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the original thread that Mari started last night went to over 600 replies (copied below) and the mods have locked that thread because of the length. understandable. the mods re-directed people to my thread about 'doing something' for her which I didn't think was appropriate. so, if you couldn't add your prayers, thoughts, etc., add them here. I'll reformat both threads into something more readable and get it to her later.
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Topic subject My husband has died, he died tonight
2264505, My husband has died, he died tonight
Posted by Mari333 on Thu Aug-26-04 12:24 AM
the only reason Im writing on here is because I am in shock. Please understand, he died in a major car accident and died of blunt trauma to the head,,his car hydroplaned, and they are getting a hold of Michael in Iraq thru the Red Cross to get him home
I am in shock, so I am lettin gmy online friends know, while I am still able to type, that he died. He was 51. He was my best friend.
I wont be on for a while, please understand.
Thank you for being my friends, DU.
I will be at the funeral parlor tomorrow etc to take care of things,.please be kind to each other, and I will survive, Im just in shock right now.
2264510, Mari, I am so sorry! *Hugs*
Posted by GreenPartyVoter on Thu Aug-26-04 12:25 AM
Your family has been through so much already!!! I will be praying for you all.
2265452, What a terrible tragedy.
Posted by Jackpine Radical on Thu Aug-26-04 08:22 AM
You have my heartfelt sympathy and prayers.
2264511, there are no words mari were praying for you terribly so...
Posted by faithnotgreed on Thu Aug-26-04 12:25 AM
2264512, Holy Toledo.
Posted by BillyBunter on Thu Aug-26-04 12:25 AM
I'm so sorry. You have my very best wishes.
2264514, Oh my God Mari, I'm so sorry
Posted by madmax on Thu Aug-26-04 12:25 AM
We're here for you. :hug: :cry:
2266893, I'm so sorry!
Posted by Nightowl_2004 on Thu Aug-26-04 03:06 PM
I may be new here at DU but I am utterly horrified and tremendously saddened by your loss. God bless you in these times, and may your husband rest in peace...
2264515, Oh my God!!!
Posted by truebrit71 on Thu Aug-26-04 12:25 AM
I am terribly sorry to hear of your tragic loss.
How awful.
My condolences, and thoughts will be with you.
TrueBrit
2264586, I am really sorry
Posted by mvd on Thu Aug-26-04 12:35 AM
:cry: :hug:
2264516, There's not much I can say at this time except
Posted by WI_DEM on Thu Aug-26-04 12:25 AM
My thoughts and prayers are for you and your family in this time. You are among friends.
2264517, Oh my. I am so sorry!
Posted by ALago1 on Thu Aug-26-04 12:26 AM
I can't find the words to express my sympathies.
I'll have you in my thoughts...
2264518, All love and prayers go with you Mari.
Posted by Nite Owl on Thu Aug-26-04 12:26 AM
So sorry to hear this.
2264521, Oh my god, I am so sorry
Posted by eleny on Thu Aug-26-04 12:26 AM
Words can't express. Please accept my condolences. We are all here for you. Please know that you're in my heart.
2264520, Oh my God Mari-- I am so sorry!
Posted by pbl on Thu Aug-26-04 12:26 AM
What can I say? What can I do? Please let us know if we can help in any way. :cry: :hug:
2264522, OMG, Mari --
Posted by Eloriel on Thu Aug-26-04 12:26 AM
OMG. I'm SO sorry. Oh, oh, oh, our hearts and prayers are with you.
Do you have plenty of people around to be with you? Friends, familY (until Michael gets home)?
2264525, My prayers for you
Posted by mitchum on Thu Aug-26-04 12:26 AM
I am so sorry
2264524, Oh my God, Mari -
Posted by poliguru on Thu Aug-26-04 12:26 AM
I am so sorry. Words can't convey. My prayers and thoughts are with you - take good care of yourself and all the time you need for everything. We are all here if you need anything.
2264526, I'm so sorry. We are here for you.
Posted by stopbush on Thu Aug-26-04 12:26 AM
2264527, Hugs
Posted by Finder on Thu Aug-26-04 12:26 AM
My heart goes out to you. Stay strong, Mari.
2264529, Oh my god, Mari. I am soooo sorry.
Posted by jchild on Thu Aug-26-04 12:27 AM
I don't know what to say, other than I am so very sorry that this happened. It's so tragic. I have kept up with your family in your posts about Michael. Your family has truly been through it for the past several months.
I am sending you my warmest sentiments--you and your family are in my thoughts. Will say a prayer for you that you can find peace in this trying time.
:hugs:
jill
2264550, I don't know what to say or do
Posted by madmax on Thu Aug-26-04 12:30 AM
Many of us have followed Mari's story about Michael and her brave fight against this war. All our love, thoughts, karma, prayers are with you and Michael.
2264530, Blessings and sympathies to you and your family...
Posted by DemWitch on Thu Aug-26-04 12:27 AM
:hug:
2264531, May God comfort you.
Posted by rockymountaindem on Thu Aug-26-04 12:27 AM
I am so sorry.
2264532, so very sorry
Posted by still_one on Thu Aug-26-04 12:27 AM
2264533, Oh my God, Mari
Posted by flamingyouth on Thu Aug-26-04 12:28 AM
I am so sorry, I don't even know what to say to you. I lost my husband a little over two months ago. Please check your PM box.
I am in tears for you, you poor dear. I am so very, very sorry. Please, if there is anything I can do to help you, PM or call me.
Love,
Lisa
2264534, I will pray for you and your family.
Posted by DenverDem on Thu Aug-26-04 12:28 AM
I lost my Dad the same way, but I cannot know your grief. Know that there is continuity of life in the universe and he is still with you in other octaves of existance.
I am so sorry to hear this. We love you and hurt with you.
2265676, Yes, I lost my mother that way but still cannot know your grief
Posted by SharonAnn on Thu Aug-26-04 09:52 AM
My heart aches for you.
2264536, Please take care.
Posted by UdoKier on Thu Aug-26-04 12:28 AM
It's bound to be overwhelming for quite a while, so hang in there.
Please get the people you love and keep them close by. We all mean well, but we're no subsitute for the real thing.
You WILL be okay.
2264539, God damn it all! Mari I'm so sorry!
Posted by Fenris on Thu Aug-26-04 12:28 AM
God, I cant even tell you how sorry I am.
:cry:
Life is unfair.
2264540, Oh Mari...Call if you ned too..My prayers are with you
Posted by vetwife on Thu Aug-26-04 12:28 AM
I am so sorry. Call me..Please if you need to.
So sorry.
Love Vetwife. Tears streaming !
2264541, We are so sorry to hear this
Posted by Jack Rabbit on Thu Aug-26-04 12:29 AM
You are in mine and GrandmaBear's thouhgts.
2264543, i don't know you, but i will pray for you and your family
Posted by ksatriyakiller on Thu Aug-26-04 12:29 AM
i am so sorry this happened.
2264544, I am very sorry to hear about your loss. Know that you are not alone
Posted by linazelle on Thu Aug-26-04 12:29 AM
in this time of need and reaching out through DU is one way to help you get through this. I will pray for you.
2264546, I too will pray for you and your husband...
Posted by althecat on Thu Aug-26-04 12:30 AM
Love and peace
al
2264547, Jeez Mari333 I don't know what to say - peace be with you
Posted by HEyHEY on Thu Aug-26-04 12:30 AM
2264551, My prayers are with you, Michael, as well as your friends and relatives.
Posted by Media_Lies_Daily on Thu Aug-26-04 12:30 AM
2264552, Oh my god Mari!
Posted by maveric on Thu Aug-26-04 12:30 AM
I am so sorry. From what you have said about him, he was a good man, husband and father. You have my condolences. If there is anything I can do to help please PM me.
2264553, Mari I am so sorry.
