Reply #130: if you read my first sentence, I think it's clear that

[spooky3]

I'm not questioning her sense of violation or the reality of the inappropriateness of the two horrid "choices". So, let's not confuse the points.

Putting a finger or hand, etc., in an internal body part is not the same as touching an external body part. It's pretty easy to think of analogous situations that I don't want to spell out here.

And, calling a body part by the wrong name should be corrected; a heart is not a liver, or an arm, etc. It's offensive to me that in this culture, we have dozens of crude, slang terms for female body parts, but many people don't care to learn the right names for them or object if someone offers the correct name. I am NOT saying you are doing this but that this happens in the culture.

There IS a meaningful distinction, legally and linguistically.

That does NOT mean that unwanted touching is OK regardless of where it occurs.