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seabeyond Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-29-11 09:24 AM
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138. btw.... i have not made the point, that i feel strongly about
if you are older, i am not suggesting results will be a child with defiencies. merely odds go up. we all play the odds.

when i was preg at 35, and having baby at 36 that made all the difference of being tested for down syndrome. handful of months early and the suggestion would not have even been made. who is going to not have a baby because the risks are higher, but still.... pretty low.
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  -How old is too old to have kids? 50+ year old pregnant woman on cover on NY mag Liberal_in_LA  Sep-28-11 03:29 PM   #0 
  - if you can PAY for them, support them, and love them, age is not an issue nt  msongs   Sep-28-11 03:30 PM   #1 
  - Is pay more important than support and love? It is the only word with caps in your whole post.  ZombieHorde   Sep-28-11 04:00 PM   #40 
  - if you're 50, it is, because you won't be there to support them and love them very long  pitohui   Sep-28-11 08:33 PM   #105 
  - Age is not an issue, conceiving a baby then carrying them to term and have the child be healthy is.  Kurmudgeon   Sep-28-11 04:44 PM   #56 
  - I don't think the child whose mother dies at age 65 would  DebJ   Sep-29-11 12:07 AM   #124 
  - As someone who lost a parent when she was young - that's something difficult to deal with  LynneSin   Sep-29-11 08:55 AM   #134 
  - As old as they want. eom  yawnmaster   Sep-28-11 03:30 PM   #2 
  - i am not seeing a cover of 50 and over men asking if too old. and ya  seabeyond   Sep-28-11 03:31 PM   #3 
  - true enough. Recent studies show sperm of older males not optimal  Liberal_in_LA   Sep-28-11 03:33 PM   #7 
  - No, but there are some pretty clear bio-differences between fatherhood at 50 & motherhood.  Warren DeMontague   Sep-28-11 03:42 PM   # 
  - .  seabeyond   Sep-28-11 03:44 PM   #24 
  - genetic disorders, achondroplasia, schizophrenia, apert syndrome. lower iq.  seabeyond   Sep-28-11 04:03 PM   #44 
  - No, neither are optional.  Warren DeMontague   Sep-28-11 05:34 PM   #71 
  - i wouldnt either.  seabeyond   Sep-28-11 06:44 PM   #93 
     - I meant optimal  Warren DeMontague   Sep-28-11 11:53 PM   #123 
        - btw.... i have not made the point, that i feel strongly about  seabeyond   Sep-29-11 09:24 AM   #138 
           - Yeah, we had to do that additional testing with our 2nd, as well.  Warren DeMontague   Sep-29-11 12:14 PM   #144 
  - Actually, higher I.Q.  Darth_Kitten   Sep-28-11 08:51 PM   #112 
     - i am not opposed to that, but that is not addressing  seabeyond   Sep-28-11 08:59 PM   #117 
  - same here...  awoke_in_2003   Sep-28-11 04:06 PM   #50 
  - True  JuniperLea   Sep-28-11 04:09 PM   #53 
  - Okay, but where do you draw the line?  Warren DeMontague   Sep-28-11 05:33 PM   #68 
     - It has nothing to do with what anyone deems wise...  JuniperLea   Sep-29-11 07:24 PM   #149 
  - Hear, hear  Yo_Mama   Sep-28-11 05:06 PM   #63 
     - no she didn't  pitohui   Sep-28-11 08:36 PM   #106 
        - Ha, live and learn  Yo_Mama   Sep-29-11 08:54 AM   #133 
  - Yes. This question is both ageist and sexist. nt  Hatchling   Sep-28-11 06:23 PM   #87 
  - Ugh, Whatever floats your boat I guess. As a male, I certainly would not want  teddy51   Sep-28-11 03:31 PM   #4 
  - So, then you don't think a 50 year old male should be a father either?  readmoreoften   Sep-28-11 05:56 PM   #79 
     - Nope, just saying that I would not want to be a new father at 50 (personal preference).  teddy51   Sep-28-11 06:15 PM   #85 
  - Oh that Demi  meegbear   Sep-28-11 03:32 PM   #5 
