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8. my 12 year old has had problems all along in school.
I was picked on as a kid. Public and private school were pretty bad. had kids throw my books down the hall, spit on me.... it was awful. Now my daughter who is different and very smart has had a lot of issues. She has ADHD and acted out in school from an early age. the other kids would provoke her. They would say she was doing things and because more than one of them said she did it, she got in trouble. She acted out a lot. But her grades were good so it was tough getting her diagnosed for ADHD. She didn't start taking meds until 4th grade. There was a marked difference. But she still had problems. And the kids would push her buttons to get her to react.

She is in middle school now and has been doing well. Finally got her to see what the kids were doing. I have discussed her problems in the past on DU, about the group of boys that were harrassing her. One kid hit her with his locker door. A teacher saw it and talked to the boy. They always talk to the kids, supposedly. The kids just don't do it when the teachers are looking.

Emily is really smart. She is now in accelerated math and science. She loves greek mythology and her interests are not that of the other kids her age. She dresses different. I love that about her. I did tell her that she could expect to have problems because of this. It is the desire for conformity. But even if you conform it will not stop it. She acts like she is ok but I worry. At least she has a friend now at school. That helps some. She did a thing called the 'young americans' which she learns a routine and performs and it's all about positive stuff.
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  -Anyone know someone who has been a victim of serious bullying? Locut0s  Oct-16-11 03:05 AM   #0 
  - define "serious bullying."  SheilaT   Oct-16-11 03:17 AM   #1 
  - I was your son, minus the balding  IDemo   Oct-16-11 09:49 AM   #24 
  - delete. posted twice.  SheilaT   Oct-16-11 03:19 AM   #2 
  - Me. And a couple of my high school friends.  Mimosa   Oct-16-11 03:24 AM   #3 
  - I am not gay, but I was deemed insufficient;y macho masculine by the Alpha Male Assholes  bluestateguy   Oct-16-11 03:39 AM   #4 
  - So once you conformed to them, they stopped  Bluenorthwest   Oct-16-11 11:29 AM   #37 
     - They didn't accept me, they just moved on to picking on others  bluestateguy   Oct-16-11 01:01 PM   #45 
  - Yes - anyone with an older brother.  Balbus   Oct-16-11 03:41 AM   #5 
  - I'm sorry to hear that you had such a traumatic school experience  pinboy3niner   Oct-16-11 03:51 AM   #6 
  - Every Democrat in Washington nt  TomClash   Oct-16-11 04:07 AM   #7 
  - my 12 year old has had problems all along in school.  ejpoeta   Oct-16-11 06:25 AM   #8 
  - *Raises hand*  HughBeaumont   Oct-16-11 06:45 AM   #9 
  - Being an asshole isn't a crime...  Cid_B   Oct-16-11 09:19 AM   #15 
  - That is a very insensitive and uninformed post.  yardwork   Oct-16-11 09:22 AM   #17 
     - Who else is going to fix his problem then hmm?  Cid_B   Oct-16-11 09:37 AM   #19 
     - Did he ask you or anybody for advice?  yardwork   Oct-16-11 09:51 AM   #25 
        - Hi... welcome to the discussion board... People talk and others respond...  Cid_B   Oct-16-11 10:09 AM   #29 
     - Precisely why said poster is in my RedX Toilet.  HughBeaumont   Oct-16-11 09:46 AM   #23 
        - Well, in his post he does acknowledge that he's an asshole. I quote.  yardwork   Oct-16-11 09:52 AM   #26 
           - Sad. It's called "Walk a mile".  HughBeaumont   Oct-16-11 10:01 AM   #27 
              - Guilt and regret are not comfortable feelings. Much better to blame victims.  yardwork   Oct-16-11 10:03 AM   #28 
                 - Fine.. Blame the jerks from high school...  Cid_B   Oct-16-11 10:35 AM   #31 
  - +100000000000000000  Darth_Kitten   Oct-16-11 11:38 AM   #38 
  - Yes, bullying is assault and should be a crime.  polly7   Oct-16-11 11:55 AM   #41 
  - I think 80% of the population was bullied  Drahthaardogs   Oct-16-11 07:09 AM   #10 
  - I think that your experiences is very different from that of people who are seriously bullied.  yardwork   Oct-16-11 09:21 AM   #16 
  - agreed. i don't consider myself bullied. but in middle school, there was one girl  seabeyond   Oct-16-11 09:40 AM   #21 
  - "all they have to do is ignore it and it will go away"  Occulus   Oct-16-11 11:22 AM   #36 
     - That's the most fucked-up advice ever to give to kids  Mariana   Oct-16-11 12:04 PM   #42 
  - Try ignoring having your head shoved in a shit filled toilet..  Fumesucker   Oct-16-11 09:43 AM   #22 
  - A group tried with my daughter  ProgressiveProfessor   Oct-16-11 08:59 AM   #11 
  - we had an interesting last week in HS. a senior threatening a freshman and my son standing up for  seabeyond   Oct-16-11 09:01 AM   #12 
  - UGH, the "How dare you accuse my perfect little angel" crap. I HATE THOSE PARENTS.  Odin2005   Oct-16-11 09:12 AM   #14 
     - i did a thread a month ago about son in car with this woman and her hubby, the coach. lol  seabeyond   Oct-16-11 09:31 AM   #18 
  - Me.  Odin2005   Oct-16-11 09:06 AM   #13 
  - I was a "cootie" in school in the 60s  LiberalEsto   Oct-16-11 09:40 AM   #20 
  - Right here.  BlueIris   Oct-16-11 10:25 AM   #30 
  - As a student,  LWolf   Oct-16-11 10:47 AM   #32 
  - Yes, the son of a friend of mine killed himself  RebelOne   Oct-16-11 11:17 AM   #33 
  - Me.  Fire Walk With Me   Oct-16-11 11:18 AM   #34 
  - my 7th grade was one long living hell for which absolutely no one helped me through - I was truly  Douglas Carpenter   Oct-16-11 11:20 AM   #35 
  - In HS I got called queer and told the "popular guy" who called me that to  Zorra   Oct-16-11 11:50 AM   #39 
  - I was physically abused by students AND teachers through about 8th grade.  Romulox   Oct-16-11 11:53 AM   #40 
  - My daughter was bullied from 1st grade  Madam Mossfern   Oct-16-11 12:44 PM   #43 
  - my daughter in 9th grade...five girls took her down  babydollhead   Oct-16-11 12:57 PM   #44 
  - Self-defense must be allowed  bluestateguy   Oct-16-11 01:15 PM   #46 
  - Our school went after our daughter for an off campus incident  ProgressiveProfessor   Oct-16-11 04:04 PM   #48 
  - i was bullied.  barbtries   Oct-16-11 01:53 PM   #47 
  - Me, too!  ThatsMyBarack   Oct-16-11 04:16 PM   #49 
  - Yep, usually from the adults who are supposed to be protecting you. Like your parents.  HughBeaumont   Oct-16-11 04:40 PM   #50 
  - Let's put it this way  nadinbrzezinski   Oct-16-11 04:42 PM   #51 

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