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Erose999 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-20-10 02:41 PM
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128. I got hit on by a guy one time, but I was at a gay bar with my trans friends.

I'm secure enough about myself not to have been bothered by it. We all had a good laugh out of it really.

When you think about it, its no more discomforting of an experience than it would be for a straight woman getting hit on by a man she's not attracted to. Which, for some women, happens several times a day.
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  -Straight DUers: has a "homo-sexual" ever made advances toward you? jmowreader  Dec-20-10 01:34 AM   #0 
  - I'm a straight female, and as far as I know, no lesbian has ever done that.  CaliforniaPeggy   Dec-20-10 01:36 AM   #1 
  - How you doin'?  justiceischeap   Dec-20-10 11:41 AM   #113 
     - I'm good, thanks!  CaliforniaPeggy   Dec-20-10 01:11 PM   #122 
  - Honestly, I'd be a little disappointed if none ever had.  Warren DeMontague   Dec-20-10 01:38 AM   #2 
  - Seriously  Dorian Gray   Dec-20-10 09:15 AM   #83 
  - It happened to me  Mojorabbit   Dec-20-10 01:39 AM   #3 
  - A few times. I was actually rather flattered, to be honest.  Marr   Dec-20-10 01:43 AM   #4 
  - Same here. I took some women's studies classes in college so  TBF   Dec-20-10 07:04 AM   #53 
  - You'd be surprised. The misconception that all 'homo-sexual'  Amonester   Dec-20-10 01:46 AM   #5 
  - If a misconception is real  verges   Dec-20-10 12:32 PM   #121 
  - I'm not about to see any segment of our society in those terms.  Skip Intro   Dec-20-10 01:56 AM   #6 
  - yes  hfojvt   Dec-20-10 01:56 AM   #7 
  - I'm an older straight female who has always had lots of gay and lesbian  JDPriestly   Dec-20-10 01:57 AM   #8 
  - This episode makes me wonder just how tolerant gay people would be to to straight people if  Bobbieo   Dec-20-10 05:08 AM   #34 
     - That was a person in a closet protecting herself from harm  Bluenorthwest   Dec-20-10 09:14 AM   #82 
  - define advances  Skittles   Dec-20-10 02:04 AM   #9 
  - No, but my gay girl friend  blueamy66   Dec-20-10 02:07 AM   #10 
  - I've had a gay co-worker ask me out. Does that count? nt.  LawnLover   Dec-20-10 02:07 AM   #11 
  - Yes, a lesbian once did and I felt flattered.  Lost-in-FL   Dec-20-10 02:08 AM   #12 
  - a simple "no" has always been sufficient, atleast when they were sober  Sen. Walter Sobchak   Dec-20-10 02:14 AM   #13 
  - So true, and, wow, how about that, it works the same for straight people  stevenleser   Dec-20-10 10:46 AM   #102 
  - Yes. I also went out with a pre-op tranny unknowingly.  Edweird   Dec-20-10 02:14 AM   #14 
  - No, no woman ever has  Raine   Dec-20-10 02:15 AM   #15 
  - No but I remember in HS making a move on a girl who wasn't into guys  tularetom   Dec-20-10 02:15 AM   #16 
  - I am gay and have had straight men hit on me.  Behind the Aegis   Dec-20-10 02:19 AM   #17 
  - Me Too!!  stillwaiting   Dec-20-10 07:15 AM   #55 
  - +1  meegbear   Dec-20-10 09:48 AM   #93 
  - Years ago, I had the chance to go to bed with a straight guy.  terrya   Dec-20-10 04:49 PM   #136 
     - Gots to love that!  Behind the Aegis   Dec-20-10 05:29 PM   #139 
  - No, I'm not getting any action from either team.  MilesColtrane   Dec-20-10 02:23 AM   #18 
  - I'm a straight female who hasn't, but in my experiences there are a lot of men who  pacalo   Dec-20-10 02:28 AM   #19 
