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xmas74 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Oct-03-11 09:05 PM
Response to Reply #84
87. That's the only way to even attempt to cope with all this.
I'm exhausted. The behavior makes me feel decades older. They do their best to make it all my fault and they don't seem to care how I handle it.
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  -What to do with homophobic relative? xmas74  Oct-03-11 06:59 AM   #0 
  - I have some whack-job family members -  TBF   Oct-03-11 07:03 AM   #1 
  - It's not just "hide all".  xmas74   Oct-03-11 07:04 AM   #2 
  - Tell her when she comes back to reality, she'll be welcomed. Then defriend her  eShirl   Oct-03-11 07:57 AM   #9 
  - Ah, then I'd cut ties. I wouldn't be able to listen to that on a daily basis. nt  TBF   Oct-03-11 09:45 AM   #19 
  - So your choice is to ignore hate unless it is from 'the rich'?  Bluenorthwest   Oct-03-11 08:17 AM   #11 
  - Oh please - I was talking about long term friends and family that you don't really  TBF   Oct-03-11 09:45 AM   #18 
  - I just don't use Facebook and avoid that crap altogether.  Initech   Oct-03-11 01:47 PM   #40 
  - post scriptures on judgement being God's etc. and love thy  roguevalley   Oct-03-11 02:43 PM   #50 
  - Best avoid her, her church is preaching Mammon and intolerance instead of Christ anyway.  Kurmudgeon   Oct-03-11 07:09 AM   #3 
  - This is breaking up my family.  xmas74   Oct-03-11 08:07 PM   #57 
     - Narrowmindedness is the cause  Major Nikon   Oct-03-11 08:21 PM   #65 
     - I don't like what I see right now.  xmas74   Oct-03-11 08:25 PM   #69 
        - If you have a child, I think it's even more important to disassociate yourself from bigots  Major Nikon   Oct-03-11 09:25 PM   #94 
           - I know.  xmas74   Oct-03-11 09:28 PM   #95 
              - Ultimately you have to make the decision on what's best  Major Nikon   Oct-03-11 09:38 PM   #97 
                 - I've tried to develop more of a social network.  xmas74   Oct-04-11 06:35 AM   #102 
     - It's not, so don't worry.  a la izquierda   Oct-04-11 06:48 AM   #103 
  - Where the fuck do these "Christians" get off thinking they can or should judge people?  PeaceNikki   Oct-03-11 07:11 AM   #4 
  - so it is ok for you to judge people, but they can't?  hfojvt   Oct-03-11 01:24 PM   #37 
  - Oh, hogwash  PeaceNikki   Oct-03-11 02:12 PM   #48 
     - you expect them to hold to a standard that you do not follow  hfojvt   Oct-03-11 04:40 PM   #55 
        - No, I just would like them to stop being hateful fucking assholes.  PeaceNikki   Oct-03-11 06:31 PM   #56 
  - Reasoning is long gone.  xmas74   Oct-03-11 08:09 PM   #58 
  - I find it amusing that this type of Christian always seems  pintobean   Oct-03-11 07:15 AM   #5 
  - hmmm...for whatever reason...what could it be?  ret5hd   Oct-03-11 08:25 AM   #13 
  - God didn't include them because  Politicalboi   Oct-03-11 01:52 PM   #43 
  - I hate having others pray for me.  xmas74   Oct-03-11 08:10 PM   #59 
  - "I lived a homosexual lifestyle. Secretly for most of my life and openly for  LeftinOH   Oct-03-11 07:26 AM   #6 
  - I was raised in a similar church.  xmas74   Oct-03-11 08:13 PM   #60 
  - Put her into bed with the Captain's daughter  slackmaster   Oct-03-11 07:35 AM   #7 
  - Avoid them  Harmony Blue   Oct-03-11 07:48 AM   #8 
  - Unfriend her and/or block her.  ohheckyeah   Oct-03-11 08:17 AM   #10 
  - I've been informed by other family members that I am NOT  xmas74   Oct-03-11 08:14 PM   #61 
     - Why do they have power over YOU?  Zoeisright   Oct-03-11 09:18 PM   #92 
     - why do they have power?  xmas74   Oct-03-11 09:21 PM   #93 
