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Exultant Democracy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-28-05 01:24 PM
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I'm feeling good but guilty about it.
I went out with my ex last night, she dumped me (after dating for over 4 years) a little over a year ago and we hadn't seen each other in about a year.

After we broke up I was a serious mess for a few months, but since we have last seen each other my life has taken a serious upswing.

Her life on the other hand has steadily deteriorated and she is now extremely depressed.

So even though I feel really bad for her, I feel really good today.

The other reason I feel guilty is because I let her flip through the pictures in my camera knowing that she would eventually land on my paycheck from last week. The look on her face was priceless, and she dumped me because she thought I was going nowhere.

So am I right to feel guilty, or should I just enjoy all of this self satisfaction?
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redqueen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-28-05 01:25 PM
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1. I don't think you should feel guilty at all.
Enjoy it. :)
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Bunny Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-28-05 01:27 PM
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2. You had a picture of your paycheck?
Or did I read that wrong? :shrug:
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-28-05 01:32 PM
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5. LOL. I was going to ask the same thing.
Why did you take a picture of your paycheck? Was it your first one, or your first one after a big raise?
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Exultant Democracy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-28-05 01:34 PM
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6. well yeah
It was the first one I had gotten since my promotion and I almost drove off the road when I saw it, so I took a picture.
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jswordy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-28-05 01:42 PM
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8. No you didn't read it wrong, which...
...ought to show you what kinda of value set we are dealing with here!


LOL
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Bunny Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-28-05 01:28 PM
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3. Sorry. Dupe.
Edited on Fri Jan-28-05 01:28 PM by Bunny
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livinginphotographs Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-28-05 01:30 PM
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4. Nah. Enjoy it.
Let's just say she just got hit with the karma stick. Not your fault.
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jswordy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-28-05 01:40 PM
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7. Yer a jerk who apparently gets all your self-image from...
...the reactions of others, and you are shallow as hell for arranging to go out just so you could demean someone else, and setting the whole thing up for maximum payback! Yer sick as hell for actually enjoying piling cruelty onto another human being when they are most vulnerable. It is plain you are the cause of a good deal of the reasons why your relationship didn't work out.

Well, you asked!

Other that that, have a ball.

ROFLMAO
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miss_kitty Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-28-05 01:45 PM
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9. I dumped a bf
and his life spiraled downward then got better than mine and ours had been afterward. It was the combo of us that was not good, and what caused his spiral down was his not believing we weren't really that great together (I referred to us as each other's 'sea anchors') When things got better for him, he perked right up, and deservedly so.

Congrats on the promotion, and feel good because you are doing well, not guilty that you're happy and she's not. We all make our own beds as responsible adults.
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bobbobbins Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-28-05 01:46 PM
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10. hahaha, the same thing happened to me
i got dumped a while ago, girl said i was going no where cuz i worked at a coffee shop. I ran into her a few weeks ago, shes working as a secretary for her dad, and Im makin mad loot in the IT world, plus she got beat with an ugly stick sometime after we stopped dating, and im lookin hotter than ever.
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Exultant Democracy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-28-05 01:54 PM
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11. Ha I was working in a coffee shop too,
I think I'm like a lot of guys in my age group, not a slacker but just a slow starter.
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fluffernutter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-28-05 02:16 PM
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12. happy but guilty sounds normal to me, but
do you still love her?
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