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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 04:15 PM
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the priest came to give my dad last rites this morning.
for two years i have cared for dad -- and my mom -- as he slowly succumbed to old age.

the last year -- i was his body -- his arms -- his legs.

and his body became mine -- aged, infirm and slowly falling prey to encroaching dementia.

i bathed him, fed him -- moved from bed to chair and back.

i cleansed his wounds, washed and changed him and imperfectly loved him and looked after his wife - my mom.

he's breathing his last and giving me back my body -- and he claims his for the last time.

i've surrounded him with pictures of his sister and his parents -- and the ashes of our beloved dogs and and cat who will accompany him to the grave -- but who will be the first to greet him at heaven's gates.

i can't say how much i miss him -- will miss him when he takes his last breath.

and i love him more than i can say.

blessed be god -- father, son and holy spirit.
and blessed be god's kingdom now and forever.
amen.



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Call Me Wesley Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 04:17 PM
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1. Safe passage to your dad, xchrom.
Might he be free from suffering. Peace and comfort to you and yours. I'm sorry.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 04:20 PM
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4. thank you -- the dogs will see him there.
and the cat will take the credit.
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QMPMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 04:17 PM
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2. I am so sorry,
You will be in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 04:20 PM
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5. thanks.
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Radio_Lady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Oct-29-06 01:30 PM
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101. Xchrom, you are a dutiful son. I sincerely hope there is someone as
caring who accompanies you at the end.

It would be justified completely.

I was estranged from my father due to an occasion of Clintonesque sexual abuse which he never admitted. I did see him a few months before he died, and he was so debilitated from heart disease and other infirmities that I tried to quell the resentment in my soul.

I am an only child, so there were few alternatives for my father. Mother seemed well enough and cheerful, but she was slowly descending into the age abyss. We were not close and we had an argument on the telephone a few days before she passed away. After Mother died, suddenly and alone in her apartment, my husband and I flew from Boston to Miami to settle their affairs. This was 15 years ago, and I am only now feeling regretful that I did not help them out more when they were alive.

In peace,

Radio_Lady
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tjwmason Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 04:18 PM
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3. .
In paradisum deducant te Angeli; in tuo adventu suscipiant te martyres, et perducant te in civitatem sanctam Jerusalem. Chorus angelorum te suscipiat, et cum Lazaro quondam paupere ternam habeas requiem. Pie Iesu Domine, dona eis requiem. Dona eis requiem sempiternam.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 04:22 PM
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6. thank you so much.
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judaspriestess Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 04:24 PM
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7. I am so sorry
I grew up without a father. How lucky you are to have had the life you had with him. But for me, all is forgiven and we move on from the hurt that it caused in my youth.....

My mommy lives with me and she is still young but she's getting up there and I will do exactly the same thing you did with your dad. I will always take care of my mom and she knows it.

God bless you...........
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 04:27 PM
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8. thank you.
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RetroLounge Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 04:28 PM
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9. Oh, Man, I am so sorry.
All I can do is give you a hug...

:hug:

RL
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 04:30 PM
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10. thank you.
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Lars39 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 04:57 PM
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11. ~
:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 06:34 PM
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26. thanks
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Karenina Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 05:06 PM
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12. May he fly on the wings of angels
to his rest. Condolences to you and your family. :hug:
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 06:36 PM
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27. swing low sweet chariot... thank you.
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NewWaveChick1981 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 05:11 PM
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13. Xchrom, I am so sorry...
:hug: That must be terrible. :( Please accept my deepest sympathies. :pals: I know you will miss him more than words can express.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 06:37 PM
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28. i do and i will miss him. thank you.
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swimboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 05:24 PM
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14. I'm sorry, xchrom.
You sure have been a wonderful son to him. I wish him all the best on his journey and to you on your passage through this difficult time.

:hug:
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 06:38 PM
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29. he is/was a wonderful father. thank you.
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Bunny Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 05:25 PM
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15. You are a lovely man.
I wish a peaceful passage for your father, and comfort for you. :hug:
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 06:39 PM
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30. thank you.
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LeftyMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 05:26 PM
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16. You're a good man and a good son
I'm sure your parents are proud of you, and grateful for you.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 06:40 PM
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31. i'm grateful to my parents. thank you.
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rockymountaindem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 05:36 PM
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17. May the Lord be with you and your family
I marked the anniversaries of the deaths of my grandmothers today, so I feel a small portion of your pain. May God comfort you.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 06:42 PM
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32. and also with you. thank you.
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brook Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 05:43 PM
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18. and Blessed are you,xchrom.
Your love for your father shines as a star through your beautiful words. You have made the priceless gift to him of a peaceful transition. You have both my admiration and my sympathy. :hug:
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 06:44 PM
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33. thank you.
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sarge43 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 05:45 PM
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19. "End?
No, the journey doesn't end here. Death is just another path -- one that we all must take. The grey rain curtain of this world rolls back and all change to silver glass -- then you see it -- white shores ... and beyond. The far green country under a swift sunrise."

