I am getting divorced from Mrs R. My decision.

[Redstone]

This is not what I wanted, but it's what is necessary.

And so our saga, that of Mrs R and me, like all else must come to an end.

Those of you who have my phone number, please, PLEASE don't call. This is something I have to deal with myself. I won't, of necessity, be around for a while. So many details, selling the house, splitting the proceeds, all that ugly stuff.

I wish, to the bottom of my heart, that this didn't have to happen. But it does.

I thank you all for being such good friends, and I promise that I'll be back. Some day, I will. I owe that to you all, steadfast friends that you've been for me.

Later.

Redstone

[wildhorses]

1. I was afraid it might come to this, sorry

[Drum]

2. Been there, and

I send my condolences.

[Aristus]

3. I'm sorry, Redstone.

Hang in there, man. We'll be here whenever you need us.

[libnnc]

4. I'm so sorry Redstone

Hang in there. You're a really great guy.

[mainegreen]

5. Ouch. So sorry.

The lounge will still be here for you though when you come back.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

6. Awww...I'm sorry, Redstone.

I'm sure everything will work out for the best. Come back when you can. You'll be missed. I really mean that.

[mwdem]

7. Redstone, I'm so sorry to hear this.

After reading your posts, it seems like you have no choice. I do know that you love her, and I hope she gets the help she needs. My best wishes to you and don't be a stranger, please. I always can count on your very logical, clear-thinking posts. You will be missed.

[bridgit]

8. i seen it coming...

try to stay centered

[CaliforniaPeggy]

9. My dear Redstone..........

I am so sorry........this is going to be tough........

I understand though, you know I do.

Good thing you said not to call.......'cause I would have!

You know I am here for you, any time you want to talk.......

I hope she will get the help she needs.......

And I hope that you won't be away too long.....

Since your voice is one of sanity here on DU.....

[Midlodemocrat]

10. I'm so sorry, Redstone.

I think the world of you and, obviously by connection, Mrs. R.

If I can help you in any way, shape or form, you know how to reach me.



Midlo

[xchrom]

11. take care of your self, sir.

good thoughts to go with you for now.

[NC_Nurse]

12. I'm really sorry to hear that.

I've done it, you'll get through it. Please know that we are here for you. I hope we hear from you soon.
Take care of yourself.

[WritingIsMyReligion]

Damn. I miss so much when I'm not around!

I'm so sorry for you, Redstone. You seem to be a very good man, and I can only hope that you get through this with all the strength and dignity and healing any human being deserves.

May you find strength and, ultimately, peace, my friend, in yourself and in the world around you.

[LostinVA]

22. I have been around, and I still missed this

Good luck. It's a hard decision, but sometimes it has to be made. And usually it is the right decision.

[BarenakedLady]

13. I'm sorry.

I hope everything goes smoothly for you.

[greatauntoftriplets]

14. I am so sorry, Redstone....

Is your son going with you?

[Redstone]

15. Most likely.

though it will likely be an expensive battle nonetheless, like it was with my older son.

I'll do what I have to do, to end up with what's best for him.

Redstone

[greatauntoftriplets]

18. Good luck with that...

I know that you have had a bad time of late.

[bullwinkle428]

16. I'm so sorry to hear this, man...I have an idea because I've been there

as well. Take care of yourself and know we'll always be there for you.

[LeftyMom]

17. I'm sorry.

I wish there were something I could do to make it easier on you. I know it's heart-rending, even when no other option remains.

[speedoo]

19. I'm very sorry, Redstone.

I have been through it, in CT. But I think your situation sounds much more complicated than mine was.

If you think I might be able to help, just PM me, OK? I do know a divorce lawyer in CT very well.

Best of luck to you.

[In_The_Wind]

20. Dammit Redstone, that's really bad news. I'm sorry it's come to this.

Remember we love you!

[wildhorses]

52. Redstone, sorry to hijack your thread for a sec...

Joani, check your pm. thanks

[flvegan]

21. Sorry, brother.

You have my number. Please use it if you feel the need...or the want.

My best to you both...

[Scout1071]

23. OMG Redstone, I'm sorry to hear it. We will be here when you are ready.

Stay strong. We will be thinking of you and wishing you well.

[EFerrari]

24. I'm so sorry, Redstone.

Edit: I myself am trying to get the courage together to file. Can't do it today. Maybe tomorrow.