  - Yes, I've been "hit" on numerous times...  Dappleganger   Dec-20-10 02:29 AM   #20 
  - detect gayness?  DemocratAholic   Dec-20-10 02:30 AM   #21 
  - I Think  RobinA   Dec-20-10 07:30 AM   #56 
  - Yes, twice.  Vickers   Dec-20-10 02:35 AM   #22 
  - Many times in my life.  MrSlayer   Dec-20-10 02:43 AM   #23 
  - Yes, and I was very flattered! n/t  Pushed To The Left   Dec-20-10 02:54 AM   #24 
  - Yes, more than once...  LooseWilly   Dec-20-10 03:08 AM   #25 
  - yes,many times....but I am secure enough with my own sexuality  HipChick   Dec-20-10 03:20 AM   #26 
  - Yes, and I can say "No, thank you" as easily to a woman as I can to a man.  Heidi   Dec-20-10 03:27 AM   #27 
  - back before I realized I'm bi  lazarus   Dec-20-10 03:28 AM   #28 
  - I voted yes because  Crystal Clarity   Dec-20-10 03:40 AM   #29 
  - Other human beings have expressed a sexual interest in me  etherealtruth   Dec-20-10 03:52 AM   #30 
  - Gay or Straight... to know me is to want me.  cherokeeprogressive   Dec-20-10 03:54 AM   #31 
  - LOL!!  JuniperLea   Dec-20-10 03:05 PM   #135 
  - Quagmire, is that you?  Arkana   Dec-20-10 05:58 PM   #144 
  - "yes" - but it was not a big deal  DrDan   Dec-20-10 03:57 AM   #32 
  - I would have taken the "I'm not sure" option.  CLANG   Dec-20-10 04:14 AM   #33 
  - a lot of years ago  barbtries   Dec-20-10 05:13 AM   #35 
  - yes but she had mistaken me for another lesbian  eShirl   Dec-20-10 05:24 AM   #36 
  - Once, but I was in a gay bar at the time. n/t  rucky   Dec-20-10 05:26 AM   #37 
  - 56 yrs, never  Uben   Dec-20-10 05:29 AM   #38 
  - I worked with gays at a university and we all just did our work and hated our boss!  DailyGrind51   Dec-20-10 05:43 AM   #39 
  - I let a gay man buy me drinks once....  howard112211   Dec-20-10 05:47 AM   #40 
  - Sure.  Le Taz Hot   Dec-20-10 05:51 AM   #41 
  - Yes. Many times. Some even knew I was straight.  RadiationTherapy   Dec-20-10 06:44 AM   #42 
  - Given that da gays have da gaydar if you got hit on you are da gay.  Warren Stupidity   Dec-20-10 06:47 AM   #43 
  - you know  d_r   Dec-20-10 06:57 AM   #49 
  - exactly my point  Warren Stupidity   Dec-20-10 06:59 AM   #51 
  - Very silly. It also treats the mythical 'Gay' as someone who is more attuned to  RadiationTherapy   Dec-20-10 06:59 AM   #50 
  - Detecting gayness? Is there a checklist?  stray cat   Dec-20-10 06:48 AM   #44 
  - Once but a polite "no...I'm straight" was all it took for him to just be a friend.  BlueJazz   Dec-20-10 06:49 AM   #45 
  - Well...  Chorophyll   Dec-20-10 06:51 AM   #46 
  - it's happened. Not everybody who is gay has gaydar.  Codeine   Dec-20-10 06:52 AM   #47 
  - yes  d_r   Dec-20-10 06:55 AM   #48 
  - Is the implication that no GLB person has the right to ask?  Yo_Mama   Dec-20-10 07:00 AM   #52 
  - When I was young and in the Navy and in San Diego  panzerfaust   Dec-20-10 07:06 AM   #54 
  - Once in a hotel bar  The Wizard   Dec-20-10 07:35 AM   #57 
  - Yes......and so what?  marmar   Dec-20-10 07:41 AM   #58 
  - I haven't ever had anyone make advances towards me. Man or woman  NNN0LHI   Dec-20-10 07:42 AM   #59 
  - Wow that about non-humans?  pipi_k   Dec-20-10 10:33 AM   #99 
  - Dogs love me......  DainBramaged   Dec-20-10 07:45 AM   #60 
  - Deleted sub-thread  Name removed   Dec-20-10 07:51 AM   #61 
  - No, and I have many lesbian friends and associates. I have also had two lesbian  CTyankee   Dec-20-10 07:56 AM   #62 
  - Yes, but it was not much different than being hit on by a man.  OnionPatch   Dec-20-10 08:05 AM   #63 
