What draws you to another person?

[yvr girl]

This could be someone you want to be your friend or something more.

For me, it's intelligence and humour and the ability to share a look that speaks volumes.

[Cary]

1. Body odor.

Those pheromones! What more can I say?

[flvegan]

2. Their ability to tolerate me for longer than a couple minutes.

She's a keeper if she can.

[Magrittes Pipe]

3. I want a girl with extentions in her hair.

Bamboo earrings, at least two pair.
A Fendi bag and a bad attitude,
That's all it takes to get me in a good mood.
She can walk with a switch and talk with street slang,
I love it when a woman ain't scared to do her thing.
Standing at the bus stop, sucking on a lollipop,
Once she gets pumpin' it's hard to make the hottie stop.
She likes to dance to the rap jams.
She's sweet like brown sugar with candied yams.
Honey-coated complexion, using Camay,
Let's hear it for the girl, she's from around the way.

[cassandra uprising]

12. hey now

i thought you already had an around the way girl?
:)

-and thanks for the ear worm, at least it's a good one, if there is such a thing.

[More Than A Feeling]

4. I have tried many things

I tried looks. That crashed and burned horribly.

I tried sex. That didn't work, but it did bring me my best friend in a particular location

I tried shared past. That didn't work, but I kept her as a friend.

I tried intelligence. That didn't work, but she, too, is a good friend.

Then I tried shared outlook on life. Turns out its impossible to completely share an outlook on life, and the parts you don't share can destroy you.

Now, I am down to two single qualities, that I believe is at the heart of the matter. Honesty and Kindness. Those two, above all others, are what draw me to a woman

[ET Awful]

5. I like your list . . .

I'd probably prefer that (in my case) the female in question also sahred some of the same interests, was in no way affiliated with any conservative thought process (or does that fall under the intelligence category?). Honesty is also a big one, if not the biggest.

I'm also a sucker for long, thick, luxurious hair :)

[progmom]

6. kindness, intelligence and humor are the first things i am attracted to

But I only stay if they are joined by honesty and intellectual curiosity. People who aren't curious tend to bore me very quickly.

[libnnc]

7. Warmth and sincerity

I can be pretty shy at times. When someone looks squarely in my eyes and is really kind and engaging...I'm a gonner

[NV Whino]

8. Humor and intellegence

I'm not sure you can separate them--you got one, you got the other. With those two, wverything else falls in place.

[yvr girl]

9. Not necessarily

I would agree that you need intelligence to be funny but just because you're smart doesn't mean you can be funny. I've met people who are completely bereft of ha, ha.

[NV Whino]

25. You betcha. And I avoid people with no sense of humor.

Gotta have the combination... then everything else falls into place.

[johnnie]

10. I'm not picky when it comes to friends

I can adjust to many different types of people. I don't usually find myself in a situation where I don't like the person I am hanging out with.
As for a mate... It's been so long since I have been in that situation. I guess she would have to like me, then we can go from there. I like a woman to be intelligent and humorous. Having a lot on common is also good and I have a lot of interests, so that's not a problem.
Actually, at this point, I will be open to just about any woman..lol.
Naw, kidding.

[edbermac]

11. A beautiful body and a sick mind...

Kinda like Angelina Jolie...

:woohoo:

[redqueen]

13. Intelligence, empahy, passion, curiosity...

and after reading Heaven and Earth's post, I must add HONESTY and kindness.

[hfojvt]

26. "well if you don't mind my saying so

there's not a man alive
who could hope to measure up
to that blend of Paul Bunyan,
Saint Pat and Noah Webster
you've concocted for yourself
out of your Irish imagination,
Iowa stubborn-ness and your
library full of books."

Honesty and kindness? Aren't they going to cancel out?
What about playfullness, erudition, and an ability to quote
"The Music Man"?

[Debi]

14. Being able to be silent and not be uncomfortable

It shows that we don't need small-talk to converse. Sometimes just a look can cause laughter. Sometimes a pat on the back is all that's needed for sorrow.

[RevCheesehead]

32. That's what happened to my mom and dad.

She told me she knew he was the one, because they could take long drives together and not have to keep up a conversation.

Contrary to what it looks like here, I do like my quiet moments, too.

[Debi]

34. I'd take a quiet moment w/KO

any day!! :blush:

[RevCheesehead]

40. umm- Hmmmm!

:loveya:

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

15. My 4yo often draws me and shows it to Mommy

Look, my arm is bigger than my body! :silly:

[Nikia]

16. I am drawn to intelligent people

who are "different" but who are also empathetic, open minded, and creative. They must have substance and be willing to share themselves. While I don't like people who don't let me get a word in, I don't like people who won't talk about themselves either. I share myself with people as the friendship grows and if they aren't sharing, it seems that things are rather unequal.

[Abelman]

17. Intelligence, humor, kindness

and huge bazoombas.


(thanks to my imagination, I'm in love with almost every girl on DU)

[MrScorpio]

18. Wittiness, a nice smile, femininity, neatness, fitness

and self confidence

[leftofthedial]

19. eyes

sense of humor

intelligence

[SOteric]

20. Connection. Affinity.

It's hard to describe but there have been a handful of people in my life with whom I've had an indefinable instant bond; an ability to 'click,' - to understand and enhance one another.

