Some prayers and kind thoughts needed please

[The Straight Story]

On Jan 31 my mother passed away. Her best friend for 40 years, Mary was there at the funeral, as were her daughters. Mary was mom #2 to us all growing up.

We found out that Mary has pancreatic cancer tonight and is not expected to make it very long in this world. Her daughter lives with her and her dad and they live two doors down so I spent some time with her tonight (as well as visiting her mom). Been real hard on us all, especially them of course.

An interesting side note to all this. My mom gave her mom a friendship ring many years ago. A few weeks back somewhere between wal-mart and cracker barrel she lost the ring. They looked all over for it, called the managers at both places and left their number, etc. She was quite upset that she had lost that special ring.

A few days ago it turned up. Sitting in the sink at home. They had done dishes, ran the garbage disposal on that side many times, etc. And then it just showed up sitting there one day.

Her mom is preparing to die, to leave this world behind, and has mentioned hopes of seeing my mom soon as well. It is a hard time for them all, as well as for m as mom just recently passed before I had a chance to say goodbye.

I am doing the best I can and being the best support I can for my friends in need. All I can hope for from folks here is a prayer or some positive thoughts flowing this way so I can point her daughter here as she traverses these days ahead.

Thanks my friends, I think I will go have a beer now and think over past times we shared as friends and family. God Bless.

[knowbody0]

1. you'all are in our candle prayer tonight

peace and love

[kiraboo]

2. You have my prayers and best thoughts.

These passages we all must make our way through, they are so hard.

[blogbear]

3. positive thoughts are with you and am sorry for the difficulties..

[MissWaverly]

4. Right before my mother died she had a dream

She said that she was walking in total darkness and suddenly she saw a light and went towards it, when she got close to it, she looked up and saw that it was her name all spelled out in lights, she died 3 weeks later. Tell Mary, not to be afraid, when she dies, there will be light to see where she's going, God leaves the porch light on.
God bless you all.

[havocmom]

5. Sending strength and prayers for peace.

The thing with the ring... there is a lesson there. What seems lost is never really far from you. Love survives and shines through. You all were given a great gift. Hope the lesson helps those left behind for now. Hope they feel that what is not seen and seems gone is not really lost.

Peace and strength to you and all yours
hm

[Auntie Bush]

14. I like that and will try to always remember!

"Hope they feel that what is not seen and seems gone is not really lost."

Yes, that ring appearing was a wonderful, meaningful, spiritual message.

I'll say many prayers for you and yours and send lots of healing light your way. Bless you all.

[The Straight Story]

18. Last night

I dreamed I was driving in the car. I looked over at an empty passenger seat and said 'mom I miss you, wish you were here' and I put out my hand. She materialized and held my hand. I woke up crying and my hand was asleep. Then today this...

[havocmom]

24. she is there and she is trying to let all of you know that it is OK

Redemption is a strange lesson. I learned it from an old cat. The body wears out. The soul still loves. It is that simple.

Keep talking you your mom when you feel like it. She hears. I had a dream too, about my daughter after I leave. I get so many wonderful hints. talk to your mom. Just be careful who else might be around listening ;)

[Patchuli]

6. Bless you

I will keep you and your family and loved ones in my prayers.

[G_j]

7. bright blessings

and may you all be comforted in these difficult times.
Thanks for sharing.

[Solly Mack]

8. Thinking of you and yours

I'm sorry for your loss.

[patrice]

9. My sister died Jan. 10th. Her sisters were with her when she passed on.

Your mother and her friend Mary sound like my mother-in-law Aileen and her friend Mary who passed on a couple of years before I lost my husband 7 years ago.

I have a little dancing meditation that I do. I will think of your mother and her friend Mary dancing with them.

"Life" and "Death" are words we made up.

[Randi_Listener]

10. Thoughts, prayers, and blessings your way....

[aquart]

11. You've got it.

This is hard, exhausting, soul-searing work, being there for them, especially when you're dealing with your own grief, and theirs, also, for your mother.

But it matters so much.

[solinvictus]

12. Best to you and yours...

and I hope y'all find the strength to stay positive in this difficult time. :hug:

[Cuban_Liberal]

13. We'll both remember you in our prayers tonight.

:hug:

[Straight Shooter]

15. Blessings and light.

It's hard to understand what keeps two souls so close to one another, but this is what I see in the passing of your mother, followed so rapidly by Mary's illness.

Peace be with you, with your family, with Mary, and with her family.

[lavendermist]

16. My thoughts and prayers are with you....

My mother is 99 and is battling congestive heart failure. It is difficult seeing someone you love struggle. We just have to know there is a more peaceful place ahead and hopefully a great new adventure. :hug:

[qanda]

17. I don't know you

But I shed a tear for your pain and I pray that less troubled times will soon arrive.

[roguevalley]

19. I will think of you all up here in Alaska. You have friendship and

love from far away places. Hug them all for me.

[oatmeal]

20. Got a beer or two

for you and a prayer or two for Mary. Losing someone without saying goodbye is the hardest cut, so maybe the upside is her daughter will get to spend some time with her before she goes to the great beyond.

Being able to say goodbye is a privilege, so tell your friend even at such a low point she has something special. Not many people are even given the opportunity, so she should take advantage of it.

God bless.

[The Straight Story]

21. I said something similar to her tonight

Minus the part about mods :) She was upset when my mom passed, was not really expected. She is holding up some, but will be a long road ahead.

[oatmeal]

23. Long road?

It always is, letting someone go. But to have the opportunity to send them off? Priceless.

I look at it like either your loved one leaves on a trip without telling you, or prepares for a long trip and lets you in on it. I would give anything to be in on the preparation.

I never got the chance. It does sound like your friend does, so she shouldn't waste it.

<edit>"waste" sounds wrong. What I meant was that she should appreciate it, as I'm sure her mother does.</edit>

[me b zola]

22. Prayers & best wishes for you & yours

Related thoughts to the story of the friendship ring....

While my mom was dying, we found several hand written copies of this in her home, I would like to share it with you....

"Do not stand at my grave & weep.I am not there, I do not sleep. I am the thousand winds that blow; I am the diamond glits on snow. I am the sunlight of the ripened grain; I am the gentle autumn's rain. When you awaken in the mornings hush, I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet birds in circle flight. I am soft stars that shine at night. Do not stand at my grave & cry; I am not there I did not die."

:hug: May you & yours have comfort, strength,& peace.

[CBHagman]

25. Wishing you peace and strength.

It sounds as though all of you have done the right thing and rallied together. As some have said above, that in itself is a precious thing.

You will be in my thoughts and prayers.