  - LOL  bigwillq   Sep-28-11 03:59 PM   #38 
  - self delete  mod mom   Sep-28-11 03:32 PM   # 
  - Indeed...  JuniperLea   Sep-28-11 03:39 PM   #13 
     - There are risks with adoption as well.  mod mom   Sep-28-11 04:49 PM   #57 
        - This is very true... I've seen it happen...  JuniperLea   Sep-28-11 05:03 PM   #61 
  - As long as the kid is healty.....  trumad   Sep-28-11 03:32 PM   #6 
  - I cannot imagine...  JuniperLea   Sep-28-11 03:33 PM   #8 
  - "I'd cry back at the kid during 2am feedings too" lol no kidding. This thought is not  teddy51   Sep-28-11 03:38 PM   #12 
  - that really made me laugh. cute. and ya..... nt  seabeyond   Sep-28-11 03:39 PM   #14 
  - The nighttime feedings would be bad enough, but I can't imagine  Arkansas Granny   Sep-28-11 03:41 PM   #20 
  - Oh dear...  JuniperLea   Sep-28-11 03:43 PM   #23 
  - Nah, if you're pre-menopausal you'd probably already be up with them.  woodsprite   Sep-28-11 03:55 PM   #35 
  - Hot flashes!  JuniperLea   Sep-28-11 04:04 PM   #45 
  - I had my kids starting at age 37.  Sheepshank   Sep-28-11 05:17 PM   #65 
     - i was 33 and 36. there are cetainly advantages to being older  seabeyond   Sep-28-11 05:20 PM   #66 
     - She's a 63 year old model  Abq_Sarah   Sep-28-11 09:37 PM   #122 
     - I have a 19 year old i had at 20 and a three year old i had at 36.  FedUpWithIt All   Sep-29-11 10:47 AM   #140 
        - isnt that fun. nt  seabeyond   Sep-29-11 10:52 AM   #141 
  - Isn't nude, pregnant bodies on the cover of magazines to provoke...  hlthe2b   Sep-28-11 03:34 PM   #9 
  - It's dragging your ass to school functions when you're in your 60's that scares me  BeyondGeography   Sep-28-11 03:35 PM   #10 
  - You don't want your teenager stealing your medicare part B drugs  Warren DeMontague   Sep-28-11 05:35 PM   #72 
  - I know someone older than that who is raising a grandchild  Raine   Sep-28-11 03:37 PM   #11 
  - Thats a little different though, it would seem that raising your grandchild  teddy51   Sep-28-11 03:40 PM   #17 
  - Raising a grandchild...  JuniperLea   Sep-28-11 03:41 PM   #19 
  - I know there are no guarantees in life, but I worry that parents who have  Arkansas Granny   Sep-28-11 03:39 PM   #15 
  - Well, look what it got Elizabeth Edwards--cancer and death.  MADem   Sep-28-11 03:39 PM   #16 
  - I wanna know how the heck she did it.  tblue   Sep-28-11 03:40 PM   #18 
  - Donor egg and invitro.  Pisces   Sep-28-11 03:59 PM   #39 
  - You want pictures??!? eom  yawnmaster   Sep-28-11 04:00 PM   #41 
  - She's 63 and it's not her belly :-) n/t  seaglass   Sep-28-11 06:37 PM   #91 
  - Reproductive choice: no exception.  PeaceNikki   Sep-28-11 03:42 PM   #21 
  - I agree  dana_b   Sep-29-11 12:24 AM   #128 
  - Would never be an issue with a MAN  HockeyMom   Sep-28-11 03:42 PM   #22 
  - The same issues apply, actually...  JuniperLea   Sep-28-11 03:45 PM   #26 
  - thankyou. The other issues is the same - will he or she be a healthy living parent in 20 years?  Liberal_in_LA   Sep-28-11 03:47 PM   #29 
     - True  JuniperLea   Sep-28-11 03:48 PM   #33 
  - Right? Thank you. nt  Chorophyll   Sep-28-11 03:46 PM   #27 
  - True. And the male having kids older usually has a younger wife. This 60 year old woman  Liberal_in_LA   Sep-28-11 03:46 PM   #28 
  - The most important difference  pipi_k   Sep-28-11 04:02 PM   #42 
  - I just saw someone I knew in high school -  Hell Hath No Fury   Sep-28-11 04:06 PM   #49 
  - My friend's Dad was in his 60s when she was in elementary  HockeyMom   Sep-28-11 05:00 PM   #59 
  - but the baby will at least have one young parent. n/t  Liberal_in_LA   Sep-28-11 05:37 PM   #73 
     - Well, she had 2 after her bio Dad died  HockeyMom   Sep-28-11 05:43 PM   #74 
