Where did you meet your DH/DW or SO?

[arismomkoofie]

Just wondering. Trying to figure out how to meet people (guys)in a mostly-female profession.

Advise welcomed!

[SCRUBDASHRUB]

1. College.

[Nikia]

4. I met my husband in college too

Seeing how most of the guys are around here, I am glad that I did.

[trof]

9. You cast aspersions on DU guys?

Aw, Nikia?
:-(

[alittlelark]

2. In High School, DJ'ing at the same radio station.

'bout 28 years ago.

[purji]

3. I went to a tarot shop

and he read my cards.
I wasn't even looking for a SO at the time,I was taking a break from dating for a while.

[trof]

5. Airport. By a "matchmaker".

A mutual friend had been trying to get us together for months.
Neither one of us had any interest in a blind date.
She (our mutual friend) tricked me into picking up a friend at the airport.
That was about 37 years ago.
The rest, as they say, is history.
Sorry, no help.

[arismomkoofie]

8. it's a great story! n/t

[fluffernutter]

14. wow.

[Misunderestimator]

6. Right here.

:)

[arismomkoofie]

11. hmmmm....

you have enlightened me!

Maybe I should post a "SO wanted" ad!

j/k. That would be to easy, and I would jinx myself :)

[Misunderestimator]

12. I think you would probably get a lot of responses.

...not sure they'd all be what you wanted, but you never know... :)

[trof]

17. can't remember specifics,but...

more than one happy meeting has happened here.

[greatauntoftriplets]

29. Me too....

And I wasn't looking. I think the "not looking" part helped.

He no longers posts here...doesn't need to.

:D

[flamingyouth]

68. Me too

Sadly, he's sick with a horrible cold tonight.:(

[wtmusic]

7. Cubs game. n/t

[hatredisnotavalue]

10. Kept trying to sell me insurance....

Never bought the insurance, but will have been married 25 years this October.

[Phentex]

13. Work.

He was my transitional boyfriend. HA!

[trof]

15. OK, I'd like to hear more about what a TB is?

Transitional Boyfriend?
Thanks.
:hi:

[Phentex]

18. Coming off a heavy duty relationship....

years worth....and pretty sick of all of it. Planning to just date for fun for a while. And then you meet a guy and everything seems to be too good to be true. You keep seeing him, knowing you aren't going to get serious and you tell your rooommate he's just the transitional boyfriend, somebody to have fun with to get you over that roller coaster crash...till you really, really, REALLY meet The One. And then you're scared shitless because you've never felt anything like it before. And there's no head games and petty crap.

And 14 years and 2 kids later, you still feel lucky you stuck your big toe back into the water! :)

[arismomkoofie]

20. GREAT description!!!

[trof]

22. Damn. My monitor seems to have misted up.

Got kinda blurry there for a minute.
Thanks for the reply.
Ya got me.
I admire that in a person.
:-)

[Az]

16. Met her at an anime festival during the Hash Bash in Ann Arbor

We have been attending the same monthly anime festival together now for over ten years.

The simple way to meet someone you will be able to form a relationship with is to develop your passions. Find things you enjoy doing. Do them. Do them with other people. In time you will find the right person that already shares at the very least one passion with you.

The problem with trying to meet someone is you are trying to meet someone. You are not doing what you will be doing once you have met them. So find what you like to do. Find people that like doing it. And there you will find that someone special.

[arismomkoofie]

24. I have a 2 year old so

I don't DO much besides work. That is the beauty of computers. I can still be a mom and converse with people. I have looked into hiking clubs (since I can do that with my daughter), but I am one of those people that mostly reads, especially during the winter when there isn't much to do outside.

Crap I reread this and it sounds like I am whining, sorry!

[Az]

28. No worries

Whine if you want to (it didn't seem as if you were to me).

Well you have already stated your passions (some of them anyways). Computers, reading, and your daughter. Develop these and find ways to incorporate others with them. Local libraries and bookstores often have clubs. Computers have proven to be a way to meet others (though the mask of anonymity does increase the need for caution).

Its all there before you. Your life is the way to meet people. You just have to learn how to see it.

