Happy update to Little Bouncy's broken heart last night....

[Bouncy Ball]

If you read this thread: http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=2793238&mesg_id=2793238

you know that my daughter was horribly disappointed when the mother of a girl who had invited her to a classical concert just blew her off. I went back and read all the responses and was amazed at all of them. Wow. Thank you, lounge lizards. You really are the best.

Well, when my husband got home, I told him the whole story. He got angrier and angrier and told our daughter to put her dressier clothes back on, that he was taking her. He showered and changed and I said "Your shoulder--don't you need to take your medicine and elevate it?" (He has something wrong with his shoulder, neck and arm. Has seen a neurologist and can't feel three fingers on his right hand. He's in pain a lot and when he gets home, he has to take a pain pill and get comfortable, etc.)

He said nevermind that. He was so angry. Our daughter was so thrilled.

I had to leave for class, so I didn't see them go, but when I got home, she was asleep and he was in bed, awake. I asked him how it went and he said he wouldn't have missed it for the world. Said she was entranced by the music and her violin teacher (a university student who is a viola player) was performing. He said it was a very special evening for both of them. They didn't see the mom and daughter our daughter was supposed to go with.

Then I asked him about his arm. He said it got so bad that on the way home, he had to drive really slowly and with one arm, because he could hardly move it for the pain. He has a really high tolerance for pain so I knew it had to be bad. Said he didn't care, it was worth it. Made me promise not to tell our daughter how badly he was hurting, he doesn't want her to feel bad about it.

He fell asleep shortly after, and I stood there staring at him, wondering if she'll ever know just how much he loves her.

The concert was all she could talk about this morning.

[CatBoreal]

1. Wow!

Now there's a great Daddy.

[Bertha Venation]

2. Your husband ROCKS OUT LOUD.

Thanks for this fab update, BB. (You rock, too.)

I love your family. :hug:

[Bouncy Ball]

37. Thank you Bertha

:hug:

Did I ever tell you how long it took me to "get" your screen name??? LOL!! I had to finally say it out loud and then I laughed!

[AverageJoe]

3. Jeeze, wonderful

Your husband is a great guy, a great dad. I have a two-year-old son and I hope I am as good a father to him as your husband is to your daughter. Your post made me tear up....

[Bouncy Ball]

20. I did plenty of that last night

(tearing up).

On the way to class, thinking about what he was doing.

And then staring at him last night, wondering what I did to deserve such a great guy.

I bet you are a great dad....

[ET Awful]

4. Your daughter is a very lucky kid to have a dad like that :)

That is so cool :).

I think you and she should get together and plan something extra-special for dad, or at least a token of appreciation . . . maybe (considering his should pain, etc.) a gift certificate for a nice long massage or something would be the ticket :).

[Not_Giving_Up]

How wonderful!

I'm glad that she got to go, what a Dad! The other mom should have at least called, shame on her!

I feel his pain (literally)...My right shoulder has been locked sine Tuesday, and I'm losing grip in that hand...dropping my fork just trying to eat. I have a doc appt today, hopefully will find something to help it.

[ewagner]

5. Wonderful family

That's what family values are all about....

thanks so much for sharing this with us....I'm privileged to know ya'!!!!

[gollygee]

6. What a sweet story!

it made me all teary :)

[MissMillie]

7. You've got yourself a winner, Bouncy

Hold on with both hands!


I'm glad little Bouncy's night out was saved... and by such a dashing hero!

[mordarlar]

8. Oh, this will never be forgotten by her. I am so glad it worked out.

[progmom]

9. I love your husband.

Thanks for sharing this with us.

[Bouncy Ball]

14. ...

;-) I do, too.

I am trying to think of something special I can do for him this weekend. Any ideas?

[fudge stripe cookays]

26. Well, other than the obvious?

;-)

Make him a completely amazing dinner and smooch a lot.

FSC

[Bouncy Ball]

29. That's on the menu.

TMI?

;-)

I haven't done this in a long time: one time I said "go out by yourself and go see a movie, stay out all day if you want."

It was a Saturday and our daughter was very young. He did stay out all day, said it was the best mental vacation.

Think I might encourage him to do that again.

[MuseRider]

10. If it would not hurt

him too much give him a great big hug from me. What a guy. This story just made my day, maybe even my week. :hug:

[Bouncy Ball]

24. LOL

I've learned to hug him around the waist lately. I accidentally hurt him a couple of times with some overambitious hugging.