Dammit.

[pitohui]

39. good luck to you also sfexpat

i was not really aware of redstone's situation but i have often worried about your situation because of some of your posts or maybe what i've read into your posts

forgive me if that is a rude or incorrect observation -- it just seems like you have been in a very difficult situation and you deserve better

i just think maybe you take much to heart that is not under your control

well i better quit rambling now since i don't know the right thing to say

[merh]

59. (((( sfexpat2000 )))))

When the time is right you will, just remember to breath and take good care of yourself.

Love the pup (I forgot her name) and she will help you through this.

I love ya

[EFerrari]

76. Thanks, merh. I'm okay. Like Restone says, we do what

we have to do.

[Horse with no Name]

99. Awwww sfex

I'm so sorry. Nobody can say that you didn't try.
my friend.

[reyd reid reed]

25. I'm so sorry, Redstone

I know how hard it is and how much it hurts, even when it is necessary.

[calico1]

26. I am sorry. I don't know

you as well as some of the others so I was unaware there were any problems. I hope everything works out for you and that you will post again soon. Always enjoy reading your posts.

[catbert836]

27. Good luck, my friend.

Divorce is never easy... my parents are going through a particularly acrimonious one right now. I hope you and your wife separate as easily as the circumstances can allow. Remember to put your son first... you may see things very clearly, but try to see how difficult this situation will be for him. But I'm sure you've already thought of that... if only my dad would do that, too.

Peace

Catbert

[jus_the_facts]

28. Take care of yourself....

....peace.

[graywarrior]

29. There are no words, Redstone.

I'm stunned...and so very sad for you.

[Kajsa]

I'm so sorry you're going through this, Redstone.

I've been there.
Even when everyone agrees it's for
the best, it's a bitch.

You will be missed. I always like to read your
posts, you are so centered and a voice of sanity
in a world gone mad.

Take care of yourself, my friend.

[u4ic]

30. I'm so sorry, Redstone

please take care.

[SeattleGirl]

31. I'm sorry it had to come to this, Redstone.

But over and above all else, you must take care of yourself and your children, and if this is what it takes, well....

Take care, and come back when you're ready.

[_testify_]

32. Sorry to hear that.

I hope things get better for you. You are a good man.

[coffeenap]

33. I am so sorry, Redstone.

My thoughts are with you. Please remember to take care of you! m.

[WCGreen]

34. Alcohol will do it everytime...

Good luck...

[bicentennial_baby]

35. Hey man, I'm here....

Pretty close by. If you need to get away for a minute or tow, just holla, ok?

[Floogeldy]

36. Selling the house and splitting the proceeds is not the ugly stuff.

Selling the house and splitting the proceeds is evidentiary.

The ugly stuff resides in the "why" of the divorce.

[pitohui]

37. sorry to hear that

speechless

[Dangerously Amused]

38. Oh man.

My heart is breaking for you, Redstone. I'm sorry it had to come to this. But you are about the wisest person I know, so I'm certain you put a lot of thought into your plan and will make the right decisions along the way.

All my best to you, dear heart. As for me, I'm going to miss you something fierce... but I understand and respect your need to work through this on your own.

Be well.


My biggest and best hug for you:

[Bucky]

40. I know you've been thru the ringer with this, Red. Hang in there--things..

things do get better. You're a good guy and I know you're making a sound and very tough decision. Find peace with it, friend. We'll meet in cyberspace again, I'm certain.

PS, Have you thought about which side you're going to vote for in November? I recommend the Democrats

[NewWaveChick1981]

41. Wow, Redstone...

I'm sorry. And when you're ready, please come back. I wish you the best.

[RetroLounge]

42. Redstone

I am so sorry to hear this. You have my sympathies and my ear if you need to talk.

I am going to PM you my number, use it if you like.

You are a good man, and one of my favorite DU'ers. You will be missed and welcomed back gladly when you can.



RL

[Haole Girl]

43. OMG!

Please take care. I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

[bigwillq]

44. It's not always want you want

but sometimes things just need to be done.

I have to admit, that this is a shock to me.
I didn't know you two were having issues. If you posted it on the board, quite frankly, I missed it. That or I just wasn't paying attention and for that, I am sorry.

I wish you the best. Things happen for a reason. And things do get better.