[tjdee]

37. Another single mom here.

I love the internets... no one can tell I'm typing and answering thousands of questions about calenders.

[arismomkoofie]

40. LOL!

[auntAgonist]

19. Online mIRC

we chatted for 5 months, phone calls, emails etc. Met for a long weekend in Ann Arbor (he's from California, I'm from Ontario Canada) that was May, .. met again in August that same year for a quiet week at a cottage up north in the Upper Peninsula. I flew to California in November for thanksgiving weekend (just the weekend what a rush). I flew to CA again in Feb for 10 days. He moved back (used to live in MI) to MI the following June. We were married on March 24/00

and that's the truth :)

[fudge stripe cookays]

45. I believe you, AA!

reprehensor and I were an internet match as well. Me in Texas and him in Alberta.

I placed an ad, and didn't think about it for months. He contacted me in Dec 98. We kept writing, he came down for the first time in March of the next year. I went up in July, then went back up there for the millenium New Years.

He moved won for good in May of 2000, and we were married in July. It's been almsot 5 years now. For you too!

FSC

[achtung_circus]

21. I need to ask

what is a D.H. or a D.W.? S.O. I know and dislike.

However, my soon-to-be-ex-wife and I met in college in the early 80's.

My GF and I have known each other forever, just not in "that way"
I mean forever, when my mother brought me home from the hospital waiting to meet her was her best friend, accompanied by best friend's new baby daughter. That's forever.

When I moved home we started , um interacting.

[arismomkoofie]

25. Sorry! DH/DH =dear husband/dear wife, and SO is signifigant other

too much time in various forums!

[DS1]

I thought it was for Divorced

:shrug:

[achtung_circus]

39. Is it me?

Dear Husband sounds, oh I don't know, North Korean, a la Dear Leader.

[arismomkoofie]

42. I agree, and it can also mean damn husband.

Oh, well, I didn't make it up!

[Malikshah]

54. Gotta agree

Freaks me out when I read it--sounds so Norman Rockwell a creepy like.

Have to admit, though, that the main reason I get that feeling is that I first encountered this usage on a forum where a lot of folks are so neo-conlike once you scratch the surface that they "taint" the terminology to a degree (the board is for folks w/ MS--when OT-Politics issues are raised--the "leaders" of the board swoop down, denounce and destroy--and then state "no politics discussed" and close off threads...)

[fit4life]

23. In a grocery store parking lot.

I was hanging out with some friends and she was trying to get away from a guy who was trying to get her to go out with him. She asked me to take her for a ride on my motorcycle and away we went!

[Southsideirish]

26. At work. He was reading a book that was a favorite of mine and we

began a discussion of it.

[Cuban_Liberal]

27. A blind date arranged by a mutual friend.

Corny though it may sound, it was love (or DEEP infatuation, at minimum) at first sight for both of us.

:D

[Smallberries]

30. Serendipity

Honestly, the happiest couples I know (including my wife and myself) met purely by accident.

In my case, my car was stuck in the mud and I called upon her family to help extricate it. We've been married for 13 years.

How the hell do you plan for that?

[WindRavenX]

31. democraticsingles.net

...recommended by other DUers :7
He's a perfect match- it couldn't be any more perfect.

[arismomkoofie]

34. On my way there now!

Thanks!

[Magrittes Pipe]

32. At a crappy bar where crappy bands played.

I got my eye stepped on there, and it smelled of wee.

[benny05]

33. Heading a Search Committee

To find a position within my unit. Tall, blue eyes, handsome. Our chemistry clicked when I discovered he played golf. I play the 19th hole, and we talked a lot about golf. I thought to myself, damn, if he doesn't get the position, should I call him anyway?" and he said later he thought the same thing. Ah...

[Tom_Foolery]

35. I was the overnight DJ at a Top 40 station...

She called in to request a song. We struck up a converstation. It took us six months to meet face to face. We've been together almost seven years.

[smbolisnch]

36. Back to school dance, freshman year, 11 years ago.

:D

[tsakshaug]

38. I was dating her best friend

Her friend dumped me, but conviced (now) wonderful wife to give me a call.

