When a person says he prefers to get to know people online first,

[Deja Q]

does that make him worthy as a potential partner?

I have observed that people, for any number of reasons, are different in 'real life' than they are 'on the internet'.

The latest person to disappear preferred internet-based chat. I succinctly explained why I prefer face-to-face conversation (amongst other aspects of my life), and he responded. I responded back as he said things were going well (or I read it as such), and now he's disappeared.

He could be taking his time to, but I've been burned so many times by so many... (which makes me wonder why I keep bothering with people; I'd be better off... uninvolved.)

[KitchenWitch]

1. I am guessing

but it sounds like he does not want to take the friendship to the next level, if he just wants to remain "online buddies". Either a commitment phobic person, or other issues.

You deserve better.

[Deja Q]

Neither. He stressed he was picky. I don't blame him.

But I wanted to make clear the differences between my real world persona and my cyberpersona. Better not to waste the time.

I'll keep a slight hope.

But then, after telling my co-worker friend about what the ex did at the bar on Saturday, she thought he was really freaky.

[Strong Atheist]

2. "I have observed that people, for any number of

reasons, are different in 'real life' than they are 'on the internet'."

So true. I am much more outgoing here.

I've been burned so many times

So have I. It's hard, but there really is little alternative to getting back on the bike ... sorry ....

[Deja Q]

3. There are always alternatives.

The question is, do we want to try them?

Even I would have to say "no".

[Strong Atheist]

4. "Even I would have to say "no"."

Good. Hang in there.:pals:

[Loonman]

5. That doesn't make any sense

You can be anybody online. It's just lines of text.

[Deja Q]

6. Exactly. I could have been the type to read into him and take advantage

of his ideals. I did not. I could not. But many are and many do. (That's the one thing I did not mention. And if he's had experience on the 'net, he will have realized that for himself too. Heck, even Agent Mike knows there's a difference. :7 :rofl: )