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begin_within Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Oct-11-06 11:37 PM
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What's your way of letting someone know you're attracted to them?
Mine is somewhere between the "Tao of Steve" method ("Be desireless, be excellent, and begone") and the Margaret Cho method ("Hi! Stick it In!).

Mine involves a lot of eye contact, asking questions, (I have found that "Are you having a good day?" is always a good starter) and listening intently - almost like a social worker - listening to everything they have to say and asking follow-up questions. And never asking for anything, just leaving them wanting more.

What's your way of putting the make on someone? Or at least letting them know you're interested?

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jobycom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Oct-11-06 11:53 PM
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1. You're supposed to let them know?
Wow, no wonder...
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lizziegrace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Oct-11-06 11:56 PM
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2. Problem Solved!
:rofl:

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jobycom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 12:05 AM
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9. You would think.
But after 20 years of marriage to practically the first woman I dated in high school, there are plenty of other things I don't know, too, I'm guessing. :banghead:
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Floogeldy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Oct-11-06 11:59 PM
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3. A ponderous fondling of the right breast will get you a quick answer.
:evilgrin:
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lizziegrace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Oct-11-06 11:59 PM
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5. It certainly will
:evilgrin:

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Floogeldy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 12:02 AM
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7. You make me proud of your sense of self, lizziegrace.
Don't change. ;)

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LeftyMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Oct-11-06 11:59 PM
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4. Repeated whacks with the clue bat.
I kinda had to ease him into the idea.

"Let's take this to PM, I'm sure we're boring people."

"Here's my email."

"This is really slow, why don't you call me."

"I really enjoy talking you."

"I find you very sexy."

"I want to pin you down and lick you."

You can't start at the last one, it scares people. :D
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 12:07 AM
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10. Truer words were never spoken.
:rofl:
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MnFats Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 12:37 AM
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14. careful.,...you'll cause a scandal...
...your IMs will wind up in the New YOrk Times and on CNN...
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LeftyMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 12:50 AM
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16. I don't think much of them is printable
Of course, we're both well over age, so I can't imagine why anybody'd care. ;)
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 01:16 AM
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20. Vegan pervs...
:eyes:
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LeftyMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 09:34 AM
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77. Yep
:woohoo:
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reyd reid reed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:41 AM
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46. It might scare 'em
but there's no misunderstanding intentions that way.

:D
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mark414 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 12:01 AM
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6. nice shoes, wanna fuck?
Edited on Thu Oct-12-06 12:06 AM by mark414
works every time
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Conan_The_Barbarian Donating Member (404 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 12:32 AM
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13. I can vouch for that one
At first I was kind, gentle, and friendly... pft, like hell that worked. Then I tried the Nice shoes, wanna fuck gentlemans method and my life is better for it.
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reyd reid reed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:22 AM
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35. LOL!
:rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

Nothing like the direct approach. No room for misunderstanding or miscommunications. Add the obvious appreciation for shoes and you've got a sure thing going.

Bravo!!!
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last_texas_dem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 12:05 AM
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8. I smile at them a lot
and laugh when appropriate (and sometimes when not), and occasionally make goo-goo eyes.

Yeah, it's doesn't work all that well...
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Lethe Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 12:19 AM
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11. i tell her dad "i will swap you for 5 gallons of insecticide"
maybe less, if she has plow experience
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Lethe Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:19 AM
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33. borat joke
cmon people :P
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Downtown Hound Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 12:31 AM
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12. I stalk them until they take out restraining orders on me
And then I defy the restraining order. If that's not love, then what is?

Naw, I'm just kiddin'.
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ComerPerro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 12:48 AM
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15. ask them if they would like to "lock crotches and swap gravy"
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Phillycat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 12:29 PM
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85. I can't believe I just laughed at that
:rofl:
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Monk06 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 01:11 AM
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17. You look like Lauren Bacall in the Big Sleep. Beyond that I'm speachless.
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idgiehkt Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 01:12 AM
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18. my eyes take over
they have a mind of their own, and they are very effective. That said, I'm obviously neutered on the internet.
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 01:17 AM
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21. ...
Edited on Thu Oct-12-06 01:20 AM by haruka3_2000
:rofl:

Oh and I just sent you a PM.
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leftofthedial Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 01:14 AM
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19. I usually drool profusely
and then soil myself.




(or at least Imight as well, for all the good its been doing me to be honest, funny and direct)
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reyd reid reed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 01:55 AM
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26. Then you just aren't being honest, funny
and direct in the right direction. That'd work a whole lot better'n a bib and a diaper. For me, anyway.

