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undeterred Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 06:13 PM
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Fathers Day makes me sad
I am not a parent and my grandfathers are long gone. My father died in July of 1992, and Father's Day was the last time I spoke to him. So, I just kind of get through it. A holiday for other people.
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Arugula Latte Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 06:19 PM
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1. I'm sorry.
:hug:
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u4ic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 06:21 PM
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2. I'm so sorry, undeterred
:hug:

It's a difficult one for me, too - though for different reasons. The vast majority of memories of my father (who's still alive) are not pleasant. :-(
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auntAgonist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 07:05 PM
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10. .....
:hug: my friend.


aA
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u4ic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 07:07 PM
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11. Hi auntieA!
Thanks for the hug. :hug: :loveya:
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SeattleGirl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 06:21 PM
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3. I know what you mean. My father passed away in the late '70's
And while I have a FIL, it's not the same.
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djeseru Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 06:22 PM
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4. It's okay, it does me too.
:hug:

I lost my dad back in 1989, quite suddenly, and it still hurts on days like today. I think we're entitled to feel thataway now and again...
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undeterred Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 06:25 PM
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6. Yeah. I got the news at work that he had died
just like that... and the world was changed forever.

Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone.
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djeseru Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 06:31 PM
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7. Actually...
...I had to reply because it's this thread that let me know I wasn't alone in my loss. I know exactly what you're meaning when you say the world changed forever because of something so sudden.

This thank you is a two-way street. :hug:
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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 06:24 PM
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5. I understand how you feel, undeterred.



My Dad has been gone since 1974. It's sad that he died so young.
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Cobalt Violet Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 07:02 PM
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8. Same here.
It's not a good day. Not a parent, no grandfathers, my father died in 2001. It feels pretty empty, like every other holiday.
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auntAgonist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 07:04 PM
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9. Holidays can be so painful ..
I'm sorry it's a rough day for you, and for all of the others who have posted about losing their fathers. It's a pain some of us don't understand, but sadly will understand some day.

:hug:

aA
kesha
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Kajsa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 07:10 PM
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12. I know the feeling.
My Dad passed away in April 1997.

It still hurts, especially on Father's Day.

I also miss my stepfather who passed away in October 2002.
We became very close.

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undeterred Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 07:13 PM
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...
:hug:
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Kajsa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 10:47 PM
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32. Thanks.
right back at ya!

:hug:
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bridgit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 07:13 PM
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13. me too, undeterred, i miss my daddy very much...
:cry: which is why i concentrate on hubby, even though he never even knows when the date is coming up :-)
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Onlooker Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 07:15 PM
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14. Why not share a story about him?
That could be a nice tribute.
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undeterred Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 07:29 PM
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16. Not really a story but something I appreciated.
My dad was an atheist. I did a masters degree in religion. I wrote a paper comparing theistic views of creation with the astrophysical view of the origins of the universe. My dad took an interest and read my paper and some of the books I'd been reading, which were all over the place. None of the "religious" or fundie members of my family ever made the least effort to relate to me on that level, but he did.

Fathers who take intelligent daughters seriously are a wonderful thing.
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Onlooker Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 07:57 PM
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27. He sounds like he was a good guy
An atheist, an intellect, nonsexist, well-read -- I guess he's an honorary member of DU today!
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undeterred Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 08:32 PM
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28. and a liberal
I remember him saying that Nixon was a crook while I was in grade school, long before he was president! And I remember him saying that big business was going to take over our country, back in the 70s.
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IsIt1984Yet Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 07:17 PM
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15. I'm sorry for the tough day.
It makes me sad, too. Not for myself, but on behalf of my son. His father physically abandoned him when he was 8 after emotionally and financially abandoning him since birth. He's contributed ZERO in financial or emotional support for the past 7 years. The boy's birthdays and every holiday go by without a gift or a card or a even a call - unless it's a call filled with empty promises and false hope.

Take this day and smile, remembering the caring, loving man that you were lucky enough to have for many years (or am I being presumptuous about the relationship?). A lot of kids are not so lucky and have to deal with the fact that their parent cares nothing about them.

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AtomicKitten Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 07:37 PM
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17. My father died in January of this year.
My first Father's Day without him.
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undeterred Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 07:40 PM
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19. I'm sorry.
:hug: That first year is a tough one.
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AtomicKitten Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 07:43 PM
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21. thanks for your kind words
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auntAgonist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 07:46 PM
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22. you need
a huge :hug:

I'm so sorry, ... the 'firsts' are the worst, at least they were for me.

I hope the fondest memories of your Father filled your heart today and always.


aA
:hug: again!
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AtomicKitten Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 07:55 PM
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26. thanks, really
I've been feeling rather blah today and really appreciate the kind words.
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NNadir Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 07:39 PM
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18. I am a father, but I'm not having a great day.
I'm so worried about the future. I wonder what will happen for my children.
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Lady President Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 07:43 PM
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20. First Father's Day without my dad
This is my first Father's Day since my dad passed away, and it doesn't feel like a holiday to me either. I never noticed that there is so much hype-- all the sales, commercials, etc. I'll be glad to through today. :(

I'm sending good vibes your way.
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auntAgonist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 07:48 PM
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24. I have a
:hug: for you too!

I'm sorry for your loss, I remember the first mother's day without my Mum. I was SO very angry at all the commercialism and hype.

I hope your heart is full of treasured memories this day!

:hug:

aA
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SeattleGirl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 07:49 PM
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25. I remember the first Father's Day after my dad passed.
It was only three months after he died, and it was difficult. I'm sorry for your loss, Lady. :hug:
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miss_american_pie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 07:46 PM
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23. I'm sorry
:hug:
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Fleshdancer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 08:44 PM
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29. I know what you mean
My Dad passed away in 2000. I miss him so much and Father's Day is always a little sad for me. :hug:
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pokerfan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 09:30 PM
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30. I miss you, Dad
Mine passed away in 1995, suddenly from an aneurysm.

He wasn't a perfect dad, but he was my dad and I miss him.

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MiniMandaRuth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-18-06 09:32 PM
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31. Kind of like Valentines day?
I don't know if this will help... but find a doggie or a kitty or a fishie... That can be your kid.
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bumblebee1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jun-19-06 01:39 AM
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33. Since my father and father-in-law are no longer alive,
I sent Father's Day cards to my brothers-in-law and to the husbands of a couple of friends who were also fathers.
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