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Wcross Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 10:43 AM
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How much should I spend for a wedding gift for Niece?
I am just trying to get a feel for what an appropriate amount would be. I plan on giving the couple a check. She is my only niece and I don't want to be cheap but also don't want to make her other aunts and uncles appear cheap.
They are moving to the San Fransisco bay area and will need money more than a new toaster or silver set.
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!
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taterguy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 10:54 AM
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1. Give her loot
Weddings aren't about needs. They're about celebrating. Find something from a local artist that she'll like that will inspire her to think of you when she sees / uses it.
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Rabrrrrrr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 11:10 AM
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2. I say this: never worry about how other people choose to feel.
Give us much as YOU want to give. If other people feel cheap because of it, that's their goddamn problem and their own guilt and/or lack of self-esteem issues, not yours.

**YOU** cannot - I repeat CANNOT - make other people feel bad. Other people can only CHOOSE to feel bad.

If you want to give her a thousand bucks, or ten thousand bucks, go right ahead.

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Shine Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 11:43 AM
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5. Yeah, I agree 100%. What he said!
:thumbsup:
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China_cat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 11:59 AM
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6. It doesn't really matter about the others
unless your niece is tacky enough to tell them who gave how much...and it doesn't sound like that would be case from what you described.

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radwriter0555 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 11:26 AM
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3. Well, check their registry first..... and see how others are spending and
so on... that might be a good gauge.

Top of my head, I'd say at least $100, maybe $250?
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RedCloud Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 11:31 AM
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4. Give her a blank check!
That way you will know exactly how much she thinks she should get!
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bumblebee1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 12:48 PM
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7. We gave both our nephews gifts equalling $50 each
My husband's nephew and fiancee were registered at Linens N Things. My nephew and his fiancee get a $25 gift card from Bed, Bath and Beyond and a $25 gift card on their cabin account for their honeymoon cruise.
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seaglass Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 02:11 PM
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8. People are normally aware of what is affordable to others so
you shouldn't worry about how other aunts/uncles will feel.

My husband and I usually overgive (for us) at weddings, though we never regret doing it - usually $100.

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azmouse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 02:15 PM
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9. Give what you can afford.
It's the thought and the love that counts!!
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bettyellen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 03:22 PM
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10. as "a should" i have heard that it should be equal to the cost of
catering, sort of so the "family" breaks even.
usually it's 150-250 for starters, but that's NYC.
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yellowdogintexas Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 11:09 PM
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11. consider this: do you have any family heirlooms which would
be appreciated by the niece?

My oldest niece was married a couple of years ago and I framed a hand crocheted doily which was made by her great great grandmother. It came from her great grandmother's things...my dad's sister gave me a whole bunch of them. So I chose one and had it framed in a nice shadowbox frame ..she really liked it. Family pieces are nice, if you have them.

Just a thought.

Although cash is nice too. We took the money we received as wedding gifts and bought some neat stuff for our home when we were on our honeymoon..art prints, pottery, etc.
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Wcross Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-31-06 03:55 AM
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12. Thanks for all the input- I am not really up on wedding etiquette.
I have a better feel for what is considered appropriate thanks to you guys!
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