  - it is an issue with a man  pitohui   Sep-28-11 08:38 PM   #108 
  - The reproductive choices of other women  Chorophyll   Sep-28-11 03:44 PM   #25 
  - The only shit storm I see worthy...  JuniperLea   Sep-28-11 03:47 PM   #30 
  - I was 54 when my Son was born.  formercia   Sep-28-11 03:47 PM   #31 
  - You make me smile.  a la izquierda   Sep-28-11 09:00 PM   #118 
     - Thank You  formercia   Sep-29-11 08:24 AM   #130 
        - Polish smolish  a la izquierda   Sep-29-11 10:12 AM   #139 
  - I had children in my late 30's after devoting much time to career -  TBF   Sep-28-11 03:48 PM   #32 
  - As old as none of your damn business. nt  Lost-in-FL   Sep-28-11 03:49 PM   #34 
  - I prefer to wait and hear how the kid feels about it. n/t  EmeraldCityGrl   Sep-28-11 03:57 PM   #36 
  - +1  JuniperLea   Sep-28-11 04:07 PM   #51 
     - not that old, but my kids are of a generation of older parents. i find more parents my age  seabeyond   Sep-28-11 04:12 PM   #55 
        - I agree with that  laundry_queen   Sep-28-11 08:24 PM   #100 
  - Well good luck to her...  pipi_k   Sep-28-11 03:58 PM   #37 
  - remember, 50 is the new 40. Shouldn't be a probem. eom  yawnmaster   Sep-28-11 04:03 PM   #43 
  - yeah, but i think she's 60  Liberal_in_LA   Sep-28-11 04:04 PM   #46 
     - 60 is the new 45 eom  yawnmaster   Sep-28-11 06:04 PM   #80 
  - Basically, it comes down to the individual  Blasphemer   Sep-28-11 04:05 PM   #47 
  - Um, how much "over 50" is this particular woman?  Habibi   Sep-28-11 04:05 PM   #48 
  - She's 63 - she was just on TV - and it's not her belly. n/t  seaglass   Sep-28-11 06:38 PM   #92 
     - thanks.  Liberal_in_LA   Sep-28-11 07:14 PM   #97 
  - if she is up for it, good for her!!  dana_b   Sep-28-11 04:07 PM   #52 
  - Heart-breaking for the child though.  DebJ   Sep-29-11 12:11 AM   #125 
  - Do we have an obligation to the people we may make, and if so,  ZombieHorde   Sep-28-11 04:11 PM   #54 
  - Why is it anyone's business but the mother?  saras   Sep-28-11 04:54 PM   #58 
  - If you read the thread...  JuniperLea   Sep-28-11 05:05 PM   #62 
  - But only about the physical health of the child and mother.  DebJ   Sep-29-11 12:14 AM   #126 
     - There have been several mentions of that...  JuniperLea   Sep-29-11 07:20 PM   #148 
  - She allowed herself to be put on the cover, naked, with a caption asking "how old is to old?"  Liberal_in_LA   Sep-28-11 05:32 PM   #67 
  - My mother was 45 when she gave birth to me and my dad was pushing 47  Motown_Johnny   Sep-28-11 05:01 PM   #60 
  - I know of someone in your circumstance, when she was 40 or so, her parents were in their 80s  Liberal_in_LA   Sep-28-11 05:34 PM   #70 
  - when I hit my 40s both of my parents had passed on  Motown_Johnny   Sep-28-11 08:29 PM   #103 
     - My parents were in their early 40s when I was born. They'd both  smokey nj   Sep-29-11 08:30 AM   #131 
     - That's too early.  Liberal_in_LA   Sep-29-11 12:01 PM   #142 
  - You raise the point that makes me furious about old parents --  Hell Hath No Fury   Sep-29-11 03:05 PM   #145 
  - She looks much older than 50ish  Mz Pip   Sep-28-11 05:12 PM   #64 
  - yikes!  shanti   Sep-28-11 08:25 PM   #102 
  - I know someone who had a baby at 44  Missy Vixen   Sep-28-11 05:34 PM   #69 
  - My mother had my younger sister when she was 43 years old.  RebelOne   Sep-28-11 05:47 PM   #77 
  - Really hate to say this, but she looks older than me.  RebelOne   Sep-28-11 05:46 PM   #75 
  - i think she looks good for her age. i dont know why everyone is going after her looks.  seabeyond   Sep-28-11 07:25 PM   #99 
  - yes she looks very old, i'm guessing a photoshop here  pitohui   Sep-28-11 08:40 PM   #109 
     - I agree. That's a photoshop.  alphafemale   Sep-29-11 07:31 PM   #150 
