Randi Rhodes just said married sex sucks.

[Cyrano]

Let's face it. Have your best sexual experiences been married sex or extra-marital sex?

Be honest. Let's hear it.

[matcom]

1. can we have a poll question?

for anonimity? :D

[gratuitous]

2. Thank you, that's all the answer needed from a married man

:evilgrin:

[matcom]

4. i didn't say i was gonna VOTE!

:D

[Cyrano]

6. Sorry, only donators can post polls.

If necessary, relate an anecdote about a (fictitious) friend.

[Catfight]

3. totally outside the relationship, hands down.

[SidDithers]

5. Better than no sex, I'd say...

Sid

[proud patriot]

7. I disagree with Randi here

the best sex is Married sex , at least that has been
my experience .

[Cyrano]

8. Guess it all depends on how long you've been married.

[trotsky]

9. Disagree too.

Having a lover who knows your body (and whose body you know) makes sex a lot more of a loving experience, and more enjoyable.

[Melodybe]

11. Same here, nothing on earth is better than kinky married sex

Randi just isn't getting any.

[Hegemony Cricket]

22. Hear hear

...if your married sex isn't as good as your non-married sex, then maybe you shouldn't be married.

I'd say the reality is that the thought of scandal and impropriety is the hot part. The sex is just a resolution...one that usually leads to a huge nasty emotional problem down the road.

I don't know about the rest of you, but, after years of relationships, finding the one woman who hit all the right notes intellectually, physically, and emotionally makes every encounter a goddamn revelation.

I couldn't imagine anything better.

Of course, I might just be very lucky, or she's just cheating on me and I don't realize it yet... ;-)

[Gothic Sponge]

10. It's not that married sex sucks....

It's like food. If you eat the same meal everyday it can get dull. Even if you love that meal. You have to keep adding different spices to that meal. The excitement is always high when you discover something new.

[ronzo]

12. I disagree.

Depends on who you're married to, I suppose.

[atreides1]

13. Definitely Married

For me and my wife it's been married sex.

[trof]

14. DOES NOT!

The sucks part stops when you get married.
:spank:
Sorry. Couldn't resist.
;-)

[dr.strangelove]

15. YOU ARE FUCKING CRAZY

if you think married sex sucks.

This is a personal issue, so I'll choose to keep the details out.

I've been married for 4 years, but I have been with my wife and no others for about 7 years. The best single sexual experience of my life was one amazing time with my wife before we were married.
I won't go into details about what made it so great, but it stands out in my mind as my best single experience.

As for best overall sexual partner. Sex with my wife is GREAT!!! Sex with girls in high school, college and after school, be it a one night stands, short flings or and longer type relationships, was usually very good. Sex with my wife is usually amazing.

Sure there are times where for whatever reason its not all fireworks, but if I had to put a percentage on it, I'd say 90% of my post-mariage sex has been great.
We haven't slowed down much in either quantity or quality. In fact my wife would probably say the quality has improved.

Anyway, my vote is that Married Sex rocks.

[Taverner]

16. Pre-Marital sex RAWKED

Married sex is way to much like a long term investment...you put off good sex so that you can have sex down the road. Much like a 401K.

[democratreformed]

17. Yep. Definitely married. Experience, you know.

n/t

[Deja Q]

18. I'd rather be married... someone to love.

Sucking just isn't enough. O8)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

19. depends on who you are married to

[TX-RAT]

20. Married

Must admit after 30+yrs, still can't take my eyes off of her.
With all due respect for Randi, Randi's never seen my wife. A true Mexican beauty.

[Ellen Forradalom]

21. This is the ultimate Your Mileage May Vary question

but for me, married sex is mostly dull.

[laruemtt]

23. married 11 years

and i still can't wait to get my hands on that man, and i think it's reciprocal because he still always comes right home! not to say i couldn't get excited by other men because if not i'd have to be dead but a temporary hormonal jolt isn't worth risking what i've got. no way.

[Cyrano]

24. From the posted answers, why do I get the feeling that

your spouses share the same ID's with you on DU?

Let's face it ladies (and gay guys). You'd do Brad Pitt (or fill in the blank) in a heartbeat.

And let's face it guys (and lesbians). You'd do Catherine Zeta Jones(or fill in the blank) in a heartbeat.

[Pithlet]

51. I wouldn't

Even if I knew there was no chance that my husband would find out. Maybe I'm unusual, but I like for there to be a strong emotional connection. I've never been much of a one-night-stand kind of person. We may be rare, but we're out there.

[StaggerLee]

25. Damn it

You married people are making me want to be married again.

[BootinUp]

26. so to answer this

I need to have committed adultery? Guess I'm excluded from your survey group.

[BiggJawn]

27. Married sex SUCKS.

LTR sex sucks, too. Face it, nothing compares to the first 6 months of a new relationship.

After 6 months, or the "I Do"s, you start taking for granted that the other will ALWAYS be there for you, so if you'd rather spend the night on-line, or read, or (horrors!) watch the TV in the bedroom instead of make love, so what? there's always NEXT year!

Never experienced extra-marital sex, but there's been plenty of pre and a little post marital sex, so I DO have a standard of comparison.