Thanks!

[ComerPerro]

11. Glad to see there's a happy ending.

[Left Is Write]

12. I'm in tears, Bouncy.

You tell Mr. Bouncy what a really special guy he is, will you?

And give Little Bouncy a hug for me.

[Bouncy Ball]

25. I was, too.

Thank you, sweetie. I will.... :hug:

[Burma Jones]

13. What a Mensch

Tell your husband he's a good man, there's no better compliment.

[movie_girl99]

15. what a guy

that's such a great story. Kids grow up so fast and sadly enough some parents dont realize that they'll never get that time back. you and your daughter are very lucky to have him.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

16. Your husband is a gem

Hang onto him. :-)

[Bouncy Ball]

30. Fifteen years this summer

I've been with him. No plans to trade him in. ;-)

[fluffernutter]

17. damn it woman, you made me cry first thing.

that was so damn sweet. you are all very lucky to have each other.

[Bouncy Ball]

31. Sorry!!

:hug:

[fluffernutter]

48. don't be sorry, i love a heartwarming story like that.

it's the little things in life that can be the biggest blessings.

[CO Liberal]

18. You're Husband's a Good Man, Bouncy

:-)

[yvr girl]

19. That's wonderful news

Your daughter will remember this for a long time.

[Bouncy Ball]

32. I hope so.

I hope it's one of those special memories that get lodged deep inside.

[redqueen]

21. I couldn't stand to read that other post.

I did... but I didn't even know what to say. I find myself feeling the same way when things like that happen to my kids.

As for this post... your daughter is fortunate to have such a kind, caring father.

[RaleighNCDem]

22. That almost made me cry!

I'm a 'daddy's girl' so I know that a father-daughter evening had to be great for her. They still are special to me, and I'm 25. :D

[Bouncy Ball]

33. Once a daddy's girl, ALWAYS a daddy's girl

(from another daddy's girl...)

[Misunderestimator]

23. That's wonderful... what great parents you both are!

:thumbsup: (She knows how much he loves her, I'm sure)

[Bouncy Ball]

34. Shucks

thanks!

[Bouncy Ball]

27. I just realized something.

I can NEVER gripe about him on DU now. Y'all would jump my ass if I did.

LOL!!!

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

54. No need for that

We'll just sic Skittles on ya. :evilgrin:

[auntAgonist]

28. Your daughter is one lucky girl!

And you are truly blessed to have a husband who loves and cherishes you and your family enough to put his needs / pains aside to bring some joy into your lives.


I wish you many more happy years together.

auntAgonist
aka kesha

[Bouncy Ball]

35. Thank you aunt Agonist.

:hug:

I agree!!!

[Blue Diadem]

36. Thank you Bouncy for updating us,

I read your post late last night and was wondering how your daughter was doing today.

Tears and smiles are on my face right now. I'm so glad she was able to go to the concert.

Your husband is one very special guy!

[LynzM]

38. That's awesome

What a terrific thing for him to do. Wow. I'm glad things worked out for her to get to go, and sorry that it caused him so much pain. I hope he can get some relief from it.

[Bouncy Ball]

39. He took one of his pills as soon as they got home, LOL.

Sorry I forgot to mention that. By the time I talked to him, he was feeling noooo pain, LOL.

As far as long term stuff goes, we're in "wait and see" mode, which seems more to me as "wait and be in pain" mode, but who knows?

[LynzM]

41. Geez...

I'm glad he has some temporary relief, but I hope they can figure out something long-term. :hug: He definitely deserves a dad-of-the-year surprise, of some sort!

[jswordy]

40. That is kewl. Thanks for sharing it.

I'll bet you had never been so in love with him as you were gazing at him as he slept. Wonderful ending!

[Bouncy Ball]

43. LOL, I was actually wondering what he's going to be like as

an old man. What a weird thought, eh?

[jswordy]

53. No, it is very appropriate. I understand it, too!! n/t

[steve2470]

42. your husband is a keeper, that is wonderful !!! nt

[AlCzervik]

44. He's a wonderful Dad.

[Rainbowreflect]

45. Ok, now I'm crying.

What a wonderful father. Bless his heart.
I hope he feels better very soon, he so deserves it.

[SW FL Dem]

46. Your hubby is awesome!

I can see why you married him. You and your daughter are very lucky.

