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Wed Sep-28-11 03:29 PM
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| How old is too old to have kids? 50+ year old pregnant woman on cover on NY mag |
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I think the woman is at least 60How old is too old to have kids?  A naked pregnant woman appears on the cover of this month’s New York magazine. She proudly shows off motherhood in the famous Demi Moore pose, one hand curved over her breasts, the other cradling her swollen belly. But this mom-to-be doesn’t have flawless skin or dark brown hair as the Hollywood actress did when she bared all on the cover of Vanity Fair in 1991. This woman’s skin is wrinkly and her hair silvery gray. She’s over 50 years old, and her pregnant belly is enormous. Shocking? Maybe, not so much. Women are waiting to have babies these days. We all have a friend or a friend of a friend who gave birth at 45 or 50 or even older. We read about the British woman who got pregnant at 66 and saw the photos of a pregnant 47-year-old Kelly Preston (though she looked as if she could have been 37). New York magazine tackles this trend and proves that it isn’t only based on anecdotes. There’s all sorts of data to support it. The average age of a first-time mom is rising. In the U.S. it’s gone up from 21 to 25 since 1970. In New York State it’s 27. What’s more, while birthrates have gone down by 4 percent among women overall, they’ve risen by 17 percent among women ages 45 to 49. The story focuses on women who are 50ish and thanks to advances in reproductive technology it’s all very possible to get pregnant even if you’re in the midst of menopause. http://blog.sfgate.com/sfmoms/2011/09/28/how-old-is-too...
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| -How old is too old to have kids? 50+ year old pregnant woman on cover on NY mag |
Liberal_in_LA |
Sep-28-11 03:29 PM |
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if you can PAY for them, support them, and love them, age is not an issue nt |
msongs |
Sep-28-11 03:30 PM |
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Is pay more important than support and love? It is the only word with caps in your whole post. |
ZombieHorde |
Sep-28-11 04:00 PM |
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if you're 50, it is, because you won't be there to support them and love them very long |
pitohui |
Sep-28-11 08:33 PM |
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Age is not an issue, conceiving a baby then carrying them to term and have the child be healthy is. |
Kurmudgeon |
Sep-28-11 04:44 PM |
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I don't think the child whose mother dies at age 65 would |
DebJ |
Sep-29-11 12:07 AM |
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As someone who lost a parent when she was young - that's something difficult to deal with |
LynneSin |
Sep-29-11 08:55 AM |
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As old as they want. eom |
yawnmaster |
Sep-28-11 03:30 PM |
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i am not seeing a cover of 50 and over men asking if too old. and ya |
seabeyond |
Sep-28-11 03:31 PM |
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true enough. Recent studies show sperm of older males not optimal |
Liberal_in_LA |
Sep-28-11 03:33 PM |
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No, but there are some pretty clear bio-differences between fatherhood at 50 & motherhood. |
Warren DeMontague |
Sep-28-11 03:42 PM |
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seabeyond |
Sep-28-11 03:44 PM |
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genetic disorders, achondroplasia, schizophrenia, apert syndrome. lower iq. |
seabeyond |
Sep-28-11 04:03 PM |
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No, neither are optional. |
Warren DeMontague |
Sep-28-11 05:34 PM |
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i wouldnt either. |
seabeyond |
Sep-28-11 06:44 PM |
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I meant optimal |
Warren DeMontague |
Sep-28-11 11:53 PM |
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btw.... i have not made the point, that i feel strongly about |
seabeyond |
Sep-29-11 09:24 AM |
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Yeah, we had to do that additional testing with our 2nd, as well. |
Warren DeMontague |
Sep-29-11 12:14 PM |
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Actually, higher I.Q. |
Darth_Kitten |
Sep-28-11 08:51 PM |
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i am not opposed to that, but that is not addressing |
seabeyond |
Sep-28-11 08:59 PM |
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same here... |
awoke_in_2003 |
Sep-28-11 04:06 PM |
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True |
JuniperLea |
Sep-28-11 04:09 PM |
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Okay, but where do you draw the line? |
Warren DeMontague |
Sep-28-11 05:33 PM |
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It has nothing to do with what anyone deems wise... |
JuniperLea |
Sep-29-11 07:24 PM |
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Hear, hear |
Yo_Mama |
Sep-28-11 05:06 PM |
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no she didn't |
pitohui |
Sep-28-11 08:36 PM |
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Ha, live and learn |
Yo_Mama |
Sep-29-11 08:54 AM |
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Yes. This question is both ageist and sexist. nt |
Hatchling |
Sep-28-11 06:23 PM |
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Ugh, Whatever floats your boat I guess. As a male, I certainly would not want |
