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trof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 04:51 PM
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My wife is leaving tonight.
And I feel kinda bummed about it.
She likes Mardi Gras parades and scrambling for all the cheap made-in-China beads and gew-gaws the float-riding krewes throw.

I just don't get it.
I finally went to my first Mardi Gras parade last year, so now I can say "been there, done that". <yawn>

I can see how little kids would like it, kinda like Halloween with free goodies and costumes and all. It's just not my idea of a fun thing to do.

Miz t. is going with some friends. These people (including Miz t.) are all in their 60s. The parade is about 30 miles away, it may be drizzling, and the temp will be in the 40s. I'd rather stay here where it's nice and warm and dry and listen to Prairie Home Companion while sucking up a few Scotches.

She says she understands, and it's OK.
They're eating out after the parade, so she's making me pimento cheese for supper, one of my favorites.

I don't think she's pissed, but I feel like a spoilsport.
Should I have sucked it up and gone with her?
Sign me:
Stick-In-The-mud
:-(
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mr_hat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 04:52 PM
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1. If you're older than 19, Mardi Gras is the worst time
Edited on Sat Jan-29-05 04:53 PM by mr_hat
to go to N'awlins.

But then, if I could be 19 again, I'd go in a heartbeat.

edit: Mafdi?
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trof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 04:56 PM
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3. This is in Fairhope, AL.
Small beer, compared to NOLA.
Mardi Gras celebrations actually originated in Mobile, right across the bay.
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mr_hat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 04:57 PM
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4. Beg 'pardon.
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nicolemrw Donating Member (263 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 04:54 PM
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2. if you can't be enthusiastic, better to stay home.
being there and being a wet blanket would have been much worse.
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trof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 04:57 PM
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5. That's about what she said.
"You'd be miserable, so I'd be miserable."
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Rowdyboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 04:57 PM
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6. Depends...Is everyone else going as couples and poor Miz T going stag?
If so, maybe you should have at least offered. But remember, absence really does make the heart grow fonder. Having separate experiences will give you guys something to talk about-bet she has tons of stories!

Anyway, after this many years, you'd KNOW if she really specially wanted you to be there. You must be able to read her moods and body language by now!
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trof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 05:00 PM
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8. She is.
Edited on Sat Jan-29-05 05:00 PM by trof
At least as far as I know.
She is going with a couple down the street.
Let me just say that while I like them, ain't neither one of 'em right bright, if you get my drift.
Voted for...you know.
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Rowdyboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 05:20 PM
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17. She is obviously a forgiving and tolerant woman...
for putting up with them. They'll have a ball, you'll get a kick out of her stories, plus you have a quiet, scotch-drenched evening at home. What could be better?
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trof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 05:23 PM
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18. She is when it comes to me.
Lady cuts me waaaay more slack than I deserve.
When it comes to politics...well...let me just say that she can carry a grudge farther than anyone else I know.
Got your e-mail. We'll make a plan.
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Misunderestimator Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 04:58 PM
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7. Nah... chances are you would have been miserable... and that would have
made her miserable... you're better off not doing something you'd hate.
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trof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 05:02 PM
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9. Mindreader!
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trof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 05:03 PM
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10. If she brings me home a Moon Pie
I'll know she still loves me.
;-)
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GHOSTDANCER Donating Member (550 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 05:04 PM
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11. Heres some beads, now lets see those boobies!!!!!!
<>
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trof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 05:06 PM
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12. Wonder if she will?
Naw...I don't think so.
<hee>
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Democrat 4 Ever Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 05:13 PM
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14. Just reassure her you will be waiting by the phone with bail money
should she and her friends get to partying too hard. Its a rotten job but somebody has to do it. You are just staying home as a safety net for her and her friends. Yeah, that's it, safety net, bail money, designated driver, hate your gonna miss all the fun but duty demands, blah, blah, blah. Kiss her good bye, wish her a happy, happy time and both of you enjoy your night. And stay by the phone.
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trof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 05:18 PM
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15. I'm hiring you for my mouthpiece.
That's what I'm doin'.
I'm stayin' right here JUST IN CASE.
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GHOSTDANCER Donating Member (550 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 08:02 PM
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30. O she will...................whahahahahaha.....lol
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jody Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 05:12 PM
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13. You party pooper! My grandsons went to the Mobile Mardi Gras last week
and had a ball. Of course they are five and six.

