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Gothic Sponge Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-17-04 11:51 PM
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Question: Am i over overreacting?
I'm friends with a couple that i introduced a few years ago. They are now married and have a child. I'm friends with both of them not just one. We all lead busy lives and i only get to see them about once every 3 months.

I was at their house tonight and we were watching Chris Rock on HBO. After Chris Rock's special one of them (the wife) said "i'm going upstairs to watch TV" Her husband and i sat and talked for about a half an hour and i felt like her going upstairs was my cue to call it a night and go home. So, i left.

My dilemma is i'm not sure how to feel about this situation. It's not like i was over their house for hours. I got there at 8:30pm and left at 11:30pm. I felt it was rude to just get up and go upstairs. It's not like she wasn't feeling good... She was fine. Am i overreacting? If someone was at my house i would never just get up and leave.....I just don't get some people.
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skooooo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-17-04 11:57 PM
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1.  I dunno, but when I get tired..

...and folks are over, I excuse myself and go conk out. Still, sounds like they could have been a little more graceful about it. You know, told you they were tired, etc.
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Gothic Sponge Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-17-04 11:59 PM
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3. It's not even like she went up to her bedroom......
She got up and left the basement TV room and went upstairs to the living room TV.
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skooooo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 12:02 AM
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5. oh...that's kind of weird..

..and rude..unless she had a reason (was uncomfortable in the basement, etc.). Should have said something though...
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Kadie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 12:03 AM
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7. Maybe she didn't like what you were watching?
:shrug:
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Kadie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-17-04 11:59 PM
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2. My grandpa used to say
"I'm going to bed now, so you can go home." LOL

I think it was rude for her to just go upstairs. If she had a reason for going to bed early, like they have plans early tomorrow morning, they could have told you it would be an early evening when they invited you over. Or, she could have politely excused herself and made her apologies before leaving the room.

I wouldn't worry about it though. Who knows why some people do the thing the do. Maybe she will realize what she did was rude and give you a call tomorrow to talk about it.
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gyopsy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 12:01 AM
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4. She probably didn't realize it was rude
Is she an introvert? If she was, she might have just wanted to get away for a while. Some people are like that in the evening.
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skooooo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 12:03 AM
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6. Yep, us introverts..

...can take only so much togetherness. And then we want to get the hell AWAY from everyone.
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NJCher Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 12:04 AM
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8. it was rude but I do it all the time so let me explain
Sometimes my significant other has more of a connection with some people than I. So if they're having a good enough time together and I sense my presence isn't all that significant, I go do something else. And I usually don't explain why, either, because to explain it might bring so much attention to it that it would make everyone self conscious.


Cher
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MsSnood Donating Member (106 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 12:08 AM
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9. I wouldn't take it personally.
You said they have a baby now. She's probably just tired or needs some vegetable time to herself. She, or they, didn't ask you to leave. Or maybe she just had a bad day.

Just file it away as a one time occurrence and see how the next time goes. Don't let this one time get to you.
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Rowdyboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 12:15 AM
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10. Also, she and he may have had an argument earlier, before you arrived
and feelings could still be a bit frayed.
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unblock Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 12:24 AM
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11. you were at THEIR HOUSE and still had a host with you
she did nothing rude in my book. mildly antisocial, but there are 1,001 possible reasons for this. however, it's not rude at all for a co-host to leave the room provided there's still another co-host present.

she might well have thought you wanted some time to chat up her husband, she might have something against chris rock, she might have needed the downtime, whatever. point is, you still had a co-host, so your needs as a guest were taken care of.
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NewHampster Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-18-04 12:31 AM
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12. She treated you like a friend. Not a guest
Which would you rather be?

True friends don't worry about offending each other because with enough interactions thru the years you are bound to piss each other off. You know you're friends because there are more important things to worry about and you just let it go.

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