teddy51 |
Sep-28-11 03:31 PM |
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So, then you don't think a 50 year old male should be a father either? |
readmoreoften |
Sep-28-11 05:56 PM |
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Nope, just saying that I would not want to be a new father at 50 (personal preference). |
teddy51 |
Sep-28-11 06:15 PM |
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Oh that Demi |
meegbear |
Sep-28-11 03:32 PM |
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LOL |
bigwillq |
Sep-28-11 03:59 PM |
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self delete |
mod mom |
Sep-28-11 03:32 PM |
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Indeed... |
JuniperLea |
Sep-28-11 03:39 PM |
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There are risks with adoption as well. |
mod mom |
Sep-28-11 04:49 PM |
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This is very true... I've seen it happen... |
JuniperLea |
Sep-28-11 05:03 PM |
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As long as the kid is healty..... |
trumad |
Sep-28-11 03:32 PM |
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I cannot imagine... |
JuniperLea |
Sep-28-11 03:33 PM |
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"I'd cry back at the kid during 2am feedings too" lol no kidding. This thought is not |
teddy51 |
Sep-28-11 03:38 PM |
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that really made me laugh. cute. and ya..... nt |
seabeyond |
Sep-28-11 03:39 PM |
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The nighttime feedings would be bad enough, but I can't imagine |
Arkansas Granny |
Sep-28-11 03:41 PM |
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Oh dear... |
JuniperLea |
Sep-28-11 03:43 PM |
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Nah, if you're pre-menopausal you'd probably already be up with them. |
woodsprite |
Sep-28-11 03:55 PM |
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Hot flashes! |
JuniperLea |
Sep-28-11 04:04 PM |
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I had my kids starting at age 37. |
Sheepshank |
Sep-28-11 05:17 PM |
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i was 33 and 36. there are cetainly advantages to being older |
seabeyond |
Sep-28-11 05:20 PM |
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She's a 63 year old model |
Abq_Sarah |
Sep-28-11 09:37 PM |
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I have a 19 year old i had at 20 and a three year old i had at 36. |
FedUpWithIt All |
Sep-29-11 10:47 AM |
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isnt that fun. nt |
seabeyond |
Sep-29-11 10:52 AM |
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Isn't nude, pregnant bodies on the cover of magazines to provoke... |
hlthe2b |
Sep-28-11 03:34 PM |
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It's dragging your ass to school functions when you're in your 60's that scares me |
BeyondGeography |
Sep-28-11 03:35 PM |
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You don't want your teenager stealing your medicare part B drugs |
Warren DeMontague |
Sep-28-11 05:35 PM |
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I know someone older than that who is raising a grandchild |
Raine |
Sep-28-11 03:37 PM |
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Thats a little different though, it would seem that raising your grandchild |
teddy51 |
Sep-28-11 03:40 PM |
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Raising a grandchild... |
JuniperLea |
Sep-28-11 03:41 PM |
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I know there are no guarantees in life, but I worry that parents who have |
Arkansas Granny |
Sep-28-11 03:39 PM |
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Well, look what it got Elizabeth Edwards--cancer and death. |
MADem |
Sep-28-11 03:39 PM |
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I wanna know how the heck she did it. |
tblue |
Sep-28-11 03:40 PM |
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Donor egg and invitro. |
Pisces |
Sep-28-11 03:59 PM |
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You want pictures??!? eom |
yawnmaster |
Sep-28-11 04:00 PM |
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She's 63 and it's not her belly :-) n/t |
seaglass |
Sep-28-11 06:37 PM |
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Reproductive choice: no exception. |
PeaceNikki |
Sep-28-11 03:42 PM |
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I agree |
dana_b |
Sep-29-11 12:24 AM |
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Would never be an issue with a MAN |
HockeyMom |
Sep-28-11 03:42 PM |
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The same issues apply, actually... |
JuniperLea |
Sep-28-11 03:45 PM |
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thankyou. The other issues is the same - will he or she be a healthy living parent in 20 years? |
Liberal_in_LA |
Sep-28-11 03:47 PM |
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True |
JuniperLea |
Sep-28-11 03:48 PM |
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Right? Thank you. nt |
Chorophyll |
Sep-28-11 03:46 PM |
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True. And the male having kids older usually has a younger wife. This 60 year old woman |
Liberal_in_LA |
Sep-28-11 03:46 PM |
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The most important difference |
pipi_k |
Sep-28-11 04:02 PM |
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I just saw someone I knew in high school - |
Hell Hath No Fury |