Ahh, but ignore me, I'm just bitter because I've been fucked-over too many times...

[MercutioATC]

28. Actually, my "best sex day ever" was when I was married.

...about 12 hours of wild sex. We didn't leave the house all day...just taped a $20 to the door for the pizza guy.

[Radical Activist]

29. I better have more sex before I get married...

just in case it's better now than later.

[Taverner]

32. Yes...enjoy it while you can

Married sex can get really boring.

[Wapsie B]

36. Totally agree.

Unless you've married someone that is so sexually compatible with you married sex can be way beyond boring.

It just invites those who feel that way to cheat.

[Maestro]

43. Disagree

I remember one day, before we had kids, my wife just popped in from some shopping with a dirty little video and some toys. Boy it was fun! Married sex is what you make of it. If you do it the same way, in the same place, week after week, any sex gets boring.

[leftofthedial]

30. married for sure

but that was long time ago

[Nikia]

31. Married

Maybe, that's because my best relationship (which included sex) that I have had has been with my husband. The other guys really didn't care about me as much in more ways than one. I am definitely having more sex with my husband than I did when I was with any other guy. I don't know if age has something to do with it. I was 19 when I met my husband and started having sex with him. I suppose that people who were older when they met their spouse and had a lot of different partners may have a different set of experiences.

[AVID]

33. Post VAS Married Sex - Best Ever nt

VAS - vasectomy

[Rabrrrrrr]

34. bah - married sex rocks!

In fact, all the women I've had sex with have been married!

[burythehatchet]

35. HER married sex sucks. Mine was awesome.....nt

[lojasmo]

37. Married sex is best for me.

Hands down (so to speak)

I had some great pre-marital sex too. (for me, at least)

We keep surprising me. (hee hee)

Nine years hitched.

On edit, I agree with post number 33.

[camero]

38. To be honest

I've never had married sex so I couldn't tell you. My best experiences were with ones I loved and love.

[IronLionZion]

39. Cyrano, what's with all the sex threads?

The best sex is PRE-marital! :evilgrin:

[Cyrano]

45. Independent 429

"What's with all the sex threads?"

Would you rather discuss the origins of the universe? Fermat's theorem? Einstein's theory of relativity? The Federalist Papers?
Quantum mechanics? Nuclear fusion? Hamilton's bad aim during his duel with Burr? Did Hitler really have agent provocateurs set the Reichstag fire? Was Shane dead in the last scene of the movie?

Give me a subject more intriguing, exotic and just plain more compelling than sex, and I'll be glad to discuss it with you.

[Taverner]

47. Right on!

It's about time we pushed for healthier attitudes towards sex!

[IronLionZion]

48. and raunchier sex threads!

hehe :evilgrin:

[IronLionZion]

49. I think Fermat's last theorem was proven years ago

but you have a point. I just thought it was interesting that the Lounge is always well stocked with your sex threads.

Here's to sex!
cheers!
:toast:

[Cyrano]

53. Yes, Fermat's last theorem was solved a few years back, however,

there only about only 67 mathematicians on the face of the planet who can understand the solution. So would you rather discuss the solution to Fermat's last theorem, or some down and dirty, hard core fucking?

[Cyrano]

56. Independent 429

Sorry, just read your last post again. No attack intended. Let sex discussions flow in all their glory. After all, if it weren't for sex, where would we all be? Only on conservative websites do people think their mother and father never got it on.

And if there are any reading this that have a problem with sex, wash your sheets before your mother/father/husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend/priest/confidant/best friend/keeper or parole officer shows up.

[geniph]

40. Both, at the same time

with my husband and another partner. Definitely.

[Taverner]

42. SIGH

Estoy celoso

[Maestro]

44. ¿Por qué?

Eso sólo conduce a más problemas si hay un "otro u otra" que participa aunque suena bien.

[Cyrano]

46. Male? Female? Or either?

An open mind is a wondreful thing not to waste.

(And before anyone makes any pervert comments, examine your own fantasies.)

[geniph]

57. They happened to all be male

but either scenario would have worked. I just happen to believe - and my husband agrees - that there's more...ahem...options available with multiple males and one female than the reverse.

[Maestro]

41. Married sex

As proof, I will refer to two nights ago...;)

[tigereye]

50. committed and married sex

has been the best for me. You have trust and love and playfulness. I can't complain. It's still really good and, at times surprisingly variable, after many years. :)

Sex prior to this.... ehhh.. not so good.

[ScreamingMeemie]

52. Married. Definitely.

He's the best. :hi:

[JanMichael]

54. Randi is, GASP, not always correct. Too bad for her I suppose.

I'm not going to detail my pre-marital escapades but I'll give you this: Married for the first time at 35 years old and never had trouble finding fun.

Now? The BEST. Ever.

[Cyrano]

55. Enjoy!

[SarahB]

58. Hard to say.

Didn't have much experience before I met my husband (I've been with him since I was 18). Really, just one relationship that was a complete sexual relationship, but even that was just a few times.

It would be a violation of privacy to publically post our issues in detail, but I'll just say for me personally, I'm fully and completely comfortable with that part of myself anyway and someday I'll probably be better able to answer this question.