Reply #15: I Consider Myself Pro-Choice But Don't Think I Could Ever Have Had An

[ChiciB1]

abortion myself and am glad I never had to deal with it when I got pregnant with my children. HOWEVER, my daughter did get pregnant at 17 and unmarried. She KNEW she couldn't support a child while still going to school and felt it wasn't her parents obligation to care for a child of hers. It was VERY difficult for her, but my husband and I supported her decision. She finished her schooling and now has a son and a daughter of her own.

While she was extremely upset she never has felt she made the wrong decision and feels it was the best thing to do at the time. For her adoption was NOT something she considered because she said for her it would have been more difficult knowing that someone else was raising a child she gave birth to. She feels she would have ALWAYS wondered where or what became of the child or if it really got a good home and/or upbringing.

Don't be so hard on yourself, you are NO hypocrite mainly because it's not YOU who is pregnant. That may seem a harsh thing for me to say, but the bottom line is it's HER choice. I've faced many difficult hard times in my life and wonder WHY some came my way, but then I kind of believe "things" DO happen for a reason most of the time. We don't always know the reason at the time, but I find I learn something from each experience.

Sorry you are having to deal with this, but in time perhaps it will work out. I could go on and on, but I just wanted to add my little commentary. Keep your chin up and best of luck to you... it's not easy I'm sure.