[Midlodemocrat]

47. What a wonderful man.

You are very lucky. But, I bet he is lucky as well. A wonderful story.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

49. That's wonderful news!

I hope Mr. Bouncy was able to enjoy it in spite of his pain.

My husband had problems a couple of years ago that sound very similar...neck & shoulder pain and numbness in his fingers. It turned out to be herniated discs in his neck, which the Dr treated with medication at first, but ultimately needed to be removed.

Your husband should get an MRI...

~hugs to all of you~

[Bouncy Ball]

56. THAT'S what he called it! Herniated disks in his neck!

Thank you, I was struggling to remember what he said. He's had an MRI, the whole nine yards. We're hoping he doesn't need surgery, but it's not looking good.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

64. When Mr GoG started to get involuntary twitches in his legs

and lost his balance a couple of times, I made him go to the doctor. He set him up for emergency surgery the next morning. The surgeon put all my worst fears completely at ease. He explained the procedure completely, in layman's terms, and without being patronizing.

It's been a little over a year now. Mr GoG's much better than he was, but he really needs to get some physical therapy...

[GOPisEvil]

50. Ya know, I'm envious of the Bouncy family.

Having met Bouncy Ball and Little Bouncy, and now reading about Mr. Bouncy, I'm thinking they have a great life. I'm envious. Y'all are good people.

[Bouncy Ball]

57. Aw, please don't be. We have our problems

and troubles like everyone else. I mean, I do love my life, but it's by no means worthy of envy!

You are good people, too. Remember, I've met YOU, too! ;-) I loved how pissed off you got at all the red, white and blue at the Super Bowl half time show.

[GOPisEvil]

67. Yeah, yeah, but you have each other.

That's the worst thing about single-dom: you're always battling alone.

Yeah, I can get a tad peeved at certain things. :7

[Bouncy Ball]

68. Well

I don't know if this means anything, but we really don't have any family beyond the three of us. Not at all. So we've made our friends our extended family. One of my best friends is single and she's done the same thing: her friends are family to her. She's family to us.

But I hear ya. The grass is always greener I guess: I've NEVER lived alone, never been alone, and I hate to admit, somedays I wonder what that would be like (especially when my house is NEVER quiet and I can't get anything done and we're all annoying each other).

I went from my parent's house, to living with three roommates, to being married (senior year in college), to having a child. That brings us to the present. I have never. Lived. Alone.

And I'm pretty much an introvert. Sometimes I think it would be neat if we could find someone we wanted to switch lives with and do that for about a month or two, see what it's like...

[GOPisEvil]

70. I try to do that when I can, but all my friends have other lives.

They're getting married, having kids, and all of that. There's something about having someone who's been through the bad times to help you appreciate the good times. Friends just can go so far.

It was always my parents and I. We hardly ever lived near other family, and we still don't. I guess that makes us closer to one another, which is nice.

Since moving out of my parents' house, I have always lived alone, save for the two years or so I had a roommate. Sometimes it's too quiet. I'm an introvert too, but that doesn't mean I dislike human contact.

[GOPisEvil]

75. I have hijacked your happy thread with my whining.

Sorry 'bout that.

I'm done whining now. :-)

[Bouncy Ball]

78. Stop that, whine all you want.

I don't own this thread.

In fact, now I COMMAND you to whine some more. It's fun, here, I'll start:

My OCD is really getting bad and it's a pain in the arse. When you can't eat a bowl of cereal without counting every damn Cheerio on the spoon before you eat a bite and make sure every spoonful has the same number of Cheerios, something is wrong with you.

Today before my eye exam, I was walking around Foley's and I saw a display that had some items that were a bit off, so I straightened them up so everything was at right angles to each other.

Whine whine whine, I'm messed up.

[GOPisEvil]

81. Damn, you are messed up!

;-)

Sorry about that OCD - it can be a big pain in the ass. I think I have a mild form of it, but it's not out of control at all.

[Bouncy Ball]

83. I'm not sure mine's out of control (but how would I know? LOL!)

but sometimes it is worse than others. Today was a bad day for it.

[GOPisEvil]

84. Sometimes I can let stuff slide, sometimes I have to deal with it.

Strange. I have the picture straightening thing. Sometimes I don't even care, but sometimes it's the most important thing.