[notadmblnd]

41. he was my parents next door neighbor

I used to stop at my parents house and wash my car on the weekends, he walked up to talk to my stepdad one day and mumbled something to me while I was bent over washing my wheels. Didn't give it much thought then but a few weeks later I get this phone call late one night, the voice said he was my secret admirer. I had had just enough to drink and invited him over... he never showed.

When my stepdad got sick we ran into each other while visiting and went and had coffee and it went from there. He moved in with me about a year later. It's funny because I remember as he was hanging his clothes in the closet he said to me..... it's not that I want to, but if I did, would you marry me? I knew then it was just a matter of time. We didn't tie the know till 1990 and our son was born in 1993. My husband passed away in 2003 but we sure did have some good times while it lasted.

[ScreamingMeemie]

43. 7th grade. 12 years old. He sat behind me. We dated and broke up at 18

and then ran into each other again at 22. Should have never left him in the first place. Life got sour in those four years. I owe a lot of who I am to him today....

[leanin_green]

44. Are you a nurse by chance?

I was in nursing(thinking of going back)in the 80's. Discovered reverse discrimination and felt the pains of sexual harrassment. I was the only male on my floor. Really sensitized me to women's issues. All that discovery has blessed my marriage to a more traditional woman. She loves the way I treat her(she was never used to it). I haven't the heart to tell her how common I am in places like California, where I'm from. Met her while being at home tending to my sick father. Just met her as I was living life. I find that's the usual way that works. Don't press it, when it's time, he will come.

[arismomkoofie]

48. actually, I am a teacher.

there are few men teachers except HS and colleges

[leanin_green]

52. Ahh, then you equally have my respect, and. . .

my suggestion still goes. Continue living your life, pursue your interests and you will meet others(men too)of like mind. I found the more I pushed it, the further it got away. It will come, rest assured. And if you meet doing something your interested in you will already have that in common. As my favorite character, played by Val Kilmer, in Tombstone Doc Holiday said, "Live Wyatt, right on to the hilt."

[annabanana]

46. in a taxi line

No, not the 'dime a dance" kind.. We both drove radio cars for a car service (12 hour shifts, ...gawd) and when it was slow the cars would line up and wait for dispatch to call.

(He made me laugh)

[kdmorris]

47. I was dating his neighbor...

and became best friends with him and then fell in love. Being in love with your best friend is one of the best things I've ever experienced.

[latebloomer]

49. personal ad

that I placed in a local weekly paper. Turned out we knew some of the same people but our paths had never crossed.

[Missy Vixen]

50. I met my husband through a personal ad as well

We dated for nine months and got married. Year Eleven and it's still going strong.

Julie

[fortyfeetunder]

61. Also answered a personal ad

It was on a dare 21 yrs ago by a friend who always was using this particular paper to find dates. Was so non committed to the idea I threw the paper away after writing the letters. So when the H called, I had no clue which letter I wrote to him. Apparently he didn't care, we've been hitched 20 yrs more or less.

[JanMichael]

51. JanMichael is going to kill me for this one:

But, annoying him on this lounge thread was the first time I ever remember seeing my husband--enjoy!

http://www.democraticunderground.com/cgi-bin/duforum/duboard.cgi?az=show_thread&om=20510&forum=DCForumID59&archive=yes

[Misunderestimator]

75. OMG... That's great! A glimpse into the past...

it was very cute too... :) And of course, NSMA had to join in. :D

Great thread!

Oh and, btw... here's my first budding of a romance with you know who... (not quite as captivating as yours :) but it's where it all began)

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=1168887

[JanMichael]

80. Thanks! Yours was very cool imho.

"Think I finally found a reason to like Florida"

Now that's cute:-)

BTW: This is Michael.

[enigmatic]

53. On an internet message board. (not DU)

We've been together 4 years this summer..

[bearfan454]

55. At a Valentine's Day dance at Parents Without Partners

15 years ago. We've been through all kinds of shit, but it is still working.

[yellowdogintexas]

56. In a cave

seriously

we were both caving with the same groups of people and kept winding up at the same place every 4 weeks to go underground, get muddy and sore etc.

when we got married our wedding was in a hotel just outside Mammoth Cave National Park and we had almost 50 cavers in attendance.

