a priority. :(
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Crazy Dave Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-05-07 11:36 AM
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3. It's not you
Expecting politeness and considerateness from others these days is considered to be rude in itself and over demanding.
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LynzM Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-05-07 11:41 AM
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4. Well geez....
Does that make me like my grandparents, always expecting more than most people are willing to deliver? *sigh* Ah well. Life goes on, and I learn to lower my expectations.
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Crazy Dave Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-05-07 11:54 AM
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6. I used to keep track of the excuses....
....then turn around and use the same one on the same person at the appropriate time.

"We just got invited to so and so's party and we've known them five minutes longer than you"

"We forgot that we were invited to so and so's party first when we said we were coming to yours"

"We just found out we're allergic to cats and you have cats"

"That restaurant is farther than we thought"

"We can't find a babysitter"

And the ever popular, "My wife/husband doesn't feel like going"

Nowadays we usually don't include others in our plans or change our plans to accommodate them.
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-05-07 11:47 AM
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5. Breaking plans seems to be the fashion and it has been
since I moved to the U.S. It's the height of rudeness and it happens at least once a week, in my world.
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MissMillie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-05-07 12:38 PM
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7. I have a different problem
Most of my friends refuse to make plans in advance--as if they are waiting for a better offer. I guess they usually get the better offer because it almost always happens that my friends have things to do for New Years and Superbowl and July 4th etc. and I'm usually all by myself.
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LynzM Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-05-07 12:49 PM
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8. Awww, that suck, MissM
I'm sorry to hear that :hug: I wish you were closer nearby; I'd definitely make plans, even if it's just for a cup of coffee or tea! :)
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1gobluedem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-05-07 12:53 PM
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9. It happens to me all the time too
It's gotten so I only expect the plans I make to work out maybe 75% of the time. It's been happening to me my whole life. Maybe I should just resign myself to always being everyone's Plan B.
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