        - you really want "family" like THAT for your child?  mzteris   Oct-03-11 09:36 PM   #96 
           - It's all I've ever known.  xmas74   Oct-04-11 06:34 AM   #101 
              - I really do understand, but  mzteris   Oct-04-11 06:26 PM   #111 
     - Your family members require you cut ties with friends, and now they're ordering what  Missy Vixen   Oct-04-11 04:29 PM   #109 
     - You don't need to unfriend  FloridaJudy   Oct-04-11 09:12 PM   #112 
  - WHY are you still a Christian  madokie   Oct-03-11 08:21 AM   #12 
  - tell them that each and every gay person all across the whole world  LaydeeBug   Oct-03-11 08:29 AM   #14 
  - Well, if another person is causing  pipi_k   Oct-03-11 08:32 AM   #15 
  - I can't imagine that you'll ever change her mind.  MineralMan   Oct-03-11 08:51 AM   #16 
  - I stay away from demented toxic drama like this.  Zorra   Oct-03-11 09:06 AM   #17 
  - Gods way of dealing with my Assembly of God relatives  undeterred   Oct-03-11 09:49 AM   #20 
  - I'm convinced there isn't much you can do with people like that...  octothorpe   Oct-03-11 09:58 AM   #21 
  - End it...tell her why...tell her ignorance does not equal faith and if she  joeybee12   Oct-03-11 10:01 AM   #22 
  - Make fun of her, mock her...  snooper2   Oct-03-11 10:07 AM   #23 
  - xmas74  Diclotican   Oct-03-11 10:36 AM   #24 
  - +!  Shagbark Hickory   Oct-03-11 12:25 PM   #28 
  - show her goatse  negativenihil   Oct-03-11 10:41 AM   #25 
  - As a Christian, pray for her hardened heart and release from her judgementalism.  Festivito   Oct-03-11 12:15 PM   #26 
  - Here's my wall post for the "Truth" page  millijac   Oct-03-11 12:22 PM   #27 
  - Treat her with nothing short of loving kindness.  Lizzie Poppet   Oct-03-11 12:33 PM   #29 
  - Send her the list of other things demanded of people in Leviticus.  Marrah_G   Oct-03-11 12:36 PM   #30 
  - I don't know if you can "divorce" an aunt. But I have a couple of family members I don't claim  Erose999   Oct-03-11 12:37 PM   #31 
  - I always don't associate the way that most do.  xmas74   Oct-03-11 08:36 PM   #80 
  - I think ending all contact would be good for you.  yewberry   Oct-03-11 12:46 PM   #32 
  - maybe it bugs her that the church acronym is EFAG?  0rganism   Oct-03-11 12:53 PM   #33 
  - Post on her page that she has an unhealthy obsession wit other people's sex lives and that its none  firehorse   Oct-03-11 12:56 PM   #34 
  - Tell them some people are bisexual, so they should feel 50% less upset.  Fire Walk With Me   Oct-03-11 12:58 PM   #35 
  - Defriend her. But if you wish to combat her, every single time she or her pastor's wife post, note  msanthrope   Oct-03-11 01:05 PM   #36 
  - end the contact. why have her stress you out? is she really that important to you  La Lioness Priyanka   Oct-03-11 01:26 PM   #38 
  - Family has always been important to me.  xmas74   Oct-03-11 08:19 PM   #64 
  - Rainbow flags work pretty well.  hunter   Oct-03-11 01:38 PM   #39 
  - Wash your hands of her and be done with the garbage and filth. Life's too short  in_cog_ni_to   Oct-03-11 01:50 PM   #41 
  - My family is using this as yet another excuse  xmas74   Oct-03-11 08:32 PM   #76 
     - *sigh* Seriously.  in_cog_ni_to   Oct-03-11 08:54 PM   #82 
        - It's a cycle.  xmas74   Oct-03-11 09:03 PM   #85 
           - Have you ever tried screaming?  City of Mills   Oct-04-11 07:17 AM   #106 
  - If she can't shut up about it when she's around you, then Silent Treatment; No Parole.  Iggo   Oct-03-11 01:52 PM   #42 
  - ***  Warren DeMontague   Oct-03-11 01:56 PM   #44 
  - I have a way for you to combine some of the ideas that others suggest, into one great idea.  JoePhilly   Oct-03-11 02:01 PM   #45 
  - Wow.  Iggo   Oct-03-11 02:03 PM   #46 
