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jpgray Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-03-06 01:55 AM
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Two... TWO people from my recent past (6+ months ago) have called
One I am glad about and want to hang out with, the other not so much. Yet I feel an obligation to call both back. What's the etiquette here?
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-03-06 02:01 AM
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1. there's a difference between hanging out with and calling back.
personally i would extend myself for the one i want to see -- and i wouldn't for the person i don't want to see.

for me doing what makes me happy is part of being an adult.

i'm speaking selfishly here -- i.e. sacrifising for otheres is good where there is a reciprocal relationship.
but we always discriminate about who our friends are -- and that is a good thing.
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jpgray Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-03-06 02:11 AM
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2. I have this inability to refuse people my time
If someone wants to spend time with me, I almost always find myself trapped into saying yes.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-03-06 02:26 AM
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3. yes i can have that problem as well.
then perhaps not returning the call is appropriate.

it's your life and time -- and this is not a reflection on the quality of the person.
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Gormy Cuss Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-03-06 08:18 AM
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7. Failing to return the call is a signal that you aren't interested
and it sounds like that's the signal you'd like to send.
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MoseyWalker Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-03-06 02:26 AM
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4. If neither is an ex spouse
then I would call both back and ask if they have forks in their drawer.

The one who says no is the one that would stab you in the eye with one.

Not edited to add:

Damn. I'm Dumb
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Magrittes Pipe Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-03-06 08:08 AM
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5. Do either of them have any cocaine?
That's all that really matters.
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sundog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-03-06 08:15 AM
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6. agreed
just cut to the point :thumbsup:
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El Fuego Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-03-06 08:59 AM
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8. Just keep it short and sweet with the other one.
Keep talking so they can't talk much, and end the conversation (because you have to go somewhere) before they get a chance to talk about getting together.

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