Take the time and find yourself again.
And please. Come back. You will be missed.

Better days ahead.

[Left Is Write]

45. I'm so sorry, Redstone. Be good to yourself.

[crim son]

46. Jesus. Is there enough rending of hearts and soul shriveling

pain in this world YET? YET?

I guess not. My thoughts are with you.

[Starbucks Anarchist]

47. I'm very sorry, Redstone.

[philosophie_en_rose]

48. Treat yourself well, Redstone.

It's easy to forget to take care of yourself, but turbulent times are exactly when self-care is needed the most.

[Briarius]

49. I'm sorry to hear that Redstone

If you need anything at all, you know how to get ahold of us. I hope you find peace and home.

[Robb]

50. Crap, Redstone. I'm sorry.

Anything, name it. You're one of the good bastards.

Remember this is when people are at their worst. Get through it.

[Blue Diadem]

51. Sorry it's come to that Redstone. I wish you and your son

the very best life has to offer. You're a good guy, you deserve happiness and peace.

We'll be waiting for your return and sending you good thoughts and strength to get through this.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

53. I'm sorry I've been so "out of it" lately...

I had no idea that you were having tough times. I'm sorry you have to go through this, and I hope you can all pull through for the better. We'll miss you around here...

[Flaxbee]

55. I had no idea, either - last I really remember was the skunk

in the woodshed.

I am very sorry Redstone, and I'm sorry I've been such a dimwit I didn't realize you were in distress.

I hope that, in these tough times, it goes as well as can be expected. Please come back as soon as you feel able.

[Rowdyboy]

54. I knew things weren't good...I'm sorry you and she are hurting....

Good luck my friend, and come back soon.

[barb162]

56. I'm sorry you're going through this.

Sigh, friend

[LynzM]

57. I'm so sorry, my friend.

I'm so sorry that it's come to this. I wish I could do anything to help. I have lunch and hug, though, so I will offer that.

[merh]

58. I am so sorry to read this. :(

And I am sorry I haven't been around more just to give you hugs.

You are in my prayers as are your loved ones. If you need an ear, I have two and my shoulders are here too.

Take good care my friend.

m.

[yvr girl]

60. Oh, man this sucks

As someone who has actually met you, I know what a stand-up guy you are. I also know how much you love your wife. Sometimes...it's not enough. You have to do what is best for you and your son. I hope your wife gets the help she needs. I know it will be painful, I hope it doesn't also get ugly. My best to you and the little guy.

[evlbstrd]

61. I'm sorry.

I've gone through a similar separation in the last year and a half. It's gotten better between us, but we're seeing things more clearly apart.
Best of luck to you, Redstone.

[Broken_Hero]

62. I hope things

work out...and the seperation is spared some of the...ugliness that divorce can bring forth.

[Sugar Smack]

63. I'm going to miss you so much, cousin.

Please take good care. Thank you for having been there for me. We love you.

[Callalily]

64. Don't really know

but I'll pray for peace in your heart.

[LaurenG]

65. Oh Redstone

My heart goes out to you. I wish you and Mrs. R the very best as you go through this.

[av8rdave]

66. Very sorry to hear

Been there, done that...all the best to you

[ScreamingMeemie]

67. Redstone...

You know how I feel about you. My heart and my thoughts are with you. The ink has just dried on my Dad and Mom's divorce. It's an awful thing...but also a good thing, sometimes.

Take care,
Laura

[donheld]

68. Redstone, Keep your chin up

We'll keep you in our thoughts.

[Ohio Joe]

69. Good Luck - nt

[Brewman_Jax]

70. I'm sorry to hear

Hang in there.

[MissHoneychurch]

71. I am so sorry Redstone

I hope you pull through this without too many scars

Take care of yourself and we will be here for you when you decide to come back.

[miss_american_pie]

72. Oh dear

I am so very sorry.

[Phillycat]

73. I'm so sorry.

My best to you.

[MissMillie]

74. Do what you need to do.... we're with you.

[Bunny]

75. Sorry for your news, Redstone.

Take care of yourself, and your boy.

[Arugula Latte]

77. Wow...

Good luck to you.

[redqueen]

78. *sigh*

I'm sorry, R.

Good luck, to both of you.

[leftofthedial]

79. no fun at all Redstone

I just hit the one-year mark.

You know you have friends here.

