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Beware the Beast Man Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 11:48 AM
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I'm 30, and I still hide my smoking habit from my mother.
I'm going home to Pittsburgh this evening for the Thanksgiving holiday, and I made sure to stop and pick up a bottle of Febreeze to cover up the smoky smell on my clothes. Anyone else here hiding vices from their folks?
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meegbear Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 11:49 AM
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1. Oh good gravy!
Be a (Beast) man!
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Beware the Beast Man Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 11:50 AM
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3. It's my Mommy,
I don't want to upset her :evilfrown:
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Richardo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 11:52 AM
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7. My sister-in-law is over 40 and hides her smoking habit from her mom...
...who would flay her alive if she knew. (One of the original 'earth mothers')
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stinkeefresh Donating Member (563 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 12:19 PM
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28. I can beat that.
My mother is over 50 and she hides her smoking from her mother, who is in her late seventies.

I don't smoke. Tobacco, anyway.
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ScreamingMeemie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 11:50 AM
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2. If you can ever find it, Garrison Keillor has a great "Tales From Lake
Wobegone" tape about children coming home for the holidays...stubbing out the last cigarette five miles away and so on. You just made me think of it. If you can find it, you'll giggle your way all the way home. :hi: Safe trip.
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fluffernutter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 11:57 AM
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15. ahh, memories from my childhood -that tape is so funny!
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sniffa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 11:50 AM
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4. i do too
sorta. i know my famiLy gets upset, and whenever they see me smoking they give me frowns whiLe excLaiming, "you smoke!?"

i mostLy hide it from my dad - i hate to ever have him disappointed in me.
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skypilot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 11:57 AM
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16. Yet another cute thing about you.
You just get cuter all the time.
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sniffa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 12:02 PM
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23. i exude cuteness
it's coming out of my pores.

ps: thanks. :loveya:
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 11:52 AM
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5. Why not quit?
;-)

If you don't want her to know, deep down, you probably don't want to be doing it.
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Beware the Beast Man Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 11:55 AM
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11. I've tried, over and over
This week wasn't successful either...
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MuseRider Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 12:09 PM
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26. Keep trying
you will eventually get it and feel oh so much better in many ways. I NEVER wanted to quit, I loved smoking. I got really good at sneaking it because everyone thought I had quit. This was many years ago. I had a real problem when my brother was ill, it threw me over the deep end and I started up just briefly. Get some of those lozenges, they work but then they are hard to get off of but you can do it. You might want to give them a try while visiting. Then you will know if they help or not and they are too expensive to throw away so you might just use them up and then think about really giving it up.
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 04:00 PM
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29. It's hard...
...but each time you try you're closer to the time that will work. My best friend tried to quit a million times and I really thought she was hopeless, but she finally did it. It's been almost a year.

I quit 6 years ago, with a month long relapse after 9/11/01. :(
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Not_Giving_Up Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 11:52 AM
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6. How funny, my mom is 54 and hides her smoking habit
(or tries to) from all of us. It doesn't work very well. She was going in for a triple bypass a few years ago, and when asked if she smoked, she told them no. My stepdad pulled the nurse to the side and told her the truth.
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NaturalHigh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 11:52 AM
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8. Been There
I don't hide it from my family anymore, but I still go out of my way not to smoke around them. I'm 34 and have been smoking since I was 19.
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VolcanoJen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 11:52 AM
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9. Don't forget the scented lotion!
Just after washing your hands, it's good to use some nice lotion, and run it through your hair quickly.

Hair is always the giveaway, in my experience. :D
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tigereye Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 11:53 AM
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10. you should just quit! ;)
My husband and I smoked for years, we quit for good when our kid was born 8 years ago. I still miss clove cigarettes, though, every now and then. Although not smoking makes it hard to tolerate clubs, I can tell you.

I haven't hidden anything from my parents since high school. My mom is from the "you need at least one vice" school. :)
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tridim Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 11:56 AM
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12. That's what Commit Lozenges are for.
I stock up every time I visit the parents.
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ChavezSpeakstheTruth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 11:56 AM
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13. My mother is not aware of my relationship with Onin
:evilgrin:
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Beware the Beast Man Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 11:59 AM
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17. Wow, you must have been a stealth teenager.
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ChavezSpeakstheTruth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 12:00 PM
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21. I showered often
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Richardo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 12:01 PM
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22. That's what YOU think.
I've found that we're not as clever as we think we are, when it comes to our parents.
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Nevernose Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 11:56 AM
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14. I hide my smoking habit from my mother, too
She knows about it, but it upsets her if she can smell it on my clothes (which is a gross smell anyway) or see it. I walk around the block and use Febreeze and cologne when I'm around her. Just courtesy. Why would I upset her if I didn't have to? Is walking around the block to smoke a cigarette really that much to ask?
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Elidor Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 11:59 AM
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18. She knows anyway
Do you really think she doesn't? You're only fooling yourself.
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Beware the Beast Man Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 12:00 PM
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20. Oh, she knows, I just don't want to hear about it.
She'll lecture my wife, too, so at least I'm no longer alone.
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CornField Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 12:00 PM
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19. Having semi-recently puffed my last ciggy, I've come to a conclusion
All of those people I thought I was fooling? No way in hell I was actually doing it. Now that my sense of smell has come back, I can tell a smoker from three arm lengths away -- and it really does stink.

Not only that, but I've had to pull clothing out of my closet and re-wash it. Towels, sheets, blankets, curtains and a whole bunch of other stuff too. Even tho I was only smoking in my bathroom with the window open, my entire house smelled like an ashtray. The scent sticks to your clothing and to everything else around you.

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freedom_to_read Donating Member (623 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 12:02 PM
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i'll put that down on the list
of things I don't miss about smoking. I always had to hide it from my parents too, especially my dad (his dad died from smoking).

Whoo hoo, 11 months smoke-free now and just getting better. You should try it!

(smug...)
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underpants Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 12:02 PM
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24. My wife still does that too
:smoke:
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Worst Username Ever Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 12:07 PM
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25. I am 28 and do the same thing.
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2Design Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 12:17 PM
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27. if you smoke you stink and can not hide it - people know - come
out of the closet - they can smell it on your hair, clothes and breath - it is every where
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 04:14 PM
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30. Story:
I used to smoke and was home visiting my dad. I was so ashamed, I would hide out in my old bedroom and smoke by the window. Finally, my dad said, y'know, if you want to smoke pot in the house, it's really ok with me. I told him I wasn't smoking pot, I was smoking cigarettes. He said, what, are you an idiot?

;-)
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Jack_Dawson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-24-04 04:15 PM
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31. Why do you smoke? That's disgusting
Not like I didn't use to do the exact same disgusting thing. Quitting was easy though. :shrug:
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