Democratic Underground Latest Greatest Lobby Journals Search Options Help Login
Google

Daughter's off to college, first weekend without her

Printer-friendly format Printer-friendly format
Printer-friendly format Email this thread to a friend
Printer-friendly format Bookmark this thread
This topic is archived.
Home » Discuss » The DU Lounge Donate to DU
 
hatredisnotavalue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-08-06 05:21 PM
Original message
Daughter's off to college, first weekend without her
I just talked to her on the phone. She is in Boston four hours away. In the city from a tiny central Maine town. She is my first born. She's having a wonderful time and may go to see Kerry's speech at Faniuel Hall tomorrow.

My heart is breaking though. I miss her so much. She is one of those kids that everyone just loves. People ask me about her at the grocery store and gas station. She was a huge star at her small HS, as well as a huge presence in our family. She has taught me more about how to be a caring, giving, compassionate human than anyone else I have ever met.

As a parent, you try to raise a good kid. And then when you get one, I've actually got two, letting go is so unbelievably hard.

I miss her so much....
Anyone else going thru kid withdrawls?
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
lizziegrace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-08-06 05:27 PM
Response to Original message
1. I went through it last year
One of the downsides of raising confident, independent children is that you rarely see them. :(

My daughter goes back next week for the year. I found I enjoyed my privacy after a while, but at first, it was terribly lonely. I'm sure I'll have the same problem again.

:hug:

Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
hatredisnotavalue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-08-06 05:34 PM
Response to Reply #1
4. I hear you !! Congrats on the raising of the young one though!
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
skygazer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-08-06 05:28 PM
Response to Original message
2. Congratulations on your wonderful daughter!
:hug:

I had the strange situation of all three of my children leaving my home in the same summer. :( My oldest (17) moved out on her own, my younger daughter moved in with her dad in Connecticut (she was 16) and my son (11) moved in with his dad.

My god, did my house feel empty!!!!

It took a while to get used to but mine are all good kids, too, and I'm so proud of them. My oldest is now married with two beautiful kids and my younger daughter just got married this past June. My son is 18, just graduated high school and is smart and responsible and wonderful.

You miss them but that's what we raise them for - so they can make it without us. :hug:
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
hatredisnotavalue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-08-06 05:32 PM
Response to Reply #2
3. so true.....n/t
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
NC_Nurse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-08-06 05:34 PM
Response to Original message
5. My son just left for college.
He was my youngest. My oldest daughter moved to Brooklyn (the BIG city!) and my middle child is a junior in college.
It's kind of quiet here, but I'm kind of liking it. I really want my kids to be independent and happy on thier own. That was always my goal.
I feel really good about it. You will too, I bet!
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
hatredisnotavalue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-08-06 05:39 PM
Response to Reply #5
6. I do feel good, but on the other side
I wish I had had about ten kids! Congrats on your kids though...!
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
NC_Nurse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-08-06 05:59 PM
Response to Reply #6
8. I think it's harder with the first
you get used to it after a while, and you see them getting out there doing what they want to do.
That feels really good. Congrats to you on raising great kids!!!
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
texas1928 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-08-06 05:41 PM
Response to Original message
7. My Dad tried to talk me into going to college 30 minutes away.
But I went to UT at Arlington and it was 4 hours away. He did not want me to go that far away.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
mcar Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-08-06 06:20 PM
Response to Original message
9. I went through it last year too
My son's 9 hours away in North Carolina (we're in FL). For the first two weeks after we dropped him at school, I was OK. It was like he was at camp, y'know? Then it hit me and I went through serious withdrawal.

It was a bit easier this year because we've had a year to get used to it being a lot quieter around here. I must admit, it's nice to not have to worry about him coming home too late, etc.

It helps to know that they're happy and doing what they should be doing -- it really does help.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Neoma Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-08-06 06:28 PM
Response to Original message
10. That's cute.
And no.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
ZombieNixon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-08-06 07:20 PM
Response to Original message
11. Make her call you every week.
My parents make me do that and they say it alleviates their child withdrawal. :shrug:
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
LuckyLib Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-08-06 07:32 PM
Response to Original message
12. I'll soon be feeling your pain. Our one and only, a daughter, is
leaving for school 1455 miles away in two weeks. She's ready, we're ready, and we can't begin to know what it will be like without her. A wonderful young woman, she's been a delight and a gift. My favorite quote these days is by Helen Hayes: "Life would give her everything of consequence, life would shape her, not we. All we were good for was to make the introductions."
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
bluethruandthru Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-08-06 09:22 PM
Response to Original message
13. I feel your pain!
My daughter went off to college a couple of weeks ago and it's awful! Thank goodness she's only a couple of hours away (I've already been to visit once!). She loves it and is having a great time. We e-mail several times a day...but I still have a hard time sleeping knowing that one of my babies isn't home! I have another daughter who is a senior in high school and I'll have to go through this again next year.
(sniff, sniff)
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
GalleryGod Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-08-06 10:13 PM
Response to Original message
14. Know how you feel.

from her freshman year.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
SoyCat Donating Member (660 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-09-06 12:03 AM
Response to Original message
15. I miss my niece. She visited me over the summer (2 weeks) and is now with
her father who never even knew her until she was twelve. Nor did he contribute anything to her upbringing. Well, she's thirteen now and he has totally isolated her and won't let her have any contact with the maternal side of her family. I stay up every night worrying about her. He's a racist, sexist, fundy of the worst kind and has put her in a tiny fundy school which she hates with a passion. I just want contact with my niece!
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
DU AdBot (1000+ posts) Click to send private message to this author Click to view 
this author's profile Click to add 
this author to your buddy list Click to add 
this author to your Ignore list Wed Apr 23rd 2014, 10:25 AM
Response to Original message
Advertisements [?]
 Top

Home » Discuss » The DU Lounge Donate to DU

Powered by DCForum+ Version 1.1 Copyright 1997-2002 DCScripts.com
Software has been extensively modified by the DU administrators


Important Notices: By participating on this discussion board, visitors agree to abide by the rules outlined on our Rules page. Messages posted on the Democratic Underground Discussion Forums are the opinions of the individuals who post them, and do not necessarily represent the opinions of Democratic Underground, LLC.

Home  |  Discussion Forums  |  Journals |  Store  |  Donate

About DU  |  Contact Us  |  Privacy Policy

Got a message for Democratic Underground? Click here to send us a message.

© 2001 - 2011 Democratic Underground, LLC