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Is the person who extended you an invitation to join a book discussion group a peer or a supervisor of yours?
What are the laws where you live regarding discrimination at the work place based upon sexual orientation?
Those, it seems to me, are two very important questions.
It would also seem to me that you might be uniquely positioned, given the fact that you have actually been invited to participate in a book discussionm group, to enlightened some of these bigots and hypocrites.
If you do decide to participate, I would, if I were you, try to remember that people who feel that they are not respected often do not hear the message. You may feel deeply that the others in the group are hypocrites and bugots, but I would NOT let them know that. Simply present your arguments as best you can, and do not let them goad you into saying anything that is ungracious about them.
If they, during the discussion of the book, object to what you have to say or to your viewpoints, you might want to say something like, "You know, I debated long and hard with myself over whether or not to accept your invitation to join you in discusisng this book. I thought I could learn something from you, and I also thought I had something to contribute to the discussion. I did not force myself into this group - I was invited. I have refrained from calling any of you names, and I have patiently tried to understand your viewpoints. I would hope that you might be able to extend the same courtesy to me. Even though we disagree, we do not have to be disagreeable."
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