:loveya:

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leftofthedial Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 02:17 AM
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28. Usually, I've been honest, funny and direct in a generally
northwesterly direction.

Maybe I should try south . . .
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reyd reid reed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:24 AM
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37. Can't hurt...
Besides...those pesky mountains are to the northwest.
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Lautremont Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 01:45 AM
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22. I emit a pheremone.
That usually does the trick.
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petronius Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 01:48 AM
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23. I follow her to the laundromat, and when she's not looking I steal a pair
of her panties. Then, next time I see her, I say "Hey, guess what I'm wearing..."
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Fleshdancer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 01:54 AM
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25. That's hot
:rofl:
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Fleshdancer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 01:54 AM
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24. I tell them
Granted it's been a while (I'm married) but back in the day I would just come out and tell the person. It saves time and confusion that way.
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idgiehkt Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 02:09 AM
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27. this is a good thing whether they are interested or not
if they aren't it just lets the air out of the balloon and you can go on and forget about it.
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NMMNG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 02:54 AM
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29. I walk up and start humping their leg
If they kick me off I know it's not mutual. If not I take it from there.
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 02:55 AM
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30. Well, it certainly took me by surprise...
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NMMNG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:20 AM
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34. You have to admit,
It beats "What's your sign?".
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:28 AM
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38. Considering I've dated three fucked up people with the b-day of Sept. 17th
"what's your sign?" is a valid question. And no, I didn't know their birthday's before we started dating. I just managed to date three people in a row with that birthday. God was fucking with me.
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NMMNG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:40 AM
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45. You have to watch out for those Virgos
Just kidding, I don't believe in astrology. :P
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ForrestGump Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 02:59 AM
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31. I'm thinking rubbing my attributes up and against her leg might be worth a
try. It's only fair, too, given that (in the course of my job) I periodically run into women who rub their Selves up against my leg (I'd get arrested for univited minor assaults on women's bodies of the kind I get on any given night...it sucks, actually, sometimes).

It's got to be better than my usual approach, summarized as the evil (well, actually more vacant than evil) twin of John Cusack's movie: Say Nothing.
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u4ic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:12 AM
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32. Oh, good grief
who let the scruffs in?!!? :scared:






:hug:
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ForrestGump Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:29 AM
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39. I know...I know. I had you at
"rubbing my attributes up and down her leg," right? :P












Hi, baby!!!!! :hug:

My PM inbox is a scary place....towering stacks of unanswered messages everywhere (almost all of them, admittedly, PMs I sorta didn't get around to answering from years ago). Please...hold me! :scared:


:loveya:

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u4ic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:38 AM
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43. Nah,
I just saw your name and thought "geez, I thought they locked the doors at midnight..."


:hug: :hug: :hug:

:loveya:
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ForrestGump Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:43 AM
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47. But it's more than 22 hours
'til midnight, here. :P

And what are you doing up so late or -- possibly -- early? Some mysterious Canadian bit of clandestine skulduggery, eh? Hmmm?
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u4ic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:48 AM
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53. Planning to take over the world
under the cover of darkness...


be_afwaid...be_vewy_vewy_afwaid... :nuke:
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ForrestGump Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:54 AM
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57. Cool!
Under community property laws, I get to have half of the world! :headbang:

We can decide later who gets Calgary. :D

In the meantime, I just tailored myself a perfectly good jumpsuit and then cut 150 holes in it. It's a lot of work, being an insane genius, as you well know. :hug:
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u4ic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:58 AM
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61. You can have the US
:P

And what do you mean "who gets Calgary"? Where do you think those bombs are headed for??? (after we evacuate Canadian Socialist, ironflange and Woody Tobias, of course) :D
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ForrestGump Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 04:08 AM
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62. Oh, gee, THANKS
:eyes:

Give me the backward, uncivilized places, whydoncha. :P

I'd even rather have Newfieland...at least I could give a certain town there to my good buddy, NSMA.... :-)

And I bet I know who gets all the best chocolate-producing countries. :D

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u4ic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 04:14 AM
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65. Oh, sh*t
I gotta evacuate Bernard Callebaut out of Calgary, too... :scared: :scared: :scared:

Uncivilized? You want Montreal, too? <hides from querelle>



Oh, you know I'll share all the chocolate... :loveya:
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ForrestGump Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 04:24 AM
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67. Callebaut? What kinda name is that?
Is he a kind of hat, too? Or is he one a them poutine-eating surrender monkeys? </redneck (the bad kind)>

Merci, ma petit champignon, pour le chocolat <--undoubtedly Pidgin Franais, but it do still sound purty...



