What is sexy?

[Wetzelbill]

I think intellect is sexy. Seems trite to say it, but it's true. When I meet women in classes and so forth, I think the ones who are the most intelligent end up standing out the most to me. I do meet many women who are very beautiful, so they are immediately noticeable for their looks, but it's always the smart ones that I remember the most. Nothing impresses or attracts me more than a strong intelligent woman. So yeah, that is what I find sexy.

How about the rest of you?

[Phillycat]

1. Big strong hands on a man.

Strong back, good abs, long legs, great ass.

Well, I'm shallow.

Of course nothing is sexy when people are stupid. Must be brilliant and funny, that goes without saying.

[Wetzelbill]

3. oh we're all shallow...

but in the end, we know that you can't fix stupid, so smarts and humor and personality has to fit in there somewhere.

[Richardo]

60. I'm really close on this one

[Haole Girl]

2. Intelligence, kindness, mental strength...

,,and a gentle spirit. I could explain it better, probably, if I wasn't sick at the moment. The thoughts are there..i just can't put it into words.

There are, of course, physical qualities too. But, they tend to fade away with time anyway. It really is what's inside that matters.

[LostinVA]

4. People either are or aren't sexy

It has very little to do with looks, in my experience. It's an inhere mt quality someone has -- it can't be learned.

[Connonym]

9. I think you're exactly right

but I also think that part of that is the elusive chemistry thing and being around the right person can bring the sexy out.

[LostinVA]

22. No, I also agree with that

The best looking woman I ever dated was the least sexy. It's all very interesting.

[BOSSHOG]

5. My 55 year old wife

and her perky breasts and her cute little ass. She's been turning me on for more then 30 years. And on top of that she's worked full time every day we've been married. Gawd I'm lucky.

[gr8dane_daddy]

6. I think its easier to say what I don't like in a woman...

1. Someone who is staunch repube, blind to what's going on.
2. Someone who is rude to servers, likely they would be the same with strangers
3. Someone who looks down on folks, especially those who are less fortunate
4. Someone who claims not be materialistic but turn around and talks about all the jewelry they have
5. Someone insincere
6. Someone who doesn't like animals, doggies especially
7. Someone who puts too much emphasis on what they are wearing
8. Someone who likes to point out everyone's faults without recognizing their own


Guess thats enough for now. I'm speaking mostly from experience...I did date a neocon recently. Where were you guys!?!?!?!??!?!?!

[Phillycat]

7. Silly boy.

Don't you know liberal women are the sexiest??

[gr8dane_daddy]

8. I do now...

but they don't find me sexy!

Okay I lie...

[Phillycat]

13. I've never seen a picture of you.

I can't judge!

[gr8dane_daddy]

23. don't laugh...shitty webcam

[dropkickpa]

41. Ummmm

Texas librul chicks must be blind or something. I'm just sayin'.

[TheFriendlyAnarchist]

52. What if they (I'm a guy btw) admit to being materialistic?

I sure as Hell know that I am. Maybe not as much as some, but I would be quite pissed without half of my material goods.

[underpants]

10. Peanuts and whipped cream

and if you know what that means

Good on ya

[Flaxbee]

66. isn't that from a long-lost Catwoman thread?

lol, that was funny.
I mean, I'm sure it wasn't the first time it happened, it was just funny coming from Catwoman...

[mondo joe]

11. A capable man at work.

Capability is sexy.

[jpgray]

12. People who are sexy never talk about what is sexy

Er... wait.

[SeattleGirl]

14. In the "looks" department, a nice ass will get me every time.

And of course, there are some facial features that I find more attractive than others. But beyond that, it's the person themself: intelligence, kindness, passion -- those are the things I really find sexy. I've met men who were extremely good looking (in my opinion) but their personalities were quite lacking, and that is a real turn off for me.

[Oeditpus Rex]

15. Someone who finds ME sexy

[Connonym]

16. In that case, I must be really, really hot nt

[Oeditpus Rex]

18. You is

the hottestest.

[terrya]

17. My boyfriend.

Hey, I know what (or who in this case) is sexy.

[fizzgig]

19. a good sense of humor

that doesn't involve watching "jackass." i can do some stupid potty humor but i prefer drier, more subtle humor. self-confidence but not cockiness. kindness and compassion.

more superficially, strong hands and an accent really get me.

[billyskank]

26. A woman in one piece footie pajamas, of course

[fizzgig]

29. i'm damn irresistible in those

[billyskank]

31. Or not in them

[fizzgig]

34. that just goes without saying

[Schema Thing]

20. Me, in comparison to: my shirt

Earworm much?

[chaska]

21. First one to say 'confidence' wins the no imagination award...

I like shy ... among many other things.

confidence? how boring.

[billyskank]

42. Confidence = "I know I'm great"

[chaska]

55. Reminds me of a fave quote: "The whole problem with the world is that fools and fanatics....

are always so certain of themselves, and wiser people so full of doubt." Bertrand Russell

Here's another: "Bravery and stupidity go hand in hand." David Summers

So, I guess ya gotta be a bit careful in this area ... unless a big hunka dumb is just yer thing..., which is fine..., I guess.

[shanti]

87. bullshit

it's true, why deny it?

[shanti]

88. bullshit

it's true, why deny it?

[Taverner]

24. Curvy legs on a woman

Muscular, but sleek...

But then again, I like a nice bootaaaaaay too...

[Strawman]

25. Lots of different things can be sexy and seductive

But for me it's not any particular type of good looks or any particular physical feature(s). In terms of personality traits, it's not pure confidence because sometimes shyness and gracefulness can be more seductive, but self-loathing from a lack of confidence is definitely not sexy. It's not pure intellect because that can be cold, but smarts can be a turn on especially when paired with an empathetic and fun-loving personality. I'd say there should be some humor-related and imaginative qualities in there too. It's also a sense of fit as well as a feeling of being desired. It's sexy to have a partner that doesn't neglect making regular efforts to seduce you.

I don't know. That's an indirect answer, but all I know is that I know it when I see and feel it.

[NewWaveChick1981]

27. I find confidence (not arrogance), intelligence, and humor very, very sexy...

Physically, I'm attracted to a lot of different types of people. If I HAD to narrow it down, I'd say eyes and faces as well as nice tushes and chests.

[SPKrazy]

79. Nice Tushes And Chests Are Nice!

but I'm attracted to a lot of different types of people

in fact, it seems like I'm attracted to more and more different types of people as I get older

What's that about I wonder?

[shanti]

89. i'll tell you what it's about

as you get older, your pickings get slimmer, so your pool gets wider. makes sense, eh?

[SPKrazy]

92. Maybe So..

whatever it is, I appreciate a lot more of humanity than I did in my twenties

I think it is cool actually

[NewWaveChick1981]

90. I think it's maturity and common sense...

You realize there are sexy things about people that you never realized before.

[SPKrazy]

91. Yes, I Agree!

I find people more and more fascinating in ways that are more mature!

[Deja Q]

28. Intellect, big hands, strong gams, perky zams, or a nice sausage will do

[Guava Jelly]

30. Empathy is sexy

Someone who doesn't think they are sexy is sexy
A smile is sexy .
Kindness is sexy
Girl next door types i find sexy
Liberals are very sexy

[Shine]

32. A quick wit, a warm smile, and sparkling, happy eyes

and that goes for BOTH genders.

[billyskank]

33. One word...

Shine.

[Shine]

39. Billy!!!

Happy New Year, you sexy guy, you! Lots of Love and Happiness to you and yours....

[WritingIsMyReligion]

35. Hands!

*wipes slobber from the keyboard*

Beautiful, stroking, lithe, dancing hands!

Ahhhhhhhh....

[Karenca]

36. People who are sexy are not:

Attention whores/braggerts/full of themselves.

Intelligent people whose superficial appearance doesn't define them are sexy.

Such as: Salma Hayek, Jennifer Connelly --SEXY

Britney Spears, Lindsay Lohan --NOT SEXY
.
As a straight woman, I find Keith Olbermann and George Clooney both very, very sexy.

[Left Is Write]

37. I agree - intelligence is very sexy!

So are a well-developed sense of humor and a great, sincere smile.

[necso]

38. Sexy is what

a woman I want to make snoo-snoo with is.

It varies. And it's different from being sexy and someone I want to be with. (If you're not the latter, then generally you're not getting the snoo-snoo.)

There are trends in the union (ie, of these two things): intelligence, strength.

But there are also different types of intelligence -- and different ways to be strong.

Sexual attraction, other attraction, are generally things that just happen. Although the former can be worked upon -- as, I suppose, the latter. And once the latter is aroused, the former can follow.

[Xipe Totec]

40. Talent is Sexy

Which is an indirect measure of intellect.

http://youtube.com/watch?v=fZiSTBJumMQ

[Lowell]

43. I look for honesty and intellect

along with a good sense of humor. Adventurous helps. I put physical qualities near the bottom of my list.

[Wetzelbill]

44. physical qualities

may catch a person's eye right off, but it takes more than that to truly be sexy, you know?

[FedUpWithIt All]

45. I think sexy is someone...

who takes their commitments seriously. Someone who appreciates what they have and does not waste away the here and now looking for the out of reach. Someone who sees the heavy lifting in life as a blessing, an opportunity for growth and development. Someone that wants to be a partner, not an extra burden. Someone who can think outside of the typical boxes so commonly used to contain beautiful ideas and thoughts. Someone who sees trust as a valuable gift worthy of extreme care. Someone who knows when to be strong and when to let others be strong. Someone who can make me laugh.

[Wetzelbill]

46. very nice

[billyskank]

48. Wow.

[EnviroBat]

49. Nicely said...

And Hot too!

[SPKrazy]

72. I Like That Fed UP!

The stuff about the partnership, the struggle or heavy lifting, the working together.

to me those are such valuable things and so necessary to a good relationship.

Humor is a must too.


Life's too short to go through it without humor!

[Redstone]

74. That would be (cough) me.

But I give all that stuff to Mrs R.

You'll find someone who will give all that to you, trust me.

Because you deserve it.

Redstone

[FedUpWithIt All]

75. I did just think of that when i said hello. :D

No kidding.

[Redstone]

77. And never, even once, think I don't appreciate it.

Redstone

[LaraMN]

47. Apparently, it's something Justin Timberlake is "bringing back,"

although it seems to follow, imo, that if he is "bringing (it) back," he must have taken it away, in the first place, and held it in some sort of personal custody, which I don't believe he had the authority to do, and I feel he should not be allowed to reintroduce it, as it never rightfully belonged to him in the first place.

I hate Justin Timberlake.
He looks like a gerbil with a perm.

[Wetzelbill]

50. I would say you were bringing humor back

but I think it has always been around. Regardless, the gerbil with a perm line deserves props.

[NewJeffCT]

51. Huge breasts!

Just kidding.

For me through the years, I've found personality to be the most consistent thing I find in a woman. I've dated women of all shapes and sizes and of just about every ethnicity out there, but the ones I've liked the most and have found the sexiest have all been intelligent, outgoing, strong-willed, independent and has a vivaciousness about them.

[BarenakedLady]

53. Sexy is...

I don't know exactly.

But I know when I feel it for someone, and also when I don't. I've also found it is very difficult to change those feelings, even when you want or need to.

[SPKrazy]

118. Sexy is...

a barenaked lady!

[WCGreen]

54. A sense of humor...

a natural smile...

a quick wit...

and of course, someone who isn't afraid to tell me I'm full of shit...

[Schema Thing]

56. Poster #45

[Gormy Cuss]

57. Short ex-wrestlers from Montana.

C'mon, Bill. You know that's your dream answer.

[sarge43]

58. Integrity, intelligence and a sense of humor.

As for looks, two words -- Scott Glenn

[RFKHumphreyObama]

59. I think qualities matter more than looks but I've considered both aspects

I find several qualities to be attractive in a woman –someone who has intellect, compassion, warmth, an interest in the world around her, an acceptance of different cultures and of people with disabilities (this is kind of essential for me because I have a disability) and someone who is self-confident and self-assured.

I find women who meet those criteria in all walks of life, ethnicities, races and religions and I find that those qualities tend to transcend physical features when it comes to evaluating sexiness for me

I guess on a more superficial level, I find myself attracted to women who are significantly older than me –usually in their late 30s to early to mid-40s. I’m attracted to women who dress conservatively –short skirts/skimpy dresses and the like have never done it for me. I tend to be drawn toward women who are professionally employed –teachers, lawyers, doctors, university lecturers and professors, even congresswomen and Members of Parliament. I also find single mothers to be very attractive. Think someone like Joyce Summers on "Buffy the Vampire Slayer" as an example of the type of woman that I consider sexy.

