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nini (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 05:04 PM Original message |
Why does a cheated on spouse blame the other woman/man first? |
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Tallison (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 05:06 PM Response to Original message |
1. I never got it, either |
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GOPisEvil (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 05:06 PM Response to Original message |
2. I was cheated on once - I blamed them both. |
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nini (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 05:26 PM Response to Reply #2 |
11. I told you I'd kick her ass for you |
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GOPisEvil (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 05:28 PM Response to Reply #11 |
13. LOL - she's not worth the night in jail. |
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nini (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 05:51 PM Response to Reply #13 |
16. hehe.. you remember my offer of kicking ass though.. that's funny |
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billyskank (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 05:07 PM Response to Original message |
3. Maybe it's easier |
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skygazer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 05:08 PM Response to Original message |
4. It's always seemed odd to me |
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Darth_Kitten (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 05:15 PM Response to Original message |
5. I don't know... |
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SOteric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 05:17 PM Response to Original message |
6. I've always thought it was a form of denial. |
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LynzM (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 05:45 PM Response to Reply #6 |
14. I agree, SOteric |
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Cyndee_Lou_Who (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 07:34 PM Response to Reply #6 |
19. Exactly, it's easier to belive it's that person's fault as opposed to the |
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miss_kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 05:20 PM Response to Original message |
7. because they're idiots |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 05:24 PM Response to Original message |
8. it is odd |
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nini (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 08:19 PM Response to Reply #8 |
24. Oh... if the other person was a relative.... |
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Divameow77 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 05:25 PM Response to Original message |
9. Your spouse is the one that is supposed |
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nini (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 05:27 PM Response to Reply #9 |
12. but what if the other person doesn't know they're married? |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 05:25 PM Response to Original message |
10. Especially because it's quite possible that the "home-wrecker" |
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purr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 05:50 PM Response to Original message |
15. My friend is goign through this.. and I tell her |
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nini (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 05:52 PM Response to Reply #15 |
17. You're a good friend.. good friends throw the truth out there |
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liontamer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 07:32 PM Response to Original message |
18. i don't get it either |
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hippywife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 07:56 PM Response to Original message |
20. It seems most |
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Susang (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 08:13 PM Response to Original message |
21. It's not just denial |
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nini (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 08:18 PM Response to Reply #21 |
23. that may have a bit to do with it too. |
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Susang (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 08:21 PM Response to Reply #23 |
25. Obviously I'm not talking about all men or all women |
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WCGreen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 08:14 PM Response to Original message |
22. Agreed..... |
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Dave Reynolds (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 09:05 PM Response to Original message |
26. In my case, the other guy |
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just a girl (173 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 09:30 PM Response to Original message |
27. Having been the person that was cheated on.... |
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Samurai_Writer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 10:01 PM Response to Reply #27 |
28. Once a cheater, always a cheater |
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just a girl (173 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 10:05 PM Response to Reply #28 |
29. If he'd lied to her I would have been more understanding. |
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RetroLounge (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 07:35 PM Response to Reply #28 |
77. "Once a cheater, always a cheater" |
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Samurai_Writer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Nov-03-05 11:05 AM Response to Reply #77 |
79. Gee, did I hit a sore spot? |
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RetroLounge (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Nov-03-05 01:06 PM Response to Reply #79 |
80. Nope. No sore spot whatsoever. |
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Samurai_Writer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Nov-03-05 06:17 PM Response to Reply #80 |
81. Yeah, let's blame the cheated on spouse... |
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RetroLounge (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Nov-03-05 07:53 PM Response to Reply #81 |
82. Hey, are you Okay? be careful... |
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chaska (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-01-05 11:02 PM Response to Original message |
30. That wasn't me. I blamed my now EX-GF. Placed the blame where it belonged. |
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mykpart (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 02:42 AM Response to Original message |
31. It's not so much blaming the other person first, but |
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RedCloud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 12:09 PM Response to Original message |
32. Let's not naturally exclude the person cheated upon either. |
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rbnyc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 12:31 PM Response to Reply #32 |
40. The wife of the man I slept with was a serious cold-hearted bitch. |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 01:30 PM Response to Reply #32 |
55. I was thinking the same thing.... |
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Nicholas D Wolfwood (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 01:34 PM Response to Reply #32 |
57. Not in all cases, but sure. |