Sep-28-11 04:06 PM |
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My friend's Dad was in his 60s when she was in elementary |
HockeyMom |
Sep-28-11 05:00 PM |
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but the baby will at least have one young parent. n/t |
Liberal_in_LA |
Sep-28-11 05:37 PM |
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Well, she had 2 after her bio Dad died |
HockeyMom |
Sep-28-11 05:43 PM |
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it is an issue with a man |
pitohui |
Sep-28-11 08:38 PM |
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The reproductive choices of other women |
Chorophyll |
Sep-28-11 03:44 PM |
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The only shit storm I see worthy... |
JuniperLea |
Sep-28-11 03:47 PM |
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I was 54 when my Son was born. |
formercia |
Sep-28-11 03:47 PM |
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You make me smile. |
a la izquierda |
Sep-28-11 09:00 PM |
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Thank You |
formercia |
Sep-29-11 08:24 AM |
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Polish smolish |
a la izquierda |
Sep-29-11 10:12 AM |
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I had children in my late 30's after devoting much time to career - |
TBF |
Sep-28-11 03:48 PM |
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As old as none of your damn business. nt |
Lost-in-FL |
Sep-28-11 03:49 PM |
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I prefer to wait and hear how the kid feels about it. n/t |
EmeraldCityGrl |
Sep-28-11 03:57 PM |
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+1 |
JuniperLea |
Sep-28-11 04:07 PM |
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not that old, but my kids are of a generation of older parents. i find more parents my age |
seabeyond |
Sep-28-11 04:12 PM |
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I agree with that |
laundry_queen |
Sep-28-11 08:24 PM |
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Well good luck to her... |
pipi_k |
Sep-28-11 03:58 PM |
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remember, 50 is the new 40. Shouldn't be a probem. eom |
yawnmaster |
Sep-28-11 04:03 PM |
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yeah, but i think she's 60 |
Liberal_in_LA |
Sep-28-11 04:04 PM |
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60 is the new 45 eom |
yawnmaster |
Sep-28-11 06:04 PM |
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Basically, it comes down to the individual |
Blasphemer |
Sep-28-11 04:05 PM |
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Um, how much "over 50" is this particular woman? |
Habibi |
Sep-28-11 04:05 PM |
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She's 63 - she was just on TV - and it's not her belly. n/t |
seaglass |
Sep-28-11 06:38 PM |
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thanks. |
Liberal_in_LA |
Sep-28-11 07:14 PM |
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if she is up for it, good for her!! |
dana_b |
Sep-28-11 04:07 PM |
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Heart-breaking for the child though. |
DebJ |
Sep-29-11 12:11 AM |
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Do we have an obligation to the people we may make, and if so, |
ZombieHorde |
Sep-28-11 04:11 PM |
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Why is it anyone's business but the mother? |
saras |
Sep-28-11 04:54 PM |
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If you read the thread... |
JuniperLea |
Sep-28-11 05:05 PM |
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But only about the physical health of the child and mother. |
DebJ |
Sep-29-11 12:14 AM |
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There have been several mentions of that... |
JuniperLea |
Sep-29-11 07:20 PM |
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She allowed herself to be put on the cover, naked, with a caption asking "how old is to old?" |
Liberal_in_LA |
Sep-28-11 05:32 PM |
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My mother was 45 when she gave birth to me and my dad was pushing 47 |
Motown_Johnny |
Sep-28-11 05:01 PM |
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I know of someone in your circumstance, when she was 40 or so, her parents were in their 80s |
Liberal_in_LA |
Sep-28-11 05:34 PM |
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when I hit my 40s both of my parents had passed on |
Motown_Johnny |
Sep-28-11 08:29 PM |
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My parents were in their early 40s when I was born. They'd both |
smokey nj |
Sep-29-11 08:30 AM |
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That's too early. |
Liberal_in_LA |
Sep-29-11 12:01 PM |
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You raise the point that makes me furious about old parents -- |
Hell Hath No Fury |
Sep-29-11 03:05 PM |
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She looks much older than 50ish |
Mz Pip |
Sep-28-11 05:12 PM |
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yikes! |
shanti |
Sep-28-11 08:25 PM |
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I know someone who had a baby at 44 |
Missy Vixen |
Sep-28-11 05:34 PM |
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My mother had my younger sister when she was 43 years old. |
RebelOne |
Sep-28-11 05:47 PM |
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Really hate to say this, but she looks older than me. |
RebelOne |
Sep-28-11 05:46 PM |
