Would you invite this peson to a party?

[HEyHEY]

Okay, I'm heading to a party in (OOO I GET GIDDY WHEN I SAY IT) Vancouver this weekend. I was thinking of inivting a friend of mine, but we've only hung out a couple times and one of them was a sort of date thing. Romance is not likely, but she's a good shit and funny as hell. So I was thinking of inivting her to this party.
But I'm worried my friends may think there's something going and may get the wrong idea, which in turn could give her the wrong idea.

AH paranoia abounds!

What do you think?

[notadmblnd]

1. why does it matter what your friends think?

if she is your friend and you enjoy her comapny, then go for it.

[bigwillq]

2. They're going to think what they want anyway

Bring her but maybe warn your friends before that it's just a friend thing. Tell them not to say or do anything to embarrass you.

If they really are true friends they will respect this.

[2Design]

3. so tell her the truth....that you really enjoy her company but not

in a romantic way....and would she like to go to party with you where she may be teased about the relationship.....

[miss_kitty]

4. why do you care what your friends think?

why would she get the wrong idea? would your friends be blabbing saying "i think he likes you"?

can you think of a way to invite as a friend? i get the feeling "Romance is not likely" is your feeling. your stuff here is confusing me....

[HEyHEY]

5. Because my friends have girlfriends that do the hen thing

I mean, I don't wann have to say "Okay listen up this is not a girl I'm seeing!"
But you never know what embarrasing assumptions could be made

[miss_kitty]

6. well it sounds like on one level you are comfortable with her

and on another level you are not. if you can't broach the the subject with her, and you are afraid she might misunderstand what the deal is, then do not ask her to go. you'll be uncomfy and won't enjoy yourself. and it'll weird her right out...

but also, it sounds like you don't know what she is thinking or feeling...is there any way you could say, "hey! i'd like to ask you to go to this party in vancouver. i think you're a kick and you would enjoy these people and vice versa. but i gotta let ya know, these people are all crazy about me getting hooked up with someone, and some conclusions might be drawn. can you handle that? i mean this is only the second time we've gone out, and i'm in casual mode right now. what are you thinking?" that last thing, a chick question, but you may be projecting a reality on HER that just is not there...

i don't know. i think upfront and honest is the best, and overthinking something like this can lead to disaster...

[tigereye]

7. aren't they capable of getting the vibe

that it's not a relationship? Just go with her and have fun. I mean, every woman you take somewhere doesn't have to be a girlfriend, right?

[Nikia]

8. Why can't people accept a man and woman as friends?

Not every male/female relationship is a romantic/sexual/partnership thing. Men and women can really be friends.
You are both single though and at an age where lots of people are partnering up. You don't really know each other that well so things might not be too clear at this point. When you ask her to the party be sure to say that you are going as friends so she does wonder if it is a date. When you go to the party, be sure to introduce her as your friend and if anyone says anything about girlfriend, be sure to correct them.
Good luck.

[JVS]

9. Don't take her along.

If she is not likely to provide you with the polar bear loving that you need, then she doesn't deserve to accompany you to a party.

[SarahB]

10. Yes!

And have fun!

[Shananigans]

11. Ugh...I get that ALL the time...

One of my best friends is a guy and I swear my friends will NEVER get the point that we are not dating, we are not messing around and it is unlikely that we ever will. It's so annoying.

A few months ago I brought him to my hometown and for the most part my family was cool and realized he and I are just friends, but the entire weekend my friends were like "why don't you guys just date?" It was annoying.

Thankfully we are both on the same page here and are able to just brush it off, but for goodness sake people... WHY CAN'T A GUY AND GIRL JUST BE FRIENDS????

End of rant.

[HEyHEY]

12. Well, it worse these days

Cause all the girlfriends that I've had for a long time, they all know. But now, usually whenever someone brings a new girl into the mix, it's a date thing. I'm the only guy I know who makes friends of strange women.

[Shananigans]

13. I vote you just tell them that you aren't dating this chick.

Unfortunately in my case I TRY that with my friends but they think that just because you get along with an opposite sex person as a friend that means you should be having sex with them too. *sigh*

Gotta love the friends.

Good luck, though. I know lots of guys who make friends with strange women! After all, my guy friends made friends with me!

[HEyHEY]

14. A few know I'm not

Bu they'll be god knows how many people at this thing. Ah, fuck it. I'm just gonna bring her

[Shananigans]

15. Yay! Good for you!

I was actually pretty nervous about what my family was going to say when I brought my guy friend home. I told my mom we were just friends, but we ended up spending alot of time at my grandma's with part of my huge, gossiping family. I thought for sure they were going to assume something or embarass me somehow.

I just made sure to introduce him by saying "this is my FRIEND, Rudolpho" (not his real name, but I kinda felt like making one up and that sounded nice and dumb

I think they all got the hint and no catastrophe happened.

In the future I say to heck with it and do what you want. Who really cares what other people think because if they are stupid enough to not get it then it's not YOUR problem. (I say that now, but just wait...)