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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 06:45 PM
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34. the dogs are waiting for him. in that green place.
they will see him home.
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sarge43 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 07:26 PM
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46. And they will be filled with joy to see their beloved friend again n/t
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uppityperson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 05:46 PM
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20. thank you for what you wrote. My condolences and wishes for peace to you,...
and the rest of his family and friends. It is difficult to have a parent die.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 06:46 PM
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35. thank you.
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mcar Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 05:55 PM
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21. Bless you for loving so much
You have truly honored your parents with your loving care of your Dad. I can't imagine how difficult this is for you now. I have a little clue because both my parents died of cancer, at home and my sibs and I helped to care for them, but not to your degree.

You are an incredibly giving person. I wish your father a peaceful passage and you a peaceful transition.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 06:48 PM
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36. i only tried to love him as he loved me. thank you.
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Gormy Cuss Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 05:57 PM
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22. Your father is a rich man because
he has a son who loves him this much.

Peace to him and to you xchrom.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 06:49 PM
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37. thank you.
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miss_american_pie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 06:12 PM
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23. My condolences
I pray your family is comforted. :hug:
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 06:50 PM
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38. thank you.
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Kajsa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 06:17 PM
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24. I'm so sorry ,Xchrom.

You and your family are in
my thoughts and prayers at
this difficult time.

Your father knows he is loved.

:hug:
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 06:50 PM
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39. thank you.
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RevCheesehead Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 06:22 PM
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25. God bless you and your family, xchrom.
Your spirit is well, and so is his.
Yes, it will hurt like hell for a while, but it does ease with time.

You are in my prayers. :hug:
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 06:51 PM
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40. and god bless you as well, thank you.
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hatredisnotavalue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 07:01 PM
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41. You truly are an inspiration to us caring for ailing parents
I truly don't know how you do it. I am sorry for what you are going thru, but faith will guide you.

The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want; He makes me lie down in green pastures. He leads me beside still waters; He restores my soul. He leads me in paths of righteousness for His name's sake. Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I fear no evil; for You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life; and I shall dwell in the house of the Lord forever.

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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 07:08 PM
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42. and we shall all dwell in the house of the lord. thank you for your words.
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BarenakedLady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 07:20 PM
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43. I'm so very sorry.
:hug:
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 08:33 PM
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59. thank you.
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photogirl12 Donating Member (887 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 07:22 PM
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44. I am so sorry, xchrom
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 08:27 PM
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51. thank you.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 08:33 PM
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58. thank you.
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ThomCat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 07:22 PM
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45. You're a good man
and you apparently come from a very good family.

:hug:
I'm very sorry.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 08:28 PM
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53. my folks are wonderful people. thank you.
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Flaxbee Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 07:49 PM
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47. Oh xchrom, I'm sorry.
I know it's been very difficult but also fulfilling. I wish you, your dad, and your family peace and comfort. :hug:
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 08:30 PM
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55. thank you flaxbee.
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DrDan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 08:01 PM
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48. wow - what a caring father he must have been
to have such a caring child . . . .
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 08:29 PM
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54. he was caring and wonderful -- he was a father. thank you.
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ikojo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Oct-29-06 07:28 AM
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90. Xchrom, you and all who were lucky enough
to have a dad who stuck around and raised you are fortunate and blessed indeed.

I hope your mom is able to come through this OK.
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Throckmorton Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 08:14 PM
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49. I buried my beloved wife April with her cats ashes,
Edited on Sat Oct-28-06 08:14 PM by Throckmorton
Matty, the wonder cat, who died the day she was diagnosed with cancer.