  - I've been flirted with by other women, but it was always when I was  Arkansas Granny   Dec-20-10 08:07 AM   #64 
  - Straight female hit on by more women than men  lukasahero   Dec-20-10 08:08 AM   #65 
  - Does it count if I happened to be in a gay bar when it happened?  bullwinkle428   Dec-20-10 08:10 AM   #66 
  - Yes.  H2O Man   Dec-20-10 08:11 AM   #67 
  - Happened to me several times when I was younger.  NightHawk63   Dec-20-10 08:15 AM   #68 
  - Oh yes, numerous times.  flvegan   Dec-20-10 08:20 AM   #69 
  - Yes, a couple of times. No big deal.  MineralMan   Dec-20-10 08:25 AM   #70 
  - A few times.  JoePhilly   Dec-20-10 08:29 AM   #71 
  - yes  sweetapogee   Dec-20-10 08:29 AM   #72 
  - Important article on this issue here  AngryAmish   Dec-20-10 08:41 AM   #73 
  - Yes  GiveMeFreedom   Dec-20-10 08:43 AM   #74 
  - Many times, even when they knew I was straight. Only one ever bothered me.  HopeHoops   Dec-20-10 08:48 AM   #75 
  - Yes, a lesbian made it known to me that she would be interested if I was  distantearlywarning   Dec-20-10 08:52 AM   #76 
  - Him: What time is it? Me: About 2 am. Him: When you gonna let me suck you off?  aikoaiko   Dec-20-10 08:57 AM   #77 
  - I accidently clicked "NO"  itsrobert   Dec-20-10 09:05 AM   #78 
  - I have been hit on by lesbians several times  Nikia   Dec-20-10 09:05 AM   #79 
  - Sure, many times. It happened a whole lot more often when I was 16-20  slackmaster   Dec-20-10 09:07 AM   #80 
  - Only when I was in the Army.  Ron Green   Dec-20-10 09:11 AM   #81 
  - Yes, several times.  montanto   Dec-20-10 09:20 AM   #84 
  - A few stray times, sure. I think the "gaydar" thing exists but is far from certain  TheKentuckian   Dec-20-10 09:36 AM   #85 
  - I wouldn't say actual advances, just subtle hints,  Lydia Leftcoast   Dec-20-10 09:39 AM   #86 
  - Other: I don't label myself one way or the other. I vastly prefer men, but have  blondeatlast   Dec-20-10 09:42 AM   #87 
  - I think tolerance sometimes throws the "gaydar" off.  Motown_Johnny   Dec-20-10 09:43 AM   #88 
  - That's interesting.  lumberjack_jeff   Dec-20-10 11:13 AM   #110 
  - Yes, but only under the influence :) and never repeatedly after being turned down, which is more  uncommon   Dec-20-10 09:43 AM   #89 
  - If you say "No" you're just not paying attention.  Graybeard   Dec-20-10 09:46 AM   #90 
  - A gay man made a pass at my husband  shrike   Dec-20-10 09:47 AM   #91 
  - As a 16 yr old hitch hiking to work  Kingofalldems   Dec-20-10 09:47 AM   #92 
  - A couple of times. Sort of a compliment, I suppose.  bemildred   Dec-20-10 10:10 AM   #94 
  - No. But if someone makes an unwanted pass,  LWolf   Dec-20-10 10:24 AM   #95 
  - Yes, and I found it flattering  Rob H.   Dec-20-10 10:26 AM   #96 
  - Yes, I have always told them  laylah   Dec-20-10 10:28 AM   #97 
  - Does it count...  pipi_k   Dec-20-10 10:31 AM   #98 
  - Yes.  GreenStormCloud   Dec-20-10 10:40 AM   #100 
  - Yes, but so what? I really don't see what the big deal is.  stevenleser   Dec-20-10 10:43 AM   #101 
  - Yep, but I was parked in a gay bar's parking lot  social_critic   Dec-20-10 10:52 AM   #103 
  - Yes. And regarding your thinking ... almost exclusively where anti-gay bigotry prevails.  ieoeja   Dec-20-10 10:53 AM   #104 
  - Yes, and that was AFTER I got married.  MoonRiver   Dec-20-10 10:54 AM   #105 
  - Yes. But not since 8th grade.  lumberjack_jeff   Dec-20-10 11:01 AM   #106 
  - it has happened to me  SwampG8r   Dec-20-10 11:01 AM   #107 
