Ladies: How do you feel about PUBLIC proposals?

[yvr girl]

I saw this clip of a proposal at half-time during a basketball game. The chick fled.

I felt bad for the guy, but I can't imagine a proposal I'd like less.

[MissMillie]

1. I'd settle for any sincere proposal

from a man that I love.

Unfortunately I have a knack for picking men who "aren't ready" for commitment.

[aintitfunny]

2. I have heard that some under

these conditions have said yes so as not to totally humiliate the guy, then backed out later. I would hate it.

[mark414]

3. ouch i saw that

poor guy

i'd never do it

[RagingInMiami]

4. I saw that, but what an idiot

And a lot of times I see public proposals on TV and the woman accepts, but I always wonder if she did so because it was almost expected of her.

I would never do such a thing. Why share such a personal and memorable moment with half the world?

[Sparkle]

5. I heard that was staged.

[Lavender Brown]

6. I was at a restaurant when a man proposed to his girlfriend

It's obviously more intimate than a sports stadium proposal, but I still felt kind of bad for the couple because everyone was staring at them and then started clapping when she said yes.

[yvr girl]

11. I'd prefer something more private myself

But at least it's not going to be on the nightly news.

[Sanity Claws]

7. They're terrible

A public proposal seems to be more about "him" than the two of them together. A guy has to have such a swelled head about him that he thinks she would never say no or let's talk about it. Why would any sane person want to interject the public into this very private part of their lives?

[BlueJazz]

14. You Bet...I agree... I've been in the same public place when..

..one of these "Events" has happened and quite frankley, I find it very UNromantic....

[SamanthaJones]

8. I'd suggest if the guy is not sure the woman will say yes

he should do it privately where he won't be AS embarassed if she rejects him.

[LisaM]

9. What are these "proposals" and how do you get them?

No, really, I've been with the same guy since 1987 and I haven't gotten one yet!!!!! (He doesn't seem ready to leave, though.)

In this case, I don't feel too bad. If a guy is that willing to humliate himself if she says no, he is the type who will propose to someone else. If the woman can get a guy to be that ga-ga over her, she'll get another proposal from someone else (I don't know why this is true, but it is - if she can attract one proposal, guaranteed she will get others.)

[Lerkfish]

10. its stupid and unfair to the woman

It consiously or unconsiously attempts to coerce a yes response via public pressure.

Why would you put that much pressure on an extremely private event? I've always found it a chickensh!t thing for a man to do. Whoever is stupid enough to do so DESERVES to get a no answer.

[zanne]

12. Ugh!

Whenever I see some guy doing that I cringe. Sometimes, women say NO! If they have to say it in public, everybody has to be uncomfortable, but if you're shot down in private, at least you're not annoying people.

[jswordy]

13. OOPS! Pardon me! I just stumbled in here cuz I thought...

it said "PUBIC proposals!"

C-ya!

[eyesroll]

15. It would be OK if I was expecting it...

...you know, if we'd already discussed marriage and the future and it was just a matter of making it official.

If it was out of the blue, I'd be very, very uncomfortable.

On balance, I think I'd rather it be at least semi-private (in a restaurant, for example) regardless.

This of course, presupposes I wouldn't take matters into my own hands and do the asking myself. (And, if I did, while it might be in a restaurant, it wouldn't be via JumboTron.)

[Technowitch]

16. I'm with you

Making a private moment into a public spectacle?

Basically, it presumes a 'yes' answer. I'd be offended at the assumption. 'Asking' someong to marry you is supposed to be a question, not a foregone conclusion.

-Technowitch

[_TJ_]

17. I'd be happy with an indecent proposal

eom

[yvr girl]

18. You might get arrested for that in a stadium

Remember the bruhaha over Janet Jackson

[ContraBass Black]

22. It's been several months since I've recieved one of those myself.

[Ariana Celeste]

19. I would verymuch prefer a private proposal.

For one thing... I am scared to death of crowded areas and strangers.
I absolutely loathe having people I don't know staring at me.

And I don't see any need for the world to know what's going on in my personal life, unless I feel like sharing.

I'm just not a PDA person, nor do I like attention.

[progmom]

20. I dunno, but I really want to copycat your thread.

:P

[yvr girl]

21. fill your boots

[progmom]

23. with?