Democratic Underground Latest Greatest Lobby Journals Search Options Help Login
Google

I have to give up my dog and I'm heartbroken

Printer-friendly format Printer-friendly format
Printer-friendly format Email this thread to a friend
Printer-friendly format Bookmark this thread
This topic is archived.
Home » Discuss » The DU Lounge Donate to DU
 
Connonym Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 12:53 PM
Original message
I have to give up my dog and I'm heartbroken
Circumstances are forcing me to sell my house and I can't take my dog when I move. Of all the things that make me sad about losing my house, losing her breaks my heart more than everything else put together. The breeder is helping me find a new home for her but I don't know how to let go. I've failed in my responsibility to her and I don't know why I'm posting this here except that I need someone to tell me that I'm not the worst dog mom who ever lived.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
malta blue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 12:54 PM
Response to Original message
1. I am so sorry.
:hug: :hug:
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
lizziegrace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 12:55 PM
Response to Original message
2. You're not
By finding her a good home, you're doing the right thing. I know how much this hurts. I had to leave my dog with my ex when we divorced. I couldn't find a place that would rent to me with a dog. :(

:hug:
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
LynneSin Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 12:55 PM
Response to Original message
3. I had a friend who had to give up her dog when she moved...
..the nice thing was that she found a new owner that didn't mind if my friend stopped by 1-2 a month to visit & walk the dog. In fact when the new family went on vacation one time my friend filled in as a dog-sitter
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
LaraMN Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 12:57 PM
Response to Original message
4. Oh no, honey, you're not the worst dog mom!
Edited on Thu Dec-21-06 12:58 PM by LaraMN
The worst dog mom just stopped over to borrow my candy thermometer, and I told her that her dog's been in my garbage about five times, this week. You're doing the best you can for your dog- that's a sure sign of a good and loving owner. Hugs to you.
:hug: :hug: :hug:
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
San Diego Donating Member (68 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 12:57 PM
Response to Original message
5. I'm sorry to hear that.
But that doesn't mean you're the worst dog mom who ever lived.

When deciding on a new home for her, try to make some type of concession with the new owner so that you get visitation rights.

Take her to the park once a week. Or if you're near the beach, I know for a fact that dogs love going to the beach. Before my ex and I broke up, I would take our lab every Saturday. She knew what day it was and would nudge me awake at 5:30 so we could be on our way by 6:00.

It really sucks having to say goodbye.

:hug:
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
miss_american_pie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 12:58 PM
Response to Original message
6. No, you aren't
:hug:
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
ThomCat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 12:59 PM
Response to Original message
7. I'm very, very sorry.
:cry:
I wish you could take her with you. I would be just as heartbroken if I had to give up my cats.
:hug:

You are not responsible for situations beyond your control. You're doing the best that you can in a difficult situation.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
seemunkee Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 01:01 PM
Response to Original message
8. Your being the best mom that you can
abandoning her would be the worst. Finding a good home is the best thing you can do. Your circumstances doesn't mean you failed her.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
AlienAvatar Donating Member (167 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 01:04 PM
Response to Original message
9. Is there no place you can go
where it's allowed to have a dog? Having a pet definitely makes relocating a problem, but it's certainly not an insurmountable one. I realize I'm saying this with no knowledge of your circumstance, but unless your going to jail or an institution it shouldn't be impossible to find a suitable home for the two of you. Difficult, but not impossible.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Connonym Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 01:59 PM
Response to Reply #9
11. Unfortunately, no
I'm relying on the kindness of family allowing my daughters and I to live with them until I can get back on my feet. The dog isn't negotiable.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Karenca Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 01:04 PM
Response to Original message
10. No, you aren't.
This situation is out of your control.
I had to face a similiar situation 2 years ago with my beloved Golden.

Just reading your post proves you're a good mommy.

I'm sso orry you have to go through this---I know how you feel. :hug:
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Wcross Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 02:16 PM
Response to Original message
12. She is going to be OK.
I adopted three from a family in a similar situation. Their house burned to the ground, no insurance and had to move to an apartment in town. They are getting the best of care and are happy to still be together. As a matter of fact, I even kept the three pups the girl had two weeks after moving in.
There is nothing you can do to change the situation, you have to look out for your daughters well being first. You ARE NOT a bad dog mom, you are finding her a good home. How can that be bad?
A bad dog mom would drive her out to the country to "be free" or dump her at the pound.
You are far from being a bad mom.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
leftofthedial Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 02:18 PM
Response to Original message
13. bummer!
I'm sorry you're losing your dog. You are not the worst dog mom by a long stretch. Shelters are full of abandoned and neglected dogs. Find a good home for her.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Richardo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 02:19 PM
Response to Original message
14. I am so sorry - I understand your heartbreak
Under the circumstances, you are doing the best you can by finding her a home :hug:
I hope it will get better soon.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 02:54 PM
Response to Original message
15. you are loving your baby -- not abusing her.
Edited on Thu Dec-21-06 02:54 PM by xchrom
that's what the worst dog mommy does.