  - Actually yes.  mmonk   Dec-20-10 11:06 AM   #108 
  - I had a lesbian roommate in the college dorm  cherish44   Dec-20-10 11:10 AM   #109 
  - Yes. I declined but told him I was flattered that he found  alfredo   Dec-20-10 11:34 AM   #111 
  - Also should be asked...  thecrow   Dec-20-10 11:40 AM   #112 
  - I've been asked out by gay guys before. Not a big deal. n/t  backscatter712   Dec-20-10 11:43 AM   #114 
  - I think a lot of homos go out of their way not to hit on people that they think are str8t  justiceischeap   Dec-20-10 11:47 AM   #115 
  - Yes, and I always take it as a compliment. Most people like feeling attractive. nt  ZombieHorde   Dec-20-10 12:01 PM   #116 
  - sure i've been hit on by another woman, don't see the big deal about it tho  pitohui   Dec-20-10 12:08 PM   #117 
  - Many times. As a teenager it bothered me. Now I don't care.  former9thward   Dec-20-10 12:12 PM   #118 
  - Yup...  JSnuffy   Dec-20-10 12:19 PM   #119 
  - No  Jack Rabbit   Dec-20-10 12:24 PM   #120 
  - Twice, which was kind of flattering  AspenRose   Dec-20-10 01:32 PM   #123 
  - Yes, two lesbians did. One was extremely attractive, so I felt flattered  Lorien   Dec-20-10 01:38 PM   #124 
  - Many times when I was younger...  Crankie Avalon   Dec-20-10 01:40 PM   #125 
  - Yep. But I don't hate gay people, so no biggie. (n/t)  Iggo   Dec-20-10 01:46 PM   #126 
  - Storytime? Got a strange letter from a summer job co-worker once. Sort of did the right thing.  DirkGently   Dec-20-10 02:24 PM   #127 
  - I got hit on by a guy one time, but I was at a gay bar with my trans friends.  Erose999   Dec-20-10 02:41 PM   #128 
  - Not that I've noticed...  InvisibleTouch   Dec-20-10 02:49 PM   #129 
  - Yes. Many times. Far more than straight women have.  Pale Blue Dot   Dec-20-10 02:54 PM   #130 
  - I have, but I bet that freeper guy has never been hit on by anybody male or female  Hippo_Tron   Dec-20-10 02:54 PM   #131 
  - 'one of the greatest talents gays have is the ability to detect gayness in others'  Bluebear   Dec-20-10 02:55 PM   #132 
  - Yep... quite flattering...  JuniperLea   Dec-20-10 03:01 PM   #133 
  - On at least two occasions  Rochester   Dec-20-10 03:02 PM   #134 
  - Fairly often. It never bothers me.  bluedigger   Dec-20-10 05:10 PM   #137 
  - Never  proud2BlibKansan   Dec-20-10 05:26 PM   #138 
  - People of all races and sexual dispositions have tried to mate with me.  Poll_Blind   Dec-20-10 05:33 PM   #140 
  - Yes.  Radical Activist   Dec-20-10 05:43 PM   #141 
  - what is so interesting with paranoid straight guys is they have no  Kali   Dec-20-10 05:51 PM   #142 
  - No.  Arkana   Dec-20-10 05:57 PM   #143 
  - Yes,---for some reason, lesbians think I'm a lesbian. It never bothers me except for one ex-friend  Heddi   Dec-20-10 06:02 PM   #145 
  - Yes, and when it happened, I simply said I was straight.  SalmonChantedEvening   Dec-20-10 06:11 PM   #146 
  - "Advances" ...  Sparkly   Dec-20-10 06:14 PM   #147 
  - Well, they're only human.  Forkboy   Dec-20-10 06:30 PM   #148 
  - Not any overt advances, but I'd be flattered if they did.  mentalsolstice   Dec-20-10 06:34 PM   #149 
  - Yes. So What?  NashVegas   Dec-20-10 06:54 PM   #150 
  - When I was younger & "prettier", yes. I thanked them for the compliment,  Vidar   Dec-20-10 07:39 PM   #151 
  - Yes! And it traumitized me for lllliiiiiiiiiffee.  Maru Kitteh   Dec-20-10 07:48 PM   #152 
  - Yes, but to be fair  some guy   Dec-20-10 07:50 PM   #153 

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