[LaraMN]

80. Oh Redstone,

I'm so sorry. You always spoke so highly and respectfully of her.

[BreweryYardRat]

81. Damn, sorry to hear that.

Take care of yourself and your kid.

[msanthrope]

82. Best of Luck to you, Redstone, you are in my thoughts. n/t

[Momgonepostal]

83. Good luck, Redstone, and come back when you can

We'll miss you!

[libodem]

84. Sorry to hear this

divorce is right up there with the death of a loved one as far as stress goes. Take care of your self. Keep in touch with your DU family.

[skygazer]

85. Man, I'm sorry Redstone

Be good to yourself and do what you gotta do. And come back soon. We're all here for ya.

[Gormy Cuss]

86. Oh expletive deleted.

I am so sorry to hear that has come to this, Redstone. Divorce sucks.

[havocmom]

87. Sending energy for getting through this rough time

And remember, now is not what forever feels like.

peace & strength, Redstone.

hm

[redwitch]

88. You are one of my favorite DUers

I will miss you, I send you good wishes and healing my friend. Vaya con Dios, and come back to us.

[knowbody0]

89. so sorry to hear this Redstone

may your choices follow the greater good.

love and peace

[benny05]

90. I'm not familiar with your situation

But I waited quite awhile (nearly 5 years) before making a definitive decision. I'm glad I did because I was so aggreviated when I left. Today, former spouse and I are good friends, but we recognize we have very big differences on lifestyle issues.

[RevCheesehead]

91. I just want you to know...

that I'm only a PM away. gentle-->

[bluethruandthru]

92. I'm so sorry!

What a difficult decision you've had to make. Take good care of yourself and your child!

[supernova]

93. I understand, RS

I know that it's hard to come to such a decision and you wish like hell you didn't have to make such a choice.

Please take care of yourself and come back to us when you are ready.

[MissB]

94. Damn, I am so sorry.

[Rowdyboy]

95. Wish I could say someting to help but there's really nothing...I'm sorry

my friend and I wish you both well.

[RFKHumphreyObama]

96. Redstone I'm so very, very sorry

I know how highly you spoke of her and in what high regard you held her. I know you must be going through a very difficult time at the moment and rest assured that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers and I wish you all the best in terms of best wishes and positive vibes. We are here for you if you need to turn to us and confide in us

Take care of yourself

[Skittles]

97. wishing you the best Redstone

yes

[Horse with no Name]

98. I am so sorry

You are one of my favorites on here. I hope everything works out as you want it to.
Hurry home (to us).

[AtomicKitten]

100. one foot in front of the other

and remember, life will go on
sorry for your troubles

[buddhamama]

101. I am sorry, Redstone

i do not know your situation but i can tell from your post you did not reach this decision lightly nor is it a cause for celebration.

i wish you peace and strength as you continue on your journey. Be well !

[Puglover]

102. Redstone

I remember when I went through my divorce how at times the change was exciting and exhilarating and then all of a sudden it was as if someone would throw a blanket of sad over me. So many feelings and all so strong. At it's best it is as hard a thing as you can do. My thoughts are with you.
Jeff

[chaska]

103. I was so touched by the story you told of how you two came together....

I hate this.

You're a good man, Redstone. Stay strong.

You can't stop the heartache
The wrong turns your life takes
You're never really in control....

[Kat45]

104. I'm so sorry to hear that.

But you have to do what you have to do. Make sure you take the time to take care of yourself, and stay well.

[Maestro]

105. If it is for the best, do it.

You owe it to everyone in the family, your wife, your son and most importantly yourself.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

106. I'm sorry, Redstone

It's too bad that this had to happen, but I'm glad you're taking care of yourself.

[OhioChick]

107. I'm very sorry to hear this.

I wish you and your Son the best.

[Kali]

108. Why?

Anyone can answer if Redstone is not going to. I assume if it was too private, he would not have posted this. So why is this happening? All I have ever noticed was very positive things about her from him. Why would he want to divorce?

[vixengrl]

109. Redstone, best of luck.

I've been down this path myself, having divorced someone who I loved but just couldn't be with, and I wish you well--it is a kind of horrible heartbreak, and I understand if you won't be around, because it is hard, and you do have to take care of yourself right now. But I know I look forward to you coming back to DU and posting sometime soon--your posts are always interesting and insightful. Let us know how you are.