Posted by Stephanie on Thu Aug-26-04 12:30 AM
I can't tell you how sorry I am. I can't believe it. Oh Mari I'm sorry.
2264555, I am so very sorry
Posted by Wubette on Thu Aug-26-04 12:31 AM
Although I only know you as a co-inhabitant of this wonderful community, I am so painfully sorry for your loss. I always smile when I see your messages and have silently followed your struggles with Michael's deployment. I can only imagine your pain at this moment.
I will look for your return- until then keep faith in the fact that the enormous pain and loss you must be feeling will become more manageable with time.
2264560, Do come to DU
Posted by GrandmaBear on Thu Aug-26-04 12:31 AM
and keep reaching out to us as you are able. I'm so sorry to hear your news.
2264562, Please let us hold you for a moment...
Posted by RevRussel on Thu Aug-26-04 12:31 AM
2264564, What can one say ......such terrible news.
Posted by Gloria on Thu Aug-26-04 12:32 AM
Prayers for you and your family....
2264565, Oh, poor poor Mari, an unspeakable tragedy in a year of pain.
Posted by catzies on Thu Aug-26-04 12:32 AM
May the thoughts of those online who care about you be some small, small measure of comfort.
Deepest symapthies to you and heartfelt condolences.
2264571, We are all saddened by this, Mari..
Posted by Aidoneus on Thu Aug-26-04 12:33 AM
I don't know what else to say.. :hug:
2264574, I am very sorry to hear that
Posted by ComerPerro on Thu Aug-26-04 12:33 AM
2264577, I'm so sorry. Words fail me. (n/t)
Posted by scarletwoman on Thu Aug-26-04 12:34 AM
2264582, Aw, Mari...
Posted by calimary on Thu Aug-26-04 12:35 AM
Oh man.
I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry to hear this.
My heart goes out to you. So do my prayers.
Damn.
2264584, words seem so trivial at this time
Posted by Bozita on Thu Aug-26-04 12:35 AM
I can't even try.
2264590, May God Bless You and Your Family Mari!
Posted by AmerDem on Thu Aug-26-04 12:36 AM
Warm thought being sent to you now. Blessings and Light!
2264591, No words
Posted by Downtown Hound on Thu Aug-26-04 12:36 AM
I am terribly sorry. Terribly, terribly sorry.
2264617, A (((((((HUG)))))))) for Mari
Posted by JitterbugPerfume on Thu Aug-26-04 12:40 AM
this is heartbreaking
time heals ---I do not say this unknowing
Many years ago I lost a son in a similar fashion
2264592, Mari....
Posted by democrank on Thu Aug-26-04 12:36 AM
I am so very sorry. Peace be with you and with Michael.
2264594, OMG Mari.......Stunned silence........
Posted by RFK2 on Thu Aug-26-04 12:37 AM
OMGOMGOMGOMG I am so so so sorry sweetie.
CRAP!
What a shock. Thousands of thoughts and prayers going out to you.
2264595, I am so very, very sorry.
Posted by amandabeech on Thu Aug-26-04 12:37 AM
You and your family will be in the thoughts and prayers of all of us who have read your posts here on D.U.
2264596, I am so very sorry....
Posted by dennis4868 on Thu Aug-26-04 12:37 AM
for your horrible loss.
Hang in there....
:-(
2264598, i'm so sorry.
Posted by sobersteelhead on Thu Aug-26-04 12:37 AM
prayers and condolences for you and michael. smoke rising for all. godspeed.
2264599, Oh Mari I'm so sorry......no words can express this sadness..
Posted by loftycity on Thu Aug-26-04 12:37 AM
2264604, Mari, I'm sorry
Posted by Katarina on Thu Aug-26-04 12:38 AM
I've tried writing this twice now and I don't know what to say other than I'm sorry and you are in my thoughts. I hope Michael gets home soon and we are all here for you. If you need ANYTHING, you let us know. We are all family and we are here for you.
:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:
2264613, God Bless
Posted by oldleftguy on Thu Aug-26-04 12:39 AM
Your not alone kiddo.
2264615, I am so sorry, Mari333.
Posted by AbbeyRoad on Thu Aug-26-04 12:40 AM
This is incredibly sad news. Although you probably don't know much about me, I feel like I've gotten to know your family and your difficult situation with the Iraq war a little through your posts. I am truly so sorry for your loss.
2264616, May you one day find peace.
Posted by milkyway on Thu Aug-26-04 12:40 AM
2264618, How awful!
Posted by Birthmark on Thu Aug-26-04 12:40 AM
I am so sorry. :(
2264621, Please be gentle with yourself
Posted by medeak on Thu Aug-26-04 12:40 AM
My family will be sending comforting thoughts to yours. Grieving a sudden death is so hard when you long to say good bye and I love you.
Share your feelings with your friends and us on the board.
We're here for you and would love to hear stories of your husband to celebrate his life. I don't pretend to know what pain you and family are going through .. but know that in my heart I wish you peace.
2264622, I lost a partner to sudden death -- so I know the shock
Posted by beam_me_up on Thu Aug-26-04 12:41 AM
I know nothing can take away the shock and the pain. I also know that kind, loving words and good friends and family are an enormous help. For what it is worth, one does heal, albeit slowly. In a way the grieving is a kind of gift. I can't explain that. But it is the beginning of the healing, the opening of the heart.
May peace and grace find you and comfort you.
2264625, Mary, I'm so sorry.
Posted by shimmergal on Thu Aug-26-04 12:41 AM
You've already had more than anyone should have to bear. Please know that I'm sending up prayers for you and your family.
2264628, Mari
Posted by mountainvue on Thu Aug-26-04 12:42 AM
I am truly sorry for your loss. You have my prayers.
2264629, MY prayers to you....and save this document I'm including...
Posted by Lerkfish on Thu Aug-26-04 12:42 AM
Hi. You don't know me but I am well acquainted with grief. I have lost mother, father , wife, and son to death. It does not get better, but it does get easier. Right now you are in shock, and what I'm including after this will not help you NOW. Please save it and print it out and put it in a drawer until about 2-3 months from now...that is when you will need it.
I might not cross paths with you then, so I'm giving this to you now. It is something I wrote to a woman in my church, and I've sent it since then to anyone grieving. If it helps you, good. If it does not, then I'm sorry to have intruded...
-------This is part of a letter I wrote to a woman in our church who had been widowed. Although a lot of it may not apply to what you're specifically going through, some things still do. A loss of any kind is hard to take. Good advice is still good advice, and I hope you don't mind that I've already offered this to someone else. You can always count on those around you if you need a shoulder. Here is most of what I have to say:
I know how people around you are struggling with their desire to bring you comfort at this time, while at the same time not having any idea what is the right thing to say. It seems we are taught many things in our lives, except that one thing which would be infinitely useful -- how to tell someone we care about how we are saddened by their loss, and want to offer support and encouragement. I don't have the answer, either, but I thought I would write you this letter as if I were writing to myself, when I was widowed about several years ago.
First, there are people around who care for you. In a time of grief it becomes difficult to see that. Later on (and there WILL be a "later on"), you'll remember little things people did out of concern for you that may not be obvious now. I can remember people asking me to lunch, of coffee, etc., and several phone calls. At the time I just wanted to withdraw into myself and avoid contact with anyone. How could they know what I was going through? I didn't realize at the time that it really didn't matter if they understood exactly what I was going through, it only matters that they cared.
