My daughter and her boyfriend asked us for their blessing

[ashling]

I don't know whether to cry ... or just cry.
It has been a long evening.

[sasquatch]

1. Tell them no just to be mean

:evilgrin:

[CarpeDiebold]

2. aww

congratulations!

*don't listen to sasquatch :D *

[ashling]

3. He's in the Army!

but what can you do?

on edit: AND he voted for Bush! We had a rather long intensive session this evening ....

[Common Sense Party]

4. Good for him! Surely that's no character flaw.

He's serving his country and he loves your daughter.

Mazel tov!

[ashling]

6. Aside from the fact that her mother and I

are pretty much anti military types, if he goes and breaks my little girl's heart by getting himself killed in some pointless war somewhere I will personally kill him again. - and they are ALL pointless!

[Common Sense Party]

8. So, do you like the guy?

I mean, as a person. Is he nice? Smart? Does he treat your daughter well? Does he seem like the type that will always seek to be good to her? Will he be a kind and tender husband and father?

This kid'll be at family reunions and Thanksgiving dinners for years, decades to come. You need to decide now if you will love him and accept him as part of your family. If you honestly don't think you can do that because of your "anti-military" feelings, you'd better say so now. Why set your family up for years of resentment, subverted hostility and tension?

[ashling]

10. First of all, I know it sounds like I'm over reacting

but that's only beause I am. But if I can't get a little over the top at a time like this, when can I.

Seriously, though, Yours is pretty much the attitude that I have. And to tell the truth, I knew this was coming.
We know that our negativity is not going to change things, but just create a divide that would be unbearable. We just want to understand where he is coming from.

I know he loves her, and she him. I just needed to know that they will be prepared for the separations, hars times, etc. ... that they have looked ahead and are not just jumping in too fast (the date they have picked is April 4, 2007)

We all feel that service to our country is extremely important. But he feels that his service must be through the military because somebody will always want to fight.

[khashka]

16. Try to be happy for her

I know that no man will ever be good enough for your daughter... that's a given.

But if she loves him and he loves her then you couldn't wish for anything more. And there will be hard times ahead, there always are.

Can you accept him into your family? Can you love him, if only for her sake? Can you love her enough to let her go and let someone else love her? Whatever political differences you have with this young man.... the point is he loves your daughter, she loves him. And they aren't moving too fast. The marriage date is over a year away - which shows they both have good sense.

Be happy for her :)


Khash.

[tjwmason]

18. Long time no see.

:hug: :loveya:

Oh and everything you said is absolutely correct (for once).

[khashka]

19. For once?

I have a reputation here: the weirdo who always says the right thing. It's a tough job.


Can we go for twice? TJ makes my knees wobble. OK, I said it, the secret is out.


Khash.

[tjwmason]

21. You should know by now that I'm only ever mean when I don't mean it

Especially to you :loveya:

[ashling]

20. OK, but if he hurts her

I'm comin'after you too!
:rofl:

[ashling]

22. I'm not so sure

Anyone who think that the military is the only way - or even the best way - to serve this country needs to do some more thinking.

[xmas74]

5. Things change

and people's views change. I'll assume that he's still young. He has plenty of time to change.
And she needs to talk to a few military wives before they marry. You don't just marry the guy-you marry the military. And she needs to know that.

[ashling]

7. She is very political

and wants to work on the Hill someday . . . to his credit, he wants that for her too because she wants it. He is a medic and wants to go to med school ... but AUUUGGGGH!

[xmas74]

13. And med school in the real world

might change his views. People change. I was a bit more conservative when I was younger. My brother was very conservative while he was in the Army. Now he's a raging liberal.

[BikeWriter]

9. He voted for *? Aw shit...

[ashling]

11. Kerry "scared" him

I think he realizes what a mistake that was, but it is very troubling, to say the least.

[BlueIris]

17. Egh...best of luck, ashling.

Be strong, fellow poster.

[ashling]

24. Thank you

[sasquatch]

14. You bastard

:D

[bliss_eternal]

12. Congratulations! Or should I say that I'm sorry?

;)
I hope that your daughter is happy and that he is good to her. I also hope that she is a strong person and that he wouldn't try to 'brainwash' her with 'anti-liberal' propaganda.

I hope that you can all live in harmony as a family and that the influence of your daughter, you and your wife will with time show him that we (progressives), are good people.

Who knows, maybe he'll vote for a more 'progressive' candidate next time around. ;)

Sorry that you had a rough evening/night. It was nice of them to come to you that way. Ultimately, I would think that is a sign of respect toward you.

:hi:

[ashling]

23. Thank you for your wishes

and your common sense
:hi:

[Mizmoon]

15. Many years ahead to convert him

people do mellow with age ...

congrats and best of luck to your family!