Is it hard to write a rude arrogant person off for good?

[corarose]

Any suggestions on how to write them off and not feel sorry for them being alone at Christmas.

[Demobrat]

1. No, it's not hard.

Why are they your problem, or more to the point, why are you letting them make them your problem?

[comradebillyboy]

2. do you like or care for the rude arrogant person?

if you like the person, make allowances

if not kiss said person off for good

[camero]

3. I feel sorry for anyone being alone at Christmas

A little forgiveness goes a long way.

[corarose]

4. My Mom died 10 years ago & I know how hard it is to deal with

Especially your first Christmas without her.

I sacrificed everything that I had to make sure he had some presents for Christmas and he threw them in the garbage.

I am trying to understand why someone would do that but I want to forget them and move on.

It still hurts your feelings tho.

[Rainbowreflect]

5. Remember that you did a wonderful, kind, caring thing.

His response to it is on him, not you. His rudeness does not take a thing away from your goodness.
Bless you for caring, there is too little caring these days.
:hug: :pals:

[corarose]

6. Thank You

My Dad bought me a watch for my Birthday and I returned it and went shopping for this man. I also returned my French book that was still in it's package to the book store and I bought him so books to look at and a couple were upbeat mood to make him laugh. I put off paying my utility bills until the end of the month so that I could buy something for his cat.

God knows I didn't do this to feel better about myself I did it so that he could take his mind off of his mothers death.

He has done so much for me in the past that I felt like I needed to do something for him. I have also borrowed money and paid him on what I owe him so that he has a better Christmas.

I am going to work at a Shelter called Deborah's Place during Christmas cooking for the women and kids. I am going to take the kids some cookies and my heart has still been broken because I thought the person was just a "Friend" and nothing else.
I am also going to accept that date on New Years it will help me look for a brighter future.

[Rhiannon12866]

7. Corarose, you have a good heart

Don't let this unfortunate incident spoil your Christmas. I, also, know what it's like to be without a parent at Christmas. The first one is the worst, but the hurt never does really go away. I hope you have a pleasant Christmas, despite everything, and a brighter New Year's.:-)

[jpgray]

8. Just be nice

It's amazing how much that works on rude folks. No one intentionally wants to make you feel terrible--it's usually our own paranoia that does the most damage, and our own self-evaluations after rude behavior that are the most hurtful. But if someone really is just an asshole, just be nice but don't have much to do with them. Don't make an effort, but always be nice and polite.

[Rhiannon12866]

9. That's an excellent point

That's what I usually do. People who are usually rude or unkind are disarmed when you are polite to them. It makes interactions with others so much easier.:-)