So, try as I might, I can't know exactly what you're feeling: but I have been through something similar. Please allow me to help as best I can by offering unsolicited advice. (worth exactly what you paid for it!). But I wish someone might have told me similar things when I was widowed. Someone actually might have, now that I think of it, but I might have been too numb to listen. OK, here we go:
1. GET OR ACCEPT HELP (even if it's only a friendly shoulder). I had always prided myself on being someone who helped out others, on being independent, and not really needing anyone. But I finally had to break down and get some help. I'm so glad I did. Sometimes being widowed (or losing a loved one) is a burden too large to bear alone, because not only have you lost someone who meant more to you than life itself, and who you would have gladly given your own life NOT to lose; but everything you have come to depend on as your normal life is uprooted. Even mundane things like toothbrushes and how much food to cook. One side of the bed (or house) is empty, and even little things like TV shows you enjoyed watching together seem not the same. Dangerous thoughts like "how can I go on..." run through your head. But I can definitely tell you those thoughts are wrong. There is nothing more precious to those around you and to God than your life, and how you live it from now on. That's why you have to accept offered help, even if you're not in mood. If for no other reason than to let those who offer it feel good about offering it. Because they're at a loss as to how to help, so by letting them help in whatever small way, you're helping them. And you'd be surprised how that will make you feel better.
2. LET YOURSELF GRIEVE. If you postpone or ignore your grief, it merely starts accumulating. Eventually you will have to deal with it, and sometimes the longer you wait, the harder it will be to deal with. Dealing with these emotions are difficult for anyone. I know for me, it was very hard, and I ended up drinking a lot, and throwing myself into my work in an effort to numb myself to it. To become something without emotion: if I couldn't feel, I thought I couldn't hurt.
But then what happens is those neglected emotions come out in whatever way they can. I would lose my temper irrationally over small, unimportant things, and be hurt or offended over offhand comments not even directed towards me. I became self-destructive and unconsciously pushed people away who were trying to help. If you find this sort of thing happening, you can be sure there is some undealt with grief lurking around.
3. DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP. Guilty feelings do not help you grieve, they delay the process. Don't get trapped into " If only I had done..." or "If only I had said...", because the only reason for asking those questions is to somehow punish yourself. I got involved in a widow/widowers group when I was having trouble, and you know what I found? Everyone there had a spouse die under completely different circumstances, yet all of them blamed themselves or felt guilty (notice I didn't say they WERE guilty, just felt that way).
If a loved one died at work, they felt they should have been there when they died. If they were there, they felt helpless and somehow should have prevented it. If a loved one died suddenly, there was guilt for not expressing love one last time. If there was a prolonged illness, they felt guilty for thinking it was good for the suffering to be over. And on, and on, and on.
My particular guilt hurdle came about because the doctor advised me not to tell my wife she was dying, and to act like everything was normal, because the shock itself might kill her. (she was having congestive heart failure) After she died, I felt guilty that I wasn't truthful with her (we never kept any secrets from each other).Guilt....Guilt....Guilt....Guilt....Guilt........
You know what? Sometimes people just pass on, and there's nothing that can be done about it. AND it's not your fault. Because all of us would never let our loved ones go if it were up to us. Your mom or sister or girlfriend or lover knows you loved them, even if you don't feel that right now. If you're tempted to feel guilty anytime, put the shoe on the other foot; would you want your mom or whoever to feel bad or guilty if you had passed first? Of course not.
4. BUY YOURSELF SOME NEW CLOTHES: I'm not sure why this helps exactly, unless it reminds you that life is continuing, you are still going places and doing things. But trust me on this one, it was a tremendous turning point for me.
5 DO SOMETHING THAT TAKES A WHILE TO DO; start a several-day project, and then another. It helps keep your mind planning things on in the future. Projects that only take one day don't seem to do the same trick.
6. FIND WAYS TO HELP OTHERS. Try to find some small way to help others in place of that. This is an amazingly interesting thing: lightening the burdens of others reduces the weight of our own. Send a cheerful or humorous card to someone you've just met, for example. (Or knock on your neighbor's door and stop by for coffee, just out of the blue).
7. MAKE A NEW FRIEND. One that knows you first as you are now, an individual, and add them to the circle of friends who knew you as part of a family.
8. REMEMBER THERE IS STILL JOY IN THE WORLD. There are still wonderful people to know, still beautiful things to see, still a lifetime of things to accomplish. Your life is still the adventure it started off being when you were just a child. Adventures mean that both good things and bad things happen, but oh, what a ride! This is an important chapter of the book of your life, but there are many more page turns to come. Can't wait to see what happens next!
2265519, What a wonderful gift!
Posted by Longhorn on Thu Aug-26-04 08:53 AM
None of us wants to be in this position but there's a good chance we all will be someday, losing someone we love. Your words are full of love and understanding and I know they will be helpful. I'm going to print this myself -- and then hope that I never have to share it or use it myself.
Thank you!
2265570, you're welcome...
Posted by Lerkfish on Thu Aug-26-04 09:15 AM
I think grief is uncharted territory for the soul when you are first introduced to it.
I have sent out or mailed out that letter probably 7 times, and I'm glad if it helps. But usually, the person is not really ready for it until the initial shock wears off.
What happens (usually) is that in the near term, the widowed person is surrounded by people giving them comfort..which is a tremendous help. But there comes a point where that help is lessened or withdrawn (which is actually a healthy thing), and the bereaved at some point has to battle their grief alone. when you reach THAT point is actually the point you should read that letter. that is the most perilous part of the journey through grief.
I also wrote this fictional allegory for overcoming grief for two sisters who were dealing with a loss:
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Words are stones we hurl at horrors....
By Lerk
Lerk: here. Here is a weighty stone. *hands it to Kofi*
Kofi: it says "guilt"
Lerk: toss it very far from you.
*Kofi throws the stone as far from her as she can*
Lerk: here. here is a weighty stone. *hands to Toe*
Toe: it says "blame"
Lerk: toss it very far from you.
*Toe throws the stone as far from her as she can*
Lerk: Here are a pile of stones. *points to pile*
Kofi and Toe: What are those?
Lerk: Memories. Some are good. Some are bad. Many are painful. Some are small. Some are heavy. Some are jagged. Some are smooth.
Kofi: throw these from us?
Lerk: No. Even if you can't lift them now, keep them close to you. You will need them.
Toe: what will we need them for?
Lerk: To build bridges.
Kofi: what kind of bridges?
Lerk: that stretch from the past to the future. That support you on your way. That have little waystations on the piers, in which are shrines, made from these stones.
Toe: aren't stones very cold things? How can we build a bridge from those?
Lerk: *shrugs* Stones are what bridges are made from. I do not know the secret of stones and why we must use them. I only know that I have made bridges...and walked them. Sometimes placing one stone on top another is the only way to hang on. *mirthless grin* Come. I have something else to give you.
Kofi and Toe follow Lerk to the edge of a wide canyon.
Lerk: here. *hands a stone to both Toe and Kofi, who strain under the weight* these are stones of illusion.
Kofi: mine says: Despair
Toe: mine says: Depression
Lerk: and mine says: Grief
Kofi: how can we hurl these from us? they are too heavy.
Toe: I can hardly lift it.
Lerk: here is a trick I have learned. watch.
*Lerk weeps openly, the tears forming rivers on his face. He pulls out a cloth and mops up the tears. Then, he holds the cloth over his stone, and slowly wrings it out. As the drops of tears drip on the stone, it begins to melt away, a bit at a time. after a time, The stone splits in two, and slowly it dissolves*
Kofi: I do not understand.
Toe: How can tears dissolve Despair, Depression and grief?
Lerk: That is the illusion. it isnt tears that dissolves the stones, but time...that, and the knowledge that the stone WILL dissolve. The stones are not as huge as you think, but rather, made up of many many small stones. Take your despair, your depression, and your grief only one small particle at a time. The whole stone is too much for any one. But one particle at a time is something you can do.
*They all stand on the edge of the canyon as Lerk scoops up the particles of the dissolved stone. He hurls it out over the canyon, where the particle fall, and recombine into a structure that spans the canyon*
Lerk: come. *holds out his hand* It's time to cross that bridge.
THE BEGINNING
2264630, I am so terribly sorry.
Posted by janeaustin on Thu Aug-26-04 12:42 AM
I pray for some comfort and peace for you and Michael.