  - Yuck, I was eating!  Ter   Sep-28-11 05:46 PM   #76 
  - What part disgusts you? eom  yawnmaster   Sep-28-11 06:05 PM   #82 
  - Her uterus, her choice.  TheManInTheMac   Sep-28-11 05:50 PM   #78 
  - Ah, who cares? Her beeswax.  WinkyDink   Sep-28-11 06:04 PM   #81 
  - If her body, mind and spirit are up to it  Hatchling   Sep-28-11 06:11 PM   #83 
  - One can acknowledge the woman's right to do whatever  hedgehog   Sep-28-11 06:12 PM   #84 
  - Thank you. You expressed that quite nicely.  Arkansas Granny   Sep-28-11 06:30 PM   #90 
  - Stop breeding.  theaocp   Sep-28-11 06:18 PM   #86 
  - She's in good shape for her age, and I am not, but I am 61, and she looks older than I do.  tblue37   Sep-28-11 06:26 PM   #88 
  - She is 63, and it's a photoshop pregnancy .  Crabby Appleton   Sep-28-11 07:01 PM   #95 
     - well there you go: "I'm 63, I'm not going to be pregnant," says Maye Musk, the model in the photo.  Liberal_in_LA   Sep-28-11 07:13 PM   #96 
     - I'm a pretty good guesser, huh? nt  tblue37   Sep-28-11 07:23 PM   #98 
  - Gay people can't adopt but this actually celebrated. God bless America.  Initech   Sep-28-11 06:27 PM   #89 
  - 68 when the child turns 18, that is if she makes it to 68.  sarcasmo   Sep-28-11 06:55 PM   #94 
  - Women over 40 who have babies will be watching those who became parents at a younger age die...  Darth_Kitten   Sep-28-11 08:53 PM   #113 
  - Hell, I know women who got pregnant in their 50s the old fashioned way. Now 60 is a big deal.  McCamy Taylor   Sep-28-11 08:25 PM   #101 
  - I'd be curious to know how that happened  Missy Vixen   Sep-29-11 12:22 AM   #127 
  - well it's not fair to the child but such folk don't give a damn about their children  pitohui   Sep-28-11 08:30 PM   #104 
  - i hadn't heard that. i googled and found nowhere stating older womens children  seabeyond   Sep-28-11 08:38 PM   #107 
  - since you posted two seconds after my post why don't you actually USE the google?  pitohui   Sep-28-11 08:41 PM   # 
     - i tried two different google key words. i came up with down syndrome and mother expectancy  seabeyond   Sep-28-11 08:54 PM   #114 
  - That's a very unfair generalization....  Darth_Kitten   Sep-28-11 08:57 PM   #115 
  - pitiable, narrow minded, judgemental broad swipe.  Sheepshank   Sep-28-11 09:08 PM   #120 
  - Some of the comments to this post could just as easily havew appeared on that . . . .  Stinky The Clown   Sep-28-11 08:41 PM   #110 
  - Age is only one factor.  Darth_Kitten   Sep-28-11 08:47 PM   #111 
  - The woman on the cover  frogmarch   Sep-28-11 08:58 PM   #116 
  - It shouldn't matter...  a la izquierda   Sep-28-11 09:01 PM   #119 
  - I'm torn on this  War Horse   Sep-28-11 09:31 PM   #121 
  - Sure, use science to cheat nature. Anything but adopting a kid!  JVS   Sep-29-11 12:42 AM   #129 
  - 58 years ago, my mom, who was 45 at the time, gave birth to me  LibertyLover   Sep-29-11 08:51 AM   #132 
  - congratulations. I think you made a great decision  Liberal_in_LA   Sep-29-11 03:14 PM   #146 
  - the photograph is photoshopped. saw her on gma Wednesday.  Saphire   Sep-29-11 08:59 AM   #135 
  - Immoral and disadvantagous to the child. For f%*cks sake people, adopt a kid.  Capt. America   Sep-29-11 09:00 AM   #136 
  - in answer to your question........ when the plumbing doesn't work anymore.  ladywnch   Sep-29-11 09:08 AM   #137 
  - Not my body, not my choice, not my business. n/t  Horse with no Name   Sep-29-11 12:04 PM   #143 
  - 60 years ago my mother was 37 when I was born  quiller4   Sep-29-11 03:48 PM   #147 
  - The wife was 41 with our 1st(who is now 18), adopted 16 month old in 2002  benld74   Sep-29-11 07:32 PM   #151 
 

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