     - The only way to beat the bible thumpers is to smack them in the head with their own book.  JoePhilly   Oct-03-11 08:21 PM   #66 
        - I've now been informed by other family members  xmas74   Oct-03-11 08:29 PM   #73 
           - Some additional thoughts.  JoePhilly   Oct-03-11 09:00 PM   #83 
              - But it's not just them doing this.  xmas74   Oct-03-11 09:13 PM   #89 
                 - They've intimidated your parents too.  JoePhilly   Oct-04-11 07:01 AM   #104 
                    - Mother's not easily intimidated.  xmas74   Oct-04-11 04:19 PM   #108 
                       - If mom is not intimidated by your aunt, then she is probably one of the  JoePhilly   Oct-04-11 05:24 PM   #110 
                       - You sound like "Carrie" here....  PassingFair   Oct-04-11 10:37 PM   #115 
  - I would cut contact with someone like that.  BookSavoury   Oct-03-11 02:04 PM   #47 
  - If I do it  xmas74   Oct-03-11 08:15 PM   #62 
  - You tell her you don't associate with bigots then cut her off - it's really not t  BR_Parkway   Oct-03-11 02:25 PM   #49 
  - Well, I was informed by other family members that  xmas74   Oct-03-11 04:30 PM   #54 
     - Wow, I'm sorry that your family doesn't support you, that just makes it harder  BR_Parkway   Oct-04-11 09:09 AM   #107 
     - Do you have a job?  PassingFair   Oct-04-11 10:34 PM   #114 
  - If she's doing manual labor for the church when she's on disability for supposed pain...  Lucian   Oct-03-11 02:48 PM   #51 
  - I can't do that.  xmas74   Oct-03-11 08:35 PM   #78 
  - I know that place. Used to work in Carrolton and had a lot of friends there  Dragonbreathp9d   Oct-03-11 02:50 PM   #52 
  - I went to school about thirty miles from there.  xmas74   Oct-03-11 08:18 PM   #63 
  - Push her down and break her hip.  Hassin Bin Sober   Oct-03-11 02:52 PM   #53 
  - For the love of God, find her a good woman.  Capitalocracy   Oct-03-11 08:22 PM   #67 
  - Brainwashing.  xmas74   Oct-03-11 08:26 PM   #70 
  - My response to anti-gay bigots is,  begin_within   Oct-03-11 08:23 PM   #68 
  - I don't know the concern from them.  xmas74   Oct-03-11 08:28 PM   #71 
     - My advice is  begin_within   Oct-03-11 08:32 PM   #75 
        - I suspect that will happen before this all ends.  xmas74   Oct-03-11 08:34 PM   #77 
           - You deserve much better  begin_within   Oct-03-11 09:05 PM   #86 
              - I don't see any of them making amends.  xmas74   Oct-03-11 09:15 PM   #90 
  - Block her from appearing on your page.  tammywammy   Oct-03-11 08:28 PM   #72 
  - I just did that today.  xmas74   Oct-03-11 08:31 PM   #74 
     - Family sucks sometimes  tammywammy   Oct-03-11 08:36 PM   #79 
        - Thanks.  xmas74   Oct-03-11 08:38 PM   #81 
           - I'd just come up with a standard reply  tammywammy   Oct-03-11 09:01 PM   #84 
              - That's the only way to even attempt to cope with all this.  xmas74   Oct-03-11 09:05 PM   #87 
                 - That's awful  tammywammy   Oct-03-11 09:12 PM   #88 
                    - Thank you.  xmas74   Oct-03-11 09:16 PM   #91 
  - I've never understood why people feel compelled to put up with horrid relatives.  InvisibleTouch   Oct-03-11 09:38 PM   #98 
  - "What the Bible Really Says about Homosexuality " Check it out!  Behind the Aegis   Oct-03-11 11:49 PM   #99 
  - Ignore the comments if you want to remain cordial or ignore them completely if you don't.  Fearless   Oct-03-11 11:58 PM   #100 
  - Hide her on FB and don't discuss homosexuality with her -  lynne   Oct-04-11 07:13 AM   #105 
  - It's not worth it. I would cut off all contact.  Jamastiene   Oct-04-11 10:03 PM   #113 

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