Even men are abused in relationships

[Horse with no Name]

It is something that isn't talked about, but I have been helping an acquaintence out tonight.
This guy did some hard time for drugs about 10 years ago.
He was paroled for 10 years. He has served 9 years of this and has done really well.
He has had the same job for about 8 years now. This is a small town and there aren't that many jobs to be had.
It was a decent paying job.
This guy isn't the best looking and had never been married.
A new girl started work there about 2 years ago.
She was homeless basically with 4 kids. She is pretty. She glommed onto this guy. We tried to warn him that she was trouble.
He fell for her--head over heels.
She was on probation for drugs.
They got married.
She got him into some serious debt. Bought a new car, new furniture, then bought a new house.
She was fired at work--stated reason was that she was absent too much--but it was really because they thought she was stealing and couldn't prove it.
So then it leaves the financial burden on her husband.
So he is supporting a wife and her 4 kids on a salary that wasn't meant to support that many people.
This girl is a bitch--I mean a dyed in the wool bitch.
Their new car was repossessed last month.
Several times she has locked him out of the house and told him that he couldn't come back in until he brought some money home. She didn't care how he did it, just bring it.
He is in hock to all the loan shark companies around, payday advances, etc.
So...he turned to selling drugs. Trying to make this woman happy.
We have all told him he needed to cut her loose...she was going to pull him down, he didn't believe us.
Tonight, he was arrested in another county for possession.
I don't know how the parole thing works, but I am sure he will go back to prison.
If he lucks out and doesn't have that happen, he WILL lose his job.
They don't put up with that at all.
I'm very sad because this was a nice guy who got played.
This woman will just move on to the next sucker.
And this guy who had his life together...just lost the jackpot.:(
All he was looking for was a woman that loved him.
Love will sure enough blind you.

[DaveColorado]

1. Damn

That's a sad story man.

[WindRavenX]

2. the bottom line is that people, regardless of gender, are capable of...

...being extraordinarily manipulative and cruel. It's not because of the person's gender.

[KyndCulture]

5. It's about control and blame mostly. nt.

[WindRavenX]

8. yup

It's not a gender thing.

[KyndCulture]

3. Abusive losers come in all sexes and sexual orientations.

Years ago, before I found myself in this situation I help a lesbian friend of mine escape from a crazy loser like this woman.

Love will sure enough blind you. Don't I know it!

[Horse with no Name]

7. I know

:hug:

[MADem]

4. Maybe you could testify as a character witness

Could knock some time off his sentence if he is convicted.

[alittlelark]

6. Uh, OK.....

"A new girl started work there about 2 years ago.
She was homeless basically with 4 kids. She is pretty. She glommed onto this guy. We tried to warn him that she was trouble.
He fell for her--head over heels."


Sounds like the same sort that would support b*sh..... stupid. It doesn't matter what the IQ points are..... do they BELIEVE????


I feel quite sorry for them, but, DAMN.... They're STUPID.

[neebob]

12. Oh, so you've never been scammed and abused into oblivion.

Thank your lucky stars and hope you never meet the person who, under just the right set of circumstances, is capable of doing it to you - because I'm here to tell you that person is out there. And there's more than one. Uncle Karma's takin' notes.

Oh, and by the way, a lot of Bush supporters share your attitude. Just because you haven't fallen for a particular load of crap doesn't mean you don't fall for other crap all the time. It's just a question of consequences. And recognizing them.

[Catherine Vincent]

9. That's why it's not always good to fall for the pretty ones.

[neebob]

10. Pieces of shit with legs can be women, too

My brother is still hassling with one that he married in 1986 and divorced in 1992, because they had a child together. She's pretty, too, and acts real nice but is such a skank it's not even worth talking about. It's just horrific. She's a full-on flaming psychopath, no different than the monstrous waste of male flesh who nearly wrecked my life. I'm the only one who sees the similarity. I see a lot of similarities that others don't see.

It happens to men, too, all the time. They're just less likely to talk about it, and other people don't think of it as abuse because it's socially acceptable for women to use men for money.

[undergroundpanther]

11. Poor guy.

Narcissistic,parasitic,trust abusing ,bullying sociopath peices of shit are the biggest problem with this world,I hate them all and wish them all dead ,male or female.