Quick Sanity / Normalcy Check (I'm kind of losing it....)

[IdaBriggs]

Poll question: Quick Sanity / Normalcy Check (I'm kind of losing it....)

My father passed last night (details and condolences here: http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=2797339 -- MUCH THANKS TO ALL OF YOU). By sheerest coincidence, my "best" friends are temporarily out of state, and I can't get hold of the ones who are local because of "phone problems" (they are in foreclosure, and the phone got cut off).

My husband went to work this morning, and I'm home alone. He has been in meetings all day, and I have no idea when he's going to get home. I'm shaking and starting to cry / freak out. I want him home NOW! In fact, I'm starting to get angry with him for not being here even though the "still sane" portion of my brain understands that he's been working a ton of hours, etc, and that I'm a big girl who can handle all of this by myself.

I have to leave to go to the funeral home at 12:15 p.m. I don't want to go by myself, because I don't want to deal with my REALLY OBNOXIOUS FAMILY without my beloved husband as back-up. He told me last night he wasn't going to be able to be there, and it seemed like (even though I wasn't happy), I was going to be able to function. Now, I'm starting to wonder.

Should I:

[IdaBriggs]

1. UPDATE: He's on his way home now, but I'm still mad at him. nt

[neweurope]

2. Mine would have acted the same way - unless I had explicitly asked him to

stay home. Did you? You know it's too much to expect a man to know how exactly you feel ;) Don't be too mad at him, you'll only add to your problems :hug:

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[IdaBriggs]

4. Yes, I specifically asked him to stay home, but --

he explained how he had a whole bunch of meetings that he couldn't miss. :(

[rbnyc]

3. My husband never would have gone to work in these circumstances.

Sorry. I think if my husband did go to work in this situation, I would try not to think about him and try to focus a=on caring for myself. But I would tell him that I was disappointed and that I felt let down.

Losing a parent is a huge thing. I'm so sorry to hear the news.

I'm glad hubby is on his way home.