To DUers who have lost a parent or parents . . .

[Floogeldy]

Do you have dreams about them while you are sleeping at night?

[belladonna]

1. I dream about my father now and then

Less as the years go by, which is sad, because I enjoy those dreams.

[Rabrrrrrr]

2. Every now and again I have a dream about my father

I don't think I've ever dreamed of my mother, though.

Dad's been dead 11 years, and mom four years.

[BlackVelvetElvis]

3. I lost my father in '87.

I had many, very realistic dreams about him, the ones where you wake up sobbing.
They have lessened although I still have the rare dream about him. I miss him and wish I dreamt of him more.

[fortyfeetunder]

4. After 12+ years

Once in a while, not very often.

[stevedeshazer]

5. Often

Grandparents, too.

[bridgit]

6. yes...

[RevolutionaryActs]

7. As a general rule, I don't remember my dreams, but I know I have had two

very vivid dreams about my dad, but only in the last two years. :shrug:

[MuseRider]

8. Yes.

It is common to have dreams about them, at least for me. Both parents and brothers appear in my dreams on a fairly regular basis. I wish they didn't but they do.

[Dogmudgeon]

9. Yes

My father died in 1996. I dream about him once a week.

My grandmother died this past October. I still dream about her nearly every night.

I even have dreams about old friends; again, nearly every night.

There are also "mystery people" in my dreams. People who I've never met in waking life, but who are quite real behind the wall of sleep.

The worst part is that I have bad hearing and loud tinnitus. So I occasionally hear one of these dead-or-lost people talking to me. It's not a psychiatric disorder, either; I've been checked out for that pretty well.

But isn't it true that we, who are alive, are all just passing through the "Pre-Ghost Phase" of life? I've learned to adjust.

--p!

[Cadence]

40. A friend of mine had tinnitus for years.

We read that tinnitus is due to a Gabba deficiency in the brain. If you want to look up Inositol, Gabba, Glutamic Acid ... they will help create Gabba. It cured him.

The book 'The Edge Effect' by Dr. Eric Braverman goes into detail if you'd like more reading.
http://www.edgeeffect.org/edge_effect.htm

:hi:

[ogradda]

10. Yes.

Often.

[Nicole]

11. Father..yes, mother..no

[BikeWriter]

12. I saw them the other night. It was very nice being with them.

[TOhioLiberal]

13. Yes...

...I lost my mom in October '04, dreams with her in them appear often.

[SW FL Dem]

14. I lost my dad when I was 22

That was almost 25 years ago. The dreams have subsided, but I still "talk" to my Dad and miss him terribly,

[tuvor]

15. Had my first dream about my dad in a long time just last night.

He was asking about an SUV he'd left in my care, but I couldn't remember what I'd done with it!

Damn, I miss him.

He died at only 61 years of age.

[luvLLB]

16. My dad died about 11 years ago, and I have never dreamed of

him, and mom died 3 years ago. I dream about her quite often. The wierd thing is,that until about 6 months ago, she didn't talk. She was just there.

[DrDebug]

17. Yes

Sometimes. I guess it's normal and everybody does from time to time.

[miss_kitty]

18. mostly about my mom

and they make me feel like she's still alive when I wake up. She died in 1981. Not so much about my dad, though.

[JimmyJazz]

38. Hi

[SCDem]

19. Nope

My father died when I was 2 so I really have no memory of him so I guess that is why I can't visualize or concieve of him in one of my dreams.

[ohiosmith]

20. Yes. My mom died last month. Since then, I frequently dream about

her and my deceased dad and two brothers.

[bertha katzenengel]

21. I dream of my mother as if she's still 33 (age at death) but it's today,

and I am who I am now. We clash because I won't be who I was when she was alive. Well, given that I was eleven when she died, we probably clash for a LOT of reasons.

[XanaDUer]

22. Yes.

...