2264632, my thoughts and prayers are with you, and your family,
Posted by mitchtv on Thu Aug-26-04 12:42 AM
During this trying time. Please accept my sympathy.
2264635, *hug* n/t
Posted by jonnyblitz on Thu Aug-26-04 12:43 AM
2264640, Thoughts and prayers are with you, Mari...
Posted by silverweb on Thu Aug-26-04 12:43 AM
Please know we are all with you in spirit.
2264661, My prayers are with you.
Posted by shraby on Thu Aug-26-04 12:48 AM
I'm so sorry. :cry: :cry: :cry:
2264641, Dear Mari...I am stunned by oyur loss, and the loss DU will feel...
Posted by rasputin1952 on Thu Aug-26-04 12:45 AM
over this. I am in shock, and find it difficult to write this...:cry
May you find peace quickly, my prayers and thoughts are w/you and your family...:hug:
2264645, Oh Mari333, I am so sorry!
Posted by FrustratedDemInNC on Thu Aug-26-04 12:45 AM
Your family has been through so much, my thoughts and prayers are with you. :hug:
2264647, I am so sorry
Posted by ZombyWoof on Thu Aug-26-04 12:45 AM
We'll be here for you whenever you need us... my heart goes out to you and your family... so much we all wish we could do.
2264649, Mari...
Posted by ewagner on Thu Aug-26-04 12:46 AM
I am so sorry to hear this.
What a shock..........
Lots of hugs coming your way. :hug: :hug: :hug:
2264651, My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours tonight.
Posted by Swede on Thu Aug-26-04 12:46 AM
2264652, My thoughts are with you.
Posted by BEFOREATHOUGHT on Thu Aug-26-04 12:47 AM
I'm so sorry.
2264658, My deepest sympathies
Posted by Mika on Thu Aug-26-04 12:47 AM
I lost my wife/best friend in an accident in 1991. I thought that my life was over. It seemed that way for a long time. I know how you feel right now.
Please take care of yourself, Mari.
If you need any help please let people know.
My deepest sympathies go out to you and your family.
2264663, Mari - I'm so sorry . Please let us know if there's anything I/we can do.
Posted by gore-is-my-president on Thu Aug-26-04 12:48 AM
Please let us know how things are going if you have the time 'cause we'll all be thinking about you.
2264664, oh mari, i am so sorry.
Posted by SheepyMcSheepster on Thu Aug-26-04 12:49 AM
2264665, What a heartbreaking thing to have happened to you and your son
Posted by demo@midlife on Thu Aug-26-04 12:49 AM
Please know that you are among many friends who will be keeping you both in our prayers. Don't hesitate to call on your friends here at DU when you need something, including listening ears and shoulders for crying on.
Life is really unfair sometimes, and I'm sorry it has been that way for you and your dear son.
Take care of yourself, Mari, and do let your friends help whenever possible.
2264668, DU loves you Mari
Posted by Elwood P Dowd on Thu Aug-26-04 12:49 AM
Prayers to you and your family.
2264672, *hug* n/t
Posted by renegade000 on Thu Aug-26-04 12:50 AM
2264675, I'm so sorry
Posted by JohnnyCougar on Thu Aug-26-04 12:51 AM
Remember that you are a strong person. Peace be with you.
2264679, Oh Mari, that is just terrible, I'm so sorry
Posted by Lindacooks on Thu Aug-26-04 12:52 AM
I just wish there was something I could do. Thinking of you.
2264682, Oh no. So sorry.
Posted by alfredo on Thu Aug-26-04 12:52 AM
Stay strong.
Take your time, then when you feel strong enough, report back. We will wait for your return.
2264688, Peace to you, may God help shoulder your burden.
Posted by puerco-bellies on Thu Aug-26-04 12:53 AM
I am so very sorry for you and your family.
Sincerely,
Dennis
2264692, All I can say is
Posted by WLKjr on Thu Aug-26-04 12:54 AM
:grouphug:
may your husband rest in peace :O8):
:hug:
2264695, I am so very, very sorry Mari.
Posted by BevHarris on Thu Aug-26-04 12:55 AM
I know you've been through a very difficult year. You will be in our prayers. Please let us know how you are, we care very much.
Bev Harris
2264702, Mari - I am so sorry for your loss.
Posted by huckleberry on Thu Aug-26-04 12:56 AM
My thoughts and prayers are with you and Michael during this sad time.
2264705, So sorry, Mari and Michael.
Posted by TacticalPeak on Thu Aug-26-04 12:56 AM
:grouphug:
2264707, I don't know what to say about your
Posted by Kool Kitty on Thu Aug-26-04 12:57 AM
terrible loss. I am so sorry and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
2264711, I am so very sorry.
Posted by kimchi on Thu Aug-26-04 12:57 AM
My thoughts and prayers are for you and your son tonight.
You know that we are here for you. May your family and your friends find a small amount of comfort in love for your husband and each other.
2264712, Why do such horrible things have to happen to such good people?
Posted by XanthaS on Thu Aug-26-04 12:58 AM
Hearing news like this sure makes obsessing over the latest poll numbers and talking points seem silly and insignificant.
My thoughts go out to you and your family.
2264714, OMG! I'm so sorry!
Posted by Gothic_Sponge on Thu Aug-26-04 12:58 AM
I'm at a loss for words, but i am so deeply sorry.
2264717, Oh my God, I am so, so sorry to hear this.....
Posted by Sperk on Thu Aug-26-04 12:59 AM
I know he was so upset and worried about your son....God, we just have no idea what can unfold in our lives. God Bless your family, I'll be praying for you. Again, I am so sorry for your loss.
:grouphug:
2264767, There are no words
Posted by Marlie on Thu Aug-26-04 01:11 AM
Oh Mari, I too feel as though I know you well, mostly because of
your posts about Michael. I have said many prayers for him to be
safe. Now my prayers will also include you. I'm so sorry for your
terrible loss. Please take care.
2264718, I am very, very sorry to hear that.
Posted by barbaraann on Thu Aug-26-04 12:59 AM
Please take care. I'm at a loss for words because you have been through so much and I hope you can find the strength to deal with this.
2264720, So, so sad
Posted by KTM on Thu Aug-26-04 12:59 AM
Mari, my words cant do any good - but know that we all hurt for you, and for your son in Iraq. I wish all 49,337 of us could give you hugs. Be strong.
:hug:
2264721, When Michael comes home
Posted by RummyTheDummy on Thu Aug-26-04 12:59 AM
DO NOT let him go back to Iraq. You've lost enough. Do whatever you have to do, but don't let him go back.
Take care of yourself.
2264726, Everyone before me said it quite well
Posted by alittlelark on Thu Aug-26-04 01:00 AM
but I'm really sorry and sad too. Damn.
:cry:
2264729, Mari, I am very sorry. This is so sad.
Posted by RodneyCK2 on Thu Aug-26-04 01:01 AM
I know this may not be very comforting, but you will see him again. Life is just a stepping stone.
2264739, Mari, I know you're away from the computer as is proper, but I am crying
Posted by karlrschneider on Thu Aug-26-04 01:04 AM
along with you. How awful. I hope you can find some comfort from your
friends here.
:cry:
2264741, There are no words
Posted by ParanoidPat on Thu Aug-26-04 01:04 AM
I'm so sorry Mari333. Let us know what we can do.
2264745, Mari. I am so sorry.
Posted by Robbien on Thu Aug-26-04 01:05 AM
You both needed each other and your husband sounded like he was such a good soul.
Sending some strength out to you.
So sorry, we all lost a good one.
2264746, God rest his soul
Posted by bigtree on Thu Aug-26-04 01:05 AM
Take care
2264750, I'm so sorry... I'm so terribly sorry.
Posted by Caliphoto on Thu Aug-26-04 01:06 AM
There is nothing I can say other than that. Your friends here at DU will be here when you're ready.
