Is this a form of homophobia?

[Oeditpus Rex]

1. Drop-dead-gorgeous lesbian posts a photo.

2. Goofy het dude who's never known many gay folk is prompted to post something along the lines of "Hamina hamina hamina" but is dissuaded by the thought, "Would a lesbian be like 'meh' to such a compliment from a goofy het dude?"

2a. Internal confusion ensues.



I. hate. my. brain. :banghead:

[qnr]

1. I wouldn't think it would be a problem, as one human to another. Now, if a talking spider told

someone that they thought the person was hot, there might be something to think about.

[Guava Jelly]

2. lostinVA is pretty cute hugh?

I think any compliment dished out with respect and sincerity should be ok.
I have been complimented by gay men before and I find it flattering..It's the ultimate compliment

[Karenca]

7. No--------I wouldn't call her cute.

Beautiful--


What a beautiful face!

[Guava Jelly]

10. Ok.. you win

:7

[gmoney]

38. (uh, you DO realize...)

that the photo LostinVA posted in the recent picture thread is acress Kate Winslet, right?

I'm sure LostinVA is lovely and charming in her own right, but I believe it was a bit of a prank.

[LostinVA]

39. Gmoney -- I have one thing to say to you

You can come visit me and my husband Sam Mendes whenever you're in London.

[Left Is Write]

3. I don't think so.

(BTW, as a straight girl, I enjoy compliments from people of any gender/orientation. A compliment is a compliment, right? Right? We all need a little ego stroke from time to time, right? Or even just kind words from people we like and respect.)

[cwydro]

4. Doesn't sound like homophobia to me

sounds like you're trying not to step on toes, which means you're a sensitive guy.

I'm never insulted by comments from the "opposite" sex.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

5. That's not homophobia. That's just being a spazz.

:rofl:

As a lesbian, I'll gladly accept compliments from straight guys. It's a compliment. I don't get offended if a guy thinks I'm hot.

[Starbucks Anarchist]

6. Phew, that's a relief.

;)

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

11. Hehe.

I added you on myspace.

[Starbucks Anarchist]

15. I noticed. Thanks!

:hi:

[Xipe Totec]

12. Well, in that case,

you make me wish I was a lesbian :loveya:

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

14. Well, thank you.

:hi:

[Oeditpus Rex]

13. Then I can say without reservation

that not only are you hot, you have impeccable taste in women.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

17. I agree, I do have good taste.

Even if she's not Kate Winslet, LostinVA is really fucking awesome.

[Call Me Wesley]

21. What do you mean?

That's not her picture? Huh? I just wrote these lyrics there all by myself ...

;)

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

26. Um...does Heidi know...

she's not married to Celine Dion?

;)

[Call Me Wesley]

27. What? What?

Ermm, uh, who?


:hide:

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

28. Err...yes...um...

never mind then.

:hide:

[trof]

8. I thought homophobia was people afraid of milk.

[skygazer]

9. Well, I certainly enjoy compliments from lesbians

Though compliments from anyone are fairly infrequent. :( That's my take as a straight woman, for what it's worth.

[Oeditpus Rex]

16. Yeah, I tried to translate it to that

Once in the Castro, my S.O. and our female friend enlightened me that a couple of guys were checking me out. I thought that was pretty cool, but I didn't know if it'd work the other way.



And btw — you can move my furniture anytime.

[skygazer]

19. Awww....

:blush:

[Guava Jelly]

18. Pink Triangle By Weezer

http://youtube.com/watch?v=gjy3XbxMW1A
dedicated to the smoking hot lesbian's of DU

When Im stable long enough
I start to look around for love
See a sweet and floral print
My mind begins the arrangements
But when I start to feel that pull
Turns out I just pulled myself
She would never go with me
Were I the last girl on earth
Im dumb shes a lesbian
I thought I had found the one
We were good as married in my mind
But married in my minds no good
A pink triangle on her sleeve
Let me know the truth
Let me know the truth
Might have smoked a few in my time
But never thought it was a crime
Knew the day would surely come
When Id chill and settle down
When I think Ive found a good old fashioned girl
Then she put me in my place
If everyones a little queer
Cant she be a little straight
Chorus, chorus, chorus

Let me know the truth

[JackBeck]

20. Nope. It's a complement.

Liberals and progressives, in general, are a pretty sexy and attractive bunch.

[6000eliot]

22. I sometimes do "hubba hubba" posts for straight guys' photos.

Usually they are flattered. I'd like to hear if someone finds me attractive; it doesn't matter if it's a gay man or a straight woman (or a straight man or a gay woman for that matter).

[Oeditpus Rex]

23. That's how I'd take it

Well... unless the guy's a creep. x(

But one never knows how others will react. :shrug:

[buddhamama]

24. errr...no.

it means your brain is working fine and you're not blind.

LostinVA is stunning; absolutely breathtakingly beautiful. Kate has nothing on her.

[zanne]

25. At least you're thinking about it.

You have a social conscience. Don't beat yourself up about it.

[Evoman]

29. Hey, its gotta be better than not knowing they are gay and that making

a slobbery pass at them.

Not that I do that...I have an insanely attractive gf myself.

[Zomby Woof]

30. I wouldn't worry about it

There's a vocal contingent who is determined to find "homophobia" where it simply doesn't exist.

It's a kind of McCarthyism.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

31. Hmm...interesting perspective.

[jonnyblitz]

32. yeah it sucks not being able to tell a good faggot joke

without being called out by the gay police. :sarcasm:

[NMMNG]

35. Cut out the fa**ot jokes

Or I'll taser you. :grr:

[Jamastiene]

34. I am about as pure 100% lesbian as they come and even

I can take a compliment. What are you talking about, per chance?

[Jamastiene]

33. No, that's not homophobic.

As long as you make sure to tell her you are just letting her know you think she's pretty, no harm done. No big deal. :hi:

[NMMNG]

36. Nah

It's only a problem if the woman has told you to lay off and you keep drooling on her. :P

[Redstone]

37. As well you should (hate your brain, that is). But we've all done something like that,

so don't hate it too long before forgiving it.

And I don't think she'd mind compliments from guys, even if she doesn't want to sleep with any of them.

Redstone

[Skittles]

40. I don't think you're homophobic

I think you're afraid you'll get your ass kicked good by a GRRRRRL. :D

[crim son]

41. Ah, my good but confused man.

It betrays a lack of understanding and nothing more.