[AlCzervik]

23. yes i do every now and then

my mother died in 1985 and it's only in the last 10 years or so she's been popping into my dreams.

[medeak]

24. husband and I had exact same dream same night

of his father. We both woke up crying.... love not of this earth.

[grace0418]

25. Yes, I even had a "message" from my dad once.

My dad died shortly before Christmas in 1999. On Christmas day, my husband and I were on the expressway driving to my in-laws house. We were chatting in the car when I suddenly felt really overwhelmed by the notion of seeing all the people in my husband's family because I knew each of them would want to tell me how sorry they were about my dad. He started to ask me whether I just wanted to go home when suddenly a bright red beetle came up behind us really fast, then swerved into the lane next to us, passed us, swerved back into our lane just in front of us, then slowed down to the speed everyone else was traveling. It was like it was deliberately trying to get my attention. It was even really shiny and clean while all the other cars around us were covered in salt. I looked at the license plate and gasped because it said "LOVE DAD." My husband just looked at me in disbelief and said "Well, I think your dad wants you to go the party and not worry."

[jpak]

26. Yes, my Dad passed away 3 weeks ago

and I have dreams about him all the time.

[GreenPartyVoter]

54. I am sorry *hugs* Stop in at the DU bereavement group any time

[YellowRubberDuckie]

27. I lost my father in 1996, when I was 16.

I dream about him and my sister at night. In my dreams, I've played with my nephew in the backyard, while my dad laughed on the porch. I believe he wanted to meet his aunty, and his Grampy was the one who brought him to meet me.
Duckie

[ernstbass]

28. Once in a blue moon

[ImpeachBush]

29. I have dreams about my late best friend (a dog) all the time.

My father passed in February, and I have yet to dream about him. I do dream about my old, best friend (half german shorthair - half pointer named Dobbin) all the time. I bet at least once a week I have a dream that she is in. Sometimes she is sickly, as she was when she passed away, other times she is young and spry and happy. Is sure do miss her - she died way back in 1993!!!

[CBHagman]

30. Yes.

With my mother, however, it took many years before I dreamed about her. I believe 25 years had passed before I actually recalled her being in one of my dreams. I still rarely if ever dream of her.

My father, though, has been in plenty of my dreams, as have other departed relatives and friends.

[NoSheep]

31. Yes-and I never dreamed about him when he was alive.

We had a bad relationship. Never saw each other. He was very cold. In my dreams, he is so nice and loving. I guess I'm recreating him in my own image!

[China_cat]

32. I have dreamed about my mother about 3 times.

Both times when each of my daughters died I dreamed of her holding a baby and one time I dreamed of her telling me that she had faked her own death.

I was very close to my grandfather and I dreamed of him after he died. He came to me at the age I remembered him best and said he had come to say goodbye.

My mind's way of coping.

[musiclawyer]

33. Never about my dad, but sometimes with mom

I think parents are more involved in dreams when they are needed or closure is required. Otherwise, If you are ready, nature just leaves you to fend for yourself, just as it should be.

[Red State Rebel]

34. Rarely now, it's been 24 yrs for Mom, 42 for Dad - they were both young.

[Lisa0825]

35. I dream about my mom often, and my dad once in a while.

My mom has been gone for 4 years and my dad for about 8. My dreams aren't usualy centered onthem, but they are part of the dream. And often, I'll realize it's a dream because they are there.

[Goathead]

36. Yes, all the time.

My mother died in June 1999 and my father died in August of '99. I was still grieving from my mother's death when my father died and I feel I haven't paid his death adequate attention. My mother Died from breast cancer and had been sick for about a year and a half, my father had started getting ill a few months before my mother died. The day of we spread her ashes, a day after the formal funeral and wake, my father was hospitalized and he told my sister and me that he had lung cancer. I took my mothers death very hard and that whole summer is still and was a haze.

[LeftCoast]

37. Just lost my Dad last month - have had a couple of dreams

I miss him. I'm glad he visits in my dreams.