Intelligence is a necessity, as is humour.

[Misunderestimator]

21. A No. 2 Pencil...

[belladonna]

22. Intelligence is key with me

Passion and a great sense of humor round out the top three things I look for in a guy

[Solly Mack]

23. a smile that touches the eyes

[VelmaD]

24. It would be easy to just say...

humor and intelligence and that kind of thing. It would be even easier to joke and say warm hands and a tight butt. The truth is something indefinable. That connection that is impossible to put into words.

[Bok_Tukalo]

27. Confidence

and response to my advance.

[Sugar Smack]

28. I love a person with natural curiosity.

I like people who really want to understand; that makes a good listener. Honesty and intelligence and passion draw me to another person. Also, a sense of humor is NECESSARY!!!!



:toast:

[Bok_Tukalo]

30. That's interesting. I would like to know more.

<ope>

[Sugar Smack]

31. Responding to your advances! Hehehe!!

My own natural curiosity kicks in and I ask you, dear Bok_Tukalo of the creek and lovely eyes- what's <ope> mean?

Don't you like it when a person notices things almost nobody else ever does but you? Some of my best friends are keen & talented mimics. They're shy until you get to know them, but their curiosity & humor compels them to "become" someone else for a few short minutes. That's when you know someone's listening.

For the record, there was a picture thread you participated in and your observations were amazing. It took the thread from being what some would call a "vanity" thread (not me-I love pic threads!) to a really nice story telling session as well.

:) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)

[Bok_Tukalo]

33. I alternate between "ope" and "poe" because I got tired of "eom"

It's a silly reference to one of my favorite films. I thought about being obscure and <ome> and <moe> but opted for the obvious.

"Don't you like it when a person notices things almost nobody else ever does but you?"

Yes. But I am a natural observer and tend to enjoy trying to puzzle things out; try to determine context and narrative from a limited amount of information. It also makes for some fun when you are with someone to establish wild scenarios about individuals just walking through the park.

[Debi]

36. All right you two

get a room :pals:

[Sugar Smack]

38. BWAAAAAAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!

I've wanted to say that to several people more than once today in the lounge!!!

BIG TIME!

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

[Sugar Smack]

37. OOohh- I forgot "getting your references"!!!!

Let the record show that I love "Nighthawks at the Diner"- the painting AND the Tom Waits CD.

And what you're talking about sounds like a scene I've shared with a few boyfriends over time- a scene straight out of "Annie Hall". We'd sit on a bench and say nothing as we observed a crazy person talking to herself- but we'd start editorializing when we spotted the girl wearing a tee-shirt that said, "Princess" or "Spoiled Brat". I like that sort of feeling of being "sympatico".

[Bok_Tukalo]

39. Even though we do not have a room ...

I've never seen Annie Hall

It's one of those movies you are suppose to see but never get around to it.

The problem with that feeling of "sympatico" is that it usually takes years to develop and if you fortunate enough to spark it right off with someone, you are in for a wild ride that often ends rather badly and takes a while to recover from.

[Sugar Smack]

42. Sometimes, no.

Sometimes, you meet someone and in ten minutes, you've got "inside jokes" for the next 10 years. Your sense of humor and outlook meshes with theirs so completely that you have to just look at them and smile, knowing that the next thing they say will be brilliant. (Had it; lost it)

I feel inspired with some of my friends. When we're together, we come up with ideas we'd never have had alone. We build off of each other. I come away from those encounters feeling like I've learned something and spent a day in the spa.

[Wapsie B]

29. There just has to be this chemistry,

this indescribable need to be with this person. Intelligence and humor are part of it. But there just has to be this attraction that's there. It's something you either have or you don't between two people.

[RevCheesehead]

35. Kindness, wisdom, and humbleness.

Wisdom (not necessarily intelligence) is a product of the soul, as much as the mind. How one treats others says a lot about character.
"Down-to-earth" comfortableness. Laughter. A merry heart.

Oh, and how could I forget: liberal/progressive, and loves cats. :)


(sort of a lot like this guy here)

[mark414]

41. i am a 20 year old college student

it doesn't take much

[CaliforniaPeggy]

43. That's true, when you're 20;

But when you're 40, it's another matter entirely. Then you don't have as much *ummm* testosterone and things like that, and you need more intellectual stimulants, if you get my drift...

[mark414]

44. haha yeah

i can worry about that when im old though; for now... :evilgrin:

[SarahB]

45. I'm not even sure.

Rarely, rarely do I ever feel drawn to anyone beyond the combination of friendship combined with physical attraction. That in itself is nice, but on rare occasions, I just have this thing of I "get someone" and they "get me" and it's almost inexplicable, but instant. That is when my brick wall is down and I'm vulnerable and I hate it because I can never seem to be there without being metaphorically kicked in the teeth by the person I feel that for. I don't even know if I can these days. :(

I feel like I'm going to just shut off again sometimes. Like I'm going to fall into a hole and never come out. I try to build up that wall, but I can't do it like I'd like. Stupid optimism takes hold and makes me have passing moments of confidence again.

[Huckebein the Raven]

46. Intelligence, humor, and seductive eyes in terms of something more

fun, down to earth, gamer (optional)....

:shrug: