One night stands

[Deja Q]

Poll question: One night stands

[eyepaddle]

1. It can certainly be risky,

but how 'bout if you've known the person for a while so it isn't the whole "stranger" risk factor?

I've had something like that.

[ForrestGump]

2. I voted "Other" because I could vote for both of the top two

More inherently risky for you than for me, because you're talking about going out with a man and I'd be with a woman (whichd' mean I'd be less likely to be harmed, though that's not a given even if she doesn't have co-conspirators). I've never had a one-night stand, and may very well never (had lots of opportunity lately but haven't succumbed to the temptation), but it seems to me like an ultimately unsatisfying, empty experience. Fire and forget. I wouldn't mind the physical release, but I've got the whole sex thing tied up inside me with at least some degree of feeling and loving intimacy -- maybe that's to my detriment. I don't know.

Just be careful out there, please.

[Deja Q]

3. you're right, it is potentially dangerous and is risky and is empty.

But better than nothing, which in itself is one of the more accurate definitions of "freedom".

Besides, life is risk. And risk is life. And I'm tired of non-living. Even if it means risking it.

[ForrestGump]

5. Well, I am sure that you know full well how to control that risk, and

minimize it, so go forth and take the leap, if you want. I'll stick with 'nothing' for now (I'd say "not through choice" but, really, if I wanted to choose otherwise, I could) because there is also freedom in and of that.

Live fully, be aware and alert, and look forward to the day when it's all better (aka "when my ship comes in," aka "some day my prince will come)...sometimes, that's the best we can for now.

May the Force be with you. And your sabre.

[Deja Q]

53. Knowing is half the battle. The question is regarding the other half...

And it's not as much doing as it is caring to do so.

In this large universe, any planet I find is going to be good enough.

[Heidi]

14. Please keep us apprised of the number

of marriage proposals you receive in connection with that post, Forrest. :)

[ForrestGump]

16. PLEASE, woman, I have suffered enough!

:scared:



None, so far. :D

[Heidi]

17. .

:rofl: Don't wear out the "inbox" button there, Forrest. :evilgrin:

[ForrestGump]

22. That's what they all say, Heidi...that's what they all say

:D :P

[Heidi]

23. What did I tell you about the "tongue out" smilie?

[ForrestGump]

25. Oopth. Thorry. A thwip od da dung.

:-(

[Heidi]

27. Thank you. That's better.

[ForrestGump]

29. :D

:rofl:

I ub dad hoto!

[Heidi]

31. Me, too.

Call Me Wesley used to have a framed print of it hanging in his office. :thumbsup:

[ForrestGump]

32. Ee hath ood dasde,

odthiuthly. :loveya:

[Heidi]

33. Yes, he does.

My ex-husband had a life-size blacklight Elvis tapestry hanging on the bedroom door. Intimidating, to say the least. :scared:

[ForrestGump]

34. Ad's ood

Did you get to keep the tapestry? :D

He may have had his faults, but he knew fine art when he saw it...

[Heidi]

35. Would you still admire that tapestry if I told you

that it was on black velvet? :scared:

Nope, my ex got to keep everything, including the blacklight Elvis tapestry, in exchange for me leaving with my self-respect. :thumbsup:

[ForrestGump]

36. REAL black velvet?!?

My word...it's connoisseur quality! :o

But self-respect is a good trade. :hug:

[Dangerously Amused]

39. Marry me, Forrest, marry me! ... If you don't say yes, I'll get ugly.

Damn.

[ForrestGump]

40. Um...

Awrrggh!

:rofl:





O-kayy.




:

[Oeditpus Rex]

4. Other

It just isn't... me.

[NMMNG]

6. A and B

Plus I know I'd just go out of it feeling even emptier than I went in so ultimately it wouldn't be worth it. :shrug:

[SeattleGirl]

9. Exactly how I think, Buffy!

It wouldn't be worth it.

[LeftyMom]

7. Other

While I've burned up a fair amount of bandwidth complaining about not getting any lately, I find the idea of sex without feeling so unappealing I'd much rather go without. Even if disease and violence weren't potential issues when choosing to have sex with a stranger I'd have no desire to do so.

[Crazy Guggenheim]

8. It's gross to even think about it.

:puke:

[xmas74]

10. Just hook up w/ a friend instead.

No relationship, just fun.
I've done both-the friend is alot more fun.

[brentspeak]

12. What's the difference?

[xmas74]

44. Big difference between a one night stand (someone

you usually just met) and someone you've known for a long time.

[Greyhound]

51. Friends with privileges is best. n/t

[Deja Q]

55. Glad you have friends.

:)

[xmas74]

61. Maybe you will make some nice friends soon.

You deserve it.

[leftofthedial]

11. take the necessary precautions

and don't overlook the joys that a repeat partner can bring to the coital relationship

but one nighters are fine.

