Reply #12: we had an interesting last week in HS. a senior threatening a freshman and my son standing up for

[seabeyond]

the freshman, challenging the senior.

this was in cross country. the senior has been in a number of fights. the two younger dont fight. the senior is 6'3" or more. the other kids 5'10" or so.

the senior was threatening the freshman because he was not getting his way. my son can't stay out of those situations. i understand, but it also makes life challenging. he told senior to knock it off. senior started threatening son. they have known each other since he got in that school. on and off getting along, depending on this kid's volitile behavior. he is also step son to coach and his mother a big part of this group. i have stayed out of this group for working on three years. i dont like people.

my son told this kid if he did hit him, he was 18 and would end up in jail for assault. my son is more intellectual than anything else. but he was ready to get the shit kicked out of him.

the senior was pulled into principles office with the coach.

the freshman was kicked off the team. (so once again the senior gets away with his behavior)

there was a meet friday and saturday in Albq., a four hour drive. and over night. for the first time, my son told me he wanted me to go to the meet. so i called coach, and said i needed a room, and drove son.

EVERY parent came to my son and i and told me how much they love my son, what a good kid he is. every kid on the team was extra nice to son.

at the end the mom finally brought up what happened thurs. she blamed all on the freshman. would say son threatening was wrong, ... but but, the freshman is a problem child.

i told her, as much as i would like son to stay out of it, he always stands up to bully.

then she got pissed.

said son not a bully

he threatened the freshman, then my son.

that is always wrong.

she got pissy, downright nasty. i stood there, thinking how to address. and she is just watching, waiting, .... when i did, it was with more grace than she was capable of, and shamed her.

in those three days, there were a lot of things going on with this situation, and a boy that has gotten away with bullying. and what happened with son standing up to it. and the action of the parents.

i am still absorbing and thinking about all the in and outs of it.

3 yrs. my son is well respected. held his own without us parents around. makes responsible choices. respectful behavior. three years and the parent steps in. i really didnt think much about it until it was all happening. i was just giving son a break from these people.