Is there really someone for everyone?

[Feanorcurufinwe]

Poll question: Is there really someone for everyone?

[burrowowl]

1. Unless the someone is a dog or a cat

NO

Go adopt a dog or cat and save them from deathrow.

[HEyHEY]

2. yes, but does that person want the other?

[blackcat77]

3. Relationships are what you make them

There is no such thing as a love which will stand up to ANYTHING, so if you aren't willing to hold up your end of keeping the relationship working, there is nobody who'll put up with you.

OTOH, even two people who would appear to be less than ideal for each other can have a great love if both of them work hard at it.

[Dogmudgeon]

4. It's a Crapshoot, baby!

I've spent most of my life looking for That Special Someone™. Worked my ass off over the course of a decade learning how to just talk to girls, dating, finding sexual companionship, love, and the potential for marriage.

Nada.

I used to tear myself up over it, but over the past few years, that's stopped. I still have too many things I want to do. The wife-and-two-kids fantasy that came to most of my friends almost 20 years ago passed me by.

There really isn't someone for everyone. In fact, most of them hate each other within five years.

Why kill yourself?

--bkl

[Bryan]

5. It depends

I don't believe that there is one person with whom you will share a mystical and unbreakable psychic bond; that's just a romanticization of the kind of closeness that a very solid monogamous relationship can bring.

Call me an optimist, but I tend to think that over a lifetime, you may well encounter a handful-and maybe more than a handful-of individuals with whom you are unusually compatible in terms of personality, and with whom you can develop a strong and loving relationship (assuming, of course, that both parties are willing to work for it. Not always the case).

[Piperay]

6. NO...

you find love where you can, sometimes it is love for an animal or the love you have for a friend or family member. Having that kind of love makes you lucky and is more than some people have. I'm cynical about romantic love and the soul mate thing, I don't believe in it. :-( :shrug:

[DemExpat]

10. Romantic love and soul mates......

I also do not believe in finding blissful romance love to last a lifetime, but I DO believe in people crossing each others' paths to give an opportunity (accepted or rejected) to learn important lessons about oneself and life in general.

IMHO, soulmate encounters do not have to be pleasant or wonderful, and even very painful lessons can be provided by a soulmate.

I also agree that family members, platonic loves, and animals - absolutely - provide experiences, lessons, and comforts of love.

DemEx

[huellewig]

7. I enjoy being miserable..

So everyone is for me.

[SmileyBoy]

8. No.

There are many people in this world who end up dying alone. And that's me in the future.

I've tried too hard for the past 8 years to get in a relationship, and I've already been in one failed relationship. And I've basically said to myself, "Fuck it. It's not gonna happen."

I've got more important things to worry about, anyway.

[Egalitarian]

9. While I'm not looking for her

I believe in the possibility of someone who is the perfect compliment to me and vice-versa. The problem comes in I think when we decide that we need this other to be complete. Yes, I believe in the possibility, but I'm fine right now too.

[ScreamingMeemie]

11. Yes, as long as one is willing to look!

:hi:

[Loonman]

12. That's a lie

Of the "touchy-feely" variety.