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people would NOT have kids.
Stop giving birth to kids they do not want are not ready for,unprepared for. I wish vasectomies and tube ties were for FREE. To anyone who wanted it.
How many women get pregnanat and have to convince themselves they wanted it? How many women bow to pressure from others who insist they must take it? How many of these women are incapable of the job of raising a kid but end up raising the kid?
Parents often have kids for selfish reasons they don't want to admit. And this is why alot of kids grow up messed up,kids often are not born to be here , but are born for meeting thier parents wants..
1992 study by Pyschologists Rathus and Nevid took a 3000 person sample by couples, childless and with children.
The top 9 reasons those with children gave for having children were: 1. Personal experience - to have the experience of being a parent 2. Personal pleasure - the fun and joy of raising children 3. Personal extension - carrying on the genetic heritage or family name 4. Relationship - the close bond which is shared with children 5. Personal status - culture affords some respect just for being a parent 6. Personal competence - gratification from facing the challenge of parenting 7. Personal responsibility - the opportunity to look out for the welfare and education of another 8. Personal power - some find the power they have over children gratifying 9. Moral worth - some feel it is a good and selfless act to put the life of another first, or that it is a moral obligation to have children
The top 13 reasons the childless gave for preferring to remain childless were:
1. Time together - more time each other and for other interests 2. Freedom - more opportunity to pursue other areas of life 3. Other children - can enjoy other children, and can help children who are already here through foster parenting or charity work with children 4. Dual careers - both people may pursue careers full time, a person (woman) does not have to quit, and a child is not raised by day care 5. Financial security - more money to pursue other interests 6. Community welfare - greater opportunity to get involved in community organizations 7. Difficulty - parenthood is a demanding and difficult job which is not always enjoyable 8. Strain on environmental resources - the world is already overpopulated and is unable to support the people who are already here 9. Increase in overpopulation - having children geometrically increases this problem and all of the problems that come with it 10. Choice not mandate - parenthood has to be a choice, not everyone is meant to be a parent 11. Irrevocable decision - once the decision is made it cannot be changed, so people must be sure it is what they want 12. Failure - some people had unhappy or abusive childhoods and fear that they would not be a good parent 13. Danger - the world is a dangerous place and it is not right to bring a child into it
In analysis, most shrinks would call the 9 reasons for having kids "self-oriented" or insular motivations. It's pretty easy to see why - they stated they had children for personal and self oriented reasons. (None of them state: Cuz my genes are SO good that it would a crime to deprive the world of them, or Because my child will be the messiah.... these would be other-oriented motivations.)
When we look at the 13 reasons not to have children, there is a mix of self oriented, other oriented, and neutral. 8,9,12, and 13 are very much other oriented, either to the world at large, the child or the community. 1,2,5, and to an extent 10, are all self-oriented, though 10 is rather philosophical. The remainder tend to be neutral, more open to interpretation.
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