You should have gone with your wife. I wish Joyce were here to go with me.

Jody :hi:
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trof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 05:19 PM
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16. Hi guy.
Nice to see you around here again.
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magnolia Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 05:26 PM
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19. One of the reasons romance doesn't last....
...is because couples think they have to MAKE each other happy...when in fact each person has to make themselves happy. Giving your wife the freedom to be happy by being okay with her going, and she giving you the freedom to stay home and enjoy yourself means you two are a very strong and happy couple. You should be proud. You love her and want her to have a great time...right? She wants the same for you. So don't sit home second guessing yourself and feeling guilty. When she gets home listen to her stories and tell her some of Garrison Keillors jokes.
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trof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 05:30 PM
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21. Magnolia speaks truth.
you can't make someone happy.
You can facilitate their way to their own happiness.
Does that make sense?
Does to me, anyway.
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trof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 05:26 PM
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20. Alright...I'm OK. She just came in to say goodbye.
Kissed me on top of my bald old head and said "You're not mad that I'm going are you?"
"Oh HELL no! You're not mad that I'm not, are you?"
"No. You'd hate it. I'll bring you a Moon Pie."

Am I psychic, or what?
:-)
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fluffernutter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 05:37 PM
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22. how wonderful!
you two sound like you have a great relationship :)

i hope she has a blast with her friends and you enjoy your night home alone sucking on scotch.
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trof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 05:41 PM
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24. She likes me a lot.
I ain't braggin', but she really really does.
Maybe because I like her right back.

Not that I'm perfect. I'm not, by a long shot. Neither is she.
But she probably comes closer than I do. By a hair.

As Bill Clinton said, "This ain't rocket science. If you like people, they'll like you back."
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fluffernutter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 05:46 PM
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27. reading about you two as made my night.
i just love a good love story :)

and i agree with Bill too. good philosophy for life ... and love.
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trof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 06:00 PM
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29. Well...just...DIE-YUM!
It's a rare opportunity to make someone's night and I'm very pleased that I made yours.
:-)
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Left Is Write Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 05:40 PM
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23. If it makes you feel any better at all -
My parents, also in their 60s, are on South Padre Island. Still, tonight, my father will be in a comfortable chair, listening to Prairie Home Companion while sucking up a Manhattan or two.

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trof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 05:42 PM
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25. My kinda guy.
:toast: to him.
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Bouncy Ball Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 05:43 PM
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26. You don't think SHE'S pissed?
If I said I was going to Mardi Gras with some friends, I think it would be MY husband who'd be pissed. He wouldn't stop me or anything, but he'd be a bit worried about me earning beads and such.

Nah, you have every right to enjoy doing what you enjoy!

(I never got the appeal of Mardi Gras, either.)
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trof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 05:58 PM
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28. Here's what happened last year:
We went.
With us was a couple who are our very best, closest friends.
We are like brothers and sisters.
When our kids were little, we named each other as guardians in case...well...whatever.
We are godparents to their kids and they are godparents to ours.

They are both physicians. Two of the most intelligent people I know.
Maybe THE most intelligent. I don't know enough about their personal finances to know if they're wealthy, or just "comfortable".
Since they're both doctors, you can draw your own conclusions.

My most vivid memory of the parade is Tish, out in the middle of the street, sometimes in danger of being run over by the next float, with her butt in the air, scrabbling for cheap trinkets. Her hand was stepped on by other revelers a few times. Not at all unusual.

I think it's a sickness.
;-)
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hickman1937 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-05 08:10 PM
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31.  Trof, what's pimento cheese? n/t
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