2264759, I'm so sorry for your loss
Posted by AngryLizard on Thu Aug-26-04 01:08 AM
Please take care of yourself and know that all of our thoughts and prayers are with you.
2264756, That is so hard
Posted by acudoc on Thu Aug-26-04 01:08 AM
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
2264766, oh mari
Posted by luvamericahatebush on Thu Aug-26-04 01:10 AM
i am crying as i type this, bless you, i will be praying for you and michael. let us know if we can ever do anything for you.
2264768, Our thoughts and prayers go out to you.
Posted by democrat_patriot on Thu Aug-26-04 01:11 AM
Take care and know we are ALL here for you.
2264772, I'm so sorry
Posted by TBreeze on Thu Aug-26-04 01:12 AM
My prayers and thoughts are with you. *big hug*
2264773, Mari, may you find peace
Posted by Red_Viking on Thu Aug-26-04 01:12 AM
I'm so very sorry for your loss. I only know of your family from DU but I am deeply saddened by your husband's passing. May Michael get home soon and safely and not have to return to that hellhole.
We here on DU care about you and your family. Please lean on us, let us lend you some strength. Sometimes even strangers can provide comfort! If I could, I would put my arms around you and give you a hug. Since I can't, I'll send good thoughts and prayers and I'll remember you over the coming days and hope you are well.
I've always believed that when you remember people you love, they're not really gone from you.
Peace, dear Mary.
RV
2264801, Mari, I am so sorry
Posted by Nashyra on Thu Aug-26-04 01:20 AM
You have been through so much this year. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family. Take comfort in knowing we here at DU are enveloping you with our love. Remember to let us know how we can help. Bless you and Michael
2264776, omg. i'm so sorry. my heart goes out to you and your family.
Posted by progressivebebe on Thu Aug-26-04 01:13 AM
i will say a prayer for you tonight. hang in there. we are here for you.
2264783, These are sad days, Mari333. My thoughts are with you and your son
Posted by 0rganism on Thu Aug-26-04 01:14 AM
At least you will be reunited with Michael soon.
Stay safe, stay with friends.
2264799, Sending you all the strength I can
Posted by proud patriot on Thu Aug-26-04 01:20 AM
:hug:
2264800, God bless you
Posted by Proud2BAmurkin on Thu Aug-26-04 01:20 AM
.
2264805, Please accept my deepest sympathy
Posted by Ron_Green on Thu Aug-26-04 01:20 AM
for your loss, Mari. I know that the outpouring of love from these good people for you and your son in this time of grief is a powerful thing.
2264804, Bring your son home
Posted by dweller on Thu Aug-26-04 01:20 AM
and tend to your best friend.
sending strength and Peace in thought here to you.
dp
2264817, please know that you are in the prayers . . .
Posted by OneBlueSky on Thu Aug-26-04 01:24 AM
of many, many friends here on DU . . . this is so tragic, and we all share your grief . . . God bless, and may you find peace in the coming weeks and months . . . :hug:
2264825, I am so very sorry
Posted by wellstone_democrat on Thu Aug-26-04 01:27 AM
I can only offer you the regards and best wishes of my family at this terrible time. I know its been a hard year for you and your family and I hope that you know that you have friends here and, should you think of a way we can help, that we will do whatever we can for you. I hope at the very least that this brings Michael home permanently as I know you and his father wanted that so much. Our love is with you tonight Mari.
2264830, My condolences
Posted by Philosophy on Thu Aug-26-04 01:28 AM
to you and your family in your time of grief
2264831, Oh Mari... I Am SO Sorry... ((((((( HUG )))))))
Posted by WillyT on Thu Aug-26-04 01:28 AM
I have no words. You are in our thoughts and prayers. Get your son home, you're gonna need each other. Take care of each other.
:cry::cry::cry:
2264836, oh god, Mari
Posted by Dookus on Thu Aug-26-04 01:29 AM
this is unthinkable. You are in my thoughts. Hang in there and know that Michael will be home soon.
I am extraordinarily saddened by this news.
2264847, So very sorry, Mari.
Posted by liburl on Thu Aug-26-04 01:33 AM
The thoughts and prayers from everyone are sincere and you have a support group here if you need it. Take care of yourself.
My prayers are with you and your family.
2264853, I am so sorry Mari...
Posted by Irishladdie on Thu Aug-26-04 01:33 AM
You will be in my prayers.
May God give you the strength.
2264874, i'm so sorry
Posted by JI7 on Thu Aug-26-04 01:39 AM
this is horrible. i hate when things like this happen. i hate that anyone has to go through this.
and you come on here and write up anything anytime you feel you need to. we will understand.
2264877, Words cannot express -- all I can say is, may God give you comfort.
Posted by dbaker41 on Thu Aug-26-04 01:39 AM
I am so sorry to hear your tragic news. No words are adequate; just know that your friends are praying for you.
Bake
2264884, Peace Be With You
Posted by FoeOfBush on Thu Aug-26-04 01:41 AM
2264897, my deepest sympathies
Posted by mulsh on Thu Aug-26-04 01:44 AM
take care. whenever I lurk I look for your postings, this is one I wish I never came across. take all the time you need, remember you are loved and love doesn't die.
2264903, Oh no.
Posted by benburch on Thu Aug-26-04 01:46 AM
My heart goes out to you.
2264913, Oh dear God
Posted by Moonbeam_Starlight on Thu Aug-26-04 01:48 AM
I think I am in shock, too. I have followed your story and my heart goes out to you and your family. Dear Mari......may you have peace and may you see Michael soon....I am so so sorry....
2264935, heartfelt condolences
Posted by YoQuieroLiberty on Thu Aug-26-04 01:55 AM
To you and yours.
2264936, Oh Mari
Posted by tkmorris on Thu Aug-26-04 01:55 AM
We are so sorry. There are no words.
:hug:
2264938, Oh Mari, I don't have the words
Posted by Susang on Thu Aug-26-04 01:56 AM
If you need anything, please ask. I can't even begin to imagine what you must be going through. :hug:
2264941, Love never dies...
Posted by Melinda on Thu Aug-26-04 01:56 AM
May loving memories & God's peace comfort you now and until you are reunited once again... Take care Mari, and know that your DU family is here for you when you need us.
Melinda
2264943, My sweet Marianne
Posted by Skittles on Thu Aug-26-04 01:57 AM
my sweet baby
2264945, My heart breaks for you and your family
Posted by goclark on Thu Aug-26-04 01:58 AM
My prayers are wuth you.
2264946, I have no words.
Posted by mkuhl on Thu Aug-26-04 01:58 AM
2264948, I am so sorry
Posted by notawol on Thu Aug-26-04 01:59 AM
I don't know what to say, my prayers and thoughts are with you in this time of sorrow.
2264949, Mari 333, you have my profoundest sympathy.
Posted by bobthedrummer on Thu Aug-26-04 01:59 AM
I pray for strength for your family at this time to overcome sorrow.
Bob
2264952, I'm very sorry to hear of your tragic loss.
Posted by ZenLefty on Thu Aug-26-04 01:59 AM
Please don't forget that we're thinking of you.
2264957, I'm so sorry for your loss, Mari
Posted by 4morewars on Thu Aug-26-04 02:02 AM
I can't imagine your pain, at least your boy is coming home.
2264966, So sorry
Posted by kskiska on Thu Aug-26-04 02:05 AM
Words fail me. You've had such a burden this year and now this. My sympathies are with you and Michael.
2264970, oh god Mari, what can anyone say?
Posted by Desertrose on Thu Aug-26-04 02:06 AM
I am so so sorry...yes..of course you are in shock.
I wish we could all be there to support you in person...but know that we are here on DU for you.
I send prayers for him and for you and to have his son returned. I'm...I'm just so sorry. I know you will survive cause you are one strong lady...I hope you have family there for YOU.
((((hugs))))))
DR
2264971, I'm so sorry to hear that
Posted by Piltdown13 on Thu Aug-26-04 02:07 AM
My deepest sympathies.