But as I’ve said, I generally find women who have the qualities that I’ve listed in my first paragraph transcend everything else when it comes to preferences

[Dastard Stepchild]

61. Vegetarian/vegan men...

Seriously. I meet so few of them that when I do, I have to restrain myself from doing cartwheels. I love the veggie ladies, too, but they are a bit easier to come by.

[crim son]

62. A sense of humor,

a quirky way of looking at the world, the ability to be kind to strangers. He MUST read.

Physically... the smile, the mouth. And he has to be bigger than I am because I've always felt oddly huge and masculine. Don't know why.

[FedUpWithIt All]

63. I do too. Isn't that odd?

You are sooo NOT masculine or huge. Quite beautiful i think.



I just took the gender brain test though. Mostly male. Guess that explains a lot.

[crim son]

64. I've taken that test and got a similar result.

When I was a teenager I was incredibly thin and shapeless. I had to eat more than god just to maintain a minimally healthy weight. I think that permanently affected how I view myself.

Thank you for the compliment! You're a sweetheart and very beautiful yourself.

[SPKrazy]

100. I'm A Mixed Bag

Some very male characteristics

and some more female characteristics

I'm not surprised, empathy and reading people's faces go with my profession of choice as a mental health professional I guess

It also said I might be an engineer, but I don't think I have the aptitude for that, but I am pretty good at seeing things from the abstract.

My little boy is quite the little abstract thinker and he isn't even there developmentally. So no telling what he will be.

So you are mostly male eh?

You certainly don't resemble any males I've ever seen!

[SPKrazy]

78. You Are Talking About Me!

Oh well, I'm unattainable

[Redstone]

65. A smart woman who drives a car with a manual transmission while wearing a skirt.

That always does it for me.

Also a woman with good shoulders (and you know who you are).

Redstone

[FedUpWithIt All]

67. Hi Redstone...

Very nice to see you.

[Redstone]

71. You saw the "shoulders" comment, and remembered what I said about yours...

and I stand behind my prior comment.

Hope you're doing well tonight, m'dear; I know that I am. The new kitten is sleeping on top of the new puppy right next to me on the couch; it's quite good to see the two of them getting along so well.

Doesn't take much to make me happy, does it?

Redstone

[GirlinContempt]

68. primate1's oversize junk

[ghostsofgiants]

69. That is comedy.

[SPKrazy]

70. Intelligence For Sure...But many other things make a woman sexy!

I also find women who don't fit the "playboy bunny" mold to be much more attractive.

Now that leaves wide open a lot of characteristics I find to be sexy. Usually in the context of a particular person, many different things about them can be sexy. The way they talk, their eyes, their hair, the way they carry themselves.

I am not drawn to women who can't think though. They must be able to carry on a conversation, have a sense of humor, and be somewhat daring as far as wanting to do new things.

They must be at least to some degree physically active to be really sexy to me. I love to watch women work out at the gym, some of them are tough enough to probably kick my ass, but they are sexy. (Not muscled up or anything, just strong and agile, and with a lot of stamina!)

I like determined women as well, one's that don't give up easily and keep trying to improve themselves.

Lastly I find women that are friendly to be sexy.

[NNadir]

73. The hot lady pictured.

She was sleeping with the married guy to Albert Einstein's left by the way. It was a big deal in those days, almost as big as, say, Paris Hilton.

[Redstone]

76. What is sexy? A complicated question, with a simple answer:

That's all I need to know on this subject.

Redstone

[SPKrazy]

80. That's Really Cool That You Have That Relationship!

I'm happy for you Redstone!

[Redstone]

81. I've done well, and am damn lucky to have been able to do so.

I give thanks every day, you can bet on that.

Redstone

[SPKrazy]

82. That's Cool!

It is hard work to keep a relationship strong and viable!

Congrats!

[lizerdbits]

83. A man who cleans my house without bitching!

Seriously, I think someone who doesn't go out of their way to try to be seen as sexy. Looking nice, dressing up is ok, but when the posture seems to be overdoing it, it's just tacky. I'm not sure how exactly to explain it. I think it's more a matter of chemistry between people. Biology geeks are sexy to me, but that's not everyone's thing. Looks make you notice someone but obviously that fades with time so there has to be something more unless you want to just spend a few hours with them. A dry or bizarre sense of humor works for me.