You bring the chocolate, and I'll bring the whipped cream...


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u4ic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 04:29 AM
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68. You've forgotten about Callebaut
already?!!? :spank:

(well...that was just plain fun) :D


http://www.bernardcallebaut.com/users/folder.asp?Folder...



Personally, I prefer cake mix to whipped cream, but I can negotiate... ;)
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ForrestGump Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 04:42 AM
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74. As if!
His name is seared on my consciousness, along with those of Messrs Lindt, Cadbury, and Gggghirradellhhiii (I may have misspelled this latter one), among others. But I still appreciate the bottom warming. :D




Cake mix? What happens when it gets all hard, though?

The cake mix, I mean. :blush:

I mean, it must be difficult to deal with when it begins to rise, right?

The cake mix, I mean. :blush:

And heaven help me if you accidentally confuse the cake mix instructions "whip until it stiffens" with something else and.......okay...I'll stop it. :D



Please...one humble request: no carrot cake mix. I get a bit nervous, in such situations, around carroty-shaped things.... :o


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reyd reid reed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:39 AM
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44. Sometimes it's more what you don't say that counts.
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ForrestGump Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:46 AM
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50. ...

































*rub rub*
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reyd reid reed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:51 AM
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56. ...



:loveya:






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ForrestGump Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:57 AM
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60. ...












is golden. :D




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reyd reid reed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 04:08 AM
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63. .



Talk is cheap. Unless, of course, it's what I want to hear.



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ForrestGump Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 04:18 AM
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66. .















You, obviously, have never called my 900-number.... :evilgrin:

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reyd reid reed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 04:29 AM
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69. .



expensive sweet nothings?
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reyd reid reed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 04:30 AM
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70. .



expensive sweet nothings?
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ForrestGump Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 04:33 AM
Response to Reply #70
71. .























Who can put a price on it?



But I do accept all major credit cards....
:D



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u4ic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:23 AM
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36. Eye contact,
Edited on Thu Oct-12-06 03:41 AM by u4ic
I tend to become more animated than my normal...animated...self, more joking, teasing - I pay a lot more attention than I normally do to other people...talk a lot. :D

edit: most of that eye contact goes to lips, however. I have no idea why, but I'd rather watch people's lips as they talk, but I flick back and forth between eyes and lips and...all over...
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Guava Jelly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:33 AM
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40. Well i stutter , sweat like a pig ,trip and cower in the corner
Works like a charm :7
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:35 AM
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41. That's better than my friend who ended up with his shaved by a lesbian.
And I was soooooo pissed off that it wasn't me.
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Guava Jelly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:43 AM
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48. ouch
:)
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:49 AM
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55. Yeah, it's a funny story actually.
He was at the bar we always hang out at and the one bartender's friend was visiting from England. Jamie is incapacitated by British accents. He turns into a blithering fool. Anyway, this hot British chick told him that she wanted to shave his head (he had pretty long curly hair). The rest of the people at the bar (who knew the British chick was gay) all egged him on. So he went back to his house with the British girl, who shaved off all of his hair. Then, he apparently tried to make a move on her and she told him she was a lesbian. He went back to the bar and walked in to everybody laughing at him.

This occured while I was in Hawaii. I returned to pretty much everyone I know in Madison, NJ greeting me with, "Jamie got his head shaved by a lesbian!!! Oh, how was Hawaii?"

As God is my witness, one of these days, I'm going to get to shave his head.
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Guava Jelly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:55 AM
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58. Oh god that is way funny
He sounds a lot like me..British accents are sexy as hell
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reyd reid reed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:44 AM
Response to Reply #40
49. Nah...it's the charm that does it.
The rest of it's just cute.

:loveya:

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Guava Jelly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:46 AM
Response to Reply #49
51. I'd turn into a mass of studdering jelly
in the company of the stunning reyd reid reed
:loveya:
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reyd reid reed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:49 AM
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54. I'm sure that at least
Edited on Thu Oct-12-06 03:52 AM by reyd reid reed
the 'stud' part is true. The rest, I suspect, is self-deprecation. C'mon...'fess up, now.

:evilgrin:



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Guava Jelly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:57 AM
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59. Well I would like to think the "stud" part was true
I at least haven't had any complaints :)
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reyd reid reed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 04:12 AM
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64. Oh, I'm sure you haven't.
:evilgrin:
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Omphaloskepsis Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:36 AM
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42. With me it just happens..
Edited on Thu Oct-12-06 03:37 AM by Omphaloskepsis
Forcing it is bullshit.

