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MiniMandaRuth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 12:49 AM
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What is it with all the DUer's just going away?
I've noticed that a lot of people are leaving or have left. All were forced for one reason or another.

It's sad. Many fun and bright DUers have left us.

I hope that the people on DU that had a hand in some of this realize what they did and leave quietly. We're still strong in numbers, but our true patriots are leaving. I know that my mother and I have thought about leaving.

It's really sad.

And then we have our poor friends that passed away. We'll never forget any of you.

:(
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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 12:54 AM
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1. MiniMandaRuth
I hope that both you and your mother decide to stay.

There are so many nice DUers that are still here.

:hi:
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MiniMandaRuth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 12:55 AM
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2. i know.
We will.

My poor mother has been the target of many nasty PMs. We won't get into that.

There a re many delightful people here. I'm still surprised at how wonderful the human spirit can be.

It just saddens me that so many are leaving. We need all the help we can get.
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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 12:59 AM
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4. I guess that I haven't been here long enough.
May I ask your mother's username.

BTW ~ I'm very happy to say that no one has sent me any nasty PMs about any DUer.
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:03 AM
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11. I'm happy to say the same.
I hope I've made it clear in my posts and private correspondence with my friends here that I'm just not going to participate in anything that could harm another person. :yourock: Joani, and I'm honored to be your friend. :loveya:
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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:08 AM
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14. We are of like minds on so many issues my friend.
It's too easy for feelings to be hurt.

We are all special here at DU. :yourock:

:thumbsup: :loveya:

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MiniMandaRuth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 08:24 AM
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29. Her name is AmandaRuth
Hence MiniMandaRuth
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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:00 AM
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6. And you are one of the nicest, Joani.
:hug: :loveya:

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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:01 AM
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7. Oh Goodness!
I believe we have a mutual :loveya: thing goin' on.
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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:01 AM
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9. Yup!
:loveya:

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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 12:59 AM
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3. Ditto what Joani said
MiniMandaRuth, we need to stand our ground, we can't let them have the place. There is just too much to do.

:hi:
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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:00 AM
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5. Hi merh!
:hug:
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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:01 AM
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8. LOL - I just posted to you, dear friend.
(((((((((((Joani))))))))))))))))))

:hug: It's so good to see you. :loveya:

I posted your quote in the "favorite DU quote" thread the other day. I won't ever forget that quote. :hug:

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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:04 AM
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12. I haven't even gone into that thread to look.
And now I will. I think I was saving it for a morning coffee break.

I can never get board hanging out on DU.
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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:50 AM
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23. Here you go
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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 08:21 AM
Response to Reply #23
28. That is a beautiful link to wake up to!
Good Morning

:loveya: :hug:
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darkstar Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:19 AM
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20. merh
Hey there. How you doing? I know it's been a long slog lately. I live in Lafayette, LA and thought I'd take the chance to say hi on this late night, out of the way thread.

I wasn't sure which way you'd evaced during storm, but I PM'ed JJ and told her if you'd bugged westward, darkstar inn was open. I'd read your posts well prior and you really made a positive impression on me, so much that I had no second thoughts. Whatsoever. I even knew I might deploy--and I did--and that my wife would be cool with it because your vibe seems akin to hers. And we searched yr old posts and she agreed.

At any rate, know that you've radiated radiantly well beyond yr keyboard and that there's tons of folks wishing you the very best. Please PM if you are ever over this way and/or need a roof. It would be a joy, I'm sure.

sincere best wishes

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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:39 AM
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22. Well thank you so much darkstar.
Your post means the world to me. Thank you so much for the warm invite and the kind words. It would be a pleasure to visit with you if I make it to Lafayette, I am touched that you and your wife offered shelter when I was in such straits.

Are you still deployed or are you home now? I hope you are home and safe.

Thanks again for the good wishes and kind words. You just proved that there are good people posting on DU. How lucky am I that you posted to me and reached out to offer your support.

(((((darkstar & mrs. darkstar))))))) Thank you.

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Trigger Hippie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 09:48 AM
Response to Reply #20
36. Hi man!
Nice to see you in the Lounge! :hug:
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darkstar Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 10:40 AM
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45. Hey, don't you gots work to do????
Seriously it is groovy seeing our very own Cajun Dame on here.

Has the cold set in up there? It dropped 10-12 degrees here yesterday.

Good talking the other day (week?) too.

:hi:
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Trigger Hippie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 10:56 AM
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46. hahahaha
My boss isn't here, so I'm sneaking on. ;)

It's still pretty mild here, in the 60s during the day. Yay!

Always good talk to you and the little woman. I miss you guys. :grouphug:
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Wapsie B Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:03 AM
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10. It is sad.
But there's lots of good people here. I have to believe that whoever's behind all this nastiness will be dealt with in some way. I honestly have no idea of the details of all this but it angers me that anyone would do such things.
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auntAgonist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:06 AM
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13. geez I just read a couple of threads
I am appalled at the mean spiritedness of some folks. I had wondered where some people had been of late.

I guess I'm not in the 'loop' thankfully. I just visit. No pm's no vicious emails. I like my boring times :)

:hi:

There are a LOT of very fine people here at DU.
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Floogeldy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:10 AM
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15. Heidi chews gum for a while, then takes it out and puts it on her nose.
Then, she has lunch. After finishing lunch, she takes the gum off of her nose and starts chewing it again.

I was going to put this in a PM to you all but I figured, what the heck.

