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RainDog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-14-11 03:19 PM
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31. her life, her choice
you got to make your choices and she gets to make hers.

that's what pro choice is about. that's also what "pro-life" is about - if someone holds a belief they may act in their personal life in accordance with that belief - i.e. never have an abortion. But that doesn't mean they may extend that belief and try to enforce that belief upon others.

I'm pro-choice and had a situation in which I was offered the opportunity to terminate the pregnancy b/c of a problem. I didn't. My child has a disability. I spent the early part of his life devoted to caring for him. I am now almost bankrupt b/c of the choice I made. Oh, and I did not parade myself around like an icon while sloughing off my own child's care onto others (Sarah Palin, cough.)

People who claim they are "pro-life" don't care about the sacrifices people make and don't give a shit if someone faces hardship for doing things that are in the best interests of others once a woman has given birth. It's a sick sort of fetish, to me, to claim to care about life but then refuse to support a society that cares for people in need (I'm not referring to you, btw.)

This is why the claim to be "pro-life" vs. "pro-choice" is absolute bullshit to me.

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  -Need a little help figuring out "what" I am.... Mother Of Four  Mar-14-11 02:06 PM   #0 
  - You're doing the right thing.  dawg   Mar-14-11 02:11 PM   #1 
  - Being pro-choice isn't always easy...  JuniperLea   Mar-14-11 02:12 PM   #2 
  - It is hard to know what to do in a situation like that, but it sounds like you are doing it  el_bryanto   Mar-14-11 02:14 PM   #3 
  - Don't feel like a hypocrite.  RebelOne   Mar-14-11 02:15 PM   #4 
  - Why do you feel like a hypocrite?  TygrBright   Mar-14-11 02:19 PM   #5 
  - Thank you Bright-  Mother Of Four   Mar-14-11 02:27 PM   #9 
  - You are a human being with complicated emotions  rox63   Mar-14-11 02:20 PM   #6 
  - The issue is NOT whether you believe in the appropriateness of abortion...  brooklynite   Mar-14-11 02:20 PM   #7 
  - .  bobbolink   Mar-14-11 02:24 PM   #8 
  - For accuracy sake, it is *not* always a hard decision.  ieoeja   Mar-14-11 02:48 PM   #25 
  - Nah, you're not a hypocrite, but I do understand your pain...  TreasonousBastard   Mar-14-11 02:27 PM   #10 
  - This is and should be her decision to make.  LiberalAndProud   Mar-14-11 02:27 PM   #11 
  - Seems to me (and, as a male, I have little/no skin in the matter),  Old and In the Way   Mar-14-11 02:29 PM   #12 
  - Um, adoption?  Jazz Ambassador   Mar-14-11 02:30 PM   #13 
  - I find it odd that  ohheckyeah   Mar-14-11 02:39 PM   #21 
  - Not saying that at all  Jazz Ambassador   Mar-14-11 02:42 PM   #24 
  - There we go!  BobbyBoring   Mar-14-11 03:53 PM   #38 
  - So selling a human being is ok with you.  Lars39   Mar-14-11 03:23 PM   #33 
  - "She's getting financial assistance, so the cost isn't an issue." ??  leftstreet   Mar-14-11 02:32 PM   #14 
  - A donation given to planned parenthood-  Mother Of Four   Mar-14-11 02:34 PM   #17 
     - She got funding the same day as her test results? That's...impressive n/t  leftstreet   Mar-14-11 02:36 PM   #18 
  - I Consider Myself Pro-Choice But Don't Think I Could Ever Have Had An  ChiciB1   Mar-14-11 02:33 PM   #15 
  - That's how she feels about adoption as well-  Mother Of Four   Mar-14-11 02:37 PM   #19 
     - You ARE Welcome & BTW... I'm Not Even Sure If Was Was Ready Myself  ChiciB1   Mar-14-11 03:11 PM   #29 
  - You are being 100% true to yourself  lapislzi   Mar-14-11 02:33 PM   #16 
  - I am curious  IcyPeas   Mar-14-11 02:39 PM   #20 
  - You sound like a thoughtful, mature adult with the kind of conflict that all of us face  slackmaster   Mar-14-11 02:40 PM   #22 
  - Sounds like you need a hug.  pinkkillersheep   Mar-14-11 02:40 PM   #23 
  - You recognize that it is her reproductive choices are hers alone to make.  Skidmore   Mar-14-11 02:50 PM   #26 
  - You are still true to yourself. You said that you did not push the idea  jwirr   Mar-14-11 02:53 PM   #27 
  - Why do "pro-life" and pro-choice" need to be opposites?  DFW   Mar-14-11 03:01 PM   #28 
  - Exactly!...  Phentex   Mar-14-11 03:56 PM   #39 
  - You are no hypocrite  Lynx   Mar-14-11 03:12 PM   #30 
  - her life, her choice  RainDog   Mar-14-11 03:19 PM   #31 
  - They shouldn't have involved you  ecstatic   Mar-14-11 03:23 PM   #32 
  - You're pro-choice. This is why the term "pro-life" makes no sense.  readmoreoften   Mar-14-11 03:26 PM   #34 
  - You know, when I was pregnant I learned a lot of what all is in involved  notadmblnd   Mar-14-11 03:44 PM   #35 
  - As an individual in charge of your body you made the  MadMaddie   Mar-14-11 03:47 PM   #36 
  - Pro Choice just means that you recognize that it's not your call unless it's your body.  Warren DeMontague   Mar-14-11 03:48 PM   #37 
  - this isn't about you  WhiteTara   Mar-14-11 07:24 PM   #40 
  - Sigh.... I too am confused by the issue  Snoutport   Mar-14-11 07:26 PM   #41 
  - You made one choice. She made another.  eridani   Mar-14-11 09:33 PM   #42 
  - Your thoughts should have no bearing  Texasgal   Mar-14-11 09:38 PM   #43 
  - you're human  ReggieVeggie   Mar-14-11 09:42 PM   #44 

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