you are being loving and caring -- in short -- wonderful -- the best way you can.

and yes -- it's going to break your heart.

i'm sorry.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
WindRavenX Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 04:31 PM
Response to Reply #15
18. that's what I was going to say
A bad doggie mommy would not have gone out to make sure her baby has a good home.

Terribly sorry to hear about your loss though :hug:
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Virginia Dare Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 03:00 PM
Response to Original message
16. Contact a breed rescue organization...
I'm not sure what breed your dog is, but there are many of them out there, do a google search, or go to petfinder.com. Most of these organizations will help find your dog a foster home and eventually a new forever home.

I provide a foster home for these dogs, and you're not alone, I'm just happy you're not one of those people who just abandons your pet, like many people do.

:hug:
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Connonym Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 04:30 PM
Response to Reply #16
17. I can't find an official golden doodle rescue
Thus far I've only found one web site for people looking to "rescue" them but there aren't any credentials, just people posting a wanted ad basically, no information to determine whether they'd be appropriate. I've spoken to the breeder and he's going to be getting back to me today with a number for a nonbreed-specific rescue in the area. Thanks everyone for the reassurance and support. I know I don't have a choice but it's still agonizing.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 05:39 PM
Response to Reply #17
20. That's because a Golden Doodle isn't a breed. It's an expensive mutt, sorry but that's what it is.
That being said, I'm REALLY, TRULY sorry you have to give up your dog. I've had pets my whole life and it's a really hard thing to do.

I'd look into Golden Retriever or Poodle rescue groups. Oftentimes they'll accept dogs that are mixes of that breed, which is what a Golden Doodle is.

:hug:
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Connonym Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 05:51 PM
Response to Reply #20
21. But a very sweet little mutt
She's got the golden retriever personality and looks like a muppet dog. It was love at first sight.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
GoddessOfGuinness Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 04:36 PM
Response to Original message
19. Is it possible that a friend could foster her?
My brother took care of a neighbor's dog on a long-term basis when mental illness made it necessary for her to be hospitalized.

You are a great dog mom. The evidence is in your sorrow at having to give your dog away. I'm so sorry... :hug:
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
mzteris Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 06:53 PM
Response to Original message
22. where in WI are you?
My son volunteers with a good pet rescue group in Madison.... Maybe they could help.

PM me if we can help.

We'd take it, but we already have 3 dogs (and a ticked off cat!)

Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
riderinthestorm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-21-06 07:04 PM
Response to Original message
23. I'd be happy to foster her while you get back on your feet
or even take her if that would be better. I own a farm just west of Chicago that my female mutt is currently "ruling" by herself since I lost my 18 year old Jack Russell. We train, breed, buy and sell competition horses so I have a LOT of potential references from vets to clients and friends but more importantly we're pretty flexible amd have a lot of experience having a pet staying with us for a little while or forever. PM me if you want to talk more. We're just beginning our search for a second dog (we always have two) and rather than get another JRT, we've been leaning towards adopting another mutt since we really love this one we got at the local shelter.

I am so sorry for your hardships but you'll pull out soon I'm sure. Best of luck to you!!
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
DU AdBot (1000+ posts) Click to send private message to this author Click to view 
this author's profile Click to add 
this author to your buddy list Click to add 
this author to your Ignore list Sun Apr 20th 2014, 09:06 AM
Response to Original message
Advertisements [?]
 Top

Home » Discuss » The DU Lounge Donate to DU

Powered by DCForum+ Version 1.1 Copyright 1997-2002 DCScripts.com
Software has been extensively modified by the DU administrators


Important Notices: By participating on this discussion board, visitors agree to abide by the rules outlined on our Rules page. Messages posted on the Democratic Underground Discussion Forums are the opinions of the individuals who post them, and do not necessarily represent the opinions of Democratic Underground, LLC.

Home  |  Discussion Forums  |  Journals |  Store  |  Donate

About DU  |  Contact Us  |  Privacy Policy

Got a message for Democratic Underground? Click here to send us a message.

© 2001 - 2011 Democratic Underground, LLC