[arismomkoofie]

57. oh...I love Mammoth Cave!

Of course, I've just taken a few tours but, WOW!

What a neat story, and wedding!

[yellowdogintexas]

69. Our favorite cave! spent many a fun weekend there over the past

(more than 25) years.

From 1976 until we moved to Texas in 1989 I was up there at least 10 times a year.

Most of the people I consider my closest friends are from my Mammoth Cave days.

[AwakeAtLast]

58. In a bar.

But the thing is, I don't normally bar hop. I met my sister who came in from Chicago. She is the bar hopper. We went into this one bar, I was drinking Margaritas, and he and a friend came up to talk to us. Then he gave me his number! I held on to it for three days before I called it. The rest as they say is history.

After two months - living together
After four months - engaged
After six months - married

That was almost five years and one child ago!

[tigereye]

60. in college when I was running for student govt.

A wild friend from Holland introduced us. He looked like Abbie Hoffman only more than 6 feet tall. Sigh.

[Blue-Jay]

59. We met at a Baptist "swingers" party.

I was in charge of the big bowl of banana-flavored condoms and she was the naked designated driver. Obviously, it was love at first sight.

[salin]

62. er... I know better.

;-)

[prolesunited]

74. Perhaps he's got a fundie hottie on the side?

:shrug:

[salin]

79. Have to admit

it does make an interesting bit of conversation... wonder if that one (how we met story) should be unrolled next November... ;-)

[Taxloss]

63. University.

Almost six years, now.

[Penndems]

64. Through the Democratic Party - where else? :)

We were both working on political campaigns here in Virginia, but we'd never met. I moved into the neighborhood where here was the Democratic Party Precinct Captain.

We've been married for going on four years.

[6000eliot]

65. At a party for mutual friends.

We were sort of fixed up.

[BamaGirl]

66. Basic training

I wanna see someone beat that for weird lol. :P Not a route I'd recommend unless you really want to go in the Army lol. Anyway, we were in the same platoon in basic about 11 years ago, married about a year later.

[u4ic]

67. At work

we were both working a murder mystery for a corporate entertainment company. He was the murderer, and I was the tandem (ie the one setting up clues).

[goodboy]

70. match.com

I was always the one looking at profiles and sending emails. Nobody had emailed me first...it was always me. I'd been a member there for close to two years, and I'd met a few nice people. One day I get this email...it says, "Hi my name is ____, I'm from Estonia. I have red hair and grey eyes. I'm here for 1 more month and looking for someone to hang out with.

I knew when I saw her she was the one. I got her the ring two weeks later. Her visa was to expire on july 1, she had a plane ticket home, and a two year residency-restriction-which meant that she wouldn't be able to come back to the US again for 2 years.

She left on a Tuesday, I was devastated. She called me on Thursday and said, I'm coming home. She flew back across the ocean on Sunday, and we got married Monday.

IT'll be 3 years July 1st.

[goodboy]

71. I KILLED ANOTHER THREAD!!!!!!!! KICK ASS!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[JimmyJazz]

72. maybe you need to add this to your sig line????

[arismomkoofie]

73. Maybe we were all just ASLEEP!

:)

[El Fuego]

76. Something I learned recently: Just get involved in politics to meet men

I was active in the Clark and Kerry campaigns, and geez, all these men in the democratic groups were trying to date me. I'm like, HELLO, this is about the ELECTION, not your love life.

I already have an SO, who I met through a mutual friend.

[CO Liberal]

77. At a Single's Dance in Saddle Brook, NJ

In October 1991. The picture I use for my avatar was taken that night - it was a Halloween Dance, and I was dressed as Robin Hood.

I was walking across the room that night when I heard a feminine voice say "Hey, Robin! Where are your merry men?" I turned around, and there was The Princess. I went over to talk to her, and things developed from there.

Today we're celebrating our 12th wedding anniversary.

[babylonsister]

78. I met mine while visiting my

brother at a beer bash when he was in the Coast Guard on Cape Cod. My hubby was my brother's boss and had his kids hanging all over him. His persistence paid off; we celebrate our 23rd next week!