:hide:
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:13 AM
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17. Discretion, Floogeldy is thy name.
Edited on Wed Nov-16-05 01:14 AM by Heidi
:spray:

You can have some of this gum, by the way. I'm about through with it. :rofl:
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RedCloud Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 12:14 PM
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47. Is that definition number ten?
Well Heidi, is it?

:hi:
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 11:38 PM
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51. I had to consult merriam-webster.com
and couldn't find Floog's name as an alternative definition for "discretion." Of course, I immediately fired off a terse email via the "contact" page. :evilgrin:
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Maddy McCall Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:11 AM
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16. You are wiser than your years, MMR.
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RevCheesehead Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:16 AM
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18. MMR -
:yourock:
And I mean that, most sincerely. :)


(BTW - my name is Ruth!)
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ChavezSpeakstheTruth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:16 AM
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19. I'm still here
That's all I know
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darkstar Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:27 AM
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21. Thanks for the thread
I was balled up w/ hurricane stuff for 6-7 weeks, came back and slept for 10 days or so, and all of sudden all this ugly vibe is dripping on my favorite folks on my favorite board.

thanks for all the positive postings, y'all. Renewing my spirit, fer real. It really means a lot to me. Thanks.

Peace.
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faithnotgreed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:52 AM
Response to Reply #21
26. darkstar
i havent had the pleasure of speaking directly with you - or many here really - but i just wanted to sneak in and say im so glad you and your family are ok
what an ordeal you have been through

im sure i speak for many who are so glad you are among us - now and in days past
all my very best.....
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darkstar Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 10:32 AM
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43. Thanks for the warm hello
Lafayette was largely spared from both Katrian and Rita, so we are fine.

Thank *you* for getting on this thread that I feel is playing an important role right now, not just for those of us posting but, hopefully, in the *positve* ripples it will create.

I'm glad we're no longer strangers, faithnotgreed.
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faithnotgreed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:31 PM
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49. that has such a nice ring darkstar
im also glad were no longer strangers
and i look forward to seeing you around

im not in the lounge very often but im glad i found this thread
and yes i certainly agree that it can create positive vibes and ripples
it is up to each of us to work for that every day in whatever community we are part of

heres to community and encouraging real connection wherever we are

take good care
im glad to know you were spared much of the destruction
talk about community and the need for coming together in love
wow
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flaminbats Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:51 AM
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24. the more you post, the more brutal DU can become..
DU gives me the mood of other primary voters, a place without freepers where progressives can discuss current affairs, and info from active DUers working in Congressional campaigns across the nation.

its easy to become hooked on DU, and to take personal comments too seriously. Those who act uncivil slowly change with time, those who take comments too personally eventually view any response as a benefit. I'm sorry to hear about your mother, and know how crushing the death of a loved one is.

but remember, politics is only the civilized alternative to anarchy. :spank:
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Dave Reynolds Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:52 AM
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25. I'm a bad bad person,
and they left because of me.

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Name removed Donating Member (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 08:40 AM
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faithnotgreed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 02:02 AM
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27. minimandaruth
first of all i am very sorry - and disappointed - that your mother has received angry emails

i agree with other wise and loving people who have posted their responses: were so glad youre here and hope you and your mom will stick around

theres usually a great deal to any interpersonal story
life happens
as do so many emotions that there is not one easy answer as to why people leave or even why people are "forced" to go

everyone needs a break even from the best of communities
so heres to good vibes for all who have honored du with their unique and caring selves
no matter where they are now may they know they are loved
and whether they are posting or not i believe their presence is felt

take good care minimandaruth
i dont want to see any "im leaving" posts unless youre going to school (or maybe the store with your mom)
ok?
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MiniMandaRuth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 08:27 AM
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30. Okay.
:P
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chknltl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 08:37 AM
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31. some of us are oblivious to this what you speak.of
And I am fine with that. :hi: fellow Washigtonian, fellow Democrat and fellow human.
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flvegan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 08:43 AM
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33. And then there's me...
Folks wish I'd leave, yet I linger...like a vile odor.
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auntAgonist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 09:02 AM
Response to Reply #33
34. ach , nonsense!
I don't smell a thing :)

:yourock:


aA
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Dangerously Amused Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 09:45 AM
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35. I wasn't going to say anything, but since you brought it up...



It's that cheap aftershave.


:P


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flvegan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 10:01 AM
Response to Reply #35
37. I'll alert Chanel
and thell them their product sucks, per DangerouslyAmused.

:7
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Dangerously Amused Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 10:17 AM
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38. Oh don't, I was just teasing. You smell quite delicious.


:-)


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LeftyMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 10:19 AM
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39. Really
Over at VF he said he didn't use deodorant and I was :scared:
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flvegan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 10:21 AM
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41. Got
you, too!
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LeftyMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 10:23 AM
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42. Not yet you don't
:evilgrin:
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flvegan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 10:20 AM
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40. Haha, gotcha.
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Dangerously Amused Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 10:36 AM
Response to Reply #40
44. Yeah, you got me alright!



:9





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Name removed Donating Member (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 12:42 PM
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hunter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-16-05 01:34 PM
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50. I'm not sure that's it... A lot of it is simply volume.
Occasionally I'll do a search on someone I haven't seen for awhile, and they are still here posting as often as they ever did. It's simply that we haven't crossed paths for a long time.

Very high volume posters, especially posters with a distinctive voice, are the ones who get the most recognition, but they are also the ones who have to dodge the flaming arrows.

All of us have some limit to the time and energy we can devote to DU.

If it's possible for you, don't be anonymous. Carry whatever goodness you find here on DU into the outside world, and leave the bad stuff behind.
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