[bleedingheart]

51. How sweet....

what a great dad he is!

by the way sounds like he has a herniated disc in his neck...I get the same symptoms when the discs are irritated by swelling..etc...
tell him to take good care of himself!!!

[Bunny]

52. Way to go Mr. Bouncy Ball!

That is the perfect ending! :)





(PS - I still think you should take a shovel to that other mother. It'll make ME feel better!)

[ronnykmarshall]

55. I'm an grinning ear to ear.

Your husband rocks!

:yourock:

That story made my day.

[HEyHEY]

58. I thought they all died in a fiery crash - but this is good too

[xmas74]

59. That is wonderful.

I'm sure that the evening was better because she went w/ Daddy instead of the friend.

[bigwillq]

60. What a great dad!

I'm so happy for your daughter!
What a great story!:hi:

[fleabert]

61. that gave me goosebumps! what great parents you both are!

:loveya: :yourock:

[Book Lover]

62. Yay!!!!

What a man. What a family. I am *so* glad she was able to go.

[skygazer]

63. What a great dad

That's such a sweet story.

I had surgery for my herniated disc last year - it was a long recovery period but it was well worth it - I have no pain whatsoever anymore.

Has he tried any physical therapy? I was going prior to the surgery and much of it was very helpful, particularly the traction. It helped kind of stretch out the vertabrae which helped keep them from pinching that nerve (had the same numbness, pain and tingling in my arm. It was horrible).

I wish him luck - I suffered for many years with this and know what he's going through.

[housewolf]

65. You be one lucky lady, Bouncy-Ball...

to have a husband as sensitive and unselfish as that.

And your daughter is especially lucky to have such a father!

You did good when you picked him...

[Maddy McCall]

66. Bouncy, I'm so glad to hear this...

Tell hubby that we all should be so lucky to have a spouse/father like him.

(Does he have a brother? :D )

[Bouncy Ball]

No, only a bitchy sister.

Sorry, that was bitchy of me to say. But she really is. He's the only son of the only son of the only son. And had a daughter, LOL!

[Debi]

69. I have one of THOSE husbands as well

Our son is SO lucky he has a dad that puts him first...it's not that way for many kids. I hope he's setting an example for my son to follow with his children.

[Schema Thing]

71. We dads really are heros, y'know?

lol, don't stone me, Moms are too!

Hoo-rah for BouncyDad and BouncyKid. And to hell with BouncyUn-Friends.

btw, she'll know someday, if she has kids of her own.

[roguevalley]

72. tears, bouncy, there are tears here. Your hubby is a wonderment

and a damned good man. You have a lovely family. Hugs to you all. Contrast that with the sad girl and her sadder mom. You have a great week. I hope your husband feels a lot better soon.

[HeyManThatsCool]

73. That just got me all weepy

You should write that down somewhere for her & give it to her in like 20 years

[Be Brave]

74. OMG! What a wonderful father and husband!

He almost sounds too good to be true. Lucky Bouncy. And I'm sure lucky husband. I'm glad to hear about how things went. I think things like this that parents do for their kids are very validating for the kids and help them to grow up feeling good about themselves. Thanks for sharing, Bouncy! I hope your husband feels better soon.

[Bouncy Ball]

79. Funny thing is,

he wouldn't think of what he did as any big deal at all.

Thanks....

[RFKHumphreyObama]

76. Your husband is a wonderful, wonderful man

What profoundly moving and touching- not to mention inspirational and commendable-thing for your husband to do! what a truly beautiful and wonderful thing for him to do. What a truly great person your husband is!

What a beautiful ending to such a terrible day for your daughter. And once again, your husband has a truly wonderful personality. Not only are you fortunate to have a man such as him but he's precisely the kind of person the world needs more of-caring, considerate, compassionate and someone for whom love and concern for his daughter is obviously so deep and profound

[Bouncy Ball]

80. Oh, wow.

Thanks! I don't think he has any idea he's a great person. I mean, he's not down on himself or anything, he just doesn't think of himself that way...

Thank you again, what a sweet post!

[sendero]

77. Great!

You guys will remember this forever :)

Yeah, there is nothing that can get me pissed off like someone treating my kids badly.

I hope his shoulder/arm gets better soon. Sounds like a pinched nerve or somesuch...

[Zomby Woof]

82. I missed the original

I am sorry BB, and BB Jr.! :hug:

And :grr: to the poopyhead who did that to her!