[Bossy Monkey]

39. Not as much. It was more when she was really crippled with Alzheimer's

I would dream that she was back to normal, carrying out perfectly normal conversations, when in real life she hadn't talked in a year or more. I think her death was a release, both for her and for my subconscious mind.

[VOX]

41. Lost my dad 25 years ago, my mom 2 years ago. They are in my dreams...

a few times every month, and almost always in a good way. I never see them as sick or infirm. In a recent dream, I was taking my dad to see a baseball game. And I was also just shooting the breeze with my mom.

It's kind of like a way to stay "in touch" with them, if that makes any sense.

[terrya]

42. No.

I lost my dad to cancer 2 years ago. He's never visited me in my dreams. I don't know what that's a sign of...maybe he just didn't care about me when he was alive? :shrug:

[Dark]

43. I rarely remember my dreams. But no, although it is pretty soon after,

maybe that has an affect. . .

[Midlodemocrat]

44. Virtually every night.

I either have a dream about my mom who passed in 2002 or my dad who died in August.

[mcar]

45. I was 7 months pregnant when my father died

After my son was born (his first grandchild), I dreamed for several weeks that my father was rocking my son and singing him a lullaby.

That was nearly 18 years ago. There will always be a part of me that thinks it really happened.

[Skittles]

49. *sniff*

reminds me of the song "The Living Years"

I think I caught his spirit later that same year
I'm sure I heard his echo in my baby's new born tears
I just wish I could have told him in the living years

[Skittles]

50. my dad killed himself at age 50

in my dreams he is the age he was when I was a teenager - in his 30s

[LeftCoast]

55. So sorry to hear that Skittles

I can't imagine how difficult it must have been for you.

:hug:

[Skittles]

56. he shot himself then lived for six days

I thought about it during that Schiavo fiasco :(

[CornField]

46. Oh Yes -- quite often

Two nights prior to my mother's passing, my sister, brother and I all had almost the exact dream. We were visited by our brother who died in Vietnam and he told us that we had mom in our lives long enough, that he missed her and she was going to be with him soon.

I've even have a couple of dreams where my father-in-law played a starring role. ;)

[Beware the Beast Man]

47. I had a dream about my father-in-law whom I had never met.

My wife's mother incessantly points out how much I remind her of him. From all accounts, he sounded like a great guy. Anyway, my wife was going through some personal turmoil a few months ago, and during this time I had a dream in which I was expressing my concern to him. There was another man in this "meeting" that I could not identify. My wife thinks this may have been her paternal grandfather.

[Samurai_Writer]

48. After 13 years...

I still occassionally dream about my dad. I normally don't remember my dreams, but seem to remember the ones with him in them more than any others.

He was 66 when he died. I sure do miss him.

[Floogeldy]

51. My mom had Alzheimer's and dementia

I took care of her two years before she died, last November.

I dream that I am off somewhere doing some such thing, and then I remember, "Oh my god, I have got to get back to Mom. Nobody is taking care of her. She hasn't eaten since I've been gone. I've got to hurry back to her! She may have hurt herself while I was gone." Then I'll wake up to check on her, and remember that she is no longer with me.

I have other dreams where I am still with her, taking care of her.

[GreenPartyVoter]

52. Yes. I lost her in January, and occasionally have dreams about her. They

are weird, though, for now. My mind is clearly struggling with wanting her to be here and yet she is not. And that ugly fact always rears its head.

The last one I had she was hanging laundry on the line and I was SOOOO happy to see her and ran to hug her (wishful thinking), but she pushed me away and said that she was busy. I got upset and turned to my dad and and said that I was going to tell her that she was going to die in a few months (reality setting in) but he said no, that would be wrong. (as if, I know if we really could have gone back in time he would have taken her straight to a cardiologist.)

[GalleryGod]

53. No.

:shrug: sorry.