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bearfan454 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 08:57 AM
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Talk about a fucked up weekend
I'm in the Chicago area for my brother's funeral. The guy was 38 and had a massive coronary Thursday. 38 ? What to fuck. I always thought I would be the first one to go out of us 3 kids for being fat, eating like a pig, getting fucked up all the time, and all that. It just doesn't figure.
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Lars39 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 09:00 AM
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1. My condolances bearfan.
38 is way too young. :hug:
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bearfan454 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 09:03 AM
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3. Thanks.
My Mom is really fucked up over it which is normal. I couldn't imagine if I had to bury my kid. I would probably go insane for a week or two.
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Paradise Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 09:23 AM
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7. so sorry, bearfan. so young
"Listening with your heart to "how I am doing"
relieves the pain,..." - Kelly Osmont

how are you doing, bearfan? :hug:
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bearfan454 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 09:29 AM
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9. Im okay.
I had my big cry on the drive up here from Austin. I know I will lose it because his wife has all his pictures layed out. It is closed casket. His wife donated all his organs. Someone in Ohio got his liver. They said about ten people will be better off because of the donating organs.
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ikojo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 09:32 AM
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11. Wow! That must have been a difficult choice for his wife
to make (donating his organs). I applaud her for it. Her tragedy has brought others extreme happiness.


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Paradise Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 10:46 AM
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17. It's said that 'out of tragedy comes hope' .
Not much consolation, right now, I know. :(
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RunOfTheMillDemocrat Donating Member (22 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 09:02 AM
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I am sorry for you loss
38 is pretty young.

Hell, 50 is young for something like that.
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greatauntoftriplets Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 09:02 AM
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2. I am so sorry to hear about your brother, bearfan.
Edited on Sun Apr-18-04 09:03 AM by greatauntoftriplets
What a tragedy for your family.

Edited for typo.
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Tandalayo_Scheisskopf Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 09:04 AM
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4. Hey, it's small consolation, but...
It is said that no person may know their time.

Been there, done that. May you and your family find some peace at this time.
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bobthedrummer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 09:15 AM
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5. Deepest sympathy on the loss of your brother.
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Bronco69 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 09:16 AM
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6. My condolences bearfan.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 09:26 AM
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8. i'm so sorry bearfan
that is really too bad.
take care of your self and your mom -- that is really tough, so sad.
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ikojo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 09:30 AM
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10. Bearfan54, my condolences to you and your family
I lost my brother to a massive coronary in May 2002 and it still hurts when I think of him. He was 47. He would be 50 this November.

38 is way young to die.

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Rowdyboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 09:38 AM
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12. Damn, man, thats rough....Stand by your mom
My baby brother was murdered in 1995 at age 29 and mom never recovered completely. The loss of a child is utterly devastating to a mother-more so than any other imaginable. My heart goes out to you both.

Hang tough.
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bearfan454 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 09:48 AM
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14. She has some prescription Xanex
Edited on Sun Apr-18-04 09:49 AM by bearfan454
for the visitation today.
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Mikimouse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 09:47 AM
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13. Very sorry bf454, I'm sending good thoughts your way...
It is terrible that someone so young is gone. My most condolences to you and family.
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GOPisEvil Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 10:02 AM
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15. Oh, no! You and your whole family have my sincere condolences.
Peace to you and yours friend.
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VelmaD Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 10:03 AM
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16. I never know what to say...
at times like this so I'm just gonn agive you this :hug:.
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bearfan454 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 12:38 PM
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25. Thanks Velma
I needed that hug.
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nothingshocksmeanymore Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 10:49 AM
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18. I'm so sorry.
I am sorry for your loss, the fact that he died so young and the fact that you didn't really get a chance to say goodbye.
My condolences and prayers for you and your family.
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Rhiannon12866 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 10:49 AM
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19. I am so very sorry
How terrible for you. My uncle died at 47 and I thought that was young. Maybe you should see this as a wake-up call and start taking better care of yourself. Your family, and your friends on DU, couldn't spare you, as well. :hug:
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bearfan454 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 12:41 PM
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26. I decided that already yesterday
When I get back to Austin I am going to tell Mrs bearfan that life is too short to miss out on it by getting fucked up all the time. This really woke me up.
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Rhiannon12866 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-19-04 01:29 AM
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30. So maybe this is a good thing for you
You need to take control of your life. Let us know how you're doing, please. I care. :pals:
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JVS Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 10:50 AM
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20. My condolences
Losing a brother must be a terrible thing, you have my deepest sympathies.
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 10:55 AM
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21. So sorry...
...It's hard enough to deal with the loss of a family member. That it was so unexpected and makes so little sense makes it so much harder. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. You're in my thoughts.
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SarahB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 11:16 AM
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22. I'm a so sorry for you loss
:hug:
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Nikia Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 11:28 AM
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23. My condolences to your family
I am sorry about you loss. I never know what to say. Be there for your mother and one another.
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mohinoaklawnillinois Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 12:06 PM
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24. Condolences bearfan. I've been there...
Edited on Sun Apr-18-04 01:04 PM by mohinoaklawnillinois
Both of my brothers died young. The first in 1999, he was 49 at the time from alcoholism and my eldest brother 56, last April, from colon cancer.

My prayers and thoughts are with your entire family. It's tough to go through, but believe me, things will get better.

:hug:
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Bunny Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 01:02 PM
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27. My condolences on your loss.
38 is very young. I'm sorry for your family.
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buddhamama Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 01:07 PM
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28. My sincere condolences, bearfan
i cannot offer any words of explanation or wisdom...
i am very sorry to hear of your brother's passing.

Peace to Him
and your family. :hug:

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Samurai_Writer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 02:11 PM
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29. You have my sympathies
I have not lost a sibling yet, but I have lost my dad at the 'relatively' young age of 66 (him, not me, I was 31 at the time). I have a sister who is in very bad health and for years have been bracing for 'the call'.

You and your family are in my thoughts.
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Prisoner_Number_Six Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-19-04 01:45 AM
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31. I know exactly how you feel
My big brother passed away at the age of 40-- the hardest part for me to bear was he died on my birthday. It took me a LONG time to get over that!

He left behind quite a legacy consisting of friends made closer by his presence, a loving wife and two sons, one of whom recently married.

He helped me a lot over the years and was my best friend, and after 10 years I still miss him.

My condolences and prayers are with you and your family.
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