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BigMcLargehuge (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 12:11 PM Response to Original message |
33. it's not a question of blame really |
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ChickMagic (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 12:12 PM Response to Original message |
34. Well, if someone blamed their SO |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 12:17 PM Response to Reply #34 |
36. good point |
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ChickMagic (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 12:22 PM Response to Reply #36 |
37. Thank you |
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Jed Dilligan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 12:16 PM Response to Original message |
35. How come |
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rbnyc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 12:22 PM Response to Original message |
38. I once slept with a married man. |
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Mizmoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 12:25 PM Response to Reply #38 |
39. You're lucky she didn't kill you |
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LaurenG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 12:31 PM Response to Reply #39 |
41. My thougts exactly |
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rbnyc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 12:35 PM Response to Reply #41 |
43. I f there hadn't been something about her and their relationship... |
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rbnyc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 12:42 PM Response to Reply #41 |
44. Also... |
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LaurenG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 12:54 PM Response to Reply #44 |
48. That is an entirely different matter |
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rbnyc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 01:06 PM Response to Reply #48 |
51. I agree. |
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rbnyc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 12:33 PM Response to Reply #39 |
42. Well, that's the kind of judgement I opened myself up to... |
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2bfree (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 12:45 PM Response to Reply #38 |
45. I think that is awful. |
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rbnyc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 12:53 PM Response to Reply #45 |
47. When my husband and I first started dating... |
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nini (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 12:51 PM Response to Reply #38 |
46. To be honest with you... It sounds like you're looking for justification |
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rbnyc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 01:04 PM Response to Reply #46 |
50. I actually wasn't planning it. |
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faithnotgreed (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 01:48 PM Response to Reply #50 |
63. i just want to sneak in this thread to say to you |
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rbnyc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 02:18 PM Response to Reply #63 |
68. Thanks so much. |
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nini (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 01:59 PM Response to Reply #50 |
65. I disagree but I do understand |
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rbnyc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 02:07 PM Response to Reply #65 |
67. I really appeciate that. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 01:16 PM Response to Reply #38 |
53. i really dont believe its the other persons fault at all! |
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Nicholas D Wolfwood (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 01:37 PM Response to Reply #38 |
58. Maybe you didn't promise her anything, however... |
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rbnyc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 01:45 PM Response to Reply #58 |
62. I din't have respect for her feelings. |
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merh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 01:39 PM Response to Reply #38 |
60. But what if you were a friend of both? |
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rbnyc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 01:44 PM Response to Reply #60 |
61. That would be a completely different situation. (nt) |
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NorthernSpy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 12:57 PM Response to Original message |
49. in Cambodia, wives have thrown acid in the faces of younger women... |
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av8rdave (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 01:08 PM Response to Original message |
52. When my ex cheated on me.... |
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tigereye (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 01:23 PM Response to Original message |
54. I think that the spouse who cheated is the most to blame |
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Nicholas D Wolfwood (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 01:32 PM Response to Original message |
56. Well, I definitely place the lion's share of blame with my ex... |
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realisticphish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 01:39 PM Response to Original message |
59. Simple |
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Patiod (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 01:51 PM Response to Original message |
64. Playing devil's advocate: |
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nini (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 02:20 PM Response to Reply #64 |
69. the sweetheart in this case is evil BUT |
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RedCloud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 02:07 PM Response to Original message |
66. Emotional investment |
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Nicholas D Wolfwood (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 02:40 PM Response to Reply #66 |
72. The victim, one way or another, is almost never to blame. |
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LaurenG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 05:15 PM Response to Reply #72 |
73. thank you vash |
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satireV (497 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 02:26 PM Response to Original message |
70. Men and women are not biologically designed to be monogamous |
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nini (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 02:30 PM Response to Reply #70 |
71. Someone who can't be monogamous should not get married |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 05:17 PM Response to Original message |
74. No, it's not just you. |
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nini (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 07:40 PM Response to Reply #74 |
78. exactly.. why put up with it if you feel betrayed? |
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bufffbison (384 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 05:18 PM Response to Original message |
75. I wish i have a wife! Any dayton, oh singles in here? :-) nt |
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Nikia (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-02-05 07:01 PM Response to Original message |
76. I suppose that it could depend on the circumstances |
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