The last girl I made out with. We were sitting on the curb eating Taco Bell. I looked over at her and knew it was time to give her a kiss on the lips. We both had soft tacos, it was perfect.
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reyd reid reed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 03:47 AM
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52. I hide
then, when I finally do come out, I stutter and stammer and blush and generally act all stupid. At which point, the object of my affection/desire just shakes his head and walks away.

I really need to figure out a different approach. Any suggestions?

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av8rdave Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 04:34 AM
Response to Reply #52
72. I always thought just telling the person
you find them attractive works pretty well. Never was too adept at that subtle stuff.
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av8rdave Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 04:35 AM
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73. I always thought just telling the person
you find them attractive works pretty well. Never was too adept at that subtle stuff.
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hfojvt Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-13-06 03:03 AM
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92. whadda ya think of my shoes
do ya wanna fu$%?
Would probably work with most men.

Most men are easy, but if you don't wanna be that easy,
then say "How about you buy me dinner and introduce me to your mother first?" after he says "heck yeah!" to your 2nd question.
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Kutjara Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 05:10 AM
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75. Typically, I ask her out, then...
...choose a place with a nice atmosphere where we can talk and learn about eachother. I take special care to ask about her work and interests, and listen carefully to what she says and how she says it, so that I can follow up with appropriate and engaged comments. I tell her about what I do and what interests me, in as entertaining and succint a way as possible. Then we usually talk about upbringing, families, experiences, politics, books, art, movies; whatever will help break the remaining ice and establish an atmosphere of easy companionship. I will then take the opportunity created by the relaxed mood to express my romantic interest, whereupon she will invariably look at me and say, "I thought with all that cultured talk and your English accent, you must be gay. I don't feel that way about you."

Great. Remind me next time to talk about monster trucks and jock itch.
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wildhorses Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 12:45 PM
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86. you are hanging out with the wrong girls...
I promise you I will NOT accuse you of being gay...
I despise monster trucks!!
and jock itch sounds like something I cure at work...
back to the movies...
whatcha wanna see?
:loveya:
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Kutjara Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-13-06 02:30 AM
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91. Thank you WH. You've restored my faith...
...in the kind of woman I'll never meet. Still, it's nice to know you're out there somewhere.

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MrScorpio Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 05:38 AM
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76. More suave and less creepy
Always worked for me
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BarenakedLady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 09:39 AM
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78. In person
I can't. The stronger the attraction, the more shy I get. I can't even make eye contact. LoL. :blush:
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Mutley Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 09:45 AM
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79. In the past I've kept it a secret as long as humanly possible
then when the secret finally comes out, if it ever does, I die of mortification.

I think I'm sick of this approach, though. It doesn't get me very far. I am going to start trying the direct approach and see where that gets me.
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begin_within Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 11:12 AM
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80. Thanks to everyone for your witty, entertaining, totally useless replies.
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bullwinkle428 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 11:39 AM
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81. Too often, I avoid eye contact and run away like a little girl...
...I guess I need to grow a pair one of these years...
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youthere Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 11:43 AM
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82. I cook his meals, I wash his shorts, I clean his house...
and take care of our three terrific kids.
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Patiod Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 12:11 PM
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83. Throw them against a car
My S.O. took about 2 months to decide to ask me out, and then stumbled about when he finally got around to it.

"Uh....um...do you think you might...uhm....after the run of the show....would you like to maybe....uh.....um....one night maybe think about dinner....uh...."

At which point I just pushed him against my car and and kissed him.

Fortunately he's a big guy, and could handle it.

That was 15 years ago.

With the less-clueless, I usually find myself touching them (somewhere innocuous -- get your mind out of the gutter, LoungeLizards). That works for both sexes - nothing provocative - just a light touch on the forearm or top of the hand.
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redqueen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 12:23 PM
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84. I have no moves.
I would just find out if they were involved, and if not, ask them out. Blunt, that's my style.
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dpbrown Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 01:55 PM
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87. Hump their leg

It's always worked for me.

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Blue_Tires Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-12-06 02:29 PM
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88. i dunno
but i could use some advice as well
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CanuckAmok Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-13-06 01:06 AM
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89. I pay a midget in a diaper to shoot her with an arrow.
That usually makes her quiver.
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Broken_Hero Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-13-06 01:08 AM
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90. hmm
not sure really...I'm always nice, and cordial...about the only thing that changes when I'm around a woman I'm attracted to is my forced humor...I try to be funny, to break the ice... :)
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