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underpants Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 02:41 PM
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Erotic chat grounds for divorce?
Erotic chat grounds for divorce?

http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20050928/od_nm/belgium_adult...

BRUSSELS (Reuters) - Erotic talk with a virtual partner in chatrooms on the Internet are enough grounds for a spouse to file for divorce, a legal magazine said Wednesday, citing a recent ruling in Belgium.

Belgian legal publication De Juristenkrant said the Brussels Appeals Court ruled that although transcripts of the erotic chatroom conversation do not prove adultery, they do constitute proof of "grossly insulting behavior" which is sufficient grounds to file for divorce.
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Bassic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 02:42 PM
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1. Weird... is telling a dirty joke grounds for that as well?
Edited on Wed Sep-28-05 02:42 PM by Bassic
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progmom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 03:02 PM
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2. Honestly...
If you don't want to be married anymore, isn't that enough grounds for divorce? So if your spouse having "erotic chat" with someone crosses that line for you, then you should stop being married. Right?
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Floogeldy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 03:06 PM
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3. That's how it is in America.
:)
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MissMillie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 03:06 PM
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4. works for me
:thumbsup:
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deadparrot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 03:28 PM
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11. Exactly my thought. nt
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Shell Beau Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 03:39 PM
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14. Well said!!!!!!
And I would be BEYOND pissed if I found out my hubby was erotically chatting it up with someone else.
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bridgit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 04:03 PM
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21. exactly correct...
:thumbsup:
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La Lioness Priyanka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 03:08 PM
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well i think its kind of cheating
and for someone who is possessive that could legitimately be a reason...trust is a very very fragile thing
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La Lioness Priyanka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 03:08 PM
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5. well i think its kind of cheating
and for someone who is possessive that could legitimately be a reason...trust is a very very fragile thing
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Floogeldy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 03:14 PM
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6. I see what you mean.
:)
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Floogeldy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 03:15 PM
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7. I see what you mean.
:)
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matcom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 03:17 PM
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8. i'm so sorry Underpants
she was a good woman too :cry:

if you need a couch....
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underpants Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 03:48 PM
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16. Text?
No no no audio is the only way to go
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AnarchoFreeThinker Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 03:20 PM
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9. errrr, how long after we post can we "edit" it? I got some work to do.
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underpants Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 03:49 PM
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17. It's been 25 minutes
:bounce:
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Debi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 04:38 PM
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29. I can read DAMMIT
:grr:
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AnarchoFreeThinker Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 04:43 PM
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30. oh, finally. dream come true. say you're leaving me.
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Debi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 05:02 PM
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33. And make you happy?
go mow the damn lawn before it snows ya lazy ass :mad:
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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 03:28 PM
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10. On-line infidelity is annoying but hardly grounds for divorce.
Edited on Wed Sep-28-05 03:49 PM by Joan_Alpern
Warm arms are preferable to a cold computer screen.

The problem isn't the erotic talk with a virtual partner in a chat-room. It's a breakdown of the marriage before the chat.

That's just my way of looking at it.
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Fox Mulder Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 03:31 PM
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12. My thoughts exactly.
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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 03:39 PM
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13. Hey ~ Fox Mulder!
First - let me say how much I like your name!

Second - I'd like to point out that sometimes erotic chat with a stranger can add spice to the married relationship.

Third - to DU
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4_Legs_Good Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 04:05 PM
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24. I really appreciate your point
Not *all* "infidelity" is necessarily bad for a relationship. I find it kind of annoying the way society has such rigidly defined ideas of what is allowable in a marriage.

david
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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 04:34 PM
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28. Thank you.
There are far too many marriages that are falling apart, the old sets of values don't seem to mesh with today.

We should to be able to assess what fits our needs to be happy and healthy and act on that. Some of us march to a different drummer and we're okay with that. Our neighbors might not agree but it really in none of their concern. What goes on within the home should be entirely up to the people who are involved.
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skygazer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 06:24 PM
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37. Well, what it sounds like to me
Is that the people who are using this as grounds for divorce are NOT okay with it.

As far as I'm concerned, you shouldn't need "grounds" for divorce. If you no longer want to be married to a person, you should be able to divorce them. This is why I'm not married and why I won't be - because I see no reason the state should have any say whatsoever in my relationships. Who are they to decide whether or not I can divorce?
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Floogeldy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 03:46 PM
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15. Hmmm . . .
Insightful.

:)
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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 03:55 PM
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19. Thanks Floogeldy
There are many different ways to view the same set of variables. Relationships are changing. It's really about what is acceptable behavior to everyone involved.
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Floogeldy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 04:04 PM
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22. Well, you kind of lost me there.
I thought you meant the hard knob jobber of the household wasn't pulling her load.

But I've been wrong before. ;)
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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 04:07 PM
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26. now - you sound like my ex-husband
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Floogeldy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 04:20 PM
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27. Ha ha!
j/t

:)
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Shell Beau Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 03:53 PM
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18. But it is emotionally cheating IMO. Sure, there
was probably some sort of break down in the marriage that occured prior. But it can cause some trust issues and that is the basis of a marriage (that and love).
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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 03:59 PM
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20. For me - it is impossible to love someone that I can't trust.
I usually do trust people until I'm given a reason not to. I believe that honesty is paramount in any healthy relationship.
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Shell Beau Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 04:04 PM
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23. Absolutely! Trust is the foundation of a healthy
relationship, but for me, this may break my trust. I hopefully will never experience it though!
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La Lioness Priyanka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 04:06 PM
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25. i agree
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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 04:52 PM
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31.  lionesspriyanka
:hug:
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La Lioness Priyanka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 04:55 PM
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32. hello!
i need a hug...cant find home for cat/s...ankle sprained...a sick friend i cant seem to find (i hope hes ignoring my calls cos hes getting laid...but i think he is not well...which is worrying me terribly)...job applications..school applications...

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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 05:09 PM
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35. O M G
this is not good

you must be stressing out to the max ...

take it one problem at a time - you can fill out applications while you rest your sprained ankle ...

how long has it been since you've spoken with your horny friend - BTW - I don't answer the phone either if I'm getting laid ...

you can't keep your cats - I'm sorry - isn't there any way to work it out ?

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redqueen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 05:05 PM
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34. Um, DUH!
But, honey! I was only pretending!

:rofl:
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hunter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 05:13 PM
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36. Yes, especially if it's erotic chat with a 'bot!
BARRY AND JULIA

barry says: "Hello how are you"
Julia says: "Hello, barry"
barry says: "Are you a virgin"
Julia says: "As far as you're concerned, barry, I always will be"

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/3503465.stm

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