[WindRavenX]

13. Some people can enjoy them, and that's their choice

I've had two one night stands, and neither was particularly satisfying. The sex was good, but it didn't make me feel good.

But some people like them. To each his or her own.

(And always use protection)

[BlueIris]

18. I second this.

As long as all parties consent and are aware of the one-night agreement and precautions are taken, I don't think it's any less risky than sex within an established relationship or social arrangement.

[ForrestGump]

21. Suggested protection:

[Deja Q]

58. I giggled before the pics even came up... and I found some of my own too;

This is what I often use:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

15. Does the phrase "one night stand" imply sex with a stranger?

If it does, then I'm against them.....

But if it could mean with someone you know and hopefully care about.....

THEN I'd be in favor of it.......:shrug:

[Deja Q]

54. Yes. And is your belief absolute, or is it malleable?

Are there instances where there is room for exceptions?

[CaliforniaPeggy]

57. Oh absolutely, my dear Hypno...

I was only speaking for myself.......

If you want to have sex with a stranger, then go right ahead.....

I would not do that, myself. I would have to know the gentleman at least a little!

So in other words, I would not do a one-night stand with a stranger...

But I have no problem with anyone else doing so if they wanted to.....

[donheld]

19. Oh boy let's go

:woohoo: :woohoo: :woohoo: :woohoo: :woohoo:

[HEyHEY]

20. Are the mainstay of my sexual activity

[GirlinContempt]

67. Poor heyhey

:P

[StellaBlue]

24. never had any desire to do this whatsoever

And I am pretty interested in sex.

I just don't get what anyone gets out of this, especially vs. the risks, and especially men, as strange as that may sound. Men can never know whether their one night stand is on the Pill. WAY to dangerous, if you ask me. Nevermind the nasty diseases.

If other people want to have them, go for it - I just don't get it.

[Deja Q]

56. Neither did I. 12 years later, I realized how little life is.

Even the church billboard I saw today read "Life is short. Choose eternity."

[swag]

26. Too much of a commitment.

I don't even want to sit by somebody on a 20 minute bus ride.

[FuzzySlippers]

30. But a one night stand

doesn't need to take THAT long.:D

[obxhead]

28. Other, but that's a loaded question.

[Dangerously Amused]

37. Baby, god gave you two hands and arms long enough to reach

for a reason. That, coupled (ha ha) with your imagination will consistently get you the best sex you've ever had with anyone you want, whenever, wherever and however you want it, risk free, disease free and fee free.

Or think of it this way: The future love of your life is out there somewhere right now. Would you rather that person be engaging in one night stands with all the risk that entails, while waiting to meet you? Or would you rather that person play it safe out of respect for himself, and for the relationship you will one day have together?

Conversely, how do you think that person hopes you are acting right now?

[Wapsie B]

38. If the people involved are careful

and take precautions there's nothing wrong with them. If you just accept it for what it is, two people sharing their need for physical contact for one night then go for it. There doesn't need to be empty feelings.

[wildhorses]

41. I voted other cos it is GROSS but that is just me

I expose myself to diseases on the job why do I want to take a chance in my personal life?

[Skittles]

43. it's not just you, wildhorses

I find it incredibly disgusting and have never done it - I cannot imagine screwing someone I did not know well

[Mutley]

42. All of the above.

:evilgrin:

:scared:

[u4ic]

45. It's not my cup of tea

[bigwillq]

46. Of course it's risky but

it can also be very good. I've had a few in my day. Oh well. :evilgrin:

[Lilith Velkor]

47. Rule!

As a woman, indulging in long-term relationships is far riskier to me in terms of both violence and disease. Think about it.

[GOPisEvil]

48. Did it once - never again.

Totally unfulfilling.

[redqueen]

49. Other

Been there done that, and not currently interested in doing it again.

But... never say never. Some in the past have been SPECTACULAR. I wouldn't change a thing.

[calico1]

50. Risky in terms of going out with a stranger

who could be a psycho and have a disease.

[justacitizen]

59. Not for me

I have no issues with someone that I know and care for. In fact my most satisfying encounter was with a good friend. It just sort of happened. We never did it again...but still are close friends. She moved away shortly thereafter but frequently calls me and we still talk about "that time."

[calico1]

60. I said stranger, not known friend. n/t

[Mr.Green93]

52. String Warts

The gift of a life time.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

62. perfectly ok.

have protected sex. try not to pick a sociopath.

and there is no guarantee that long term relationships dont come with violence and disease

[Blue_Tires]

63. had one 10 hrs ago

adventerous at first, but later risky and not a whole lot of fun....(go get tested again in 3 mos, just to make sure)

[MissMillie]

64. hold no interest for me whatsoever

:shrug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

65. MrG and I have those all the time...

...with each other.

[GirlinContempt]

66. Both 1 & 2

[Trigger Hippie]

68. I also choose 1 and 2.

Also, no emotional/mental connection at all always equals a bad sexual experience for me.