Godspeed to your father, and may you always remember him right.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 08:26 PM
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50. the dogs will bring him to heaven's gates -- and the cat will
make sure they did it right.
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ronnykmarshall Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Oct-29-06 10:19 AM
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99. That's so sweet.
I know one day I'll be greeted by my beloved cat Mickey and our family dog Cleo. My brother will be tapping his foot hanging out with Florence Ballard (of the Supremes) and say .... "Well looky who's here." Flo will say "Honey, you is terrific".
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lildreamer316 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 08:28 PM
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52. Sending light to ease his passage..
and yours. :hug:
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 08:32 PM
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56. and he has now found it. blessed be. thank you.
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Road Scholar Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 08:32 PM
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57. I am sorry my friend. You all are lucky to have each other. eom
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 08:35 PM
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62. thank you, my friend. he has now gone on.
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Lady Freedom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 08:34 PM
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60. My dearest sympathy ...
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 08:36 PM
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63. oh my -- he looked out at roses from his bed every day. thank you.
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Haole Girl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 08:34 PM
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61. He is very fortunate to have you there beside him...
... :hug: :hug:
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 08:37 PM
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65. he's now gone -- he was my dad -- my father. thank you.
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Haole Girl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 09:53 PM
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68. I'm sorry for your loss...
... :hug: :hug:
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 10:11 PM
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72. thank you.
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Nicole Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 08:37 PM
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64. I'm sorry
xchrom,
You're a good son to show your father such kindness & love.

Prayers to comfort & give you strength.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 08:38 PM
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66. thank you.
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barb162 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 09:19 PM
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67. I'm so sorry. It' so sad.
I'm near tears reading this. May his last moments and yours be peaceful
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 10:12 PM
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73. he has been met by his beloved animals and gone
to be with jesus now.

i thank you.
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ikojo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Oct-29-06 07:32 AM
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91. I don't know your father or you, xchrom but
the love you had for one another comes across in your brief comments here. You sound like such a caring giving person.

Peace be with you and your family as you mourn.

May mourning bring you comfort.

zichranon livracha...

TRANSLATION OF KADDISH


May the great Name of God be exalted and sanctified, throughout the world, which he has created according to his will. May his Kingship be established in your lifetime and in your days, and in the lifetime of the entire household of Israel, swiftly and in the near future; and say, Amen.
May his great name be blessed, forever and ever.
Blessed, praised, glorified, exalted, extolled, honored elevated and lauded be the Name of the holy one, Blessed is he- above and beyond any blessings and hymns, Praises and consolations which are uttered in the world; and say Amen. May there be abundant peace from Heaven, and life, upon us and upon all Israel; and say, Amen.

He who makes peace in his high holy places, may he bring peace upon us, and upon all Israel; and say Amen.

KADDISH TRANSLITERATION


Yis'ga'dal v'yis'kadash sh'may ra'bbo, b'olmo dee'vro chir'usay v'yamlich malchu'say, b'chayaychon uv'yomay'chon uv'chayay d'chol bais Yisroel, ba'agolo u'viz'man koriv; v'imru Omein.
Y'hay shmay rabbo m'vorach l'olam ul'olmay olmayo.
Yisborach v'yishtabach v'yispoar v'yisromam v'yismasay, v'yishador v'yis'aleh v'yisalal, shmay d'kudsho, brich hu, l'aylo min kl birchoso v'sheeroso, tush'bechoso v'nechemoso, da,ameeran b'olmo; vimru Omein.
Y'hay shlomo rabbo min sh'mayo, v'chayim alaynu v'al kol Yisroel; v'imru Omein.
Oseh sholom bimromov, hu ya'aseh sholom olaynu, v'al kol yisroel; vimru Omein.
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greatauntoftriplets Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 09:56 PM
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69. Oh, xchrom, you have given your all for him....
You obviously have taken excellent care of him. I am so sorry for your imminent loss.

Like you, I took care of both my parents. It's never easy....
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 10:13 PM
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74. then you know -- thank you -- and he's gone now.
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greatauntoftriplets Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 10:28 PM
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79. I am so sorry for your loss....
Be well. It cannot be an easy time for you and your mother.
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ScreamingMeemie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 09:56 PM
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70. xchrom...how my heart hurts for you tonight...
I'm so sorry your dad has left you.

As long as somebody speaks his name, he's never really gone. :hug: Your family, and especially you, will be close in thought. What you have written here is the most moving post I have ever read.

Please take gentle care,

~Laura
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 10:15 PM
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75. thank you so, mrs grumpy.
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blondeatlast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 10:08 PM
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71. What a beautiful tribute to him. God bless him and your family,
my friend.

I was with my dad when he took that last breath; he looked quite peaceful after a long. hard struggle.


My love to you all.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 10:15 PM
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76. thank you.
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mohinoaklawnillinois Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 10:21 PM
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77. I am very sorry for your loss, xchrom.
I'm hoping you and your family will be comforted by this old Irish prayer:

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face.
And the rains fall soft upon your fields.
And until we meet again, may God hold you in the palm of His hand.