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i think she looks good for her age. i dont know why everyone is going after her looks. |
seabeyond |
Sep-28-11 07:25 PM |
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yes she looks very old, i'm guessing a photoshop here |
pitohui |
Sep-28-11 08:40 PM |
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I agree. That's a photoshop. |
alphafemale |
Sep-29-11 07:31 PM |
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Yuck, I was eating! |
Ter |
Sep-28-11 05:46 PM |
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What part disgusts you? eom |
yawnmaster |
Sep-28-11 06:05 PM |
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Her uterus, her choice. |
TheManInTheMac |
Sep-28-11 05:50 PM |
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Ah, who cares? Her beeswax. |
WinkyDink |
Sep-28-11 06:04 PM |
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If her body, mind and spirit are up to it |
Hatchling |
Sep-28-11 06:11 PM |
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One can acknowledge the woman's right to do whatever |
hedgehog |
Sep-28-11 06:12 PM |
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Thank you. You expressed that quite nicely. |
Arkansas Granny |
Sep-28-11 06:30 PM |
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Stop breeding. |
theaocp |
Sep-28-11 06:18 PM |
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She's in good shape for her age, and I am not, but I am 61, and she looks older than I do. |
tblue37 |
Sep-28-11 06:26 PM |
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She is 63, and it's a photoshop pregnancy . |
Crabby Appleton |
Sep-28-11 07:01 PM |
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well there you go: "I'm 63, I'm not going to be pregnant," says Maye Musk, the model in the photo. |
Liberal_in_LA |
Sep-28-11 07:13 PM |
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I'm a pretty good guesser, huh? nt |
tblue37 |
Sep-28-11 07:23 PM |
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Gay people can't adopt but this actually celebrated. God bless America. |
Initech |
Sep-28-11 06:27 PM |
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68 when the child turns 18, that is if she makes it to 68. |
sarcasmo |
Sep-28-11 06:55 PM |
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Women over 40 who have babies will be watching those who became parents at a younger age die... |
Darth_Kitten |
Sep-28-11 08:53 PM |
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Hell, I know women who got pregnant in their 50s the old fashioned way. Now 60 is a big deal. |
McCamy Taylor |
Sep-28-11 08:25 PM |
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I'd be curious to know how that happened |
Missy Vixen |
Sep-29-11 12:22 AM |
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well it's not fair to the child but such folk don't give a damn about their children |
pitohui |
Sep-28-11 08:30 PM |
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i hadn't heard that. i googled and found nowhere stating older womens children |
seabeyond |
Sep-28-11 08:38 PM |
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since you posted two seconds after my post why don't you actually USE the google? |
pitohui |
Sep-28-11 08:41 PM |
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i tried two different google key words. i came up with down syndrome and mother expectancy |
seabeyond |
Sep-28-11 08:54 PM |
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That's a very unfair generalization.... |
Darth_Kitten |
Sep-28-11 08:57 PM |
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pitiable, narrow minded, judgemental broad swipe. |
Sheepshank |
Sep-28-11 09:08 PM |
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Some of the comments to this post could just as easily havew appeared on that . . . . |
Stinky The Clown |
Sep-28-11 08:41 PM |
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Age is only one factor. |
Darth_Kitten |
Sep-28-11 08:47 PM |
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The woman on the cover |
frogmarch |
Sep-28-11 08:58 PM |
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It shouldn't matter... |
a la izquierda |
Sep-28-11 09:01 PM |
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I'm torn on this |
War Horse |
Sep-28-11 09:31 PM |
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Sure, use science to cheat nature. Anything but adopting a kid! |
JVS |
Sep-29-11 12:42 AM |
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58 years ago, my mom, who was 45 at the time, gave birth to me |
LibertyLover |
Sep-29-11 08:51 AM |
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congratulations. I think you made a great decision |
Liberal_in_LA |
Sep-29-11 03:14 PM |
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the photograph is photoshopped. saw her on gma Wednesday. |
Saphire |
Sep-29-11 08:59 AM |
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Immoral and disadvantagous to the child. For f%*cks sake people, adopt a kid. |
Capt. America |
Sep-29-11 09:00 AM |
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in answer to your question........ when the plumbing doesn't work anymore. |
ladywnch |
Sep-29-11 09:08 AM |
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Not my body, not my choice, not my business. n/t |
Horse with no Name |
Sep-29-11 12:04 PM |
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60 years ago my mother was 37 when I was born |
quiller4 |
Sep-29-11 03:48 PM |
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The wife was 41 with our 1st(who is now 18), adopted 16 month old in 2002 |
benld74 |
Sep-29-11 07:32 PM |
#151 |