Would you break up with your SO if he/she lost his/her job?

[Deja Q]

Poll question: Would you break up with your SO if he/she lost his/her job?

Just curious, I won't hold anything to anybody, I've a greater thought in mind... but that later.

[amazona]

1. no, in fact, he did lose his job long ago

When he was starting out, he had his own business, which failed in the Reagan years. Then he got a job, which he lost when the one of the owners ran off with the receivables with another employee and left the other owner flat broke. Fun times, huh?

It wasn't an issue, we lived on credit cards like everyone else in America.

edited because -- can't type today, argh

[Fovea]

2. My SO

has watched me nearly die on her twice.
She stayed with me. Imagine what kind of jerk I would be to leave her for something like that...

[Deja Q]

Nice to know there are still some good people on this world...

I've been screening others' personals ads again.

Many of them have high standards; most annoyingly this stuff about 'must be employed'. To me, that's a turn-off and speaks volumes about the guy saying it. Especially in THIS economy created by a so-called "pro-lifer".

[Fovea]

9. I was staggering out of my last bad relationship

Pretty much ready to swear off relationships for good, and I got picked up at a stick fighting practice by a woman 20 years my junior. Eight years later, after a near fatal bout of peritonitis and a stroke, here we are.

[NightTrain]

28. I remember this line frrom a Reagan-era personals ad:

"No bald heads, beer bellies, or glasses." Apprarently, who a man was meant diddly-squat to this shallow cu...er, woman.

[H2O Man]

3. that would be shallow!

yikes!

[MrSandman]

4. Been there...

Got the scars

onedit...Didn't break up...s

[kikiek]

5. Geez sounds shallow to me. Only want em around for their job?

[Snoggera]

6. What is a J_O_B?

It's fading. They dont exist anymore, and we are rapidly approaching the point where we will be thrilled to be able to survive if 3 other families move in with us to help pay for the rent and daily expenses.

Such is what living in the city almost already is.

Do you know that having to have a roommate is a relatively recent event?

[Longhorn79]

7. Is this a trick question?

How about this one:

How long would you wait after your significant other was disfigured in a fire before you told them "Listen, it's just that you don't turn me on anymore because you look like what I dropped in the toilet this morning. Nothing personal, have a nice life." ?

[Cerridwen]

8. Of course, my last SO didn't have a job when I met him

Didn't drive a great car either, or have fabulous credit.

[Shoeempress]

10. I'm the one who lost the job and he still loves me.

We were in a bad motorcycle wreck, the Doctor said if they didn't amputate his leg, he'd die. I always thought those women with the horribly injured men were so noble. Turns out their not, they just love the guy. Turns out the Doctor was wrong, thank god, but I wasn't going anywhere even if he lost his leg. A job is SOOO unimportant.

[samplegirl]

11. No there are worse things like getting him off his comp.

Hes retired....and cant get him off of D.U. now thats a problem.

[Skittles]

15. tell me who he is, samplegirl

I WILL KICK HIS ASS

[JohnnyRingo]

19. Oh come on Sample...he probably isn't THAT bad...

I'm sure you're exagerating....Besides, I do other things, too

[samplegirl]

21. Roger Wilco

I forgot you fly alot online!!!!

[JohnnyRingo]

22. Oh..I turn my back for a minute....And now it's all Roger !

Hmmph

[samplegirl]

24. U owe me!!!!!!!!

Cuddle time!

[samplegirl]

25. Skittle wants a piece of you.

lol......

[flamingyouth]

12. My husband lost three jobs while we were married

It's a huge strain on a relationship, so if it's already fragile, I can see it possibly being the final straw for some people.

[Skittles]

13. you can't call them your SO if you would do such a thing

I mean, really.

[ronnykmarshall]

14. Hell no.

Except the house better be cleaned and dinner cooked when I get home.

[fudge stripe cookays]

16. Point taken!

reprehensor was so cute when he first moved down from Canada and couldn't work because he didn't have his permit yet.

He did make dinner for me a few times. It was very sweet. He also kept the cat company.

I would never voluntarily leave this man for any reason. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me.

[flamingyouth]

17. Alan always took on all the household chores

When he was between jobs - I didn't have to do a single thing! Must be those Canadian men!:hi:

[fudge stripe cookays]

18. Yep, most especially those

Canadian men named Allan! Mine's one too! :hi:

[Elidor]

20. I know a guy

(my future father-in-law) whose wife had a disabling brain aneurism/stroke. He learned to care for his wife and participate in her rehabilitation. Learned to cook and clean and tend to her needs. A most impressive man. Some people are all that. And some aren't.

I think I could do that. A job is nothing in the proper context. Shallow people gravitate toward other shallow people. If you love yourself, you'll never settle for second-rate love.

[Bertha Venation]

23. Yikes, Toad. That's a helluva question.

"Baby, I lost my job."

"Bummer for you. Excuse me, I have to go find a divorce attorney." . . . .

Not a chance. But I do look forward to your putting this question into context. :)

[curse10]

26. Man, I would have had to break up with mine like 3 times!

:-) He's a computer programmer. Hit hard by the internet bubble bursting.

[NightTrain]

27. Not only no, but FUCK NO!

What kind of an asshole would ever do such a horrible thing? Talk about kicking a person when they're down!

[MaryBear]

29. No way!

Especially not if he started washing our dishes! And getting them clean!

[Susang]

30. Dear god, no!

Otherwise we would have broken up at least three times already by now. While everyone's situation is different, I tend to believe in that whole "in good times and in bad" ethos, both before and after marriage. :-)

[alarimer]

31. no, BUT

I would not want to be with someone who was unable to hold on to a job because they could not handle the responsibility of it. I understand that most people are laid off through no fault of their own so I would not dump someone for that. I have dated complete losers who kept getting fired because they failed to show up or got in fights with the boss or whatever. I would not stay with someone like that.