2264975, My deepest sympathies are with you tonight
Posted by slinkerwink on Thu Aug-26-04 02:08 AM
:hug:
2264977, Dear God.
Posted by mmmarke on Thu Aug-26-04 02:12 AM
I'm not very spiritual but right now I'm asking God to please, please give you some comfort in the days to come. You've had an awful year and we here on DU have followed the story of your family's trials with sympathy and love. I can't believe this. Please know you are in the thoughts and prayers of a stranger who nevertheless feels she knows you. May your husband's spirit find the peace that has so eluded him these last months. May you yourself, and Michael, find peace as well, and the strength to carry on.
Come back to us as soon as you can, Mari.
2264982, So sorry...
Posted by indigobusiness on Thu Aug-26-04 02:17 AM
My sincere condolences.
2264988, Mari, the DU family is here for you.
Posted by LibDemAlways on Thu Aug-26-04 02:19 AM
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your loved ones.
2264989, You have my deepest sympathies.
Posted by kgfnally on Thu Aug-26-04 02:20 AM
As well as my prayers.
2264994, My heart is open to you.
Posted by Sinistrous on Thu Aug-26-04 02:21 AM
My deepest compassion and sympathy to you and your son.
2265003, I'm so VERY sorry Mari...I send healing light energy to you
Posted by Lindsey on Thu Aug-26-04 02:25 AM
and Michael. OMG - please know how much you are cared about.
2265001, this is very sad news.
Posted by rozf on Thu Aug-26-04 02:24 AM
I am so sorry.....terrible.......tragic.......Love 2 U & your family.
2265009, Oh, my God, oh my God, NO!
Posted by TankLV on Thu Aug-26-04 02:28 AM
I am sooooo sorry to hear this.
There is nothing else I can say.
2265011, I am sorry for your loss
Posted by Kennethken on Thu Aug-26-04 02:29 AM
:hug:
words fail :hug:
:loveya:
2265015, I AM SOOOOOO SORRY, LUV
Posted by unslinkychild1 on Thu Aug-26-04 02:33 AM
I am speechless and in tears. I am so sorry. What can we do to help?
I ain't got a job or NOTHING, but can I send you five bucks to help with the costs? Oh MY GOD, I am so sorry!
2265025, I'm at a loss for words because nothing...
Posted by Andromeda on Thu Aug-26-04 02:41 AM
I say could be enough to comfort you in your sorrow.
Blessings to you and your family. :grouphug:
2265027, I'm so sorry. Hugs to you and your family.
Posted by coalminersdaughter on Thu Aug-26-04 02:41 AM
2265028, I'm very sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you.
Posted by chicagojoe on Thu Aug-26-04 02:42 AM
2265033, Mari and Michael, I hope your friends and family gather you close and
Posted by juajen on Thu Aug-26-04 02:45 AM
that you two will be comforted in your memories of this man who was so dear to you both.
I'm praying that God will carry you when you falter and that the sun will shine on your darkest days. Much love to you both from a complete, but caring, stranger. Juajen
2265034, My Thoughts And Condolences Are With You This Night
Posted by TheWatcher on Thu Aug-26-04 02:47 AM
I wish there was something I could do or say, but I know there is not.
Mari, you are one of the strongest, most righteous beings I have had the honor to come across. I offer you my condolences and deepest regrets for your loss.
TheWacther
2265039, Oh, Mari, I'm crying for you
Posted by starroute on Thu Aug-26-04 02:50 AM
I haven't posted much on your threads, so you may not know me, but I've been following your story and I've been in awe of what a fighter you are. Please, for all our sakes, keep fighting. Grieve, rant, cry all you like. But don't give up. Love those who are dear to you, because they need you as much as you need them. And hold tight.
2265040, Deepest sympathies....
Posted by IdaBriggs on Thu Aug-26-04 02:50 AM
I am so dreadfully sorry to hear your tragic news. Please know I will be keeping you and your family in prayer during this difficult time. The phone number for Silent Unity is (800) 669-7729 if you need it. :hug: Ida
2265049, At a loss for words.
Posted by berry on Thu Aug-26-04 02:57 AM
I have been so grateful to you for sharing your worries about Michael with us, letting us here at DU learn from you the daily pain the war brings. And now, in your new loss and grief, knowing in your soul what is important, you ask us to be kind to each other. Another gift from you. (I am a little awed by your goodness.)
I will look for your return (when you are ready), and meanwhile send my best wishes to you and Michael and all your family and friends. I am so sorry...
berry
2265054, Peace to you Mari and Michael
Posted by Swamp_Rat on Thu Aug-26-04 03:00 AM
2267269, I don't know how you're even going to load this
Posted by TNOE on Thu Aug-26-04 04:50 PM
with your over 500 friends wanting to comfort you. Even those of us who don't "know" you know you because of everything you've been through. I am so sorry for your loss and thank God Michael will get to come home and your husband is at peace now. So tragic, words just can't express. But you are loved and you are strong - and I pray that your heart will be filled with love and peace.
P.S. Thank you Swamprat for that picture. So beautiful and so nice.
2265057, So sorry, Mari.
Posted by Matilda on Thu Aug-26-04 03:01 AM
I hope they let your son come home quickly.
Blessings.
2265077, I am so so sorry
Posted by ps1074 on Thu Aug-26-04 03:13 AM
My deepest sympathies :hug:
2265081, I'm so very sorry. I don't have the words.
Posted by BritDem on Thu Aug-26-04 03:15 AM
Take care.
2265083, Deleted message
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2265084, I am so sorry!
Posted by countfloyd on Thu Aug-26-04 03:16 AM
my thoughts and prayers are with you.
2265088, I'm so terribly sorry, Mari
Posted by incapsulated on Thu Aug-26-04 03:21 AM
What a horrible shock. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
2265089, Oh Mari, there are no words to
Posted by onecitzenBtrayed on Thu Aug-26-04 03:21 AM
express my sympathies for you and your son. Everyone else has already said what I would want to say. Stay strong and know that you and your son are in our thoughts and prayers. My gawd Marie, you deserve a break.
Sara
2265093, I'm so sorry to hear of your terrible loss...
Posted by virgdem on Thu Aug-26-04 03:23 AM
May God be with you at this difficult time. I will pray for you and your son and I hope that he is able to stay with you.
2265097, Oh no.
Posted by Chovexani on Thu Aug-26-04 03:25 AM
I'm at a loss for words. Just know, everyone at DU is here for you. We are all family and we are keeping you in our hearts.
I will light a candle for you tonight.
2265106, I am so very sorry
Posted by Book Lover on Thu Aug-26-04 03:29 AM
You and Michael are in my family's thoughts. God, I am so sorry.
2265110, this is the worst thing I've ever read on this board. I am so very, very
Posted by roguevalley on Thu Aug-26-04 03:30 AM
sorry, honey. God bless you and your family.
2265113, I am so sorry!
Posted by mazzarro on Thu Aug-26-04 03:31 AM
Please accept my sincerest condolence for you and your family! May his soul rest in peace.
2265124, Our prayers go out for you and your Family.
Posted by PsychoDad on Thu Aug-26-04 03:37 AM
(Huggs)
I am so sorry to hear this. :( May your son return soon and safely.
2265131, I'm so sorry.
Posted by Avalon Sparks on Thu Aug-26-04 03:40 AM
I'm so sorry.
2265134, We love and embrace you, Mari, as always -- what a terrible tragedy...
Posted by DeepModem Mom on Thu Aug-26-04 03:41 AM
for you and your family. I am deeply sorry.
2265138, I am so sorry for your loss Mari....
Posted by God_bush_n_cheney on Thu Aug-26-04 03:42 AM
I know words mean so little at a time like this and I myself fumble for words. You are in my prayers tonight.