[GreenTea]

84. Spicy & sensual...a touch...a look in the eye...you know!

And truly... a great & real sense of humor...

[otherlander]

85. I agree about the intelligent thing...

It's pretty hard to like someone if talking to them is boring. Smart is good, funny is good. I kinda have a thing for guys with long hair. But there are people who dress in different styles and who are differently sized/shaped and are still attractive or not; a lot of it is in how people carry themselves. I think that people's eyes are the best-looking thing about them a lot of the time.

[shanti]

86. confidence

is ALWAYS sexy. example: cesar millan!

[Rising Phoenix]

93. a sense of humor

and bi-baby doing her impression of Justin Timberlake's "I'm bringing sexy back"!

[Wetzelbill]

94. haha

well, I suppose neither of those can be topped.

[billyskank]

95. Stripy socks are sexy

[SPKrazy]

101. Especially on Fed Up, right!

those socks made an impression on me too!

[billyskank]

103. Particularly

modelled by FedUp, yes.

[SPKrazy]

104. Absolutely!

[FedUpWithIt All]

105. ...

Wait till you see the ones with your flag.

[Shell Beau]

96. Sense of humor!

I prefer people who don't take themselves too seriously. People who can laugh at themselves!! That is what I like. Laid-back, funny, and honest. Cute helps though!

[billyskank]

97. Shell Beau!!!

sweetie!

Needless to say, YOU are sexy.

[Shell Beau]

98. billy!!!!

And so are you!!

[totallynluv]

99. Tall, blue-eyed, funny, artistic, sensitive, kinky, scientific genius. nt

[SPKrazy]

102. Well

tall, funny, sensitive, kinky, \\

somewhat artistic

genius? not scientific one

green eyes



I know you've been a DU'er since 04, but good to see ya!

[mvd]

106. Ressurecting this topic - interesting one

I like women who are liberal of course, have a good sense of humor, watch sports, love music, and glasses are sexy.

Beauty is in all hair colors, races, sizes, etc. Redheads like Candice Accola are very attractive, as are blondes (natural and colored) like Sharon Case and brunettes like Jennifer Connelly, Amber Tamblyn, and Salma Hayek. I won't go through my whole crush list here, but I recently added Candice Accola to my list.

A good personality is sexiest IMO.

[Starbucks Anarchist]

107. Teeth and a pulse.

[SPKrazy]

108. Not Picky eh

should be easy to please

[Starbucks Anarchist]

109. Very!

[SPKrazy]

111. Man, You're Missing Out

on a lot of women by insisting on teeth

or a pulse

[Starbucks Anarchist]

113. These toothless corpses don't help at all.

[SPKrazy]

114. You Could Always

look around and find some falsies to put in the toothless corpses?

Gawd I'm a sick fuck

[Starbucks Anarchist]

115. Off to the dental supply store!

[SPKrazy]

116. Don't Forget The Polygrip

you want them to stay in!

[Aristus]

110. I think glasses on a woman is sexy.

I never went for those movies where a mousy woman takes her glasses off and the reaction is: 'Without your glasses...you're...why, you're BEAUTIFUL!'

If a woman is already beautiful, IMO, glasses up the sexiness quotient. Example: Tina Fey



I think glasses are almost unspeakably sexy.

[Evoman]

112. I like women with big butts, and loose morals.

Oh yeah...and...um..intellect and stuff.

[YankeyMCC]

117. Passion and connectedness

By "connectedness" I mean someone who seems to have done some self-examination and figure out how she wants to fit into the world and is working at that. Someone who can either say exactly why they enjoy doing whatever they are doing - in work and play - or at least talk about how they're trying to figure it out. If they really care, if they really want to find a good way to live and enjoy life then it'll be interesting almost no matter what they're doing and interesting is sexy.

And physical attributes are important too. I like the usual things an American Male likes but also the nape of the neck now that'll grab my attention.

[struggle4progress]

119. I suspect I might be attracted to a beautiful Marxist with a billion dollar trust funds

but haven't met any yet

Oh, well -- guess I'll keep angling for the smart, funny, and socially conscious