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laundry_queen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-14-11 12:21 AM
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73. Good post.
Single Moms need to recognize too, that a man who relishes the idea of a ready-made family and who pays an inordinate amount of attention to her adolescent children may not be all the interested in HER, but is looking to "hunt" her children.

This is the main reason that I have decided to not date until my children are grown. I have too many friends that were molested by stepdads and one of the biggest problems they have in addition to the whole molestation is the fact that their mothers didn't protect them, and they felt their mothers put the stepdad ahead of them. It really messed them up. I simply don't trust myself to be *that* good of a judge of character (after all I picked a narcissist/sociopath for my first husband) and I want to make sure my kids don't have to deal with that. Of course if Mr. Right came along I wouldn't say no, but I'm not searching and definitely not actively dating, plus I've really educated myself on warning signs/red flags for those who might be narcissists/sociopaths/compulsive liars/predators. I agree, it's something single moms really have to watch out for. So many (myself included) have been burned and have low self esteem that we are very likely to be vulnerable to a predator that knows how to flatter and say or do the right things to get us to be completely taken. I can't say I wouldn't be vulnerable so it's better to put off dating, for now.

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