Andy
2265176, So sorry for you
Posted by ze_dscherman on Thu Aug-26-04 04:15 AM
How very, very sad. Nothing more to say, but a big transatlantic hug.
2265178, so sorry to hear this.
Posted by ezmojason on Thu Aug-26-04 04:19 AM
Very sad day today.
2265185, So deeply sorry, Mari.
Posted by DemEx_pat on Thu Aug-26-04 04:24 AM
:hug: :hug: :hug:
DemEx
2265197, Deepest Condolences
Posted by Behind the Ageis on Thu Aug-26-04 04:32 AM
May your family find the support it needs and your hearts heal with love.
Healing Blessings!
2265199, I'm speechless...
Posted by JDWalley on Thu Aug-26-04 04:33 AM
:hug:
2265203, Jesus, Mari! I'm speechless...
Posted by alg0912 on Thu Aug-26-04 04:36 AM
I'm terribly sorry... shit, words are hard to formulate on such news. I'm just... so very sorry...
Goddamn it...
2265206, Oh Mari
Posted by buddyhollysghost on Thu Aug-26-04 04:36 AM
You have been through so much.
Please keep us posted, let us know you're okay when things settle down.
We are all here for you :cry:
BIG DU HUG :grouphug:
2265216, My sincerest condolences
Posted by Spentastic on Thu Aug-26-04 04:47 AM
I can't say anything that will help. This is terrible news.
2265217, Oh Mari, I'm so very sorry.
Posted by bunnyj on Thu Aug-26-04 04:47 AM
I can't add anything further, just I'm so very sorry.
2265219, So sorry...
Posted by kayleybeth on Thu Aug-26-04 04:49 AM
May God give you strength and good memories comfort you in your time of loss.
Hugs,
Kayeleigh
2265231, I am so sorry Mari.
Posted by enough on Thu Aug-26-04 04:58 AM
You have given us so much here on DU by making your family's story real to us. My thoughts have often been with you and your husband and son. And now more than ever. So sorry.
2265238, Oh Mari -- peace and strength be with you in this terrible time
Posted by Hekate on Thu Aug-26-04 05:01 AM
Our hearts go out to you and your family. Since most of us can't drop by with a casserole, we send our prayers. Please send word if there is any way that we can help you.
Hekate
:grouphug:
:cry:
2265241, Deepest Condolences.
Posted by impeachdubya on Thu Aug-26-04 05:04 AM
Very, Very sorry to hear of your loss.
2265244, please know that your friends here are with you
Posted by radfringe on Thu Aug-26-04 05:05 AM
2265247, I am so, so sorry for your loss, Mari.
Posted by ulysses on Thu Aug-26-04 05:08 AM
2265251, I have no words.... to comfort. I'm helpless.
Posted by TrustingDog on Thu Aug-26-04 05:15 AM
I don't know what to say, I'm cryin' here.
2265255, Mari, I am so sorry.
Posted by Dem2theMax on Thu Aug-26-04 05:20 AM
I wish I knew what to say. I'm all the way across the country from you, but if there is anything I can do, even from here, just say it.
It goes without saying that you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Please take care of yourself. And know we are here for you. :grouphug:
2265273, My deepest sympathy Mari
Posted by Maccagirl on Thu Aug-26-04 05:38 AM
No one should be going through what you and Michael are enduring at this time. I pray that you have all the support that you need.
2265281, Mari, I am truly sorry.
Posted by AnnitaR on Thu Aug-26-04 05:47 AM
You're family will be in my thoughts and prayers as they have always been.
As you can see by the number of replies, you have a lot of support here, I hope that gives you a bit of comfort.
2265284, I'm terribly sorry, Mari
Posted by DeposeTheBoyKing on Thu Aug-26-04 05:49 AM
What a terrible shock for you. Please accept my heartfelt condolences. I will keep you in my prayers today.
2265287, OMG, you've been through so much already
Posted by DoYouEverWonder on Thu Aug-26-04 05:54 AM
I am so sorry. I wish there was something we could do. Just know there are a lot of people praying and thinking about you.
2265290, Mari, I'm so sorry...
Posted by Skidmore on Thu Aug-26-04 05:56 AM
my condolences are sent with hopes for peace and healing for you and your family.
2265292, Blessings and strength
Posted by dancing kali on Thu Aug-26-04 05:57 AM
to you and your son. My deepest condolences. I don't know what else to say that could possibly give any comfort.
2265294, Mari, I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you.
Posted by kayell on Thu Aug-26-04 05:59 AM
2265295, I am sorry to hear about that my thoughts and prayers go out to you
Posted by Dferguson on Thu Aug-26-04 06:00 AM
my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.
2265303, I am truly truly sorry.
Posted by Cascadian on Thu Aug-26-04 06:11 AM
It must be awful for you. I send my deepest condolences and I really hope the military shows some compassion to let Michael come be with your family during this time. Please let us know what is happening and be strong.
John:grouphug:
2265308, My Deepest Condolences Mari
Posted by Speed8098 on Thu Aug-26-04 06:18 AM
My heart is bleeding for you. I only hope that Michael is able to return home to you immediately.
2265309, oh, I am so SO sorry {{{{{Mari}}}}}
Posted by ima_sinnic on Thu Aug-26-04 06:20 AM
I have been following your posts about your family and always hoping for the best, oh dear woman it is so unfair. May your husband now be at peace and may you and your son find some happiness in this world.
2265312, My condolences to you and Michael
Posted by Junebug1920 on Thu Aug-26-04 06:24 AM
I'm so very sorry. You've been an inspiration to many of us on this board. My thoughts are with you.
2265314, Very sorry Mary.
Posted by Hubert Flottz on Thu Aug-26-04 06:26 AM
Hope you feel better soon. Take care of yourself and your family.
2265323, Aw man.
Posted by Vickers on Thu Aug-26-04 06:41 AM
:(
2265327, You have my deepest condolences Marri!
Posted by Tight_rope on Thu Aug-26-04 06:46 AM
:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
2265330, May he rest in peace.
Posted by peasfreak on Thu Aug-26-04 06:49 AM
I am so sorry for your loss. You will be in my thoughts. Love, Pat
2265334, My thoughts are with you
Posted by wndycty on Thu Aug-26-04 07:00 AM
:kick:
2265336, I am so very sorry, Mari333.
Posted by Ferretherder on Thu Aug-26-04 07:04 AM
Life has thrown you to the lions, it seems. I would be lost and unable to function in the same situation you find yourself, now. I have a feeling, though, that you are made of tougher stuff than myself, and will, indeed, 'survive'.
Every good thought I can think of, I will send your way.
2265339, OMG, I am so sorry. God bless and take care of yourself.
Posted by ignatius 2 on Thu Aug-26-04 07:06 AM
n/t
2265341, I wish you Strength and Peace.
Posted by BlueEyedSon on Thu Aug-26-04 07:09 AM
2265345, Oh, Mari, I am so, so sorry for your loss.
Posted by in_cog_ni_to on Thu Aug-26-04 07:16 AM
Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. May your husband rest in peace.
2265348, Mari, I'm so sorry
Posted by LizW on Thu Aug-26-04 07:17 AM
You and Michael and all your family will be in my thoughts.
:hug:
2265350, I am so sorry to hear of your loss...
Posted by tXr on Thu Aug-26-04 07:17 AM
Peace and prayers to you and your loved ones, and may your son return home safely.
2265351, Oh Mari, I am so deeply sorry for your loss
Posted by Deb on Thu Aug-26-04 07:18 AM
You and your family remain in my prayers. If there is anything we can do, anything at all, please let us know.
2265361, My deepest sympathies, Mari
Posted by PA Democrat on Thu Aug-26-04 07:28 AM
You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
2265363, I'm so sorry.
Posted by area51 on Thu Aug-26-04 07:28 AM
I'm so sorry, Mari. You're in my prayers.