You, your mother and the rest of your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 10:26 PM
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78. and may god also hold you. thank you.
that's one of my fav prayers.
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w8liftinglady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 10:29 PM
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80. Bless you.I'm a nurse who cares for many at the end of life
The strength and sheer love of their families is a testament to the person they were before their illness.I am often in awe of the families that care,without complaint,for their loved ones.Know that it made a major impact in your dad's last days.he had peace knowing those who loved him were there,and cared.I hope you find some comfort in that.I'm thinking of you.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Oct-29-06 02:57 AM
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83. thank you.
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bridgit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 10:55 PM
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81. dear one come closer if even for a moment to me...
you have stayed in my mind a wondrous memory of procession, and blessed familial concourse; here i extend to you a facet of my belief system this: great & good works you perform are not able to be forgotten; every wholesome remembrance remains in our minds, no human tear is ever fallen...they are 'the all of it' writ in: The Book Of Life, friend, peace to you & yours :hug:

Do and be seen doing ~
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Oct-29-06 02:57 AM
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84. oh my sweet bridgit, thank you so much!
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AussieDave Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-28-06 11:22 PM
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82. Dear xchrom - I'm so sorry to hear this
I hope he has a peaceful passage and you will find comfort in knowing he's at peace and rest. He's on a new journey now, with the dogs and cat to keep him company.

Big hugs, mate. :hug:
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Oct-29-06 03:01 AM
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86. i do belive there was a joyous reunion with our dogs and cat.
thank you.
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uppityperson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Oct-29-06 09:34 AM
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96. Indeed there probably was. Hugs and condolences again.
Edited on Sun Oct-29-06 09:35 AM by uppityperson
I had to check in with this thread this morning, thinking about you. Rest and take care of yourself, and your mother also.
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Oct-29-06 02:58 AM
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85. my friend, I'm so sorry to hear that your dad suffered,
but am glad to know he's free now. Love and light to you and your family. :hug:
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Oct-29-06 03:03 AM
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87. love and light to you and yours as well. thank you.
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buddhamama Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Oct-29-06 07:21 AM
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88. my dear, xchrom
Edited on Sun Oct-29-06 07:22 AM by buddhamama
i am sorry for what your dad has suffered... he is at Peace...

my heart is with you, my friend.

if there is anything you need, anything at all, i am here.

love and peace to you all. :hug: :hug: :hug:
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Oct-29-06 09:05 AM
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92. thank you -- wonderful, sweet buddhamama.
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buddhamama Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Oct-29-06 09:24 AM
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94. take comfort my friend,
if you can, in the knowledge that your Dad has not left this world. His life- his deeds and his energy live on through the people he has touched in the most personally of ways and those who might not even been aware of his 'presence'. He lives on in you.

And he will not be forgotten. :hug: :hug:



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ikojo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Oct-29-06 07:24 AM
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89. What a tribute to your father...
I was moved reading your words and feeling the LOVE in the spaces between the letters.

Safe passage to your dad as he leaves this world for what lies beyond.

May his memory be for a blessing.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Oct-29-06 09:07 AM
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93. his memory must be because his life was a blessing. thank you.
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salin Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Oct-29-06 09:28 AM
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95. Peace be with you and your mother
you certainly gave great comfort to your father, surrounding him in love and warmth.
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ronnykmarshall Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Oct-29-06 10:15 AM
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97. Oh baby I'm so sorry.
:hug:
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wildhorses Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Oct-29-06 10:18 AM
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98. take comfort in the circle of life--
what once was
will be again
:hug:
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Phillycat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Oct-29-06 11:58 AM
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100. May he know peace.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Oct-29-06 03:35 PM
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102. May perpetual light shine upon him.
I'm sorry for your loss, xchrom. I lost my dad in 2004 and my mom in 2002. It hurts a lot, even now.

Someone sent me this poem when my mom died. I think it is beautiful and it reminds me of them in the beauty and splendor that is nature.

I AM NOT THERE

DO NOT STAND AT MY GRAVE AND WEEP,
I AM NOT THERE, I DO NOT SLEEP

I AM A THOUSAND WINDS THAT BLOW,

I AM THE DIAMONDS GLINTS ON SNOW,

I AM THE SUNLIGHT ON RIPENED GRAIN,

I AM THE GENTLE AUTUMN RAIN.

WHEN YOU AWAKEN IN THE MORNINGS HUSH
I AM THE SWIFT UPLIFTING RUSH,
OF QUIET BIRDS IN CIRCLED FLIGHT.

I AM THE SOFT STARS THAT SHINE AT NIGHT.

DO NOT STAND AT MY GRAVE AND CRY,
I AM NOT THERE, I DID NOT DIE.
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