2265369, You have my deepest condolences, Mari
Posted by JSG on Thu Aug-26-04 07:32 AM
2265372, I am so sorry
Posted by Justice on Thu Aug-26-04 07:35 AM
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
2265376, Oh my god, Mari....
Posted by greatauntoftriplets on Thu Aug-26-04 07:37 AM
My deepest sympathies are with you and your family. I am so sorry, he was a young man.
2265383, My deepest and sincerest sympathies, Mari!
Posted by Octafish on Thu Aug-26-04 07:42 AM
I am so sorry, DU Friend! May the Good Lord grant you and yours the strength you need and the peace you deserve.
2265384, Our prayers, sympathies, and compassion..
Posted by onebigbadwulf on Thu Aug-26-04 07:42 AM
I know I speak for everyone when I say - if there's anything you need we're here, no matter how big or small.
2265386, hang in there mari
Posted by mopaul on Thu Aug-26-04 07:43 AM
we are all feeling some of your pain. our sypmpathies.
2265387, Prayer kick!
Posted by Romulus Quirinus on Thu Aug-26-04 07:44 AM
.
2266460, Excellent kick in a moment like this. LOTS of prayer kicks.
Posted by calimary on Thu Aug-26-04 01:26 PM
We love and surround you, Mari, and we will crowd around you, spiritually, to help hold you up.
2265390, I'm so sorry
Posted by H2O Man on Thu Aug-26-04 07:46 AM
and will be praying for you and your family.
2265393, Our thoughts and prayers are with you
Posted by G_j on Thu Aug-26-04 07:49 AM
so very sorry to hear this news. Please let us know how you are doing.
:hug:
2265394, I am so
Posted by Jawja on Thu Aug-26-04 07:49 AM
sorry for your loss, Mari. My thoughts are with you and your family.
:hug:
2265397, Peace
Posted by wolfgirl on Thu Aug-26-04 07:51 AM
to you and your family. No words, but many prayers to all of you!
2265399, I am so sorry for your loss, Mari
Posted by TheCentepedeShoes on Thu Aug-26-04 07:52 AM
My prayers are with you and your family.
2265407, I am so sorry Mari
Posted by ET Awful on Thu Aug-26-04 07:59 AM
I've been concerned for you and your family for a long time and have followed your postings as often as possible.
I'm sending out all the positive energy I now how to send in your direction, and that of the rest of the family.
Stay strong, we're all thinking of you here.
:hug:
2265413, Mari, i am so sorry.
Posted by laruemtt on Thu Aug-26-04 08:04 AM
please know we are here for you in any way you need.
2265418, I'm so sorry....There's nothing that can be said that helps...just know
Posted by Rowdyboy on Thu Aug-26-04 08:09 AM
that we care
2265420, I'm so sorry.
Posted by alphafemale on Thu Aug-26-04 08:09 AM
2265435, Mari, I am so terribly sad for the deep loss you have sustained
Posted by mtnester on Thu Aug-26-04 08:16 AM
I lost my mother 2 months ago tragically and suddenly, and am still terribly pained. My father, just as you, lost his best and most beloved friend and soulmate, and I will think of you and send comforting thoughts your way in the coming weeks.
Of all things, these two very short stories reached down and helped me alot with my depression and despondency. I hope they can have some meaning for you:
I am standing on the shore as a great ship gently glides from the harbor and sails toward the horizon. She is beautiful. Sails billowing; and shining bright as sunlight sparkling on distant waters. She grows smaller and smaller until at last, her white sails shine as ribbons out where the sky and water mingle as one.
And as I watch, a voice behind me says, "Well, she's gone." She's gone. Gone? "No," I tell myself. No, she is not really gone. Not really. She is gone only in the sense that I can no longer see her.
In reality, she is the same as ever; just as beautiful; just as shining. And deep in my heart I know, that on another shore someone is crying out, "Look! Look everyone! Here she comes!".
and:
We give our loved ones back to God
And just as He first gave them to us
And did not lose them in the giving,
so we have not lost them in returning them to Him...
For life is eternal, love is immortal,
Death is only a horizon
and a horizon is nothing
but the limit of our Earthly sight
Although I am not deeply religious, these two things gave me great comfort and the ability to imagine the great joy that was shared when my mother arrived in her new home....very comforting to me, and I hope they can help you as well.
2265438, I am so very sorry for your loss
Posted by cmf on Thu Aug-26-04 08:18 AM
many hugs
2265442, You are in my thoughts today, Mari.
Posted by displacedtexan on Thu Aug-26-04 08:19 AM
So sorry for your loss.
2265444, I am so sorry . . . take care of yourself. *HUGS*
Posted by Michigan Voter on Thu Aug-26-04 08:20 AM
2265445, Mari, I am sorry for your tremendous loss.
Posted by Rockholm on Thu Aug-26-04 08:20 AM
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.
2265448, I am sorry Mari.
Posted by Bleachers7 on Thu Aug-26-04 08:22 AM
:cry:
2265451, You are in my prayers
Posted by Oz on Thu Aug-26-04 08:22 AM
2265461, So very very sorry for you and your family
Posted by texasblueeyes on Thu Aug-26-04 08:25 AM
:hug:
2265462, My deepest sympathies to you and your family
Posted by johnnie on Thu Aug-26-04 08:25 AM
Please hang in there and take care. I am so sorry....
2265465, Oh god Mari, I am so sorry :(
Posted by wicket on Thu Aug-26-04 08:27 AM
You are all in my prayers. I am so so sorry to hear this :( *HUGE HUGS*
2265466, I wish there was something I could say...
Posted by deseo on Thu Aug-26-04 08:27 AM
... I am just so sorry and sad to hear this. My prayers are with you and your family.
2265467, Mari
Posted by Tim4319 on Thu Aug-26-04 08:27 AM
My prayers goes out to you and your family on this sad occasion.
2265469, My Condolences
Posted by ProfessorGAC on Thu Aug-26-04 08:28 AM
Take care.
The Professor
2265473, God damn it.
Posted by WilliamPitt on Thu Aug-26-04 08:31 AM
I'm sorry, Mari.
2265475, I am sooo sorry this has happened.
Posted by gatlingforme on Thu Aug-26-04 08:32 AM
2265477, Very sorry to learn of your loss
Posted by NNN0LHI on Thu Aug-26-04 08:34 AM
I have a loss for words. Best regards to you and your family.
Don
2265480, Mari, I am so sorry for your loss.
Posted by MrsGrumpy on Thu Aug-26-04 08:34 AM
My heart breaks for you. You will be in my thoughts today.
Laura
2265482, My sympathy to you and your family....
Posted by Bettie on Thu Aug-26-04 08:35 AM
The loss of a loved one is a terrible thing to bear, to lose your best friend and companion is even harder.
Unfortunately, the only thing anyone can say is I'm Sorry for your loss.
2265483, I'm so sorry to hear that!
Posted by Cassandra on Thu Aug-26-04 08:35 AM
I hope having your son home will be some comfort to you. I know how difficult it's been for you.
2265493, my heart goes out to you and Micheal.
Posted by watercolors on Thu Aug-26-04 08:39 AM
You all have been thru so much! Stay strong and hug michael alot, you will need each other at this time. So so sorry.
2265499, Mari, we are with you...
Posted by Dhalgren on Thu Aug-26-04 08:43 AM
2265502, i am sorry
Posted by silverchair on Thu Aug-26-04 08:44 AM
i am truly, deeply sorry about your loss. you have friends here at DU if you ever need anything. i'll keep you in my prayers.
2265504, Our thoughts and prayers are with you
Posted by HootieMcBoob on Thu Aug-26-04 08:45 AM
so very sorry for your loss.
2265506, Mari, I'm so sorry
Posted by RationalRose on Thu Aug-26-04 08:45 AM
:hug:
2265508, Oh Mari!
Posted by ellie on Thu Aug-26-04 08:46 AM
I am so sorry for your loss! My prayers will
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